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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Nato008(m): 9:02pm On Jan 13
baralatie:

what happens when the ex husband on learning that the child is not his dies of heart attack
it would be unfortunate if that happens but it should be on the lady not the OP....OP didn't abandon the child neither did he have an extra marital affair that resulted in the baby.....

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by baralatie(m): 9:04pm On Jan 13
Nato008:

it would be unfortunate if that happens but it should be on the lady not the OP....OP didn't abandon the child neither did he have an extra marital affair that resulted in the baby.....
if it should happen plus ex and op go follow the man that died to explain how it happened
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by HassieMalcomson(f): 9:10pm On Jan 13
I don't think why you are not leading with the DNA test. I think you must go for the DNA test, and with clarification, you can make the right decision. I think it would be a callous call for you.
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Nicepoker(m): 9:45pm On Jan 13
The husband lost his job. And she is seeking for a divorce. Useless woman.

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by LadySarah(f): 10:00pm On Jan 13
you were cumming inside the fiancee of another man for you to debate who or who doesnt own the pregnancy yrs back or she was a runs girl?

Tueeh! I just feel for the jobless man who'd be loosing a child in this times.

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Pierocash(m): 10:09pm On Jan 13
Nato008:

is ur brain aware of this comment or u just pick ur phone and rant.. read what u wrote again slowly
I read it.... That is the law. The legally married husband is the father of any child that was born out of wedlock, DNA or not.

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Nato008(m): 10:19pm On Jan 13
Pierocash:
I read it.... That is the law. The legally married husband is the father of any child that was born out of wedlock, DNA or not.
which law please....in law courts why do the request for DNA test if ur assertion is correct, don't come and be misleading people

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Pierocash(m): 10:33pm On Jan 13
Nato008:

which law please....in law courts why do the request for DNA test if ur assertion is correct, don't come and be misleading people
get educated bro,don't argue what is plain.I didn't write the law. Go carry out your investigation ,and you will be shocked that what I said is true.

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Roseey0(f): 10:44pm On Jan 13
Option 1
People donating egg or sperm dont claim ownership of a child. Fatherhood goes beyond DNA.

Why is she telling you now?
Because things are not going well for her spouse.
She is mad.
Let her carry her cross. If she was a President's wife, will she remember to tell you?

See yourself as a sperm donor.Noting more.
The boy already has a father who has been going all out to take care of him not minding his current circumstance. I repeat, you are not his father. You only donated sperm. Focus on your family and the children who You father.

Please tell your wife the story first before she hear it outside. Cut that ex off totally.

Option 2
Blood is thicker than water.
If she is saying she can't take care of the child any longer, you can offer to bring him into your home and raise him completely.
No attachee or child support thingy.
Just hand over pikin to you and you raise him. If Not, make she carry her cross. Wash your hand comlt. You have done your part

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Nato008(m): 10:47pm On Jan 13
Pierocash:
get educated bro,don't argue what is plain.I didn't write the law. Go carry out your investigation ,and you will be shocked that what I said is true.

bro u wrote the legally married husband is the father of the child out of wedlock....this statement is subject to technicalities in law court..if the wife says otherwise then what happens??

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by charles009(m): 10:47pm On Jan 13
Roseey0:
Option 1
People donating egg or sperm dont claim ownership of a child. Fatherhood goes beyond DNA.

Why is she telling you now?
Because things are not going well for her spouse.
She is mad.
Let her carry her cross. If she was a President's wife, will she remember to tell you?

See yourself as a sperm donor.Noting more.
The boy already has a father who has been going all out to take care of him not minding his current circumstance. I repeat, you are not his father. You only donated sperm. Focus on your family and the children who You father.

Please tell your wife the story first before she hear it outside. Cut that ex off totally.

Option 2
Blood is thicker than water.
If she is saying she can't take care of the child any longer, you can offer to bring him into your home and raise him completely.
No attachee or child support thingy.
Just hand over pikin to you and you raise him. If Not, make she carry her cross. Wash your hand comlt. You have done your part



Thank you

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by SavageResponse(m): 11:17pm On Jan 13
Pierocash:
Forget about the child, focus on your family by law he isn't your child.

OP take this advise

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by ITbomb(m): 11:43pm On Jan 13
Slimslimqq:
this is a very sensitive issue.
my advise is, before u proceed in claiming the child. why not go for a DNA test if u can afford it. then if the test comes out positive then u know what to do. am sure u won't watch ur child suffer.
That money for DNA, he should give to that ex husband to start business and then forget about someone's son

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Martinez39s(m): 12:01am On Jan 14
Get a DNA test. It might be that the kid isn't yours. Her husband is broke and can't provide, she might be trying to come to you so that you can provide for her and the child. You are a possible financial means for her and she is using the kid to link both of you.

Stop listening to what she is saying, get a DNA test.

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by laluski(m): 12:22am On Jan 14
CalliDora1:
Learn to zip up and save us all this stories. If you didn't go there she won't add you to the list.
Stop talking with stupidity

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by thatsleepboy1: 12:26am On Jan 14
woleabayo:
ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS TO SIT YOUR WIFE DOWN AND EXPLAIN EVERYTHING TO HER AND BEG HER TO FORGIVE YOU

Excuse me pls, what forgiveness are you talking about here? What crime did he commit?

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by wisewordd: 12:29am On Jan 14
She's probably looking for salary (child support). Don't fall for it. She's evil and wants to destroy your marriage. Tell her to give you her husband's number to confirm from him. Like someone said, "let her carry her cross".You don't need DNA, focus on your family. The child is not yours like she told you initially. And if you must do DNA, involve your wife. If positive, request to take full custody without giving her a dime and if she insists on child support, leave the child for her and move on. By law, the husband is the father and he bears his name. Use your head. Imagine yourself in the husband's shoe.

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Drsnives(m): 1:33am On Jan 14
Pierocash:
Forget about the child, focus on your family by law he isn't your child.

Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by galantjoe(m): 5:59am On Jan 14
If you have already a male child no need of bringing trouble in your house. Keep it to yourself. Don't tell your wife. Let it be your personal secret for now.
As a man how will your ex husband feels. So, what I will advise u is to help your ex in training the boy. Provide her with financial help, I think that is what she wants by revealing this secret now.

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by RealAlubarika(m): 7:06am On Jan 14
charles009:

Good people of nairaland,
Everything you are about to read is not fiction but certain reality.

At the heat of this DNA wahala, a married Ex called me on 6th of Jan to notify me that her son is mine and not her husbands. I remember vividly a certain Saturday in 2015, when we argued intensely over the paternity of the child during her pregnancy. She insisted it was her boyfriends, make una fear women. She swore she was single. Our calculations showed she was ovulating while we had some encounters. She proceeded to block me on all social media platforms and 2 months later, her friend informed me of her wedding.


The issue here is that I am married with two kids and expecting another, she told me her husband lost his job early 2018 and it has been a very rough patch for her family. she says she wants a divorce.

I asked for the boys pictures and it put instant tears to my eyes. Showed a few friends and the resemblance is striking so they said. The most painful of all, he looks not properly looked after.

I am doing fairly OK now, I wouldn't wanna to see my blood suffer, if you were in my shoes how would you handle this. My wife would not want to hear of another child...

Mature advise please...

Please my advise for you is to go for DNA, try and inform your wife or i guess you did told her about it( your past) during courship.


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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Pierocash(m): 7:08am On Jan 14
Nato008:

bro u wrote the legally married husband is the father of the child out of wedlock....this statement is subject to technicalities in law court..if the wife says otherwise then what happens??
the wife is not a determinant on this issue, the law determines it.

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Nato008(m): 7:20am On Jan 14
Pierocash:
the wife is not a determinant on this issue, the law determines it.
how can the law determine it without testimony from the wife....is it possible, if the wife says otherwise...then there is problem
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Pierocash(m): 7:25am On Jan 14
Nato008:

how can the law determine it without testimony from the wife....is it possible, if the wife says otherwise...then there is problem
the wife's testimony isn't a determining factor. She wasn't married,now legally married,everything belongs to the legally married husband of the wife. He fathered the child,took care of him,paid the woman's price, no outsider has any inheritance with her anymore.

Even the wife you legally married,sometimes you can lose the child to your wife,not to talk of the one you didn't marry.

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Kingluqman(m): 7:49am On Jan 14
Make sure you still do DNA ooo

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Aflix(m): 7:49am On Jan 14
CalliDora1:
Learn to zip up and save us all this stories. If you didn't go there she won't add you to the list.
Myopic

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Aflix(m): 7:51am On Jan 14
LadySarah:
you were cumming inside the fiancee of another man for you to debate who or who doesnt own the baby.

Tueeh! I just feel for the jobless man who'd be loosing a child in this times.



Did you read the part where he said she is his ex
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Herbephe1(m): 8:17am On Jan 14
charles009:

Good people of nairaland,
Everything you are about to read is not fiction but certain reality.

At the heat of this DNA wahala, a married Ex called me on 6th of Jan to notify me that her son is mine and not her husbands. I remember vividly a certain Saturday in 2015, when we argued intensely over the paternity of the child during her pregnancy. She insisted it was her boyfriends, make una fear women. She swore she was single. Our calculations showed she was ovulating while we had some encounters. She proceeded to block me on all social media platforms and 2 months later, her friend informed me of her wedding.


The issue here is that I am married with two kids and expecting another, she told me her husband lost his job early 2018 and it has been a very rough patch for her family. she says she wants a divorce.

I asked for the boys pictures and it put instant tears to my eyes. Showed a few friends and the resemblance is striking so they said. The most painful of all, he looks not properly looked after.

I am doing fairly OK now, I wouldn't wanna to see my blood suffer, if you were in my shoes how would you handle this. My wife would not want to hear of another child...

Mature advise please...



Why is she telling you now? If her husband was not encountering such financial challenge ,I am very sure she wouldn't have revealed it.
Forget you have a child somewhere,if you care about the kid,you can assist them financially,her husband is in difficult situation already,so dont complicate already complicated soul,put yourself in her husband shoe,how would you have felt if yiu were in his condition,dont wish others what you do not wish for yourself...

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by TOPCRUISE(m): 8:35am On Jan 14
charles009:

Good people of nairaland,
Everything you are about to read is not fiction but certain reality.

At the heat of this DNA wahala, a married Ex called me on 6th of Jan to notify me that her son is mine and not her husbands. I remember vividly a certain Saturday in 2015, when we argued intensely over the paternity of the child during her pregnancy. She insisted it was her boyfriends, make una fear women. She swore she was single. Our calculations showed she was ovulating while we had some encounters. She proceeded to block me on all social media platforms and 2 months later, her friend informed me of her wedding.


The issue here is that I am married with two kids and expecting another, she told me her husband lost his job early 2018 and it has been a very rough patch for her family. she says she wants a divorce.

I asked for the boys pictures and it put instant tears to my eyes. Showed a few friends and the resemblance is striking so they said. The most painful of all, he looks not properly looked after.

I am doing fairly OK now, I wouldn't wanna to see my blood suffer, if you were in my shoes how would you handle this. My wife would not want to hear of another child...

Mature advise please...
It is people like you that we should be afraid of and not women.Your complaint is immature. You are one of the few fvcking our ladies, causing paternity fraud and you are looking for mature advice to destroy your ex home. Well I have one mature advice for you. It's either you go to the house of your ex. Look straight into the eyes of her husband and tell him you were the one fvcking his wife before she got married to him. Tell him that the child is not his because the boy resembles you and not him and challenge him to a DNA contest to prove your point or tell your ex to confess to her husband

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Childrentablets: 9:41am On Jan 14
You better forget about that child. She initially told you the child wasn't yours then probably because you were a broke and hungry niggaa. Now that her husband is now suffering and you are comfortable the child is now yours.

Can you see how she's playing you both. You better don't be cause of another man's suicide. Let go the child, and focus on the ones in your matrimonial home.
If you are financially buoyant enough to help the woman to feed, you can extend a hand.

Comot eye for that pikin. She already told you it's not yours. Don't stress it

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by OlawaleBammie(m): 9:46am On Jan 14
CalliDora1:
Learn to zip up and save us all this stories. If you didn't go there she won't add you to the list.


U re not Ok

He said he fought for the paternity of the child initially but she insisted that he was not the father of the child, now that casala wan burst for her side she's now claiming that he is the father.


Ori gbogbo yin to daru., Awon alailero oponu gbogbo wonwonyi.

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Heartdanny(f): 11:02am On Jan 14
Tell your wife, go for a DNA test if he turns out he is your child start taking care of him as a father. And be careful with ur-ex cos she may want to come back into your life, in fact when ever you have a meeting with her make sure you go with your wife or let it be in an open place and do not hide anything about your dealings with her from your wife. For her to give the pregnancy to another man shows that she is a desperate women.

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by frozen70(f): 11:41am On Jan 14
charles009:

Good people of nairaland,
Everything you are about to read is not fiction but certain reality.

At the heat of this DNA wahala, a married Ex called me on 6th of Jan to notify me that her son is mine and not her husbands. I remember vividly a certain Saturday in 2015, when we argued intensely over the paternity of the child during her pregnancy. She insisted it was her boyfriends, make una fear women. She swore she was single. Our calculations showed she was ovulating while we had some encounters. She proceeded to block me on all social media platforms and 2 months later, her friend informed me of her wedding.


The issue here is that I am married with two kids and expecting another, she told me her husband lost his job early 2018 and it has been a very rough patch for her family. she says she wants a divorce.

I asked for the boys pictures and it put instant tears to my eyes. Showed a few friends and the resemblance is striking so they said. The most painful of all, he looks not properly looked after.

I am doing fairly OK now, I wouldn't wanna to see my blood suffer, if you were in my shoes how would you handle this. My wife would not want to hear of another child...

Mature advise please...

The issue of your wife not wanting to hear of another child is not something to be worried about

The most important thing to do now is to call your ex and go for a DNA test with the child

If the result is positive, then infirm the husband about it after that inform your wife

You are likely to finally take the child into your family

But if the result is negative, then end it there with her

Still inform your wife and let her know everything and why you kept her in the dark is because you wanted to be sure of the DNA test and now that is positive you want her to know and accept the child

She will feel bad but the earlier the best for you all

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