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Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by sendmeonly(m): 4:13pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
GIANTPLUSHUB: Good man!!! Even though others made me laugh but I learnt one or two from your post |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by ericmor: 4:14pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
The problem is the mother keep reacting and the girl calling the guy to complain about it and arguing over it. She should have just apply wisdom |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by josite: 4:17pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
you know ur mother very well .u ought to have told him she likes gift.and honestly your gift makes room for you and therefore you should know taking a gift along to a new place helps reception.the mother is not too wrong and the fault is yours and the guy too should learn a new thing.they may not not be poor or greedy. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by noble2faith(m): 4:59pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
Manty: That's where most of you supporting the op get it wrong. It wasn't his first time. The Op truthfully pointed out that the first time he came, he came with gifts. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Exodora: 5:19pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
Stupid people even white people don't pay visit without a gift even if is sweet is still a gift . How much is a wine even if he can't think of anything to go with . I can't imagine visiting someone for the first time without even a gift . Don't know why all these idiots here are making life look more harder . |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 5:22pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
Useless ebinna family. Ogun kill all of una. Does the guy owe you anything? Offered him drink you come loud am. Bros if you're reading this and you marry her,Ogun go kill you ooooo. Japa!!!! 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 5:23pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
Exodora:Can I tell you something no one has told you before? You are very stupid 5 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by noble2faith(m): 5:39pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
Hmmm.... I started reading this thread yesterday evening. I took a break cos of my sight. I had to continue today till I got to the last page. It is indeed a very interesting thread! @Op. If I am to give blames to the characters (you, your mum and your fiance) involved in your write-up, I am going to grade you 50%, your mum 30%, and your fiance 20%. Here are my reasons 1. You shouldn't have disclosed it to your fiance in an angry manner. By so doing, you have given the guy wrong impression about you and your mum. The guy would begin to think you can be easily controlled by your mum in marital life. Even though, as you claimed, your fiance has called to apologize, he will never hold your mum with esteem again. In fact, he will begin to see your mum as threat to his marital life. You have portrayed urself to be one whose mind processes can be easily manipulated. You said you saw nothing wrong in the first place but the reaction of your mum made you bash your fiance. That's totally uncalled for! You ought to have applied wisdom here! I love what some nairalanders told you to have done like telling your mum he is not a person like that, he just came to say hi and you wisely and appropriately telling your fiance that he should not go to an in-law without gift no matter how little it is. 2. Since you said he came with gifts during his first coming, your mum ought to have understood that i. the guy might not be financially bouyant at that time. Buying petty gifts like oranges or bread like some people have suggested might be considered as unbefitting for your mum by the guy, that was why he never bothered to come with anything. OR ii. coming along with gifts might not come into the mind of the guy at the time of coming. His mind might have been preoccupied by lot of things. We all know this terrible Buhari era. In fact as I am chatting with you guys, evil thoughts of becoming a Yahoo have been disturbing my mind, I have been trying to overcome these evil thoughts and I believe God will grant me victory! iii. His coming alone ought to have been appreciated by your mum. That guy is one in a hundred. 3. The reason why I am giving the guy lesser blame is that he might not be a cultured person, probably he was born and brought up in the city, not knowing how giving gift to one's in-laws should not be held light-handedly as said by Marianges. She said it is ibo thing! Solution. Even though he has apologized to you, you also need to reciprocate cos you are the main genesis of this. Talk to him in such a way that he would understand that it is a cultural thing. Acknowledge your flaws before him about not telling him fully about your cultural background. By so doing, that bad impression he has had towards your mum will be taken off from his mind. Believe you me, your relationship will bounce back to normalcy. Lest I forget, you should also talk to your mum about somethings she needs to overlook. Ur happiness is the most paramount not material gifts. Shalom. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by SweetCunt97(f): 6:01pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
Minemrys:True talk |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by walkingshadow911: 6:19pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
osazsky: you can neva be wrong bro. I've been with one before,men are biological ATM to them. its either money and gift or no visit at all. i cant even speak to her mother on phone without sending money first. Damn crazy dat was wen i was simping though Thanks say God no Ungodly |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by BOSMANARIS(m): 6:37pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
Exodora: You're the idiot here for not reading to understand the OP said that's not the first visit. First visit, he brought gifts 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by oshorstan(f): 7:10pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
BOSMANARIS: na every day u day go. Church? u can visit her once once na ! if you actually respect her as your mom, u won't find it difficult to buy her something even if na Irebhor bread of #250 |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by nogragra: 7:13pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
Trayceey:Why are you asking, of course you are wrong. If you are planning to leave the rest of your life with someone and you cut out communication you are creating problems as you will only make matters worst. Better go and apologize to him and front for him apologetically to your mum and find out why he didn't bring anything. I think he will learn his lessons. Such a small issue badly managed. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by FlameZ80s(m): 7:54pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
No you are right and he is right too that's why he quietly moved on. Trayceey: 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by BOSMANARIS(m): 7:59pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
oshorstan: And it is a must to always do at every single time you visit her. Do you know of the guys financial strength? Do you want him to go steal cos he want to get her something when he visits? |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by 1Dray(m): 8:07pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
Mariangeles: Stop tagging Igbo to this madness. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Xmen149(m): 8:10pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
osazsky: hahahahaha |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Mariangeles(f): 8:14pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
1Dray: Enough with the foolish mentions. It's past already, get over it! If you have a contrary opinion, the least that is expected of you is to be civilized with your opinion. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by chival(f): 8:14pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
Trayceey:Yes, you are wrong. Gifts are optional. Your mum is wrong as well and unreasonable to be angry. I sense you have a good, family oriented man given the fact that he was willing to visit your mum even though you weren't there. Do not lose your man over this. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by chival(f): 8:43pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
TransAtlanticEx:I was just going to type this. Thanks for sparing me the effort. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Afromentalist: 9:51pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
Torontoraptors:Hello woman wrapper / Simp you are very correct, that Trayceey lady should stay far away from that young man. A 33 years old evening newspaper with one child and no father, investing in various ponzi schemes one after the other, trying to defraud the peaceful young man. one wonder who is doing the other a service by running away. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Afromentalist: 9:55pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
oshorstan:Had he brought the 250 bread, she would have been complaining that he only bought bread to the mom. The lady has already acknowledged that the guy is not visiting for the first time, and has been bringing gifts the other times. Moreover, the visit was not planned, he actually went to visit the girl, but on realising she is not there, he just decided to branch and say hi. Are people so greedy that the only pertinent thing to look for in a visit is a gift? |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Coolgent(m): 10:26pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
osazsky: Thanks for drawing my attention to reread it. The Guy should run for his life! |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Chimaokigwe: 10:47pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
Afromentalist: Wait, hol up, hol up and hol up. Trayceey has a bastard child? She is a 33 years after 1 evening newspaper? No wonder. Right from the MBA Forex thread, I knew the idiot was a blockhead. I never thought she had grown so old and so deep in foolishness. 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by mich2012: 11:36pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
Trayceey: Jajajaja |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by mich2012: 11:38pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
TransAtlanticEx: Lolz |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by mich2012: 11:40pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
Mariangeles: Very true but blowing it out of proportion is something to be wary of. It shouldn't be what ends a relationship on both sides |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by mich2012: 11:48pm On Jan 09, 2021 |
mogbolade43693: Lol |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Iyajelili(f): 12:29am On Jan 10, 2021 |
Stop dating broke girls you guys will not listen. 5 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by stupidmod2: 12:37am On Jan 10, 2021 |
Iyajelili: |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by mich2012: 12:38am On Jan 10, 2021 |
Iyajelili: |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Minemrys: 2:03am On Jan 10, 2021 |
Hathor5:yea, ofcourse i get your point. But what am saying is, i have met p0or people who d0n't have eyes fixed on what others have, and i have also seen wealthy people who demand much kn0wing others d0n't have. I doubt the OP is poor, the Mum just has a thing with ego or narcissitic nature. |
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