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Romanoff:
This marriage matter.

A lot of people build their marriage on the wrong foundation.

Money, sex, looks, loneliness, desperation and some other mundane reasons.

The best foundation to build a marriage is on friendship and that's why you'll hear marriage counsellors say "marry your friend".

Take away sex from most relationships there will be nothing left, you'll discover the sex isn't even enough to keep it going. Sex that should be the icing on the cake has become the entire cake.

Money that should add spice to the marriage has become the entire food. He must have money, he must have a good car, she must be working and earning her own money etc. Once the money is not there anymore, water done pass garri.

Don't get me started on the Looks part, you'll marry because she has big bumbum and boobs, or because he is tall dark or fair and handsome with a six inch rod. A time will come that all these things won't do it for you anymore.

Marry your friend. That person that comes to your mind when you want to have deep discussions about your dreams, your bad day, your plans, your failures. That person that you will forget about time and keep talking with cause conversation and laughter and joys and tears just comes real.

That is what brings intimacy. The attraction, sex, money, looks all those ones na jara.

My opinion o. So before you mention me and insult me, take note of the fact that it's my opinion, make Thunder no fire you this morning.

Fantastic

lexy2014:
D fact that ur friend got divorced doesn't automatically mean that marriage has "continually become less important by the day". Your friends marriage didn't work, others are working. It's like saying because some people failed waec, education has become less important

hasnt education become less important?

Yampotatocarrot:
Very valid points you raised there. I think the issue is, for some men (I inclusive), we don't actually discuss how our day went or any of those other stuffs... And in cases where we even want to do so, 100 times out of 100, we'll rather do so with male friends than females.

I think it's high time men desist from marriage and leave it for only those who are comfortable enough to discuss their problems, how their day went, their goals, e.t.c. with the opposite sex...

That way, we'll have less of these divorces.

Thing is a marriage cannot work if you refuse to let yourself be vulnerable. You can only be vulnerable to your friend.

Your spouse should be someone you can discuss anything with. The reason many men resort to beer parlours is cause them no fit gist with their wife.

Uyi168:
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For every one marriage u see on socail media, breaking, or going through rough times, there are at least, 10 at home doing well..

marriage don cast, as am typing am inside Femi shrine I can see girls of marriage age smoking weed without conscience

Nenyezz:
I don't know about you, but I love my husband/best friend, and he does too. My marriage will last and we will grow old together.

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Romanoff:
This marriage matter.

A lot of people build their marriage on the wrong foundation.

Money, sex, looks, loneliness, desperation and some other mundane reasons.

The best foundation to build a marriage is on friendship and that's why you'll hear marriage counsellors say "marry your friend".

Take away sex from most relationships there will be nothing left, you'll discover the sex isn't even enough to keep it going. Sex that should be the icing on the cake has become the entire cake.

Money that should add spice to the marriage has become the entire food. He must have money, he must have a good car, she must be working and earning her own money etc. Once the money is not there anymore, water done pass garri.

Don't get me started on the Looks part, you'll marry because she has big bumbum and boobs, or because he is tall dark or fair and handsome with a six inch rod. A time will come that all these things won't do it for you anymore.

Marry your friend. That person that comes to your mind when you want to have deep discussions about your dreams, your bad day, your plans, your failures. That person that you will forget about time and keep talking with cause conversation and laughter and joys and tears just comes real.

That is what brings intimacy. The attraction, sex, money, looks all those ones na jara.

My opinion o. So before you mention me and insult me, take note of the fact that it's my opinion, make Thunder no fire you this morning.

What if that person is two years older than you and has certain attitudes like being controlling, emotionally manipulative and somewhat entitled to your money?

alphaconde:
mine is going well

though am messing up big time

however I have made up my mind that whatever my wife does I would forgive her because behind the scenes I have done worse

besides my cute sons don't deserve a broken home.

marriage no be beans

who no get brain make e no try am

So if your wife dey Bleep for outside you go forgive her abi?

RealSolution001:
Seems marriage has continually become less important by the day. A friend we were together in school back then met me in a joint yesterday unwinding and immediately uttered, "o boy, I don divorce o". I was shocked cos I wasn't aware of his marriage. When in school, there was this course mate he was seeing, never knew they took it to marriage level. However, regardless of when they might have gotten married, I don't think the marriage was up to 2 years. I tried to ask him what happened but he said later as the place was too rowdy.

What has become marriages these days?

Marriage is about foundation and what u make of it. Marriage is great, it can take u forward and if not careful backwards bt people just go into it with the wrong resume or ideology.

chival:
Incidentally, you see that thing we call romantic love? That "butterflies in the stomach, crazy about you" love? That is the one that unfortunately leads to divorce. It usually comes with crazy and extreme emotions that usually cause problems. Another kind of love - the kind our elderly ones have, is not as sensational as passionte love, but is calmer and more accepting. That's why we see them staying married for 30, 40, 50 years and even longer.

more like; the brighter the love, the quicker it fades

michaelpop50:
So if your wife dey Bleep for outside you go forgive her abi?

hopefully she wont but if the matter reach like that I go forgive her

Romanoff:
This marriage matter.

A lot of people build their marriage on the wrong foundation.

Money, sex, looks, loneliness, desperation and some other mundane reasons.

The best foundation to build a marriage is on friendship and that's why you'll hear marriage counsellors say "marry your friend".

Take away sex from most relationships there will be nothing left, you'll discover the sex isn't even enough to keep it going. Sex that should be the icing on the cake has become the entire cake.

Money that should add spice to the marriage has become the entire food. He must have money, he must have a good car, she must be working and earning her own money etc. Once the money is not there anymore, water done pass garri.

Don't get me started on the Looks part, you'll marry because she has big bumbum and boobs, or because he is tall dark or fair and handsome with a six inch rod. A time will come that all these things won't do it for you anymore.

Marry your friend. That person that comes to your mind when you want to have deep discussions about your dreams, your bad day, your plans, your failures. That person that you will forget about time and keep talking with cause conversation and laughter and joys and tears just comes real.

That is what brings intimacy. The attraction, sex, money, looks all those ones na jara.

My opinion o. So before you mention me and insult me, take note of the fact that it's my opinion, make Thunder no fire you this morning.

Marry your friend is a very useless thing to do.

mithras:
What if that person is two years older than you and has certain attitudes like being controlling, emotionally manipulative and somewhat entitled to your money?

nice view.. in nigeria, we see it customarily normal for the husband to be like 4,5 years older than the wife..
what if the husband is the 'mancho' type, the dominating type

mithras:
What if that person is two years older than you and has certain attitudes like being controlling, emotionally manipulative and somewhat entitled to your money?

You are already in a toxic relationship I guess?

If you were friends first before starting a relationship, I want to believe you'd have noticed these toxic traits.

Romanoff:
This marriage matter.

A lot of people build their marriage on the wrong foundation.

Money, sex, looks, loneliness, desperation and some other mundane reasons.

The best foundation to build a marriage is on friendship and that's why you'll hear marriage counsellors say "marry your friend".

Take away sex from most relationships there will be nothing left, you'll discover the sex isn't even enough to keep it going. Sex that should be the icing on the cake has become the entire cake.

Money that should add spice to the marriage has become the entire food. He must have money, he must have a good car, she must be working and earning her own money etc. Once the money is not there anymore, water done pass garri.

Don't get me started on the Looks part, you'll marry because she has big bumbum and boobs, or because he is tall dark or fair and handsome with a six inch rod. A time will come that all these things won't do it for you anymore.

Marry your friend. That person that comes to your mind when you want to have deep discussions about your dreams, your bad day, your plans, your failures. That person that you will forget about time and keep talking with cause conversation and laughter and joys and tears just comes real.

That is what brings intimacy. The attraction, sex, money, looks all those ones na jara.

My opinion o. So before you mention me and insult me, take note of the fact that it's my opinion, make Thunder no fire you this morning.

Good one, but I never get any girl as a friend ooo, all want money and very immature even with their old age

China112:
Atleast it's good there is no children between them yet

How did you know?

Marry your friend. That person that comes to your mind when you want to have deep discussions about your dreams, your bad day, your plans, your failures. That person that you will forget about time and keep talking with cause conversation and laughter and joys and tears just comes real.

That is what brings intimacy. The attraction, sex, money, looks all those ones na jara.[/quote]what a case where the person feel who this above quote has even refused to date you on the ground she's already in a relationship, and all the other girls you've been meeting don't just match up with you, does that mean one shouldn't marry?

Omezif:
those who divorce after marriage don't have sense at all, Majorities of them are pagans or eitheists. It's hard to see a trully christian divorce their marriage.

Rubbish! I know 2 christian couples on the divorce path right now. One of the couples met themselves right in the church, their own didn't even last 2 years so don't give us that BS.

Romanoff:
This marriage matter.

A lot of people build their marriage on the wrong foundation.

Money, sex, looks, loneliness, desperation and some other mundane reasons.

The best foundation to build a marriage is on friendship and that's why you'll hear marriage counsellors say "marry your friend".

Take away sex from most relationships there will be nothing left, you'll discover the sex isn't even enough to keep it going. Sex that should be the icing on the cake has become the entire cake.

Money that should add spice to the marriage has become the entire food. He must have money, he must have a good car, she must be working and earning her own money etc. Once the money is not there anymore, water done pass garri.

Don't get me started on the Looks part, you'll marry because she has big bumbum and boobs, or because he is tall dark or fair and handsome with a six inch rod. A time will come that all these things won't do it for you anymore.

Marry your friend. That person that comes to your mind when you want to have deep discussions about your dreams, your bad day, your plans, your failures. That person that you will forget about time and keep talking with cause conversation and laughter and joys and tears just comes real.

That is what brings intimacy. The attraction, sex, money, looks all those ones na jara.

My opinion o. So before you mention me and insult me, take note of the fact that it's my opinion, make Thunder no fire you this morning.

Relax....
Your opinions are on point!

Romanoff:
Thing is a marriage cannot work if you refuse to let yourself be vulnerable. You can only be vulnerable to your friend.

Your spouse should be someone you can discuss anything with. The reason many men resort to beer parlours is cause them no fit gist with their wife.

"...be vulnerable" Hmmm, that can be quite dangerous though

I feel life have would have been better for such men and their wives if they didn't marry. They were probably attracted to the allure of children and the title of "married men".

As you earlier stated, let only those who are convinced they can endure go into it

I rest my case.

alphaconde:
hopefully she wont but if the matter reach like that I go forgive her

Is it because you dey bleep outside steady?

RealSolution001:
Seems marriage has continually become less important by the day. A friend we were together in school back then met me in a joint yesterday unwinding and immediately uttered, "o boy, I don divorce o". I was shocked cos I wasn't aware of his marriage. When in school, there was this course mate he was seeing, never knew they took it to marriage level. However, regardless of when they might have gotten married, I don't think the marriage was up to 2 years. I tried to ask him what happened but he said later as the place was too rowdy.

What has become marriages these days?

What has happened is that people are still holding on to outdated notions of what marriage is supposed to be when the societal conditions that surround marriage have taken a drastic change. They are putting new wine in old wineskins, both the wineskin and the wine will be lost. We seriously need to reevaluate what marriage is in this modern age. Maybe we should begin to formalise marriage as a strict contract like we do in business, none of this wishy washy till death do us part nonsense or head and neck analogies people hold on to. Marriage must evolve like all things or become extinct.

Romanoff:
This marriage matter.

A lot of people build their marriage on the wrong foundation.

Money, sex, looks, loneliness, desperation and some other mundane reasons.

The best foundation to build a marriage is on friendship and that's why you'll hear marriage counsellors say "marry your friend".

Take away sex from most relationships there will be nothing left, you'll discover the sex isn't even enough to keep it going. Sex that should be the icing on the cake has become the entire cake.

Money that should add spice to the marriage has become the entire food. He must have money, he must have a good car, she must be working and earning her own money etc. Once the money is not there anymore, water done pass garri.

Don't get me started on the Looks part, you'll marry because she has big bumbum and boobs, or because he is tall dark or fair and handsome with a six inch rod. A time will come that all these things won't do it for you anymore.

Marry your friend. That person that comes to your mind when you want to have deep discussions about your dreams, your bad day, your plans, your failures. That person that you will forget about time and keep talking with cause conversation and laughter and joys and tears just comes real.

That is what brings intimacy. The attraction, sex, money, looks all those ones na jara.

My opinion o. So before you mention me and insult me, take note of the fact that it's my opinion, make Thunder no fire you this morning.

Wow! I think I'm in love.

UDUJ:
I hardly check my nairaland emails because I receive a lot. But go ahead and send the email, I will check today and respond

I've emailed you sir.
Thank you.

LhoOd:
more like; the brighter the love, the quicker it fades

Something like that.

michaelpop50:
Is it because you dey bleep outside steady?

no really because am an objective person

no body holy pass

Omezif:
those who divorce after marriage don't have sense at all, Majorities of them are pagans or eitheists. It's hard to see a trully christian divorce their marriage.

Tell that to pastor oyakilome

LordReed:
Rubbish! I know 2 christian couples on the divorce path right now. One of the couples met themselves right in the church, their own didn't even last 2 years so don't give us that BS.

They are not a true christian. Try to learn the difference between true and false christian.

SweetCunt97:
Tell that to pastor oyakilome

christ knows he's wrong(oyakilome), no true christian is supporting him.

slawormiir:
Damnnnnn niggarrrr
Isoright....
Marriage na scam
Me personally will not marry

Baby mama sure me die...
Female wahalar too much.....thier non stop dramatic life, complicated life style, attention seeking and always want to be seen as babies till the end of time..they always want you to listen to them, you give them incessant compliments..they manipulate, coax and hypnotize you! people that behave like angels outside..in public...but are like devils at home

God has already fuckkked me up with six women
Five female siblings and my mother

So I won't add a wife to it

Guy, take it easy, abeg, i know it's not easy. But the last part of this comment is not good no matter the challenge life throws up.

Omezif:
They are not a true christian. Try to learn the difference between true and false christian.

Mr True Christian gatekeeper, you are probably worse than the Pharisees and Sadducees.

alphaconde:
no really because am an objective person

no body holy pass

Hmmmm, well it's your choice oh. Though I know two married people who forgave their cheating wives.

A standard marriage of societal expectation is very expensive these days. Being single is even more frustrating. I have tried both and I can say that being single is the worst thing for a wealthy adult whose focus is progress and balance.

One day you have 3 sluts on bed doing groupie, the next week you are sleeping all alone wondering why you should be lonely on bed when there is cash crying 'spend me'.

Marriage is a school of constant sex and compromise and seems like a laborious optimism.

In life I like to solve challenges, it makes me happy, so if marriage to a woman is crisis prone, then face it and double on the responsibilities and you will see them dissolve in front of you.

What I am actually saying, marry more than one, or atleast have baby mama in addition to your wife and you will never be controlled again by the vagina people.

It is called Freedom.