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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Blackdisciple(m): 7:43pm On Jan 14
May God forgive that your ex for what she has done to her husband lying to him ,

I think it was because of the pregnancy she put on him that made him to marry her and now here is another story...

She's doomed
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by remele2(f): 7:44pm On Jan 14
woleabayo:
ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS TO SIT YOUR WIFE DOWN AND EXPLAIN EVERYTHING TO HER AND BEG HER TO FORGIVE YOU

Nothing like forgive.. Here,,, he wasnt married to the wife b4 all thiz.

So just explain to her the way you explained to us, if she is ok with you bringing him home, thats fine, but if she is not ok with it,,,,, tell you mom about it and take the boy to ur mother where u will be able to pay all his bills and take good care of him... Simple
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by baralatie(m): 7:47pm On Jan 14
remele2:


Nothing like forgive.. Here,,, he wasnt married to the wife b4 all thiz.

So just explain to her the way you explained to us, if she is ok with you bringing him home, thats fine, but if she is not ok with it,,,,, tell you mom about it and take the boy to ur mother where u will be able to pay all his bills and take good care of him... Simple
did you get the part that the op wife is heavily pregnant?
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Oyiboman69: 7:50pm On Jan 14
Pierocash:
Forget about the child, focus on your family by law he isn't your child.

Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by dawizzy200(m): 7:50pm On Jan 14
You'd better be careful, do not be fooled and used as a "tool" by another to knowingly or unknowingly get at someone, think well as this scenario is life taking. She didn't tell you all these years however, her husband has lost his job and she's looking at divorce cause she's not getting what she saw initially when she dumped you to marry him.

Put yourself in the shoes of the man - thereafter, you can count your tooth with your tongue. A man can't lost his job and his son.

Use your head brodie... you have a lot to loss if it goes sour.

charles009:
Good people of nairaland,
Everything you are about to read is not fiction but certain reality.

At the heat of this DNA wahala, a married Ex called me on 6th of Jan to notify me that her son is mine and not her husbands. I remember vividly a certain Saturday in 2015, when we argued intensely over the paternity of the child during her pregnancy. She insisted it was her boyfriends, make una fear women. She swore she was single. Our calculations showed she was ovulating while we had some encounters. She proceeded to block me on all social media platforms and 2 months later, her friend informed me of her wedding.


The issue here is that I am married with two kids and expecting another, she told me her husband lost his job early 2018 and it has been a very rough patch for her family. she says she wants a divorce.

I asked for the boys pictures and it put instant tears to my eyes. Showed a few friends and the resemblance is striking so they said. The most painful of all, he looks not properly looked after.

I am doing fairly OK now, I wouldn't wanna to see my blood suffer, if you were in my shoes how would you handle this. My wife would not want to hear of another child...

Mature advise please...

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by rawfact: 7:51pm On Jan 14
nigeriansamurai:
-before you do anything first tell your wife
-Do a dna test
-take back your child since she cant look after him or device a means to cater for him if she insists she wants custody
-be very careful with her (she probably wants to get back with you which will possibly ruin your marriage)
-make sure your wife is aware of whatever and i mean whatever business meeting or arrangement you have with her
She must be a very bad person.

You are so nice to her. She is an evil woman. Period. angry

If OP is not careful, while fathering the child, she could use the child as her meal ticket. The worst would be using the best of sexual intercourse to lure OP back into a relationship or possible marriage with her, after successfully divorcing her husband.

In fact, there is a high possibility of her engaging the services of herbalists to spiritually tie OP down, so that he can always assent to her wishes, especially monetary-related or owning one of OP's properties, if he is that rich.

So, OP just needs to silence every lust to sleep with her, while taking care of the child, once he scientifically prove (DNA Test) that he is truly the child's legitimate father. That is the only way he can overcome this scenario .
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Ishilove(m): 7:57pm On Jan 14
paulolee:
talk to ur ex first and try run a dna urself, if its true then you inform ur wife
some people jus cnt avoid wahala, me am not married yet but one of my ex girlfriend just keep saying that she must destroy my marriage whenever I get married because I made her lose her boyfriend dt she loved soo much...
we both take it as a joke but I would surely cut. her off and blank hee for good when. dt time comes..
You're getting there. It is no longer as horrible as it used to be but there's still work to be done. I believe you can improve even more.

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Emeraldgreene(f): 7:57pm On Jan 14
[U Better do now,if u love ur life.quote author=paulolee post=98022848]talk to ur ex first and try run a dna urself, if its true then you inform ur wife
some people jus cnt avoid wahala, me am not married yet but one of my ex girlfriend just keep saying that she must destroy my marriage whenever I get married because I made her lose her boyfriend dt she loved soo much...
we both take it as a joke but I would surely cut. her off and blank hee for good when. dt time comes..[/quote]
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by chris51(f): 7:58pm On Jan 14
charles009:
Good people of nairaland,
Everything you are about to read is not fiction but certain reality.

At the heat of this DNA wahala, a married Ex called me on 6th of Jan to notify me that her son is mine and not her husbands. I remember vividly a certain Saturday in 2015, when we argued intensely over the paternity of the child during her pregnancy. She insisted it was her boyfriends, make una fear women. She swore she was single. Our calculations showed she was ovulating while we had some encounters. She proceeded to block me on all social media platforms and 2 months later, her friend informed me of her wedding.


The issue here is that I am married with two kids and expecting another, she told me her husband lost his job early 2018 and it has been a very rough patch for her family. she says she wants a divorce.

I asked for the boys pictures and it put instant tears to my eyes. Showed a few friends and the resemblance is striking so they said. The most painful of all, he looks not properly looked after.

I am doing fairly OK now, I wouldn't wanna to see my blood suffer, if you were in my shoes how would you handle this. My wife would not want to hear of another child...

Mature advise please...


My dear, in the name of Almighty God, forget about this child. It means your ex was sleeping with you and the man she eventually married.

Face your family and let her face hers, otherwise you will ruin both families.
Cut the girl off completely. DO NOT communicate with her again.

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by chris51(f): 7:58pm On Jan 14
chris51:



My dear, in the name of Almighty God, forget about this child. It means your ex was sleeping with you and the man she eventually married.

Face your family and let her face hers, otherwise you will ruin both families.
Cut the girl off completely. DO NOT communicate with her again.


Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by chaloskyx: 7:58pm On Jan 14
ALL I CAN SAY IS OMO......
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Emeraldgreene(f): 7:59pm On Jan 14
[What are u waiting for? The earlier the better...or you will be in deep trouble when
the time comes...quotee author=Emeraldgreene post=98062988][U Better do now,if u love ur life.quote author=paulolee post=98022848]talk to ur ex first and try run a dna urself, if its true then you inform ur wife
some people jus cnt avoid wahala, me am not married yet but one of my ex girlfriend just keep saying that she must destroy my marriage whenever I get married because I made her lose her boyfriend dt she loved soo much...
we both take it as a joke but I would surely cut. her off and blank hee for good when. dt time comes..[/quote]
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by tabaski: 7:59pm On Jan 14
Klass99:


What was your reaction and what do you plan to do, now that you know?
really need to take my time before breaking it to my wife but time is not on my side. The girl is eager to come see her siblings. Not forgetting she has a very striking semblance with them. I need all d wisdom cos I don't want to unsettle my wifey.
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by lexy2014: 8:00pm On Jan 14
Slimslimqq:
this is a very sensitive issue.
my advise is, before u proceed in claiming the child. why not go for a DNA test if u can afford it. then if the test comes out positive then u know what to do. am sure u won't watch ur child suffer.

In this age of DNA, somebody still de ask all this question
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Oyiboman69: 8:01pm On Jan 14
charles009:
Good people of nairaland,
Everything you are about to read is not fiction but certain reality.

At the heat of this DNA wahala, a married Ex called me on 6th of Jan to notify me that her son is mine and not her husbands. I remember vividly a certain Saturday in 2015, when we argued intensely over the paternity of the child during her pregnancy. She insisted it was her boyfriends, make una fear women. She swore she was single. Our calculations showed she was ovulating while we had some encounters. She proceeded to block me on all social media platforms and 2 months later, her friend informed me of her wedding.


The issue here is that I am married with two kids and expecting another, she told me her husband lost his job early 2018 and it has been a very rough patch for her family. she says she wants a divorce.

I asked for the boys pictures and it put instant tears to my eyes. Showed a few friends and the resemblance is striking so they said. The most painful of all, he looks not properly looked after.

I am doing fairly OK now, I wouldn't wanna to see my blood suffer, if you were in my shoes how would you handle this. My wife would not want to hear of another child...

Mature advise please...
He's your biological son by law...some things always found their way back to you.
I don't know how you want advice on this trivial issue. Are you going to disowns your blood on purpose?,you said you're financially stable and you can go for DNA if you're not convince. Talk to your wife and let her see reasons from your side. You should be happy,besides,how many years man dey live for life wen you won kill yourself...stand your ground cos you're not the first and definitely won't be the last. That child can become somebody great tomorrow and don't ever think because you're comfortable today someone cannot get to your position even if that person is a child and your kids now has a brother.
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by chris51(f): 8:02pm On Jan 14
Slimslimqq:
this is a very sensitive issue.
my advise is, before u proceed in claiming the child. why not go for a DNA test if u can afford it. then if the test comes out positive then u know what to do. am sure u won't watch ur child suffer.


By law the child belongs to his ex husband.
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by chris51(f): 8:02pm On Jan 14
chris51:



By law the child belongs to his ex husband.
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by chris51(f): 8:04pm On Jan 14
remele2:


Nothing like forgive.. Here,,, he wasnt married to the wife b4 all thiz.

So just explain to her the way you explained to us, if she is ok with you bringing him home, thats fine, but if she is not ok with it,,,,, tell you mom about it and take the boy to ur mother where u will be able to pay all his bills and take good care of him... Simple


Not as easy as that. He will ruin homes and people
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Shile981(m): 8:05pm On Jan 14
Hmm, What do I know?
What I know is that some secrets are meant to be taken to the grave.
Try to confirm by doing DNA test, I don't know how you will do that without meeting the child during that period of DNA testing.
After you might have confirmed that he is your child, you have to start to cater for the needs of that child low-key.
If the child is not up to the age of 25 or around that age, do not present yourself or allow your ex to present you to that child as his father.
Anybody can die before the child is mature enough to handle this issue. This is why I said some secrets are meant to be taken to the grave.

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Klass99(f): 8:05pm On Jan 14
tabaski:
really need to take my time before breaking it to my wife but time is not on my side. The girl is eager to come see her siblings. Not forgetting she has a very striking semblance with them. I need all d wisdom cos I don't want to unsettle my wifey.

Lol grin, pele. I feel you. Did your ex marry another man while pregnant with your child or is she still single?

Why did she come forward with the news now? I mean in November 2020 like you said - I'm just curious.

Is this a case of side chic took in for you? I'm just wondering
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Oyiboman69: 8:05pm On Jan 14
CalliDora1:
Learn to zip up and save us all this stories. If you didn't go there she won't add you to the list.
and now that he's gone there...how are we going to handle this kind of issue now?,the matter tire every body....
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Akanoaaa(m): 8:07pm On Jan 14
Pierocash:
Forget about the child, focus on your family by law he isn't your child.


You lack common sense I swear. So he should forget his own blood just because of one law? What of if the children he call his own are not actually his? You people will just open mouth and talk nonsense.
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by HRprof: 8:08pm On Jan 14
All I can advice you OP is don't let the woman destory your marriage. Her plan is to deal with her husband since she want divorce because he lost his job, she want to finish the man completely by taking away his only son and using you as an escape goat. Only God knows what her husband did to her that she plan to render him useless.

Shine your eye oooo. Forget about the woman and the child and face your family. Niaralanders are telling you to do DNA Test because that's what is raining, bros nothing concern you with the child. That woman is just digging a hole to push you insider please move on

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by ChengHun(m): 8:09pm On Jan 14
Any step you want to take consider the husband of your ex. what would happen to him if the wife suddenly tells him the child a does not belong to him. Act wisely so that your name would not be dragged in the mud. There must be an agreement between you, your ex and your ex's husband. Otherwise you may be accused of taking custody of another man's child unlawfully
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by noble2faith(m): 8:10pm On Jan 14
Seandisputed:
If her husband didn't lose his job, she wouldn't let you know the boy's yours. She's looking for an escape route using the boy as a medium.
The husband was established already as a man that was why she opted for him instead of you, thereby denying the paternity at the initial stage. She didn't think things will get this bad that was the reason she didn't bother you all these years. Would she have told you that boy's yours if they were still living fine?
Run a DNA test and take your child but cut ties with the woman.(it's gonna be difficult though, because of the presence of the other father).
No be my mouth you go hear say most women are opportunistic and don't really love us as we think they do.

I swear! Some women are very very heartless! Just imagine such height of wickedness! What will become the husband of his ex if he eventually knows that the child he has been taking care is not his child?

This may be suicidal coupled with his current situation of being jobless. Even his so called ex's life might be at stake if her husband eventually knows.

The person I pity most is the hubby of the ex.
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Verysmart101: 8:14pm On Jan 14
slimjohn2k5:
No one is thinking of the other guy that lost his job.
After losing your job, your wife tells you that probably your only child is not yours, that will be a terrible one ohhhh.
I don't have advice for this but consider the guy that lost his job, also both of u cannot hide it for too long. Uhh

Yes its better the man knows now than after a long tims.Honestly some women are so satanic
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by favinvest: 8:14pm On Jan 14
hmmm... i don dey fear oo..

because my married Ex has been calling me since yesterday oo...

hope am safe...

DNA wahala ooo sad sad
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by remele2(f): 8:16pm On Jan 14
baralatie:

did you get the part that the op wife is heavily pregnant?


Yes.. But am not suggesting he talks to the wife about it now.... But definitely he wud tell her about it...

If he choose to keep it a secret, it will come back to hurt the wife bcus since the X is already planning a divorce and the guy wud in one way or the other try to see his child which means he wud be hiding to do so.

Give ur mom the hint now 1st, then after sometime u wud open up to ur wife
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Youngpo413: 8:21pm On Jan 14
paulolee:
talk to ur ex first and try run a dna urself, if its true then you inform ur wife
some people jus cnt avoid wahala, me am not married yet but one of my ex girlfriend just keep saying that she must destroy my marriage whenever I get married because I made her lose her boyfriend dt she loved soo much...
how did you made her lose the lose the bf?
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by nsesam(m): 8:25pm On Jan 14
Pls my brothere wise about it , first someone has lost his Job and can kill you for that. Secondly why is she telling you now that the husband has lost his Job? she's evil
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Ezini(f): 8:25pm On Jan 14
If this story is truly a true story

I will advice you face front, the child is not yours and will never be
Thank God you didn't marry her, she is a jezebel,
Do you want to wreck another man's marriage and jeopardise and innocent child's future, even wreck your own already working family,

Some things are better left as they are,
Not every guy must die like the husband of moyo thomas, some other guy might put up a fight that could see you and your ex dead

Be wise, a woman who couldn't stay with a man thru thick n thin is not worth having

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by sunbreaker: 8:25pm On Jan 14
All these cooked stories eeeh
charles009:
Good people of nairaland,
Everything you are about to read is not fiction but certain reality.

At the heat of this DNA wahala, a married Ex called me on 6th of Jan to notify me that her son is mine and not her husbands. I remember vividly a certain Saturday in 2015, when we argued intensely over the paternity of the child during her pregnancy. She insisted it was her boyfriends, make una fear women. She swore she was single. Our calculations showed she was ovulating while we had some encounters. She proceeded to block me on all social media platforms and 2 months later, her friend informed me of her wedding.


The issue here is that I am married with two kids and expecting another, she told me her husband lost his job early 2018 and it has been a very rough patch for her family. she says she wants a divorce.

I asked for the boys pictures and it put instant tears to my eyes. Showed a few friends and the resemblance is striking so they said. The most painful of all, he looks not properly looked after.

I am doing fairly OK now, I wouldn't wanna to see my blood suffer, if you were in my shoes how would you handle this. My wife would not want to hear of another child...

Mature advise please...

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