Absolutely not.
Things are different when you've got money

I have decided to have only 2 kids...

I want 1, so I can effectively manage my starboy3, but babe knelt down and beg me say 1 pikin no good, say he go good make starboy3 get a little cute stargirl to play with...

So help us God.

You are talking about the kids, what about the endangered youths currently at home for 8 months on ASUU strike and the graduates without job.

Regex:


Not surprised this post didn't make fp to educate people. Unlike fp materials, this thread isn't trash enough. Hell it's no where near trash!
Silly mods.

Shame on you

I'm scared for my unborn children reason why i aim un work hard and leave this sh*thole ASAP !

Not if you have money. rich people keep their children in nigeeria. dj cuppy love nija die

englois:
Personally the state of the country is scary. Even those with good paying jobs are facing job insecurity cos of imminent layoffs. Inflation is another palaver. Imagine Gino tomato that goes for#50 now go for #100. Then another mentality of some people that God will take care of them is sickening. I'm not saying God won't take care of them but what plans do you have. I know of a private school teacher collecting #25000 salary and married with 3 kids before securing Npower job. After getting the job, he married another wife who now has two kids. All this because of #30000 Npower. Now, I don't have any pity to spare some people languishing in poverty cos of wrong decisions.

gino na 120 for my side.

The thoughts that my kids will one day stay at home or out of the streets protesting because of ASUU strike gives me depression. I don't have and kids now and not yet married.

I think about this often,help me God to give my children a better life

My father gave me 2 things. He gave birth to me and the wisdom of life he impacted on me. But all my kids none of them hold nigeria birth certificate. Laye. Future? In Naija

Klass99:
Omo, I think we should all be worried/afraid for ourselves as individuals and not just for our kids (born or unborn ones) I feared for myself in the light of brutal stories narrated by victims of SARS. There was one story in particular that made me realize this shit can happen to anyone, none of us is immune to it, hell I am not immune to their brutality either!

The story I talk about was shared on Twitter by Pastor Adegboye's wife (the twitter handle had her name on it, I can't say for sure if she was the one behind the account) A young lady went out around 7pm to get food items from her mum's shop, which wasn't far from their home. On getting to the shop area, SARS bundled her into their van where other people were being held captive. To cut a long story short, she ended up being tortured into confessing a crime she knew nothing about and spent 3 years of her life in prison (I think @ Kirikiri) before the legal team @ Redeem Church got her out.

I am in the habit of strolling out of my estate around 7 or 8pm, to get groceries or toiletries at a nearby supermarket. There's a popular fuel station where the supermarket is as well, so there's often activity there. When I watched that lady's account of her ordeal, I thought to myself, what happened to her could have easily happened to me too. Because, SARS may be parked at one corner of that fuel station bundling people away for no reason and I may end up a victim, because I went out to shop.

I have always wanted to live in Nigeria, while I continue to travel the world and visit other countries. But lately, I have been seriously contemplating relocating. I once saw a comment on NL where someone said, relocate for the sake of your unborn children and I was like, why do we make everything about children. We should be thinking of relocating for ourselves first and foremost of all, before any unborn children. You are in the land of the living, unborn children have nothing to worry about or fear yet.

Abeg o. If you can afford it, leave. Nigeria isn't sane

Where una wan leave this hell hole country run go........ When all of una were voting in buhari, and then mocking some of us who saw the future and opposed this disaster by trying to vote in Jonathan....... Na, you all are crying, trying to leave behind the mess you all created.......... We all die here for this country, whether good or bad..... Una never see something.


Nigeria will continue to be degraded, blood will continue to be shade, the country will continue to lose all values both human an natural resources until nigeria finally die a natural death. Amen

Most of the Igbo who have landed properties and businesses in Nigeria outside Igbo land don’t.

They think only about enjoyment of their riches in Nigeria while they are alive.

tensazangetsu20:
Nairalanders Who Of Recent Have Kids In Nigeria. Do You Fear For Their Future?

Nigeria is in a terrible state the worst state it has ever been. Youth unemployment of over 80 percent. Low wages. The world's poverty capital. Crippling hunger and insane food inflation. With all this problems here and there, a few of my friends have vowed never to have kids till they escape from the country but I still see young small children here and there who were born 1 to 3 years ago.

Nairalanders who recently had kids how do you feel about your kids? Do you worry about their future or are you optimistic that Nigeria might become a better place in the future for your children. How do you also take care of them with the rising cost of everything from transport to food, rent and all basic necessities?

In bold:
Hope for a messiah of a leader to emerge from the present political structure of Nigeria is forlorn.


Only the foolish ones entertain that hope.

As someone born abroad and whose formative years were in Nigeria, I would advice Nigerians to let their children grow up in Nigeria. Characters formed in Nigeria are unbeatable. Beyond the ages of 12 it is safe to send them abroad to school if you wish. If I could influence the black world, I would have them send their children to their nations of “genetic” origin during the formative years. I would have African Americans send their children to grow up in Nigeria or other African nations or the Caribbean, between the ages of I to 13 year old. After this, return them to America, Europe or wherever in the world you choose. It is absolutely vital that you let your black child form their character in Africa before moving them abroad if you wish. In Africa, Nigeria is the best place.

tensazangetsu20:

Men bros i don't know how married people are doing it o. If a single person is struggling how about people with kids and a wife.

That's why many of these married people (including myself) have indirectly giving up on our dreams just to being able to give the future of our kids a little shape
I cry everyday because my dream is slipping away from me due to financial insufficiency
the bad economy has forced me to either choose my dream over my innocent kids or the kids over my life
As a good father, i choose them over my life

My advice to every single person out there is to shut the door of having children for now if you are not "extra" financial buoyant

Although it was not as bad as it is now when i had them

You’re a mumu man.. where is cuppy based?

lekki1444:
Not if you have money. rich people keep their children in nigeeria. dj cuppy love nija die

A305:
No.

I already mapped out my plans for them.

They will be from 2 different babymama(s) so they can compete for supremacy between themselves to earn my admiration. However, I'm taking them through the digital world once they done with high school so, they can begin to earn like i currently earn online by themselves while in the university, And when they graduate -- they should be able to fend for themselves in the real world, still via the internet legitimately.

Same strategy, but not baby mama things

100% YES

tensazangetsu20:
Nairalanders Who Of Recent Have Kids In Nigeria. Do You Fear For Their Future?

Nigeria is in a terrible state the worst state it has ever been. Youth unemployment of over 80 percent. Low wages. The world's poverty capital. Crippling hunger and insane food inflation. With all this problems here and there, a few of my friends have vowed never to have kids till they escape from the country but I still see young small children here and there who were born 1 to 3 years ago.

Nairalanders who recently had kids how do you feel about your kids? Do you worry about their future or are you optimistic that Nigeria might become a better place in the future for your children. How do you also take care of them with the rising cost of everything from transport to food, rent and all basic necessities?

A305:
No.

I already mapped out my plans for them.

They will be from 2 different babymama(s) so they can compete for supremacy between themselves to earn my admiration. However, I'm taking them through the digital world once they done with high school so, they can begin to earn like i currently earn online by themselves while in the university, And when they graduate -- they should be able to fend for themselves in the real world, still via the internet legitimately.

can you please enlighten me on the "i'm taking them through the digital world"
I might apply the same for my kids
thanks

Honestly I fear, but I wholly trust God's providence.

Naughtysex:
That's why many of these married people (including myself) have indirectly giving up on our dreams just to being able to give the future of our kids a little shape
I cry everyday because my dream is slipping away from me due to financial insufficiency
the bad economy has forced me to either choose my dream over my innocent kids or the kids over my life
As a good father, i choose them over my life

My advice to every single person out there is to shut the door of having children for now if you are not "extra" financial buoyant

[/b]Although it was not as bad as it is now when i had them[b]

This is the case with most people who give birth to one or multiple kids - things were not as hard as it is when they had them. What does this tells you? That our economy is isn't really growing and that corruption and mismanagement has widen the income gap, plus insane inflation.

Things are not easy in this country. Not a pessimist but all I see for Nigerian is a bleak future.

Smile4mee01:


This a deep conversation.

Regardless of where you have your kids. I believe alot of work needs to be put into ensuring the kids turn out well and dont stray in life.

Frame the above! ... that's most important... if not... regardless of which country you migrate to... your kids will be a problem. Before this COVID-19 and ehmmm... New World Order... I would ve encouraged people to send their kids abroad mainly to gain the education that will be required in the future. But right now... things have been changing fast. Education is moving online... jobs are moving online... but more importantly the freedoms previously enjoyed in developed countries are being stripped away.... under the excuse of COVID-19 and saving lives. The most fundamental right... freedom of religion.. is being controlled. What will happen when movement is controlled?... in Nigeria... whatever the case... most can return to their respective villages...but abroad? Life is not easy anywhere in these times. What support can you get when your back is against the wall? Yes I live abroad.... for now.... in a job that does wayyy better because of the pandemic.....but the sufferings and desperation and hopelessness I see in so many of those that are affected by the crisis is saddening. Back home... people make out somehow on the very little they make and sooo many mouths to feed. The magic they perform back home cannot be performed here ... ingredients not available.

This is really deep.... stuck between a rock and a hard place. Magicians... over to you.

If you bring up your children in the West, between the ages of 1 to 13, they will be fundamentally Lilly livered and foolish. They will be deeply shallow. This is whether they end up in high paying jobs or in criminality. Let your children grow up in Nigeria during their formative years at least. If you want, and are able, then send them abroad in their teens.

CanadianNaija:


Omo! You’re negative sha. I think Nigeria will definitely get better.

He is actually realistic and not negative. You are being too optimistic, Nigeria won't get better it's a fact we should all come to live with.

What a very interesting discussion for the married ones and not for the kids here on Nairaland.

It's ain't easy raising kids or simply family in Nigeria. It's more hectic if you are the guy that love a quality and comfortable life for your family.

Some men or parents don't really care about how their kids turn out as long as they are going to school and also been given food in the house without regards to the quality of the education and the food.

My advise to young men is that strive and have a little comfort before bringing in family. Married a working class woman and not a liability so that two of you can reason progressively together. Also have a kid you can cater for very well than so many kids that would make you to be dependent on family and friends for school fees, feeding and etc....

Love get sour when money is absent all the time. Don't get carried away by love and entangle yourself in a poverty web. You might not live to explain it to your children.

tensazangetsu20:

You can be in your house and sars will still come and kill you. Imagine the horrors of the told stories. Now imagine the millions of stories untold. Many more brutal than what we have heard. What of even the army and it's excesses. I had a Sierra Leonean classmate and when he talked about the atrocities the Nigerian army committed in their country, fear gripped me.

Last year during new year's eve, some guys were arrested by sarz and drove to an unknown place. They asked them to pay some particular amount before they were released, they were arrested for doing nothing.

Why would I be scared of what I have no power over?
The only fear is the menace that may come from ill brought up kids who turns to danger. Because they won't only affect themselves but even the innocent

englois:
Personally the state of the country is scary. Even those with good paying jobs are facing job insecurity cos of imminent layoffs. Inflation is another palaver. Imagine Gino tomato that goes for#50 now go for #100. Then another mentality of some people that God will take care of them is sickening. I'm not saying God won't take care of them but what plans do you have. I know of a private school teacher collecting #25000 salary and married with 3 kids before securing Npower job. After getting the job, he married another wife who now has two kids. All this because of #30000 Npower. Now, I don't have any pity to spare some people languishing in poverty cos of wrong decisions.

I pity the children because they didn't ask to be born.

I have a relation who is a teacher in a private school in Lagos and has six children. He isn't even 45 years old so I've always wondered what he was thinking while having so many offspring.

Relating with him is difficult because of his 'give me' attitude.

Other people have a little to spare only because they make their plans and ask God to help them.


Nigeria is tough. Lagos more so but some people have dug the holes they are in . Unfortunately, with their innocent children.

Are you really serious with this post?

Litmus:
As someone born abroad and whose formative years were in Nigeria, I would advice Nigerians to let their children grow up in Nigeria. Characters formed in Nigeria are unbeatable. Beyond the ages of 12 it is safe to send them abroad to school if you wish. If I could influence the black world, I would have them send their children to their nations of “genetic” origin during the formative years. I would have African Americans send their children to grow up in Nigeria or other African nations or the Caribbean, between the ages of I to 13 year old. After this, return them to America, Europe or wherever in the world you choose. It is absolutely vital that you let your black child form their character in Africa before moving them abroad if you wish. In Africa, Nigeria is the best place.

wellmax:
Read this

How is this connected to the thread?

We will be fine once Buhari leaves the stage. We hang on!

Everybody can't run away.