Hello,

This year 2021 and you are still acting naive and gullible hahaha!! you had a wife and kids whom you have to cater for and be responsible to their needs a woman that was so careless and had no life plans come to you to distrupt your own life plans sorry.....If you accept this it's called stupidity don't fall cheap for an illegitimate child,your ex sworn to heavens that you ain't the owner of the pregnancy now she's saying you own it please be wise!! She is playing games with your life and family life.

charles009:
Good people of nairaland,
Everything you are about to read is not fiction but certain reality.

At the heat of this DNA wahala, a married Ex called me on 6th of Jan to notify me that her son is mine and not her husbands. I remember vividly a certain Saturday in 2015, when we argued intensely over the paternity of the child during her pregnancy. She insisted it was her boyfriends, make una fear women. She swore she was single. Our calculations showed she was ovulating while we had some encounters. She proceeded to block me on all social media platforms and 2 months later, her friend informed me of her wedding.


The issue here is that I am married with two kids and expecting another, she told me her husband lost his job early 2018 and it has been a very rough patch for her family. she says she wants a divorce.

I asked for the boys pictures and it put instant tears to my eyes. Showed a few friends and the resemblance is striking so they said. The most painful of all, he looks not properly looked after.

I am doing fairly OK now, I wouldn't wanna to see my blood suffer, if you were in my shoes how would you handle this. My wife would not want to hear of another child...

Mature advise please...

Bros leave the boy where he is. Give him the best support he can get. If the man he is wt is not treating him differently, pls leave him wer he is. Bringing him to ur home might cos trouble 4 d boy n u.

While serving(NYSC), i had a girlfriend(junior corper) who told me she has a boyfriend b4 we started our own relationship. I didnt mind since i had mine too. But along d line we fell deeply in-love n i begged her to let us get serious since we both loved ourselves. She will cry n tell me no. 2 months after leaving service, i was called that she was pregnant. I asked her y didnt she tell me but she told me it wasnt mine but the main guy's own(unknown to me she was married to the main guy), how can that b true? d main guy was in d east while me n her wer sleeping together everyday in Ekiti for almost 6 months. During this pregnancy period(she still didnt tell me she was married), she will ask me to travel down to c her but i always refused but i kept wondering if i am not d father of her preg y ask me to come? She kept calling me all tru her labor( i kept my close to her cos i dont want her to block me). After d labour, she told me she lost d baby. I blived her n i still kept close( only chat on FB cos we r not in same state). Today, she has 3 children but her first child is around 7 year( i finished serving 2013) but she kept his face away from FB. I have resolved not to cos any trouble 4 d boy(if he is mine), herself or myself. If d boy is mine, it is best he stays wt her than wt my wife, i will always support them in all ways i can. Staying wt me might really affect him cos my wife is aggressive even to her own child.
I pray God gives us wisdom to manage our past bad deeds.

Sorry 4 d grammatical error.

friendl:
Na money she wan collect from you ,...heartless lady

And alimony from the husband. Two sources of income are always better than one...all the millionaires say so.

Life no balance atalll

Ol boy, let sleeping dog lie. This is for everyone's health and thank God you didn't marry your ex.

inspirator1:
Iko anaghi eku nwa! Stay off!

Hahahaha

CalliDora1:
Learn to zip up and save us all this stories. If you didn't go there she won't add you to the list.

as usual... Always blaming men but they never take responsibility... Like Ubunja will say, a woman holds the key to sex while a man is the holder of commitment

Wandering deeks... DNA wahala... Suffering children.
Enjoy!

Mr man I don't believe this your Nigerian film

so in summary this woman will either end up destroying herself or the husband or whoever this bomb hits.
Baba God deliver we men from wicked people with wicked intentions o!

charles009:
Good people of nairaland,
Everything you are about to read is not fiction but certain reality.

At the heat of this DNA wahala, a married Ex called me on 6th of Jan to notify me that her son is mine and not her husbands. I remember vividly a certain Saturday in 2015, when we argued intensely over the paternity of the child during her pregnancy. She insisted it was her boyfriends, make una fear women. She swore she was single. Our calculations showed she was ovulating while we had some encounters. She proceeded to block me on all social media platforms and 2 months later, her friend informed me of her wedding.


The issue here is that I am married with two kids and expecting another, she told me her husband lost his job early 2018 and it has been a very rough patch for her family. she says she wants a divorce.

I asked for the boys pictures and it put instant tears to my eyes. Showed a few friends and the resemblance is striking so they said. The most painful of all, he looks not properly looked after.

I am doing fairly OK now, I wouldn't wanna to see my blood suffer, if you were in my shoes how would you handle this. My wife would not want to hear of another child...

Mature advise please...

Don't be in a hurry. Look for one of your decent uncles, have a one on one with him.
Prepare to take the child for a DNA regardless.
Arrange your story very well.....no addition. Get the details right because the best thing is for you to break the news to your wife before your rattled ex get to do a dirty job for you.
Either ways.....you gat to brace up for the worse,shii happens!

https://www.nairaland.com/6362504/no-wife-material-naija-again

nigeriansamurai:
-before you do anything first tell your wife
-Do a dna test
-take back your child since she cant look after him or device a means to cater for him if she insists she wants custody
-be very careful with her (she probably wants to get back with you which will possibly ruin your marriage)
-make sure your wife is aware of whatever and i mean whatever business meeting or arrangement you have with her
She must be a very bad person.

Wrong move. Most women treat other people's kids as maids.

He better leave that boy with his momma.

donb06:


Naija has different laws from the US

I am talking about Nigeria. You pay for the welfare. David, Wizkid etc know better than you.

My brother I believe you, am in the same mess too

Everytime my ex this and that.omo if my wife is not a virgin I don think I will marry her ooo.just imagine what is happening here.

charles009:
Thanks folks, I discussed with her about the paternity test.
She agreed. Will be checking up a few hospitals in Lagos and pricing too.

Will tell wify much later. This has a potential of wrecking my home. I hope it doesn't.

Can I custody the child and atleast my wife wouldn't know, maybe give him to my mum or sister?

I don't reply much on here but I feel I should help you bro please for the long term stability of your family just take care of the child from afar

2oby:



Bros leave the boy where he is. Give him the best support he can get. If the man he is wt is not treating him differently, pls leave him wer he is. Bringing him to ur home might cos trouble 4 d boy n u.

While serving(NYSC), i had a girlfriend(junior corper) who told me she has a boyfriend b4 we started our own relationship. I didnt mind since i had mine too. But along d line we fell deeply in-love n i begged her to let us get serious since we both loved ourselves. She will cry n tell me no. 2 months after leaving service, i was called that she was pregnant. I asked her y didnt she tell me but she told me it wasnt mine but the main guy's own(unknown to me she was married to the main guy), how can that b true? d main guy was in d east while me n her wer sleeping together everyday in Ekiti for almost 6 months. During this pregnancy period(she still didnt tell me she was married), she will ask me to travel down to c her but i always refused but i kept wondering if i am not d father of her preg y ask me to come? She kept calling me all tru her labor( i kept my close to her cos i dont want her to block me). After d labour, she told me she lost d baby. I blived her n i still kept close( only chat on FB cos we r not in same state). Today, she has 3 children but her first child is around 7 year( i finished serving 2013) but she kept his face away from FB. I have resolved not to cos any trouble 4 d boy(if he is mine), herself or myself. If d boy is mine, it is best he stays wt her than wt my wife, i will always support them in all ways i can. Staying wt me might really affect him cos my wife is aggressive even to her own child.
I pray God gives us wisdom to manage our past bad deeds.

Sorry 4 d grammatical error.

I hope in God's name you no follow dey yab women over the DNA issue.

charles009:
Good people of nairaland,
Everything you are about to read is not fiction but certain reality.

At the heat of this DNA wahala, a married Ex called me on 6th of Jan to notify me that her son is mine and not her husbands. I remember vividly a certain Saturday in 2015, when we argued intensely over the paternity of the child during her pregnancy. She insisted it was her boyfriends, make una fear women. She swore she was single. Our calculations showed she was ovulating while we had some encounters. She proceeded to block me on all social media platforms and 2 months later, her friend informed me of her wedding.


The issue here is that I am married with two kids and expecting another, she told me her husband lost his job early 2018 and it has been a very rough patch for her family. she says she wants a divorce.

I asked for the boys pictures and it put instant tears to my eyes. Showed a few friends and the resemblance is striking so they said. The most painful of all, he looks not properly looked after.

I am doing fairly OK now, I wouldn't wanna to see my blood suffer, if you were in my shoes how would you handle this. My wife would not want to hear of another child...

Mature advise please...

Married man shouldn't have a heart of simp '. You have your family now, focus on them and forget that your Nigerian politician called your Ex. Tell her not to or never come close to you or anything that has to do with your name. Some ladies are just annoying.

Klass99:


Not in Nigeria and I assume all the parties involved reside in Naija not Biden's country

That woman had better take responsibility for that child because there's no alimony to the rescue except the OP decides on his own to help out.

In Naija, OP cannot be in soup more so with the fact that ex lied about the child being his and now is singing a new song.

In Nigeria, you don't abandon your legitimate offspring.

Is Davido and Wizkid not living in Nigeria with their baby mamas living big off their fathers?

Go to welfare and see how things work in Nigeria.

Bros, women are dangerous snake species, you go and do the DNA test and be very sure before you can talk to ur wife about it... On the other hand keep the child away from Poison if you know what I mean �����

Imagine what somebody told me



DNA



E be like say.... I be Bill Gate pikin



DNA




Just confirmed it

cococandy:
If this story is true, The kid may not even be yours or the husband’s.

exactly

charles009:
Good people of nairaland,
Everything you are about to read is not fiction but certain reality.

At the heat of this DNA wahala, a married Ex called me on 6th of Jan to notify me that her son is mine and not her husbands. I remember vividly a certain Saturday in 2015, when we argued intensely over the paternity of the child during her pregnancy. She insisted it was her boyfriends, make una fear women. She swore she was single. Our calculations showed she was ovulating while we had some encounters. She proceeded to block me on all social media platforms and 2 months later, her friend informed me of her wedding.


The issue here is that I am married with two kids and expecting another, she told me her husband lost his job early 2018 and it has been a very rough patch for her family. she says she wants a divorce.

I asked for the boys pictures and it put instant tears to my eyes. Showed a few friends and the resemblance is striking so they said. The most painful of all, he looks not properly looked after.

I am doing fairly OK now, I wouldn't wanna to see my blood suffer, if you were in my shoes how would you handle this. My wife would not want to hear of another child...

Mature advise please...

Uncannily familiar. I was in same such situation 13 years ago. It's amicably resolved now. Was not easy though.

charles009:
Good people of nairaland,
Everything you are about to read is not fiction but certain reality.

At the heat of this DNA wahala, a married Ex called me on 6th of Jan to notify me that her son is mine and not her husbands. I remember vividly a certain Saturday in 2015, when we argued intensely over the paternity of the child during her pregnancy. She insisted it was her boyfriends, make una fear women. She swore she was single. Our calculations showed she was ovulating while we had some encounters. She proceeded to block me on all social media platforms and 2 months later, her friend informed me of her wedding.


The issue here is that I am married with two kids and expecting another, she told me her husband lost his job early 2018 and it has been a very rough patch for her family. she says she wants a divorce.

I asked for the boys pictures and it put instant tears to my eyes. Showed a few friends and the resemblance is striking so they said. The most painful of all, he looks not properly looked after.

I am doing fairly OK now, I wouldn't wanna to see my blood suffer, if you were in my shoes how would you handle this. My wife would not want to hear of another child...

Mature advise please...

Please don't tell Ur wife now since she's expecting a baby bcuz she by mistake have a miscarriage along the process,Ur marriage is as good as gone.
Do d DNA test nd keep it as a secret or tell ur mature pastor nd ur parents , nd explain to them d reason u want to keep it from Ur wife for now.

Nato008:

forgiveness.... for what crime, he didn't cheat did he...rather he should sit the wife down and explain the situation

Yes he should ask for her forgiveness. Forgive him for his randiness. If he had zipped up, these stories would not come at all. May God help us all

Kapilta:
What else you wan hear? Go do DNA na. And shebi the boy don dey before you marry ya wife so dat one na small thing. The only thing wey dey pain me like dis na that other poor man wey don already lose him job, how he no go take lose him life like dis after that useless gold digger carry pikin wey he don suffer raise go give another man and on top give am divorce paper join. I just dey pity d man and him family. Fear gold diggers.

I tell you, if this guy no dey careful, she go carry the bad spirit give am.

woleabayo:
ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS TO SIT YOUR WIFE DOWN AND EXPLAIN EVERYTHING TO HER AND BEG HER TO FORGIVE YOU

but he hasnt married his current wife before the child was born, i think the current wife will understand.

slimjohn2k5:
No one is thinking of the other guy that lost his job.
After losing your job, your wife tells you that probably your only child is not yours, that will be a terrible one ohhhh.
I don't have advice for this but consider the guy that lost his job, also both of u cannot hide it for too long. Uhh

comment of the day.

Get back your child, but it might cost u DNA evidence, DNT let another Carter 4 ur child while alive

Prettychild:

Yes he should ask for her forgiveness. Forgive him for his randiness. If he had zipped up, these stories would not come at all. May God help us all

when u people comment like this....u make us ask this weird question" do u people read without comprehending or read to comment off point "... did u not read where he said the were in a relationship eh, did u read the OP saying he bleeped outside marriage...please read it again b4 u comment and rant biko