As it is now, he will certainly abuse you the more because you have little or no self-esteem and value. You know he doesn't treat you well but you are afraid of quitting because of your little "investment" of five years. He is not going to change, why would he? because he has you at his beck and call.

Your disposition towards him and the inability to make good judgment is the reason the erroneous impression which claims girls love violent men that abuse and maltreat them, holds sway. While in reality, it is ladies who are financially dependent, or those that are completely naive, senseless, and stupid.

He is at fault for hitting you, run away ,this relationship is really toxic, and it may affect your mental health soon, besides why live under the same roof when you are not married?

Bbliss24:
Good evening guys,
It all started in my University days, I met this guy but I was in a relationship when I met him. I didn't like the guy because of his tribe no offence,I just liked his vibe but we dated.

When I met my current boyfriend I told him that I was in a relationship and that I can't double date he was like no problem but mind you i already found him attractive. To cut the long story short i broke up with the other guy to date him. It was all rosy the first two years he worked his service to ph then because my family lives in ph I was in Enugu then but i went home for break,where we hooked up and most times I had to lie to my parents that I was going for night class just to spend the night at his place mind you he was very smart and sound academically so some of those night he did put me through for my exam.

To cut the whole story short he has changed completely what he use to do before he no longer does it,his excuse is that I made him that way . I stay with him in Enugu but temporary till I get my place during this period he gets angry easily and hits me his excuse is that I am arrogant and I dont respect him.Most times I try to opt out from the relationship he comes up with story of after all I have done for you I gave up my family and my life for you and this is how you want to pay me back ,then he starts rendering causes on me.

The truth is he is a good guy and when I met him he never laid his hands on me until I started staying with him. We have dated for 5years and emotions are mixed I find it hard to leave the relationship....

You don't have to continue. koz had it been you wanted to continue the relationship, you wouldn't have come here... Make way

anochuko01:
Has he been facing financial difficulties or any family issues??

Bbliss24

that was before but he is okay now

Shortyy:
Things I read on Nairaland ehn. How can you live with someone for 5 years?? Someone you're not married to??

I never said I lived with him for 5years...i said we have been dating for 5years.....i am currently serving that's why I decided to stay with him and he asked me to.

Bbliss24:
that was before but he is okay now

How supportive were you during that period?
Could it be that he expected more from you?

Bbliss24:
Good evening guys,
It all started in my University days, I met this guy but I was in a relationship when I met him. I didn't like the guy because of his tribe no offence,I just liked his vibe but we dated.

When I met my current boyfriend I told him that I was in a relationship and that I can't double date he was like no problem but mind you i already found him attractive. To cut the long story short i broke up with the other guy to date him. It was all rosy the first two years he worked his service to ph then because my family lives in ph I was in Enugu then but i went home for break,where we hooked up and most times I had to lie to my parents that I was going for night class just to spend the night at his place mind you he was very smart and sound academically so some of those night he did put me through for my exam.

To cut the whole story short he has changed completely what he use to do before he no longer does it,his excuse is that I made him that way . I stay with him in Enugu but temporary till I get my place during this period he gets angry easily and hits me his excuse is that I am arrogant and I dont respect him.Most times I try to opt out from the relationship he comes up with story of after all I have done for you I gave up my family and my life for you and this is how you want to pay me back ,then he starts rendering causes on me.

The truth is he is a good guy and when I met him he never laid his hands on me until I started staying with him. We have dated for 5years and emotions are mixed I find it hard to leave the relationship....

In as much as you guys loves yourself, give him a break because you are choking him

At times we become an unwanted visitor in some one's life without us knowing about it

Our self respects counts in any relationship we find ourselves in

During the break, you guys will use the opportunity to evaluate yourselves and the relationship if it worths it

You living with him is just for him to be satisfying himself sexual pending when he will butt you out

A guy is hitting you and you're still in a relationship with him?
Sorry but you need to have your brain checked..
He's even raining curses on you and blaming.. and you're still asking us for advice..
Dear beloved sister continue in your toxic relationship... He really loves you.

Bbliss24:
Good evening guys,
It all started in my University days, I met this guy but I was in a relationship when I met him. I didn't like the guy because of his tribe no offence,I just liked his vibe but we dated.

When I met my current boyfriend I told him that I was in a relationship and that I can't double date he was like no problem but mind you i already found him attractive. To cut the long story short i broke up with the other guy to date him. It was all rosy the first two years he worked his service to ph then because my family lives in ph I was in Enugu then but i went home for break,where we hooked up and most times I had to lie to my parents that I was going for night class just to spend the night at his place mind you he was very smart and sound academically so some of those night he did put me through for my exam.

To cut the whole story short he has changed completely what he use to do before he no longer does it,his excuse is that I made him that way . I stay with him in Enugu but temporary till I get my place during this period he gets angry easily and hits me his excuse is that I am arrogant and I dont respect him.Most times I try to opt out from the relationship he comes up with story of after all I have done for you I gave up my family and my life for you and this is how you want to pay me back ,then he starts rendering causes on me.

The truth is he is a good guy and when I met him he never laid his hands on me until I started staying with him. We have dated for 5years and emotions are mixed I find it hard to leave the relationship....

he tire of ur pussy, n u are not worth it he has a good job wetin u get?

Bbliss24:
Good evening guys,
It all started in my University days, I met this guy but I was in a relationship when I met him. I didn't like the guy because of his tribe no offence,I just liked his vibe but we dated.

When I met my current boyfriend I told him that I was in a relationship and that I can't double date he was like no problem but mind you i already found him attractive. To cut the long story short i broke up with the other guy to date him. It was all rosy the first two years he worked his service to ph then because my family lives in ph I was in Enugu then but i went home for break,where we hooked up and most times I had to lie to my parents that I was going for night class just to spend the night at his place mind you he was very smart and sound academically so some of those night he did put me through for my exam.

To cut the whole story short he has changed completely what he use to do before he no longer does it,his excuse is that I made him that way . I stay with him in Enugu but temporary till I get my place during this period he gets angry easily and hits me his excuse is that I am arrogant and I dont respect him.Most times I try to opt out from the relationship he comes up with story of after all I have done for you I gave up my family and my life for you and this is how you want to pay me back ,then he starts rendering causes on me.

The truth is he is a good guy and when I met him he never laid his hands on me until I started staying with him. We have dated for 5years and emotions are mixed I find it hard to leave the relationship....

you ve to adjust and marry that guy. Trust me

Bbliss24:
Good evening guys,
It all started in my University days, I met this guy but I was in a relationship when I met him. I didn't like the guy because of his tribe no offence,I just liked his vibe but we dated.

When I met my current boyfriend I told him that I was in a relationship and that I can't double date he was like no problem but mind you i already found him attractive. To cut the long story short i broke up with the other guy to date him. It was all rosy the first two years he worked his service to ph then because my family lives in ph I was in Enugu then but i went home for break,where we hooked up and most times I had to lie to my parents that I was going for night class just to spend the night at his place mind you he was very smart and sound academically so some of those night he did put me through for my exam.

To cut the whole story short he has changed completely what he use to do before he no longer does it,his excuse is that I made him that way . I stay with him in Enugu but temporary till I get my place during this period he gets angry easily and hits me his excuse is that I am arrogant and I dont respect him.Most times I try to opt out from the relationship he comes up with story of after all I have done for you I gave up my family and my life for you and this is how you want to pay me back ,then he starts rendering causes on me.

The truth is he is a good guy and when I met him he never laid his hands on me until I started staying with him. We have dated for 5years and emotions are mixed I find it hard to leave the relationship....

Have you being sleeping with each other

Leave that relationship pls. That's all I have to say

Bbliss24:
Good evening guys,
It all started in my University days, I met this guy but I was in a relationship when I met him. I didn't like the guy because of his tribe no offence,I just liked his vibe but we dated.

When I met my current boyfriend I told him that I was in a relationship and that I can't double date he was like no problem but mind you i already found him attractive. To cut the long story short i broke up with the other guy to date him. It was all rosy the first two years he worked his service to ph then because my family lives in ph I was in Enugu then but i went home for break,where we hooked up and most times I had to lie to my parents that I was going for night class just to spend the night at his place mind you he was very smart and sound academically so some of those night he did put me through for my exam.

To cut the whole story short he has changed completely what he use to do before he no longer does it,his excuse is that I made him that way . I stay with him in Enugu but temporary till I get my place during this period he gets angry easily and hits me his excuse is that I am arrogant and I dont respect him.Most times I try to opt out from the relationship he comes up with story of after all I have done for you I gave up my family and my life for you and this is how you want to pay me back ,then he starts rendering causes on me.

The truth is he is a good guy and when I met him he never laid his hands on me until I started staying with him. We have dated for 5years and emotions are mixed I find it hard to leave the relationship....

In Arnold's voice: "Come with me if you want to live". On a more serious note, he's trying to blackmail you emotionally. If you want to enjoy your sanity, quit now!

I understand your fear...."where will I start from", "how can I start all over again after 5yrs" but I"ll tell you this for free, your live matters.

Bbliss24:
Good evening guys,
It all started in my University days, I met this guy but I was in a relationship when I met him. I didn't like the guy because of his tribe no offence,I just liked his vibe but we dated.

When I met my current boyfriend I told him that I was in a relationship and that I can't double date he was like no problem but mind you i already found him attractive. To cut the long story short i broke up with the other guy to date him. It was all rosy the first two years he worked his service to ph then because my family lives in ph I was in Enugu then but i went home for break,where we hooked up and most times I had to lie to my parents that I was going for night class just to spend the night at his place mind you he was very smart and sound academically so some of those night he did put me through for my exam.

To cut the whole story short he has changed completely what he use to do before he no longer does it,his excuse is that I made him that way . I stay with him in Enugu but temporary till I get my place during this period he gets angry easily and hits me his excuse is that I am arrogant and I dont respect him.Most times I try to opt out from the relationship he comes up with story of after all I have done for you I gave up my family and my life for you and this is how you want to pay me back ,then he starts rendering causes on me.

The truth is he is a good guy and when I met him he never laid his hands on me until I started staying with him. We have dated for 5years and emotions are mixed I find it hard to leave the relationship....

Dated for five years!
If you finally leave the guy, are you still going to call it breakup or divorce?

hmmmm Maybe he is tired.

But if really he is tired of you then married couples are trying ooo

hope Naw you learn to keep your body till you get married..what a waste of time 5years and you can see handwriting on the wall he's not your husband but boyfriend..dearie borrow sense and focus in your studies, career or business a good man will show come!

My two cents.... You're boyfriend is broke and frustrated.... His projections for his life is not in the way he anticipated all thanks to Nigeria.. He is pouring his anger and frustration on you.. You are his avenue to vent his spleen... Just help him by talking to him and leaving him.. You are an extra burden to him... He sees you as a necessary evil.. By the way what are you bringing to the table for his life to be easier

I think he's now overdosed on Red pills

Give him like 3 years more , he might change you know besides , 5 years is way too short a time to know the true character of a person.. pls,stay in love my dear,ok.. when your mumu don ripe nobody go advise you...

E shock me o.
to be honest,the guy has no whatsoever right to try shit by beating u up even tho' he might be going tru a lot be in terms of finances and emotion but doesn't give him the right to do that. Log out from that relationship. Run for your life

ᵗʰᵉ ᵗʳᵘᵗʰ:
Ladies any guy that beat you run away from the guy. If you foolishly continue till marriage you are damned. He didn't marry you instead he just bought a new punching bag.

Ladies should stop dating for 5years, that's total waste of time.
May God save us from time wasters.

My dear this is serious
Let the other guys give you advice because you won't like what I will say.

Bbliss24:
Good evening guys,
It all started in my University days, I met this guy but I was in a relationship when I met him. I didn't like the guy because of his tribe no offence,I just liked his vibe but we dated.

When I met my current boyfriend I told him that I was in a relationship and that I can't double date he was like no problem but mind you i already found him attractive. To cut the long story short i broke up with the other guy to date him. It was all rosy the first two years he worked his service to ph then because my family lives in ph I was in Enugu then but i went home for break,where we hooked up and most times I had to lie to my parents that I was going for night class just to spend the night at his place mind you he was very smart and sound academically so some of those night he did put me through for my exam.

To cut the whole story short he has changed completely what he use to do before he no longer does it,his excuse is that I made him that way . I stay with him in Enugu but temporary till I get my place during this period he gets angry easily and hits me his excuse is that I am arrogant and I dont respect him.Most times I try to opt out from the relationship he comes up with story of after all I have done for you I gave up my family and my life for you and this is how you want to pay me back ,then he starts rendering causes on me.

The truth is he is a good guy and when I met him he never laid his hands on me until I started staying with him. We have dated for 5years and emotions are mixed I find it hard to leave the relationship....

He loves you that's the fact, don't leave him. If you love him back, then help him solve his trust issues or anger of always hitting on you. Please give him one more chance, call him, let you both seat down and talk..tell him what you dislike about him and let him tell you his own dislikes. Make him vow or swear with God's name or the Bible that he would never hit you again or hurt you again. If he loves you, he ought to. I think he loves you that's why he doesn't want to allow you go. A guy doesn't give up on a lady he loves, he must be persistent in getting her back. He still loves you, that's the fact. . follow dialogue and do the above I told you. Learn to smile always and look into his eyes when you both are in arguments or tensed situation, it would calm him down..you a lady learn to cry or fake emotional cry, it would calm him down. Forgive him and accepts him, he loves you. Success!

mrblessed:
As it is now, he will certainly abuse you the more because you have little or no self-esteem and value. You know he doesn't treat you well but you are afraid of quitting because of your little "investment" of five years. He is not going to change, why would he? because he has you at his beck and call.

Your disposition towards him and the inability to make good judgment is the reason the erroneous impression which claims girls love violent men that abuse and maltreat them, holds sway. While in reality, it is ladies who are financially dependent, or those that are completely naive, senseless, and stupid.

You are wrong, the guy loves her for not letting her go...let they both talk things out. Let her give him another chance. Stop being so mean in your advice!

I dont support him hitting u. But pls are u arrogant and disrespectful to him?

Not all men can tolerate disrespect from women who claim they love them.

U said the relationship is mixed with emotions, maybe today u are happy, u act and talk sweet to your man and tomorrow u are angry u act and talk better.

If you think you are not part of the fault, then leave the relationship and if u tink u want to stay in the relationship then u both should have a hrt to hrt conversation when the emotion is sweet n lovely between the both you and ask why he can't control himself when he wants to hit u.

ModsStopBanning:
He's tired of you



The Truth hurts

Lies!!... The guy loves her since he doesn't want to let you go...is a sign he is obsessed with her, calm down his trust issues by giving him the assurance that you won't hurt him emotional. The guy loves her ooo

Quote me anywhere,anytime,anyday.He would hit you again,do yourself a lifetime favor and move on, there's always someone out there who would treat you better,it might take time for him to show up,but trust me,he will.

You have read the handwriting on the wall, deep down within you, you know the interpretation, you know what to do, do it!!!

Bbliss24:
Good evening guys,
It all started in my University days, I met this guy but I was in a relationship when I met him. I didn't like the guy because of his tribe no offence,I just liked his vibe but we dated.

When I met my current boyfriend I told him that I was in a relationship and that I can't double date he was like no problem but mind you i already found him attractive. To cut the long story short i broke up with the other guy to date him. It was all rosy the first two years he worked his service to ph then because my family lives in ph I was in Enugu then but i went home for break,where we hooked up and most times I had to lie to my parents that I was going for night class just to spend the night at his place mind you he was very smart and sound academically so some of those night he did put me through for my exam.

To cut the whole story short he has changed completely what he use to do before he no longer does it,his excuse is that I made him that way . I stay with him in Enugu but temporary till I get my place during this period he gets angry easily and hits me his excuse is that I am arrogant and I dont respect him.Most times I try to opt out from the relationship he comes up with story of after all I have done for you I gave up my family and my life for you and this is how you want to pay me back ,then he starts rendering causes on me.

The truth is he is a good guy and when I met him he never laid his hands on me until I started staying with him. We have dated for 5years and emotions are mixed I find it hard to leave the relationship....

"rendering causes on you"?

That guy is not from this earth.