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|Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Pierocash(m): 1:17pm On Jan 15|
Oyiboman69:I don't know why you are arguing what the info is easily accessible on public domain.
The law may not align with your sentiment, but it doesn't change anything bro. DNA only is not the only thing used by law to award paternity, welfare, marriage, and the relationship between the child's mother are the things used to award paternity.
So far,the relationship between the child's mother and the her husband has awarded the child's paternity to the husband irrespective of the DNA. Please stop dragging yourself on the floor.
You can consult a qualified family lawyer on this issue,and you will be shocked that my summation is the true position of the law. If you are in that shoe right now, I will tell you sorry, count your loss and move on.
|Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by emeh5(m): 1:24pm On Jan 15|
Guy, I had similar case but God vindicated me. Go and conduct DNA test with the child secretly to confirm the paternity of the child. Because, as it it is now, this your ex is frustrated by the present situation of her family. She's looking for a way to hook up on your neck.
If the result turns out to be positive, guy, if you love your wife, let her know the outcome of DNA test you've done secretly.
But I doubt that you're responsible for that. Because, a pregnant woman knows who is responsible at the time of pregnancy.
Guy, be wise.
|Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Johwyze: 1:26pm On Jan 15|
Pierocash:that is his child u cant change that fact��
|Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by WoundedLamb: 3:04pm On Jan 15|
Well, this wouldn't have been a problem if the society doesn't also encourage the husband to disavow thier legal but non biological children. Since the DNA trend started, we've seen men (legal fathers) discarding their "children" after they learnt they aren't really theirs (biologically). We all get so carried away with shaming the women that nobody reminds the men of "our culture". Then today, we're viewing things from the perspective of the man who did the do (the biological fathers) and suddenly, we remember "our culture". The only thing worth taking away from this is that we always want to take a stance that exonerates the man and heap the entire responsibility on the woman even if it means leaving the child 'fatherless'. I'm sorry to sound unappreciative of "our culture" but the wellbeing of the child is more important than any misogynistic culture and if "our culture" doesn't guarantee a home for him, I see no reason to defend it.
You say we shouldn't adopt the "American culture"; please, what's the "American culture" regarding paternity? The American culture has laid down rules for all these and they follow it religiously. What you described as your non american culture is American. In the US common law, a child born to a married woman is presumed to be the child of her husband by virtue of a "presumption of paternity" or presumption of legitimacy. The biological father isconly allowed to take responsibility if the husband disavows the child or seeks divorce based on paternity fraud. In fact, even if the couple divorces based on any other thing without mentioning paternity, the child remains their shared responsibility. This way, the child will get know who wanted him as a child and who didn't.
The difference is that Americans follow thier rules regardless of who's gaining or who's losing while you guys only remember "our culture" when it's on the side of the man whose interest you're trying to protect at the moment.
|Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by HRprof: 4:34pm On Jan 15|
The culture has been there for ages ... until we borrow DNA from American . When a man married a woman the kids produce under the marriage automatically becomes his
What if the child still prefer the father he know to the biological father? Do you think money is the only thing a child needs? because OP now have money more that the man who father the child does not mean the child will like him more than who he knows as a father from birth. The child still have the right to disown his biological father when he turns 18. When we are making comment we should consider so many thing evolves around the circumstance.
American do not depends on father or villages right of a son like we do so when we want to copy them in everything we should think twice
|Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by WoundedLamb: 4:50pm On Jan 15|
You're still saying "when we copy them" and I'm wondering what we're copying exactly cause the US also attributes the child to the husband of the woman just like you claim "our culture" does. So what did we copy? The DNA testing? Fine, let's leave DNA out. The possibility of knowing a child isn't yours or that you have a child in another man's family still remains (as in the case of the OP). DNA only came to serve as a proof of concept. Culture is what we do with the knowledge of true paternity and not necessarily how we got this knowledge (DNA, confession, resemblance, timing, witness, etc).
Please, the crux of this issue has nothing to do with America. Africans should stop blaming the west for everything. Let's address ourselves cause this is about the inconsistencies in our own culture simply cause we want to please the man. Otherwise, why aren't people discouraging men from leaving thier legal children when they find out they aren't biologically theirs (regardless of how they found out)? Why don't we remind them of "our culture"? Why are we talking about our culture now that we're facing the biological father?
I'm not faulting your take on the topic. I'm saying, if we want to enforce this culture, we should also encourage the legal fathers to take responsibility of the kids. Otherwise, the culture would just be an object of misandry.
|Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Oyiboman69: 5:46pm On Jan 15|
Pierocash:In Nigeria, the determination of the paternity of a child or person is either by an acknowledgment by the biological father or by proof via documents as decided by the Supreme Court in Ukeje v. ... In Nigeria, a child is anybody below the age of eighteen years. This is contained in section 477 of Child Rights Act.
Currently the highest law of Nigeria is the supreme court and I can find where it states that the paternity of a child is automatically awarded to the husband because he paid the bride price and thereby denied the paternity of the biological father....
It is not written anywhere in the apex law and this verdict has been reached in 2014...I don't need to school you of the fact that the supreme court judgement is supercede your customary court and beer parlour meetings...and don't forget that the mother of the child is the one bringing up this issue....
|Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Prettychild(f): 5:53pm On Jan 15|
Nato008:See what you are saying, why didn't he tell the wife before marriage that he dated a girl who got pregnant, when he asked her, she said the pregnancy wasn't his?
|Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Nato008(m): 6:20pm On Jan 15|
Prettychild:wait I don't understand... tell the wife that his ex once got pregnant and said the baby was not his...why, for the wife to use the info and do what...how does he telling her that then correlate to his present predicament
|Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Pierocash(m): 6:37pm On Jan 15|
Oyiboman69:you are such a naive ,but arrogant and pompous fellow. You have been sounding derogatory from onset despite the fact that i have been civil and trying to moderate your ignorance.
The case of glady Lois Ukeje V you are citing does not correlate with the discussion on ground, that case is talking about inheritance of a female child. So what has that got to do with the topic of discussion? A child is anybody below the age of 18 bla bla bla! Who asked you that.
I thought I am discussing with a learned fellow, but is crystally clear that you know nothing. You talked about south easterner tradition in your previous comment,you talked about religion bla bla bla. Now you are talking about customary stuffs and beer palour just, are you suffering from dementia? We are talking of matters of legal jurisprudence ,you are talking out of line. Instead of you to humble yourself and learn ,you are busy ranting puffing and talking of schooling someone more sound than you. Boy,go and shove your ego and accept the reality, count your loss and move on.
|Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by alloy123: 10:42pm On Jan 15|
Explain to your wife just like you informed us here after all you didnt marry your wife when it happened so as to see grounds for unfaithfulness.It was ur ex that caused the situation this way.
|Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by efficiencie(m): 12:02am On Jan 16|
Story! Easier said than done.
|Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by efficiencie(m): 12:07am On Jan 16|
...this is what happens when you keep digging borehole with your digger every time you are given the chance...now you have dug the hole that has come to haunt you. Confess your sin to your wife and face the consequence. If your wife committed this atrocity you will throw her out of your house. Own your crap and face the consequences.
|Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by sapeleboi(m): 12:34pm On Jan 16|
|Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Seandisputed(m): 1:08pm On Jan 16|
noble2faith:Men and women have different concepts of love.
Women love opportunistically.
Women are not rational to a large extent, that's the reason what sounds illogical to you sounds logical to them.
|Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Seandisputed(m): 1:12pm On Jan 16|
luminouz:Thank you luminouz.
I'm one of your lowkey fans though, with the way you hit trolls with the "K" letter.
|Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by MummyD2020(f): 2:24pm On Jan 16|
It is easier said than don. It's his blood out there u talk about law. Which law abeg?
|Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by MummyD2020(f): 2:29pm On Jan 16|
The best thing is to confirm via DNA first, if its positive, then he should go see the ex and hubby for the kid AMICABLY
|Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by BluntCrazeMan: 2:41pm On Jan 16|
charles009:If you can move on, please move on..
She is now manipulating you, just the way he did to that other boyfriend/husband of hers in 2015.
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