₦airaland Forum

studentofTruth:
While Nairaland folks can bash for Africa, they raised some salient points you need to work on.

I can understand the effects of being in different cities, but keeping your guy waiting for 3 days when he visited was a big thumbs down! I'm sure you knew he was coming, yet you didn't make out the time to see the love of your life — even if you were on call, you could have swapped with a colleague!

You can make your relationship work if you want!
Wish you guys the best!

sirjamesjnr:
Yes, She won't have time for me. She doesn't have time for herself either . But trust me she always takes out her precious nap and food time, just to talk to me .

I visit her workplace she wouldn't have time to say hi also I have to sleep three nights in different hotels to be able to see her. I got angry one day and ask her, how will she take care of my kids when we marry.

When she is with me, I never want that moment to end. Our romantic life has had to suffer a lot of time because of duty calls. I have to get myself busier so I don't get emotional. she is honest and blunt, doesn’t beat around the bush. Sometimes I have to win her with a strong argument and points.

She is independent and can make life-death decisions, so I don’t feel bad if she doesn’t consult me and make some decisions highhandedly. I trust her, she good decision-maker the majority of times. For us, It’s accountability and responsibility that counts. I won't settle for less and she won't either. No room for excuses or self-pity.

She has to be nice to her patients and fellow male colleagues. I don’t mistake this for flirting. Her male colleagues are there with her than I am, so I am more comfortable and carefree because I trusted her. we do know our boundaries. Most of the time she will be discussing how much she misses me with them. I have the self-confidence that helps me though sometimes I get a bit jealous.

She is Superwoman without the cap all the time. So I have to decide whether to expect even more from her or be Super Man myself and share her burden a bit more.. understand her a bit more..love her a bit more.

As a doctor, she is extremely sensitive but also blunt. She knows when I need a hug and when an earful. Most of the time, she sees me as a case, desperately trying to diagnose my actions, detect my mood, I have to explain every action, etc.

She is great, very polite, courteous, intelligent, and fun and I love her effortlessly. The hard part is living with the job, the workload, the schedule, she never off duty, even when she is off duty, no time for long conversations. I already know I am committed to her and I must be committed to her job too. I need to be supportive of her, emotionally mature and have a life of my own. It has been a long ride but our relationship is thrilling. Will I choose another if given an opportunity? Only if I stop been me.

Learn from me, if you can't compromise in some area never date a high valued woman. With slay mamas wannabe, You have no issue, all you need is your time and money and you are the boss.

sirjamesjnr:
Yes, She won't have time for me. She doesn't have time for herself either . But trust me she always takes out her precious nap and food time, just to talk to me .

I visit her workplace she wouldn't have time to say hi also I have to sleep three nights in different hotels to be able to see her. I got angry one day and ask her, how will she take care of my kids when we marry.

When she is with me, I never want that moment to end. Our romantic life has had to suffer a lot of time because of duty calls. I have to get myself busier so I don't get emotional. she is honest and blunt, doesn’t beat around the bush. Sometimes I have to win her with a strong argument and points.

She is independent and can make life-death decisions, so I don’t feel bad if she doesn’t consult me and make some decisions highhandedly. I trust her, she good decision-maker the majority of times. For us, It’s accountability and responsibility that counts. I won't settle for less and she won't either. No room for excuses or self-pity.

She has to be nice to her patients and fellow male colleagues. I don’t mistake this for flirting. Her male colleagues are there with her than I am, so I am more comfortable and carefree because I trusted her. we do know our boundaries. Most of the time she will be discussing how much she misses me with them. I have the self-confidence that helps me though sometimes I get a bit jealous.

She is Superwoman without the cap all the time. So I have to decide whether to expect even more from her or be Super Man myself and share her burden a bit more.. understand her a bit more..love her a bit more.

As a doctor, she is extremely sensitive but also blunt. She knows when I need a hug and when an earful. Most of the time, she sees me as a case, desperately trying to diagnose my actions, detect my mood, I have to explain every action, etc.

She is great, very polite, courteous, intelligent, and fun and I love her effortlessly. The hard part is living with the job, the workload, the schedule, she never off duty, even when she is off duty, no time for long conversations. I already know I am committed to her and I must be committed to her job too. I need to be supportive of her, emotionally mature and have a life of my own. It has been a long ride but our relationship is thrilling. Will I choose another if given an opportunity? Only if I stop been me.

Learn from me, if you can't compromise in some area never date a high valued woman. With slay mamas wannabe, You have no issue, all you need is your time and money and you are the boss.

Hassanmaye:
Do you mean those abroad fake life alot to us, I thought they make huge millions every month

tunjilana:
Men are in phases, life is in seasons.

E still dey shack u...

When u get made and u are truly big, u will value her having time to do the things u need a woman for, than over rating a woman who is totally married to her career...Emphasis on totally...

At that point, her money go be small schange to you and the hype of whatever career she has will mean nothing to u.

A woman in love makes time for the one she loves...dont get carried away by title or career and forget the basics...my advise for u is to date a couple more "high-value" women as u call them and dont let love blind u from seeing that a woman who has never visited u at your town, makes u spend 3 days without seeing her (even when u visit) e t.c. is not ideal for u...

I have supervised "high value" women who call in sick when their love is in town...

Red7:
Get lost

iLegendd:
This is the 3rd comment I'm reading on this entire thread — I just skimmed through and landed on yours. Damn, your brain is hot — we think alike.

Keep it up. #OneLove.

Red7:
Good. Here's your assignment. Copy the question I asked and the answers you provided and send it to her privately. You will see the magic it'll work out on your behalf




If only the mods could push this thread to front page so guys seeking to date high value ladies could learn a thing or two tips and add more ideas on how to compromise when dating a high value babe


Mods can you help?


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bigpicture001:
Same state. but different towns: like 40min drive difference

jawalis:
All I see in picture is a man with a very low self esteem who bows at the hearing of a female doctor. Trust me, yes You have a low self esteem. I can bet you are one of the people who worship doctors, lawyers and engineers. I’ll advise you work on your self esteem, Work on it and you will realize you are been enslaved. Forget all these high value silliness. It’s just what you think in your mind. I have worked with a female doctor here in Lagos who is social too. All of these blah blah blah about sleeping in 3 different hotels before you could meet her is trash. It’s not as if she work with National hospital or is she the only doctor in the hospital where she works? I read you stated that she had colleagues. So she don’t just value you as you portrayed, you are only trying to comfort yourself by those jargons you wrote up there. Not having time for you and you moving from one place to another just to see the woman whom you claimed took you for her colleague is not an evidence of high value woman. She’ll definitely make time for you if she respects and value you like you did for her. The doctor friend I have got married in 2018. She works with 2 different hospitals and still balance up her social life. All I see in your case is a man who has a low self esteem and got flattened by a doctor. Been a doctor doesn’t make a woman high value, ok? Adesua Etomi is more career oriented and trust me, she made up her time for Banky. We all know Funke Akindele’s family. So wake up and address her or you walk away. We have lots of female doctors on Nigeria, infact; There are hundreds of them out there. There are female barristers, female accountants and engineers who earn decently. So stop the foolishness in your heart and confront her.

truthsayer009:
Someone who makes good money or high status in the society is high value. EG: Athletes, Oil Workers, Big business men, Some Doctors & Engineers etc.

DrFunmisticGlow:
Wow!! Nairalanders can never be happy for other people, can they?!

Hassanmaye:
Haha wickedness you mean he will be swipping the floor and cook Abi

sirjamesjnr:
Oga, my babe is in lagos while I am in the North, HOW YOU WANT US TO DEY SEE EACH OTHER OFTEN?

humilitypays:
if you quote me again eh, I go comot one teeth from your teeth right now, try me

SimplyFacts:

Doesn't humility pay again?

lefulefu:
nothing wrong for u to be a high value man urself
if u always in her shadow she wont respect u
true story
be the better version of urself so women wont look u as a houseboy

DrFunmisticGlow:
happy new year, longest time!!

humilitypays:
if you quote me again eh, I go comot one teeth from your teeth right now, try me

studentofTruth:
Don't say what you don't know. That profession can be extremely demanding, except for consultants. Even at that, the hustle begins at consultant level, unless you want to die poor — you want to consult at my hospitals as you can. For those in private practice, unless you have other doctors working for you, you freedom is the hands of the patients. You may go to bed at 12 am, and the nurses will call you by 1am for emergency CS. You can't tell them to take the patient back, no matter how tired you are. And, in the morning, you start your day as usual.

Take it from me, it can be very very stressful!

SirDelight:
@sirjamesjnr & DrFunmisticGlow,,,


I would advise you don't take some comments here to heart. Pick the good & discard the rest. We look forward to seeing a better & stronger r/ship between you two.

Good luck

cerebralniggie1:
You got these words right outta my mouth. Does being a doctor automatically make one "high value"? The level of asslicking I see in his write up is nauseating, to say the least.
Mind you, I'm married to a doctor. All through our dating months, she was very available. Whoever values you will make himself/herself available

Chii59:
Two bitter souls. Both you and the one you quoted.

OJURONGBE1:
ROTFL... I can't swallow the urge to laugh