BabaIbo:

What do you mean by that?

Please, interpret your adage

Interpretation...
It means you are a lovely simp and a creative fv.ck tard

FalseProphet1:
She has two children n the owner of the children did not marry her instead left her to fend for them by herself, that means she is not wife material, leave her alone, have fun with her but don't go beyond fun and start talkin about marriage because u will regret it

chai God

Love is not in the feeling you are having for her. Check that feeling very well, you may find out that it is lust you are lusting after her. To have her and sleep with her. I will advise you to rather concentrate on developing your business, draw closer to God in fervent prayers and holiness. The Lord will direct you.

soundOsonic:

You are the one who sees it differently. The kids in the orphanage are not your responsibilities, but every help rendered is charity, no man is ever impressed to donate to charity. The kids from a single mother becomes your responsibility every naira spent is impressed on you by virtue of being a dad.

The father of the kids will be enjoying his life, why you will be sweating and laboring for another man's child. Later on like every man the real father will come and claim his child when things become better in his life and you will be left with nothing.
The reason you are not to invest is because you spend all your emotions and money on kids that will be one day taking from you, this feeling is worse than a ladies heart break.
Stop quoting me, it looks like
you fail to understand things.

A father is not who gave birth to a child but who was responsible for that child. Likewise a mother.
If you love a child genuinely, it is you he will recognized as his father.
Coming to claim a child you are not responsible for will only give you depression coz the child doesn't have any bond with you...
It doesn't happened again, women are now wiser, ones you are a deadbeat father, you remain one forever..

generationz:


How did she have two kids without being married?

This your question weak me, i swear! Note* The two kids are both twins.

visijo:
If she spends her money on you, there's a 99.36% chance she loves you. Female humans would rather eat a glass sandwich than spend their own money.�

sense dey here.

U are finished finally

Udokamadi:

What do you mean she's not wife material. Mtcheeew.
My bro, the advice I'll give to you is one man's meat is another's poison. She might have not been meant for him, but she may be for you.
The best thing to ask yourself is. How does she make you feel? Are you relaxed around her? Do you mind the fact that she already has kids? If all these questions give a firm answer, deduce a meaning, and decide to stay with her, or not. It's all your choice, because you may choose to marry a single girl and never feel the kind of peace you felt with her.

She's not wife material period.

When you have good character men will give anything to be with you. When men start avoid committing to you then u should know that you have a problem.

If you eventually get married to her, ensure you are 100% in good books of her children.
Because any argument one day, irrespective of how much you've spent on them(her kid ) they will disown you in one sentence.

They may even nurse feeling of resentment because their real dad is rich while you're pretty trying to cater for them.

visijo:
If she spends her money on you, there's a 99.36% chance she loves you. Female humans would rather eat a glass sandwich than spend their own money.�

Jesus!!!! I don't know y most especially fine ones are like dat. Sometimes I act good to ladies n bad to ladies dat are bad irrespective of dere look

This op dey contradict himself... I think he needs slap to reset his head!


Shoooo, no be you wey start business last year and wan balance am up and running? Bro I dey ya shoe before... When I calculated the card and unnecessary stuff i do for her in the name of luff..m oh boi, na two brand infinix new phones. Kwontinu.. Your eyes go clear soon

SavageResponse:


You need to first find out why a guy got her pregnant twice and still refused to marry her

words laced with wisdom

soundOsonic:


Seriously you are funny. Do you need to know the children in an orphanage for you to be charitable?
Children in the orphanage have illegitimate parents with no family to help. The child in your house have two adult parents. Let their parent help them they are not orphans. Please don't quote me again you are draining me with unnecessary explanation thanks.

Yes, the ones with the mother only escape orphanages because the woman choose not to abandoned her.
Did you know maybe the one you are giving your money to in the orphanage is the one drop by your wife in the bush..

Baba just try to think it all over again I mean aw all get started and rethink very well

Atticusxsz:


Oga mi... Na a stitch in time saves time or rather a stitch in time save nine?

Thanks bro

Noted !!

BabaIbo:

What do you mean by that?

Please, interpret your adage

He means that wat you have is list, after some times you will realise those flaws of her e.g her Children.

BabaIbo:

Not twice but a shot that resulted in 2 goals(twins)

Guy you funny abeg. This one funny die. Let me laugh small.

Don't try it bro. I'm speaking from experience. A single mother of 2 who happened to be my first love when we were younger. She cheated on me by hooking up with another dude when I was preparing for admission into tertiary institution then. Fast forward to last 2years, the dude didn't marry her but left her with 2 kids who are in secondary schools but she was desperate to fulfil lifelong aspiration; marriage. She is financially independent, doing well as a business lady and taking care of her kids well. Me nko, after service, no tangible job barely surviving. Man too insecure economically to talk about serious relationship. The two condition makes for perfect match n she grab it both hands. She lived in distance city from mine but always flew in to give me free unlimited pekus with good foods. Taking me out n spending from her pockets without care. I began to wonder wether tbis isn't naija lady. I was enjoying it and out of excitement started proposing. U know what it feel like for a jobless broke guy getting hooked to financially independent lady who isn't complaining. Pregnancy showed with much doubt wether it was mine though but she swore, ready for DNA test after childbirth though. Unfortunately she lost the baby because she started disobeying my advice to be careful about hectic business trip. She was disrespecting me eh. Summary of it all is that till today she is still desperate to get hooked to me despite the fact that she knows I'm preparing for my wedding to my new lady now. Most of them are trouble. Watch well before you take the next step with her.

BabaIbo:

Not twice but a shot that resulted in 2 goals(twins)

If y really love her, go for her my brother. You said she is financially independent, meaning she can comfortably take care of her twins even without you marrying her. However you should be prepared to love the kids as though they are urs. Wish you d best

You came out to ask because you know it is not the best thing to do

BabaIbo:
I am a young man in my thirties and she should be in the same range(I didn't ask her about her age because I don't really lay emphasis on age). We are from neighbouring towns.

As my heading reads, recently I met a lady online and we have been communicating well and I noticed she ticked most of the boxes of what I want in a woman.

Prior to now, I told myself I will stay away from anything woman because I just started a business last year and I want it to grow and balance before thinking of any thing women or marriage.

Recently, I noticed I am developing strong feelings for her, strong enough to lead to the alter.

Now the problem is, she is a single mother of two, we don't stay in the same city and the father of those kids seems to live in a neighbouring city to where she lives(although to a good extent the father of those kids is not a problem).

My question is what will you advice me to do in this situation?
*Go on and start a relationship with her.
*Keep her as a friend, although she may get hooked by another man along the line.

Anybody here who have been in similar situation, should help share their experiences too.

Note: She has never been married.
She is working and comfortable, money a problem is not a problem, i.e no unnecessary billing associated with some relationships.

From your description of her, one can say she is a wonderful woman but when a perfect gift is rejected by someone, the first thing to do before you consider accepting it is to find out why was such a good gift rejected by someone
Secondly I want you to know that every relationship is always like something made in heaven when it's just starting, especially when both of you are not in the same place to allow for *see finish*
Thirdly and base on experience, you may like the mother but dislike the children, that will eventually cause problem between you and their mother
Finally are you prepared to play the role of a father now?

FalseProphet1:

She's not wife material period.

When you have good character men will give anything to be with you. When men start avoid committing to you then u should know that you have a problem.

Do you know what's disgusting about this comment, it makes it sound as though women are the only ones who should cultivate good characters for marriage. If a man also has good character, women will give anything to be with them. If a person has good character, another person will give anything to be with them.
I trust you're one of those men, who'll see nothing wrong if the gender's in this post were reversed. Clearly the man is not avoiding commitment to her, he desires it, that's why he's asking for another's opinion. Don't try to force your s**t beliefs that a single mother is not a good woman down the poor man's throat, eat the s**t yourself.
P.S, your name suits your thinking and personality like a second skin.

BabaIbo:
I am a young man in my thirties and she should be in the same range(I didn't ask her about her age because I don't really lay emphasis on age). We are from neighbouring towns.

As my heading reads, recently I met a lady online and we have been communicating well and I noticed she ticked most of the boxes of what I want in a woman.

Prior to now, I told myself I will stay away from anything woman because I just started a business last year and I want it to grow and balance before thinking of any thing women or marriage.

Recently, I noticed I am developing strong feelings for her, strong enough to lead to the alter.

Now the problem is, she is a single mother of two, we don't stay in the same city and the father of those kids seems to live in a neighbouring city to where she lives(although to a good extent the father of those kids is not a problem).

My question is what will you advice me to do in this situation?
*Go on and start a relationship with her.
*Keep her as a friend, although she may get hooked by another man along the line.

Anybody here who have been in similar situation, should help share their experiences too.

Note: She has never been married.
She is working and comfortable, money a problem is not a problem, i.e no unnecessary billing associated with some relationships.

Well, just play along, you'll get to fade after sometime. Don't focus your mind there like you said, concentrate on your business.
I have been in your shoes, probably still in. They are not difficult to leave, just have a side check younger and sometimes front jokes about your girl....

Wish you well....

I personally don't like being entangled with single mothers but you my friend have to understand that life works out differently for everyone.

What guarantee do you have that you would've been successful in marriage even if she were single with no children

Single mothers are human beings...this life has been a twist for some. Thank God who doesn't consult our uncles or the world before blessing us...

It doesn't matter what advice you get here, whether you'll be successful or not, the answer to your question is right with you starring into your eyes...afterall at the end life is what we really make of it!

LordErrk:



This is a very foolish way of thinking

BabaIbo:
I am a young man in my thirties and she should be in the same range(I didn't ask her about her age because I don't really lay emphasis on age). We are from neighbouring towns.

As my heading reads, recently I met a lady online and we have been communicating well and I noticed she ticked most of the boxes of what I want in a woman.

Prior to now, I told myself I will stay away from anything woman because I just started a business last year and I want it to grow and balance before thinking of any thing women or marriage.

Recently, I noticed I am developing strong feelings for her, strong enough to lead to the alter.

Now the problem is, she is a single mother of two, we don't stay in the same city and the father of those kids seems to live in a neighbouring city to where she lives(although to a good extent the father of those kids is not a problem).

My question is what will you advice me to do in this situation?
*Go on and start a relationship with her.
*Keep her as a friend, although she may get hooked by another man along the line.

Anybody here who have been in similar situation, should help share their experiences too.

Note: She has never been married.
She is working and comfortable, money a problem is not a problem, i.e no unnecessary billing associated with some relationships.

.Trouble dey sleep Jew wan wake am, if you know say you fit handle the drama from the girl her two children plus the two baby daddies and then balance am with your unbalanced business make you carry on. This is my wisdom.

SmellySperm:
i no just wan talk wetin dey my mind now


Bros quit....I repeat quit!

instead of u to focus on ur business you're here talking love that doesn't even exist,love fire

Hahha

EzegeNdiigbo:
Hmmm you're under a spell, go for a deliverance

how can a full grown man be thinking of settling down with a second-class-woman with a kids
Think twice.

Simp

realoscar84:
Don't try it bro. I'm speaking from experience. Exactly a single mother of 2 who happened to be my first love when we were younger. She cheated me by hooking up with another when I was preparing for admission into tertiary institution then. Fast forward to last 2years, the dude didn't marry her but left her with 2 kids who are in secondary schools but she was desperate to fulfil lifelong aspiration; marriage. She is financially independent, doing well as a business lady and taking care of her kids well. Me nko, after service, no tangible job barely surviving. Man too insecure economically to talk about serious relationship. The two condition makes for perfect match n she grab it both hands. She lived in distance city from mine but always flew in to give me free unlimited pekus with good foods. Taking me out n spending from her pockets without care. I began to wonder wether tbis isn't naija lady. I was enjoying it and out of excitement started proposing. U know what it feel like for a jobless broke guy getting hooked to financially independent lady who isn't complaining. Pregnancy showed with much doubt wether it was mine though but she swore, ready for DNA test after childbirth though. Unfortunately she lost the baby because she started disobeying my advice to be careful about hectic business trip. She was disrespecting me eh. Summary of it all is that till today she is still desperate to get hooked to me despite the fact that she knows I'm preparing for my wedding to my new lady now. Most of them are trouble. Watch well before you take the next step with her.

wow!
you strong o

Udokamadi:

Do you know what's disgusting about this comment, it makes it sound as though women are the only ones who should cultivate good characters for marriage. If a man also has good character, women will give anything to be with them. If a person has good character, another person will give anything to be with them.
I trust you're one of those men, who'll see nothing wrong if the gender's in this post were reversed. Clearly the man is not avoiding commitment to her, he desires it, that's why he's asking for another's opinion. Don't try to force your s**t beliefs that a single mother is not a good woman down the poor man's throat, eat the s**t yourself.
P.S, your name suits your thinking and personality like a second skin.

What's your problem, are you a single mother? If she's good why didn't the father of the kids marry her. Do you know the stress of marrying a single mom,. If the man comes back to claim his kids do you know the emotional pain he will go through.
Don't ever open your legs to fools and expect another person to bear your cross with you. That's not the way life was configured to be.

Bros you should be ready to cater for the two kids like your own. May God help you

Since the lady ticked all your boxes,it is a divine opportunity,go for her,take care of those children as your own,they will call you father.
Marry her, start a family with her.i see a divine connection from her children, that will manifest in the future.
I have seen a man that got married to a single mun with three kids,do you know that it was those children that built a house and help him in his old age.
Go after your heart,that's where your gold I'd hidden.