Move on.

Kriss216:



If this is her only offence, then, I think you're been insecured and unnecessarily naive.

I wouldn't be surprised if you're a female but if you're a male, you're dumb and I'm worried that you don't know

Icedplane:
A girl that I was dating, took her to my parents and even met her people chatted with her ex who ditched her and married another girl. The other girl died and this ex wants her back.

She said if she see's someone else she would move ahead but if not she may consider him back. All these happened like 4 months before I met her.

Now I have introduced her to all my family and even met some of her family.

Sent her mum money for Christmas, she still has the guts to reply the guys compliment of the season even after I warned her months back and asked her to block the guy which she did.

What pains me was the new phone I bought for her was what she used.

Now she's begging my mum to beg me.
Am done

bros,
no dey tell woman to block person. na she for decide....

Icedplane:
A girl that I was dating, took her to my parents and even met her people chatted with her ex who ditched her and married another girl. The other girl died and this ex wants her back.

She said if she see's someone else she would move ahead but if not she may consider him back. All these happened like 4 months before I met her.

Now I have introduced her to all my family and even met some of her family.

Sent her mum money for Christmas, she still has the guts to reply the guys compliment of the season even after I warned her months back and asked her to block the guy which she did.

What pains me was the new phone I bought for her was what she used.

Now she's begging my mum to beg me.
Am done

You see INTIMATE EX BOY AND GIRL, flee them as though you're fleeing fornication. In meeting and chatting them up, the intention may be harmless but soon or later it will end in shame and destruction.
Emotional or call it soul tie is strong, it gets reactivated no matter the reason for break up.

And tell some guys beware of ladies that has had a break up after a long intimate and satisfactory love affairs/relationship.

As for me, Op made a wise decision. The signs she is still in love with her ex are still there.
Let her go.

Recently, I saw a post that warned guys to be wary of relationship with people that just broke up because they might be using you to hold body till they settle.

OKOATA:
Forget all those people telling you ordinary seasons greetings, I am so sure they will still fuvk each other when they get to meet. It's better you end this for your own good. If you marry her she will cheat on you 100% with her ex.

i concur

Sonyboom:
This is hilarious so cos the ex will help her find a job he should tolerate all her excesses. Fools too many 4 NL I swear.

I think you are one of those fools if you cannot read between lines

gbeseun:

God will bless the womb that conceive u.
God will.bless you the product
God will.bless what you will also produce.

I dont know we have good thinker more in nairaland again.
The lady cant do away with her ex,so she sh ooi yld move on to the ex side and the op should stio spending his money on someone who has flair for her ex.i dont take nonsence,if u can face me face ur ex.simple

thank you.

why I don't comments on nairaland is because of insult.

riyanxeally:
honestly this is the truth especially ex’s if u truly love your present use the block button n run from exes thy will mostly take u back passion memory lane

thank you. can I DM you?

Icedplane:
A girl that I was dating, took her to my parents and even met her people chatted with her ex who ditched her and married another girl. The other girl died and this ex wants her back.

She said if she see's someone else she would move ahead but if not she may consider him back. All these happened like 4 months before I met her.

Now I have introduced her to all my family and even met some of her family.

Sent her mum money for Christmas, she still has the guts to reply the guys compliment of the season even after I warned her months back and asked her to block the guy which she did.

What pains me was the new phone I bought for her was what she used.

Now she's begging my mum to beg me.
Am done

Easy bro, I know she was not suppose to do that but come on, no body is above mistakes, please give her a 2nd chance

AududuNine11:

There is wisdom in this post

thank you Sir

Nomorelove:

With this your mentality, you no go ever marry. Boyfriends turn to husband. I hope you come to understand that someday. Whatever you can't do when you're dating your boyfriend, you won't do when you get married. Stop giving excuses for a very abnormal behaviour. No responsible girl would do that. I don't blame most girls anyways... It's the guys that follow your type I blame. When you get married abeg come back and message me.

Sorry to burst your nasty bubbles.. I am happily married to my best friend, a real man not a teenage wannabe alpha male like you

I am in a happy marriage with lots lots of love, respect and understanding not in bondage so keep your lame advice to your yourself and unmarried sisters..

The mentality most you guys on this platform has irks!
A little exposure and maturity might help get rid of this poor mentality of yours..

Icedplane:
A girl that I was dating, took her to my parents and even met her people chatted with her ex who ditched her and married another girl. The other girl died and this ex wants her back.

She said if she see's someone else she would move ahead but if not she may consider him back. All these happened like 4 months before I met her.

Now I have introduced her to all my family and even met some of her family.

Sent her mum money for Christmas, she still has the guts to reply the guys compliment of the season even after I warned her months back and asked her to block the guy which she did.

What pains me was the new phone I bought for her was what she used.

Now she's begging my mum to beg me.
Am done

@op if you Love her continue with your marriage process and get married..Your accusations are unfounded and lacks merit.Marriage gives you Full rights

Icedplane:
A girl that I was dating, took her to my parents and even met her people chatted with her ex who ditched her and married another girl. The other girl died and this ex wants her back.

She said if she see's someone else she would move ahead but if not she may consider him back. All these happened like 4 months before I met her.

Now I have introduced her to all my family and even met some of her family.

Sent her mum money for Christmas, she still has the guts to reply the guys compliment of the season even after I warned her months back and asked her to block the guy which she did.

What pains me was the new phone I bought for her was what she used.

Now she's begging my mum to beg me.
Am done

If I could speak with the girl, I will tell Her to stop begging and run, very far away from you, because a lot of marital problems begin and end when someone begins to think they own someone else just because they spent some money on them.

And such relational/marital problems can only be made worse by over suspiciousness, such as a reply to a "Compliments of the season text" How did you even see, the text? Wait , let me guess. You were snooping through Her phone ( maybe because you were the one who bought it)

Marriage is truly not for Children.

hashtagged:
Better be done o, except you want to share a sex tool with another guy. And probably raise another guys child

Listen to this person's advice...indeed you may end up fathering another man's child and in the event you offend her she will be running into the arms of the other guy. A clean slate is better than a white marker board with a lot of inscriptions written with permanent marker!

JONSYN7154:
You see these words "my ex is not my enemy " has destroyed so many marriage and relationship.

Exes are biggest threat to every relationship and marriage, yes they are not your enemy but they are something one needs to avoid then if you two meets by chance then you can greet ,gist and walk away.

Many women with such mentality "my ex is not my enemy "therefore I want to go to his place and invite him to my wedding, from there" can I get a last hug?

That was how they ended up in bed, from ordinary hug it turned to kissing, this is how many married woman got pregnant for their exes.

Many will be saying that they are matured spiritually to handle such, but forgot what the Bible said in 1 Corinthians 10:12 ...

Men on the other hand usually have the same mentality too, she is just a friend this and that...they forgot most times we fall in love with someone you didn't intend falling in love with by simply spending time with them, it may start as casual friends ,colleague e.t. c by spending time together you start seeing the beautiful qualities of the person that you don't know, from there intimate feeling can start building up.

When you are in a relationship/marriage you should respect your spouse feelings, and stop all this "we are just friends.

Yes that you are married or in a relationship doesn't mean you aren't allowed to make friends but know your limits..

Have this in mind �
What a man doesn't want to eat he shouldn't take it close to his nose, because the nice aroma might be tempting to resist ��

Arh. This person get wisdom o..

He can only shock him if he knows. He came here asking stupid questions.

MJBOLT:

e[b] go shock you when the guy begin bang your babe, that's if he is yet to start.[/b]

Tilykay:

Arh. This person get wisdom o..

thank you Sir

DeOTR:

The Guy's fear about his Girlfriend is justified.
The Lady is very very stupid for assuring her Ex of the possibility of a reunion. If I was the OP, I would have broken up stylishly with her at this point.
We are talking about someone who left you for another girl here. I can't take back any girl that left me for someone else. Agreeing to such is equivalent to accepting you're worth less than the other fellow.
First, the Lady has little or no self-esteem (it's their type that sleep around with different men).
To make matters worse, she always compares the OP with her Ex.

If you see nothing wrong in what the Lady did, then something is definitely wrong with you.

I never read anything about comparing the Op with her ex, you’re making that up..
Mind you, what you read is the guy’s version of the story..

Meanwhile, with that guy’s attitude and arrogance, that girl is better of with any other guy except the current childish and insecure boyfriend!
He even had to tell us that he bought her the phone she used in replying messages.. more like he owns her!
Nonsense and ingredients

If you see something wrong with me for having a contrary opinion to yours, it shows that you don’t have sense!

You told a girl that you have shown your family to block her ex. She didn't do that but used a phone you gifted her to even chat with guy.

You will regret it if you marries that girl because she doesn't respect uou at all. She is begging you because she sees you as a better option right now.

Don't be a simp!

Icedplane:
A girl that I was dating, took her to my parents and even met her people chatted with her ex who ditched her and married another girl. The other girl died and this ex wants her back.

She said if she see's someone else she would move ahead but if not she may consider him back. All these happened like 4 months before I met her.

Now I have introduced her to all my family and even met some of her family.

Sent her mum money for Christmas, she still has the guts to reply the guys compliment of the season even after I warned her months back and asked her to block the guy which she did.

What pains me was the new phone I bought for her was what she used.

Now she's begging my mum to beg me.
Am done

Icedplane:
A girl that I was dating, took her to my parents and even met her people chatted with her ex who ditched her and married another girl. The other girl died and this ex wants her back.

She said if she see's someone else she would move ahead but if not she may consider him back. All these happened like 4 months before I met her.

Now I have introduced her to all my family and even met some of her family.

Sent her mum money for Christmas, she still has the guts to reply the guys compliment of the season even after I warned her months back and asked her to block the guy which she did.

What pains me was the new phone I bought for her was what she used.

Now she's begging my mum to beg me.
Am done

The above bolded statement is a very sensitive one, I suspect that's one of the reasons you feel insecure about the relationship.

What is wrong replying compliment of d season...bia how old are you? Stop dat oooo,so becos u buy her phone,she shouldn't wish others compliment.wen u met her was she not using d fone her ex gave her? Inukwa akuko

Kriss216:

If this is her only offence, then, I think you're been insecured and unnecessarily naive.

Kapilta:
Nah he's neither insecure nor naive. Op is just mad and stupid. He's a useless attention seeker.

An ex who ditched her to marry another girl suddenly resurfaced after his wife died and you are saying OP shouldn't feel insecure when his girl seems to be falling into the trap little by little?
The question is: why did the guy resurface again? Because his wife died and remembered one ex of his somewhere.
Why the girl is bringing his matter up and chatting with him? Because she still has feelings for him. Simple

JONSYN7154:
You see these words "my ex is not my enemy " has destroyed so many marriage and relationship.

Exes are biggest threat to every relationship and marriage, yes they are not your enemy but they are something one needs to avoid then if you two meets by chance then you can greet ,gist and walk away.

Many women with such mentality "my ex is not my enemy "therefore I want to go to his place and invite him to my wedding, from there" can I get a last hug?

That was how they ended up in bed, from ordinary hug it turned to kissing, this is how many married woman got pregnant for their exes.

Many will be saying that they are matured spiritually to handle such, but forgot what the Bible said in 1 Corinthians 10:12 ...

Men on the other hand usually have the same mentality too, she is just a friend this and that...they forgot most times we fall in love with someone you didn't intend falling in love with by simply spending time with them, it may start as casual friends ,colleague e.t. c by spending time together you start seeing the beautiful qualities of the person that you don't know, from there intimate feeling can start building up.

When you are in a relationship/marriage you should respect your spouse feelings, and stop all this "we are just friends.

Yes that you are married or in a relationship doesn't mean you aren't allowed to make friends but know your limits..

Have this in mind �
What a man doesn't want to eat he shouldn't take it close to his nose, because the nice aroma might be tempting to resist ��

Thumbs up!

Rrex99:
Ex issues everywhere, where are we going to see a lady without ex to marry naw.

in a digital era. its difficult.
the issue our parents dont have to deal with...

what nonsense, so because she reply her ex, she is now be querried, guy abeg grow up before u die b4 ur time, that is to say, she is not even permited to greet someone if eventualy she got married to u, u will now place her under house arrest, i pity some women that will use because they wants to get married and put their selfs in a burning furnance......nawa o

Send your number to my email please .....tundeloveday@yahoo.com

Jodha:
I think yhure overreacting....and blowing things out of proportion.... it's not that deep...

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LaReinaa:

I never read anything about comparing the Op with her ex, you’re making that up..
Mind you, what you read is the guy’s version of the story..

It's there in the 4th post of this thread, so I'm not making it up.

Meanwhile, with that guy’s attitude and arrogance, that girl is better of with any other guy except the current childish and insecure boyfriend!
He even had to tell us that he bought her the phone she used in replying messages.. more like he owns her!
Nonsense and ingredients

I blame him for spending that much on a fooolish girl like that. This issue shouldn't even come up in the first place if he has any sense.

If you see something wrong with me for having a contrary opinion to yours, it shows that you don’t have sense!

A contrary opinion that would change if the situation is reversed?
Would your opinion still be the same if it was a Lady who posted this thread?
I know the answer, that's why I said something is wrong with you.

JONSYN7154:
thank you.
why I don't comments on nairaland is because of insult.

me likewise, i quote whom we share same idealogies. too many children here. remain blessed

I know how you feel bro, but I still advise you slow down on your decision. Your woman, has been into this guy for many years and even though he dumped her, she might still have something for him. But since you are together, it will take some time to totally forget the ex. If you love her, just try and find out what make her happy, the things that will make her forget the ex.
But if you want to apply force, it might work,but will surely backfire later. Kindly take it easy with her, I believe all will be well.