JONSYN7154:
You see these words "my ex is not my enemy " has destroyed so many marriage and relationship.

Exes are biggest threat to every relationship and marriage, yes they are not your enemy but they are something one needs to avoid then if you two meets by chance then you can greet ,gist and walk away.

Many women with such mentality "my ex is not my enemy "therefore I want to go to his place and invite him to my wedding, from there" can I get a last hug?

That was how they ended up in bed, from ordinary hug it turned to kissing, this is how many married woman got pregnant for their exes.

Many will be saying that they are matured spiritually to handle such, but forgot what the Bible said in 1 Corinthians 10:12 ...

Men on the other hand usually have the same mentality too, she is just a friend this and that...they forgot most times we fall in love with someone you didn't intend falling in love with by simply spending time with them, it may start as casual friends ,colleague e.t. c by spending time together you start seeing the beautiful qualities of the person that you don't know, from there intimate feeling can start building up.

When you are in a relationship/marriage you should respect your spouse feelings, and stop all this "we are just friends.

Yes that you are married or in a relationship doesn't mean you aren't allowed to make friends but know your limits..

Have this in mind �
What a man doesn't want to eat he shouldn't take it close to his nose, because the nice aroma might be tempting to resist ��

Thank you for this comment. most guys reason like this...i pray they will understand wen the tables are turned.

You are not a husband material, the girl have seen that in you and she decided to make a wise choice on time, so that she will not regret for the rest of her life.
How can you be telling us of buying Phone for her, Christmas Rice for her mother, why not include school fees for her siblings. Marriage is for matured men not for children.
Look for your own, you are romancing another mans property. You will continue complaining if you continue.
Again, I will say, you are not HUSBAND MATERIAL.

neighbourhud:
For me, i will advice the girl to run for dear life. You sound convincingly, a jealous and insecure tyle.

Bro, you are the problem, not her. Work on yourself.

Do you ever read what the guy posted at all.

Can you accept your girl chatting with her ex on regular basis. and you know what is at stake. cos right now, people have seeing sex as the main priority. You dull yourself, another man is waiting in the wing to knack your girlfriend anyhow

nijaomegacode:

No body is arguing with you. If you find a mumu man who is ready to watch you as you open your legs to every man, no problem. But you see guys of today, we don wise.

Guys of today or small boys on nairaland forming alpha male

You’re one of the guys that actually washes their girlfriends panties in private and be forming alpha male on NL.. I know your type

Bola146:
That is good for her. A cheat is always a cheat!!! Unless you want to have a heart attack.

What exactly is her offence here, she's a cheat for replying her ex's seasonal greetings? Some of you ladies deserve a thug as a partner.

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggarrrr
Isoright....
Bros op ...wether you like it or not

Nobody...I repeat nobody can separate a boy from his ex or a girl from her ex....especially if the situation that led to their break up wasn't violent

Let me tell you a secret bros op...most marriage you see today are between ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend because they are actually the ones that knows you very well
Not to talk of the blood, tears and sweat they shared together
Most people are bound to their ex already till the end of time...

Because you are not TOTALLY in charge, I mean ABSOLUTELY in control of ur girl, most especially fiancee or wife.

Anybody, I mean anybody except family members.

grossintel:
OP, you mean she replied her ex's compliment of the season and for this reason you're mad at her? Are you mentality stable? You need to see a physiologist.

So did you forget the part the ex sent her money? From sending money to come and meet me at a hotel.

Men go over look girls during adolescent age just to show dem pepper when time for marriage reach

bro if you know what is good for you, this is the right time to back off that relationship, before you will regret every of your entire life, this people have nothing to offer if not because of having child for us, it is only few of them has little wisdom with your efforts been checkmating on them, If the married men open their mouth to tell you what their going through but they just keep mute and that's is what they called matured mind in marriage.

Kriss216:



If this is her only offence, then, I think you're been insecured and unnecessarily naive.

I swear.... Just normal chat reply o..... Nt like they agreed hook up o

Everyone saying the op is acting stupid is actually mad and hasn't experienced any of such in their life. It's complete stupidity to allow someone you want to get married to still keep in touch with her ex. Sooner or later, they'll start having an affair all over again. Op I'll advise you try and give her one last chance then if she doesn't adhere to your words, it will be best to let go of her because she clearly isn't ready to let go of her past and start something new with you. Merry Christmas in advance.

To all those saying the op is insecure, you guys have clearly never had any serious relationship and I doubt if you ever will. Many of you have ruined so many relationships in the past because of your selfish attitude. I can only say you guys are the real kids here and not the op in any way. There is nothing wrong in trying to preserve what you love. Ride on jor @op

It is well

Icedplane:
A girl that I was dating, took her to my parents and even met her people chatted with her ex who ditched her and married another girl. The other girl died and this ex wants her back.

She said if she see's someone else she would move ahead but if not she may consider him back. All these happened like 4 months before I met her.

Now I have introduced her to all my family and even met some of her family.

Sent her mum money for Christmas, she still has the guts to reply the guys compliment of the season even after I warned her months back and asked her to block the guy which she did.

What pains me was the new phone I bought for her was what she used.

Now she's begging my mum to beg me.
Am done

What's our business

Icedplane:
A girl that I was dating, took her to my parents and even met her people chatted with her ex who ditched her and married another girl. The other girl died and this ex wants her back.

She said if she see's someone else she would move ahead but if not she may consider him back. All these happened like 4 months before I met her.

Now I have introduced her to all my family and even met some of her family.

Sent her mum money for Christmas, she still has the guts to reply the guys compliment of the season even after I warned her months back and asked her to block the guy which she did.

What pains me was the new phone I bought for her was what she used.

Now she's begging my mum to beg me.
Am done

RUN �

Simps makes me laugh

you leave her
she'll go back to her ex and live happily ever after to the glory of your heart break

fact is that she loves her ex more than you and she's just apologizing to make you feel happy and comfortable.

if she has the chance to choose between you and her ex
she'll choose her ex 100%

women tends to go back to their ex easily especially those that where dumped by the same ex

Icedplane:
A girl that I was dating, took her to my parents and even met her people chatted with her ex who ditched her and married another girl. The other girl died and this ex wants her back.

She said if she see's someone else she would move ahead but if not she may consider him back. All these happened like 4 months before I met her.

Now I have introduced her to all my family and even met some of her family.

Sent her mum money for Christmas, she still has the guts to reply the guys compliment of the season even after I warned her months back and asked her to block the guy which she did.

What pains me was the new phone I bought for her was what she used.

Now she's begging my mum to beg me.
Am done

na malaria dey worry you sir

lol lover boy


Abeg Yago Lona,shey mojo yemi my lover ni?

Kriss216:



If this is her only offence, then, I think you're been insecured and unnecessarily naive.

That's not true.. He needs draw the cotton, if he doesn't want it, his Partner should respect his wishes.. Period!!! No two ways about it,non negotiable either.

JONSYN7154:
You see these words "my ex is not my enemy " has destroyed so many marriage and relationship.

Exes are biggest threat to every relationship and marriage, yes they are not your enemy but they are something one needs to avoid then if you two meets by chance then you can greet ,gist and walk away.

Many women with such mentality "my ex is not my enemy "therefore I want to go to his place and invite him to my wedding, from there" can I get a last hug?

That was how they ended up in bed, from ordinary hug it turned to kissing, this is how many married woman got pregnant for their exes.

Many will be saying that they are matured spiritually to handle such, but forgot what the Bible said in 1 Corinthians 10:12 ...

Men on the other hand usually have the same mentality too, she is just a friend this and that...they forgot most times we fall in love with someone you didn't intend falling in love with by simply spending time with them, it may start as casual friends ,colleague e.t. c by spending time together you start seeing the beautiful qualities of the person that you don't know, from there intimate feeling can start building up.

When you are in a relationship/marriage you should respect your spouse feelings, and stop all this "we are just friends.

Yes that you are married or in a relationship doesn't mean you aren't allowed to make friends but know your limits..

Have this in mind �
What a man doesn't want to eat he shouldn't take it close to his nose, because the nice aroma might be tempting to resist ��

Well said

Kriss216:



If this is her only offence, then, I think you're been insecured and unnecessarily naive.

Continue Simping

You are suffering from insecurity syndrome. You have no reason to ask her to block people, if can't trust her then let her go. There's nothing wrong in responding to compliment especially in the festive season. Guy grow up! You send her mother money and so ?

Bleep off

Kriss216:



If this is her only offence, then, I think you're been insecured and unnecessarily naive.

Be sensitive... Be wise... Don't just comment on issues that need advising!

Icedplane:
A girl that I was dating, took her to my parents and even met her people chatted with her ex who ditched her and married another girl. The other girl died and this ex wants her back.

She said if she see's someone else she would move ahead but if not she may consider him back. All these happened like 4 months before I met her.

Now I have introduced her to all my family and even met some of her family.

Sent her mum money for Christmas, she still has the guts to reply the guys compliment of the season even after I warned her months back and asked her to block the guy which she did.

What pains me was the new phone I bought for her was what she used.

Now she's begging my mum to beg me.
Am done

Guy she still loves him. Has he bleeped her before? If yes, then just know that he will Bleep her even when married to you. I am talking from my experiences!!!

ojuu4u:



The you read, where she said if she don't have option she will back to ex

She said if she see's someone else she would move ahead but if not she may consider him back. All these happened like 4 months before I met her.

Need I say more?

JONSYN7154:
You see these words "my ex is not my enemy " has destroyed so many marriage and relationship.

Exes are biggest threat to every relationship and marriage, yes they are not your enemy but they are something one needs to avoid then if you two meets by chance then you can greet ,gist and walk away.

Many women with such mentality "my ex is not my enemy "therefore I want to go to his place and invite him to my wedding, from there" can I get a last hug?

That was how they ended up in bed, from ordinary hug it turned to kissing, this is how many married woman got pregnant for their exes.

Many will be saying that they are matured spiritually to handle such, but forgot what the Bible said in 1 Corinthians 10:12 ...

Men on the other hand usually have the same mentality too, she is just a friend this and that...they forgot most times we fall in love with someone you didn't intend falling in love with by simply spending time with them, it may start as casual friends ,colleague e.t. c by spending time together you start seeing the beautiful qualities of the person that you don't know, from there intimate feeling can start building up.

When you are in a relationship/marriage you should respect your spouse feelings, and stop all this "we are just friends.

Yes that you are married or in a relationship doesn't mean you aren't allowed to make friends but know your limits..

Have this in mind �
What a man doesn't want to eat he shouldn't take it close to his nose, because the nice aroma might be tempting to resist ��

There is wisdom in this post

LaReinaa:
So she shouldn’t reply compliment of the season because she is your girlfriend not husband oooo..

Is she in a relationship with you or dictatorship

She is even begging you and you’re feeling like a demi god, please collect your phone and let the poor girl have peace..

Nah insecurity and sense of entitlement dey worry you

See their type. This ones were born to remain unfaithful in this life. For someone in a serious relationship, why was she in contact with her ex in the first place? Did you read the story at all? Didn't he tell her not to keep in touch with her ex but instead she chose not to listen. It's your type that never have a happy home because you see no issue in this things. My advise to you is never do that else you'll ruin you relationship and some might be inrepairable.

Kriss216:



If this is her only offence, then, I think you're been insecured and unnecessarily naive.

It's not insecurity. It's precaution. As a guy, once u notice such, it's a red flag

You are absolutely correct Brother..
A friend of mine told me of His experience one certian time. She was Married, He didnt know because there were in the university and her Husband was in One Afriican country like that..When he found out he was mad at himslf..but she visited him to apologise and from last Hug the thing enter last kiss.into Romance..My guy get luck say a neigbour just come knock the door to collect salt if not ..He for straff the Babe..One need to know His or her Limits

JONSYN7154:
You see these words "my ex is not my enemy " has destroyed so many marriage and relationship.

Exes are biggest threat to every relationship and marriage, yes they are not your enemy but they are something one needs to avoid then if you two meets by chance then you can greet ,gist and walk away.

Many women with such mentality "my ex is not my enemy "therefore I want to go to his place and invite him to my wedding, from there" can I get a last hug?

That was how they ended up in bed, from ordinary hug it turned to kissing, this is how many married woman got pregnant for their exes.

Many will be saying that they are matured spiritually to handle such, but forgot what the Bible said in 1 Corinthians 10:12 ...


Men on the other hand usually have the same mentality too, she is just a friend this and that...they forgot most times we fall in love with someone you didn't intend falling in love with by simply spending time with them, it may start as casual friends ,colleague e.t. c by spending time together you start seeing the beautiful qualities of the person that you don't know, from there intimate feeling can start building up.

When you are in a relationship/marriage you should respect your spouse feelings, and stop all this "we are just friends.

Yes that you are married or in a relationship doesn't mean you aren't allowed to make friends but know your limits..

Have this in mind �
What a man doesn't want to eat he shouldn't take it close to his nose, because the nice aroma might be tempting to resist ��

Icedplane

That's not enough to quit a relationship unless you never really loved her.

You need to forgive her and talk things over with her.

People's exes are not necessarily their enemies.

OKOATA:
So did you forget the part the ex sent her money? From sending money to come and meet me at a hotel.

Sent her money and so? Come and meet me at a hotel did she go? Guy! All of una dey craze. It's only jobless and broke niggas that stress over irrelevant things.