EaglesEyes1:
I dont support him hitting u. But pls are u arrogant and disrespectful to him?

Not all men can tolerate disrespect from women who claim they love them.

U said the relationship is mixed with emotions, maybe today u are happy, u act and talk sweet to your man and tomorrow u are angry u act and talk better.

If you think you are not part of the fault, then leave the relationship and if u tink u want to stay in the relationship then u both should have a hrt to hrt conversation when the emotion is sweet n lovely between the both you and ask why he can't control himself when he wants to hit u.

The fact is that the guy loves her ooo, she shouldn't leave him, they should have continuous mutual understanding...no relationship is perfect. The fact is that the guy loves her for not letting go of her

One word for you "Run"

CORRECTMAN78:
"rendering causes on you"?

That guy is not from this earth.

The guy loves her, but they should seek understanding...The guy don't want to let her go because he loves her!..no dating is perfect..no one is perfect

Austinosconst:
One word for you "Run"

You are wrong...she should stick with him because he loves and that's why he doesn't want to let her go !..They should have dialogue!

richieray:
Quote me anywhere,anytime,anyday.He would hit you again,do yourself a lifetime favor and move on, there's always someone out there who would treat you better,it might take time for him to show up,but trust me,he will.

Is a lie, change is constant... people do change..the fact is that the guy loves her and that's why he doesn't want to let her go!!

Different opinions. I pray the op make the right decision.

Bbliss24:
Good evening guys,
It all started in my University days, I met this guy but I was in a relationship when I met him. I didn't like the guy because of his tribe no offence,I just liked his vibe but we dated.

When I met my current boyfriend I told him that I was in a relationship and that I can't double date he was like no problem but mind you i already found him attractive. To cut the long story short i broke up with the other guy to date him. It was all rosy the first two years he worked his service to ph then because my family lives in ph I was in Enugu then but i went home for break,where we hooked up and most times I had to lie to my parents that I was going for night class just to spend the night at his place mind you he was very smart and sound academically so some of those night he did put me through for my exam.

To cut the whole story short he has changed completely what he use to do before he no longer does it,his excuse is that I made him that way . I stay with him in Enugu but temporary till I get my place during this period he gets angry easily and hits me his excuse is that I am arrogant and I dont respect him.Most times I try to opt out from the relationship he comes up with story of after all I have done for you I gave up my family and my life for you and this is how you want to pay me back ,then he starts rendering causes on me.

The truth is he is a good guy and when I met him he never laid his hands on me until I started staying with him. We have dated for 5years and emotions are mixed I find it hard to leave the relationship....

5 years still counting ,yet no sight for the day he will walk you down isle .I biliv you knw woman use to reach menopause sha.

Everybody is blaming the guy, but no one asked you what you do that warranted beating, in as much I blame the guy for beating you.

If a woman stays with a guy for 5 years and the guy not yet get his direction of life and she is approaching 28 or he doesn't make tangible action to tie knot with the woman, even if the guy is romantic I will advice the girl run as fast as lion.

Meanwhile one antitode that work almost perfectly for health relationship is for the 2 partners involved to be overlooking minor offences.

When guy and girl meet newly its always rosy and beautiful but after sometimes it become boring, when you overcome that stage, you will now see each other like twins

na only you get sense here honestly!

i thought i was the only one that noticed that part

all naija girls be olosho walahi. na the best bidder dem dey go with and by best bidder i mean person with more and more money

See how she said it without remorse that she left her Ex and Move to the new guy without telling us the new guy is kind of richer a little she now lying that one helping her academically and intelligent. Intelligent my foot. she think we be mumu

all these girls no dey after intelligence or fine bobo anymore or six packs na money sure pass and more reason some Mumu Low self esteem, myopic naija guys dey resort to Money Ritual so as to Get girls attention

I keep saying all naija girls are blood sucking mosquitoes

And back to that girl that says the guy keep beating her or something and others here saying the guy is tired of her pussy, yes thats right the guy don dey get free pussy for too long but do you guys also ask her why she never wants to leave the guy? its more like an abusive relationship and yet she doesn't want to leave and she shouldn't be giving us shits of CUZ OF LOVE FOR HIM cuz thats a big lie. that guy get small money for hand and the girl no won let go of that benefits is the only reason she's sticking with him and don't wanna let go despite the abuse

well. i rest my case!

odinson1:

This is why We keep saying all nigerian ladies are h.oes
Did you guys see where she said that she Broke up with her boyfriend to date this current guy? This Current guy is probably richer than the previous Guy.

To all The guys who can see this,You are dating your girlfriend but she is not dating you! You are just one of her many options through which she Gets limitless attention, validation and Resources from,and she will definitely dump you when she finds someone Better than you.
So my advice to you is just have sex with her now when you can,don't spend a single dime on her head! You both enjoy the sex so why should you Be the one to Take care of her bills

Aimerosa25:
He is at fault for hitting you, run away ,this relationship is really toxic, and it may affect your mental health soon, besides why live under the same roof when you are not married?

The relationship isn't toxic..The guy can change, The main thing in a relationship is love, the guy doesn't want to let her leave because he loves her.. no relationship is perfect..there is no perfect being, we all aim at being good. The guy loves her ,that's the main thing, he should give him another chance oh.....

odinson1:

This is why We keep saying all nigerian ladies are h.oes
Did you guys see where she said that she Broke up with her boyfriend to date this current guy? This Current guy is probably richer than the previous Guy.

To all The guys who can see this,You are dating your girlfriend but she is not dating you! You are just one of her many options through which she Gets limitless attention, validation and Resources from,and she will definitely dump you when she finds someone Better than you.
So my advice to you is just have sex with her now when you can,don't spend a single dime on her head! You both enjoy the sex so why should you Be the one to Take care of her bills

Thank God your advice is for the mumu guys who date the 'hoes'.

Wetin consign me? Shebi na who see the thing go chop and clean mouth?

Seyzcham91:
na only you get sense here honestly!

i thought i was the only one that noticed that part

all naija girls be olosho walahi. na the best bidder dem dey go with and by best bidder i mean person with more and more money

See how she said it without remorse that she left her Ex and Move to the new guy without telling us the new guy is kind of richer a little she now lying that one helping her academically and intelligent. Intelligent my foot. she think we be mumu

all these girls no dey after intelligence or fine bobo anymore or six packs na money sure pass and more reason some Mumu Low self esteem, myopic naija guys dey resort to Money Ritual so as to Get girls attention

I keep saying all naija girls are blood sucking mosquitoes

And back to that girl that says the guy keep beating her or something and others here saying the guy is tired of her pussy, yes thats right the guy don dey get free pussy for too long but do you guys also ask her why she never wants to leave the guy? its more like an abusive relationship and yet she doesn't want to leave and she shouldn't be giving us shits of CIZ OF LOVE FOR HIM cuz thats a big lie. that guy get small money for hand and the girl no won let go of that benefits is the only reason she's sticking with him and don't wanna let go despite the abuse

well. i rest my case!

The guy loves her that's why he doesn't want to let her go...she shouldn't leave the guy, let them have dialogue and agreement in the relationship..the guy loves her, that's why he doesn't want to to leave.

Fussion1000:



5 years still counting ,yet no sight for the day he will walk you down isle .I biliv you knw woman use to reach menopause sha.

The guy loves her and that's why he isn't letting her go...he is very likely to marry her, because guys like this do end up marrying that lady that they don't want to go. That's love!

Patiks:


Thank God your advice is for the mumu guys who date the 'hoes'.

Wetin consign me? Shebi na who see the thing go chop and clean mouth?

The guy loves her and that's why he doesn't want her to go, she isn't an how!

Patiks:


Thank God your advice is for the mumu guys who date the 'hoes'.

Wetin consign me? Shebi na who see the thing go chop and clean mouth?

All nigerian Ladies are hoes

Bbliss24:
that was before but he is okay now

For the fact he doesn't want to let you go, he loves you and guys like this do end up marrying the lady they cnt let go. Don't listen to all these other advices saying you should quit the relationship. Most of them are just sadist and don't like anything marriage. The guy love you, stick with him and have enough dialogue with him.

Europeanian:

The guy loves her and that's why he doesn't want her to go, she isn't an how!

I wasn't referring to the original poster.

I was referring to the advice: ''chop Nigerian girls and clean mouth.''

Na who no value her thing go offer to anybody who comes along.

First u dated or accepted him for the wrong reasons, considering his recent demeanor, i think he's going true some pyschological trauma and he tends to carryout his frustration on u.
My 2 Cents albeit i dont know if it would suffice, pls walk away its already toxic. Walk while u still can or God forbide it may be ur demise, cos the guy who is maiming u emotionally and punching softly now would place no value on u when u r married to him.
Pls run and never look back, but if him prick still dey sweet u, oya carry on, We shall meet at the golden gate.
A living dog is better than a dead lion.

odinson1:


All nigerian Ladies are hoes

She isn't an hoe, the guy loves her that's why he doesn't want to let her go

odinson1:


All nigerian Ladies are hoes

No wonder the Queen LovePeddler gave birth to you.

I feel your pain. Sowi you hear?

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WRONG ADVICE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Change is constant.. people do change oh.

For the fact he doesn't want to let her go, he loves you and guys like this do end up marrying the lady they cnt let go. Don't listen to all these other advices saying you should quit the relationship. Most of them are just sadist and don't like anything marriage. The guy love you, stick with him and have enough dialogue with him.

Patiks:


I wasn't referring to the original poster.

I was referring to the advice: ''chop Nigerian girls and clean mouth.''

Na who no value her thing go offer to anybody who comes along.

Alright, but the guy really loves her, that's why he doesn't want to give up on her..he isn't letting her go..he loves her!

Bbliss24:


The truth is he is a good guy and when I met him he never laid his hands on me until I started staying with him.

Real sensible ladies and gents listen to and obey God's command....Flee fornication is God's command!
Real sensible ladies and gents listen to and obey God's command....Marriage is honorable in all things and the bed must be undefiled is God's command!
Real sensible ladies and gents listen to and obey God's command....Can a man/woman put fire in his bosoms and not be burnt? Is God's rhetorical question, by co-habiting with a strange flesh in a relationship that has neither being certified by your parents nor sanctified by God, you break God's command.

A lot of modern day smart people are actually daft,
Co-habiting with a guy is a license for uninhibited random sex-capades experiment, for which you are the guinea pig..
You may probably have taken in once or twice for him and that translate to abortion..This are effect of co-habiting that cannot be avoided or over ruled.
What you need now is not a relationship but genuine repentance borne out of sincerity, if you want God's mercy and your glory restored do this as fast as possible today.
Wait on the Lord he will give you the desire of your heart, not a shocker or playboy! If you refuse this admonition and think to continue, be rest assure the signs are there for you to see and you cannot change it once you've finally submitted your crown to him.

You said you find it difficult to leave the relationship and you are asking again if you should leave the relationship. From what I can see, at first the relationship was lovely, rosy and sweet, but now it has changed to bitter, painful and regretful. As I always say, it is bad for a guy to hit the girl he said he loves no matter the reason. How can you stay in a relationship that turned from lovely to abusive? You have to make up your mind and decide what you want for yourself after all you are an adult. If you feel that staying in an abusive relationship is good for your health, who am I to advice against it? If you feel otherwise then do the needful. The ball is in your court.

Fussion1000:



5 years still counting ,yet no sight for the day he will walk you down isle .I biliv you knw woman use to reach menopause sha.

Everybody is blaming the guy, but no one asked you what you do that warranted beating, in as much I blame the guy for beating you.

If a woman stays with a guy for 5 years and the guy not yet get his direction of life and she is approaching 28 or he doesn't make tangible action to tie knot with the woman, even if the guy is romantic I will advice the girl run as fast as lion.

Meanwhile one antitode that work almost perfectly for health relationship is for the 2 partners involved to be overlooking minor offences.

When guy and girl meet newly its always rosy and beautiful but after sometimes it become boring, when you overcome that stage, you will now see each other like twins

WRONG ADVICE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Change is constant.. people do change oh.

For the fact he doesn't want to let her go, he loves you and guys like this do end up marrying the lady they cnt let go. Don't listen to all these other advices saying you should quit the relationship. Most of them are just sadist and don't like anything marriage. The guy love you, stick with him and have enough dialogue with him.

boxer022:
You said you find it difficult to leave the relationship and you are asking again if you should leave the relationship. From what I can see, at first the relationship was lovely, rosy and sweet, but now it has changed to bitter, painful and regretful. As I always say, it is bad for a guy to hit the girl he said he loves no matter the reason. How can you stay in a relationship that turned from lovely to abusive? You have to make up your mind and decide what you want for yourself after all you are an adult. If you feel that staying in an abusive relationship is good for your health, who am I to advice against it? If you feel otherwise then do the needful. The ball is in your court.

WRONG ADVICE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Change is constant.. people do change oh.

For the fact he doesn't want to let her go, he loves you and guys like this do end up marrying the lady they cnt let go. Don't listen to all these other advices saying you should quit the relationship. Most of them are just sadist and don't like anything marriage. The guy love you, stick with him and have enough dialogue with him.
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Vyolet:
Ladies should stop dating for 5years, that's total waste of time.
May God save us from time wasters.

life has no simple working laws and rules to success, everything is time and luck. Some date 8 years and end up happy together, some just few months and one kill the other lol

ModsStopBanning:
He's tired of you

The Truth hurts

Thank you for telling her the truth she already knows but is afraid to admit to herself.

toye440:
First u dated or accepted him for the wrong reasons, considering his recent demeanor, i think he's going true some pyschological trauma and he tends to carryout his frustration on u.
My 2 Cents albeit i dont know if it would suffice, pls walk away its already toxic. Walk while u still can or God forbide it may be ur demise, cos the guy who is maiming u emotionally and punching softly now would place no value on u when u r married to him.
Pls run and never look back, but if him prick still dey sweet u, oya carry on, We shall meet at the golden gate.
A living dog is better than a dead lion.

WRONG ADVICE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Change is constant.. people do change oh.

For the fact he doesn't want to let her go, he loves you and guys like this do end up marrying the lady they cnt let go. Don't listen to all these other advices saying you should quit the relationship. Most of them are just sadist and don't like anything marriage. The guy love you, stick with him and have enough dialogue with him.

JERRY1925:
Lol.
Well, fact is, he is tired and really don't trust u anymore.
The trust ssue might probably be how u left your previous relationship.
So ma advice for u is to leave.
When a man starts hitting you, it becomes difficult for him to stop.
So now that u gat all ur body complete, just leave.
Mind u.. He will always plead u stay, reason is, u a giver of free p**sy.
When we get something good for free we hardly let go.
And next time u entering a relationship, always make sure u sure about it.
Stop using people heart to play.

WRONG ADVICE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Change is constant.. people do change oh.

For the fact he doesn't want to let her go, he loves you and guys like this do end up marrying the lady they cnt let go. Don't listen to all these other advices saying you should quit the relationship. Most of them are just sadist and don't like anything marriage. The guy love you, stick with him and have enough dialogue with him.

Europeanian:

Alright, but the guy really loves her, that's why he doesn't want to give up on her..he isn't letting her go..he loves her!

If you say so.

I think five years is long enough for a man to learn to cherish his partner if he truly loves her despite challenges.

rollybest:
Him don enter, you know what i mean?
Cuz that's one of the reasons he's not interested again. Him don knack tire. He wants to mingle with his new catch unless you are not good mannered.

WRONG ADVICE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Change is constant.. people do change oh.

For the fact he doesn't want to let her go, he loves you and guys like this do end up marrying the lady they cnt let go. Don't listen to all these other advices saying you should quit the relationship. Most of them are just sadist and don't like anything marriage. The guy love you, stick with him and have enough dialogue with him.