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I Have Not Travelled Home For 10 Years? Help by Sebastine1994(m): 4:59pm On Dec 23, 2020
When half of my neighbors have travelled, I am now left alone in the compound. every year it is only me who remains back, I am ashamed. I can't go home. I offended my family so much.

I was deported from South Africa for drug trafficking, my father spent all his life saving to send me abroad, I went there to do drugs,

Now I have my freedom, but my heart remains in chain, seeing my family struggling financially because of me and the failed investment on me. I am depressed because of this.

I can't call them, I don't know what to do. I may take my life if the emotional torture becomes much.

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Re: I Have Not Travelled Home For 10 Years? Help by RedPanthar: 5:02pm On Dec 23, 2020
People and their obsessiveness with inviting stressors into thier lives sha. When God hasn't given people problems, they go worrying about all sorts.... Real time Psychological instability scenario.

It is well sha.


Goodluck worrying

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Re: I Have Not Travelled Home For 10 Years? Help by Nobody: 5:12pm On Dec 23, 2020
So where do they think you are and what did you say you were going to do in S.A. I think it is better you call them, better they know you are alive and planning to refund their money someday than them thinking you are a wicked being. Better still tell them a white lie that you were set up and then deported.

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Re: I Have Not Travelled Home For 10 Years? Help by Angelacruz: 5:15pm On Dec 23, 2020
Go back home,suicide is not an option.Remeber d prodigal son in d bible
Sebastine1994:
when half of my neighbors have travelled, I am now left alone in the compound. every year it is only me who remains back, I am ashamed. I can't go home. I offended my family so much.

I was deported from South Africa for drug trafficking, my father spent all his life saving to send me abroad, I went there to do drugs,

now I have my freedom, but my heart remains in chain, seeing my family struggling financially because of me and the failed investment on me. I am depressed because of this.

I can't call them, I don't know what to do. I may take my life if the emotional torture becomes much.

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Re: I Have Not Travelled Home For 10 Years? Help by Divoc19(f): 5:39pm On Dec 23, 2020
Call home and let them know how you feel and why you wish but you can't come home for now.

They may have forgiven you and moved on. There's nothing like family.

Also try getting a companion where you are too. Life is too short to stress abeg

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Re: I Have Not Travelled Home For 10 Years? Help by Shellsploit: 7:12pm On Dec 23, 2020
Am traveling tomorrow,
I no mind to lap u for GIG to owerri lipsrsealed

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Re: I Have Not Travelled Home For 10 Years? Help by PrimeWatermark: 7:12pm On Dec 23, 2020
Where are you presently?
And please, don't take your life.

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Re: I Have Not Travelled Home For 10 Years? Help by seanwilliam(m): 7:12pm On Dec 23, 2020
Guy brace yourself , call your mama , open up to her after that tell am say by the grace of God you go make them proud soonest..




After that enter street go husle!! No Dey come here Dey cry... I understand your plight but you have no choice but to get rich or die trying ‘

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Re: I Have Not Travelled Home For 10 Years? Help by NwaNimo1(m): 7:13pm On Dec 23, 2020
Open a pharmacy.....then sell drugs legally......

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Re: I Have Not Travelled Home For 10 Years? Help by nairaman66(m): 7:13pm On Dec 23, 2020
You should call them, they may be waiting to read back from you. Don’t forget the story of the prodigal son in hurry!

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Re: I Have Not Travelled Home For 10 Years? Help by faithfull18(f): 7:13pm On Dec 23, 2020
Re: I Have Not Travelled Home For 10 Years? Help by ecolime(m): 7:14pm On Dec 23, 2020
You are alive so there is still hope for you.

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Re: I Have Not Travelled Home For 10 Years? Help by JovialJune(f): 7:14pm On Dec 23, 2020
LewsTherin:
I go home every year.
In fact, almost every month.
Honestly, basically every day.
After work, I go home. I spend time with my family. I spend time with my wife and kids. And I get ready for the next day where I'll be home again after the day's hustle.

I have ABSOLUTELY no regrets, no worries.


Who asked you undecided

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Re: I Have Not Travelled Home For 10 Years? Help by remi4ever(m): 7:14pm On Dec 23, 2020
Wahala...

Say no to suicide..

Don't waste your parent's money and waste your life too. That's double loss for them. 2-0

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Re: I Have Not Travelled Home For 10 Years? Help by AlabiJustise: 7:14pm On Dec 23, 2020
When there is life there is hope. Never ever give up on yourself even if everyone else has given up on you. Just try to rise from your fall and gradually you will pick up the pieces of your life. Stay strong.

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Re: I Have Not Travelled Home For 10 Years? Help by Nobody: 7:14pm On Dec 23, 2020
There is nothing special in HOME

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Re: I Have Not Travelled Home For 10 Years? Help by mariahAngel(f): 7:14pm On Dec 23, 2020
Truth is your only solution.
Truth will make you free.

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Re: I Have Not Travelled Home For 10 Years? Help by Janiobi(m): 7:14pm On Dec 23, 2020
if you don't learn to forgive your self then you won't go. they are waiting for you. you have been forgiven by your family but you have not forgive your self. this year has thought many lesson. life goes on. go home and stay blessed

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Re: I Have Not Travelled Home For 10 Years? Help by Elvis295(m): 7:14pm On Dec 23, 2020
I feel ur pain bro

As for me the reason i can't go home is that I am so broke plus I look so hungry and emaciated. May the Lord help us next year to succeed.

My advice is that just forgive urself. If u kill urself it is the same family members that will say "why did he not talk to us"

Just find a legitimate hustle and earn a proper living. Wen that's happens try and send ur popsy some cash every month. Also try nd call him on phone and ask him to pray for u

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Re: I Have Not Travelled Home For 10 Years? Help by Carlyboi(m): 7:15pm On Dec 23, 2020
You just have to face this like a man...They say in life Shit happens....and you regaining your freedom is a second shot and 2nd chance God is offering make the most of it...if the only thing you got involved in was just drug trafficking and you have departed from the old ways,repented and charting a new course for your life then go and see your parents....come clean and talk to them heart to heart hold nothing back...say the whole truth and ask for their forgiveness and also you need to forgive yourself too and stop beating yourself Up...YOLO man so make the most of it.

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Re: I Have Not Travelled Home For 10 Years? Help by RealZizou(m): 7:15pm On Dec 23, 2020
Na wa o
Re: I Have Not Travelled Home For 10 Years? Help by Jirehz(m): 7:15pm On Dec 23, 2020
grin
Re: I Have Not Travelled Home For 10 Years? Help by eedimo(m): 7:15pm On Dec 23, 2020
Pls don't hurt yourself.

I understand how you feel, you can work it out by doing something productive to prove to them that you are still useful amidst the disappointing first outing.
God would help you

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Re: I Have Not Travelled Home For 10 Years? Help by Nobody: 7:15pm On Dec 23, 2020
angry

Mr. OP alias Sebastine1994, the emotional torture is great no doubt. But if you take your life, the emotional torture will be harder on your parents.

Head home like the prodigal son, prostrate, and apologize. If they forgive you, fine. Live the rest of your life correcting your mistakes (which you can easily do in a couple of years).You can start by working your ass off and refunding the money that was spent in sending you to South Africa.

If they refuse to forgive you, at least you've lifted a huge burden off your chest. Go and start afresh. You will succeed.

No one is above mistakes.

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Re: I Have Not Travelled Home For 10 Years? Help by Nobody: 7:15pm On Dec 23, 2020
Sebastine1994:
When half of my neighbors have travelled, I am now left alone in the compound...

I can't call them, I don't know what to do. I may take my life if the emotional torture becomes much
.

You can move on

Remaining trapped in your past won't change the future

Everyday you breathe is another opportunity to take a new direction

Take stock of what you have now:

- You have access to accommodation (You're not under the bridge)

- You have access to data and a smart device

- You have access to brilliant young minds through this forum

Man, ending it all would be a major blunder.

Think of the permanent SHAME that would cause your beloved family.

Please move on...

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Re: I Have Not Travelled Home For 10 Years? Help by DMerciful(m): 7:16pm On Dec 23, 2020
You knew your family invested and depended on you to succeed yet you blew it. Yeye son, if you like kill yourself. Nonsense!

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Re: I Have Not Travelled Home For 10 Years? Help by lapazi(m): 7:16pm On Dec 23, 2020
When there is live there is hope

We go again!

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