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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by bareal(m): 6:24am On Jan 16, 2021
chinchonglee:

Thank God u left her... I wonder how you guys cope with girls that aren't smart.
I'm not a food person sha plus am naturally a clean person, so i can easily clean my house or get someone to clean for me.

Tonto Dike is also smart by the way
Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by Wunna: 6:26am On Jan 16, 2021
CalliDora1:
Thank God, mum did a good job on us in the domestic area and both parents ensured we had a good and sound education.

Imagine being made to cook at the age of 10 for the whole house.. mum made sure of that and we still lived the best aje butter life ever. Now, everyone is a pro in everything.

Oga, loud it!
Nobody asked you. Go sit your ass downangry

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by Amumaigwe: 6:26am On Jan 16, 2021
Chii59:
That goes to say that the average Nigerian man wants a MAID, not a wife in the sense of the word, PARTNERSHIP, but a subservient, docile, baby maker, who's only good for the kitchen and the other room, but never an equal who's capable of making and taking decisions in the homestead when and where necessary.
What you want is what you get.
Cool.

I also hooe you finally succeed in netting or even creating the kind of man you described.
Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by Wunna: 6:29am On Jan 16, 2021
Chii59:
That goes to say that the average Nigerian man wants a MAID, not a wife in the sense of the word, PARTNERSHIP, but a subservient, docile, baby maker, who's only good for the kitchen and the other room, but never an equal who's capable of making and taking decisions in the homestead when and where necessary.
What you want is what you get.
Cool.
Continue like this and keep going to shiloh every year with your teeth like rake angry

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by CHoccolaTE: 6:30am On Jan 16, 2021
Raph82:
And u think it's that easy? Just work on character like that? My brother don't be fooled please. There are many among these maids who are graduates, smart and submissive. What a man needs is housewife material that is matured in character, not all these mummy's pet that will be stockpiling dirty pants in one corner of the room.

So a woman should be housewife material that cooks and cleans and submissive and also breadwinner like her husband

What is the man contributing to her life again?

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by Incognito403: 6:35am On Jan 16, 2021
TeemahBeddings:
Okkkk.

If you want someone who will do all your chores for you. Hire a maid. You are your partner helper. Simply because you are the man doesn't mean you should turn your wife into a slave. During our forefather's time, the sole responsibility of the woman is to hold the home front and help on the farm once in a while, the man brings the food and money to the table. But now, you want a maid and someone who brings money to the house.

Shameless bunch of men tongue
Obviously, you're a naive teenager.

Which woman brings money home? No matter how much a woman has, that mentality of "Your money is our money but my money is my money" won't leave them.

They won't let the world hear anything when they bear any small financial responsibility in the house.

Their money is generally useless. They should return to the house. Any job any woman will take should never prevent her primary responsibility in the home. Afterall, the job is only contributing to her personal account, it's not contributing to the development of the family.
Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by Incognito403: 6:37am On Jan 16, 2021
Gerrard59:
This article has been recycled countless times on the FP. Don't you guys get tired?

BTW, like in most Nigerian written articles, no surveys or peer-reviewed studies on how they came about the outcome. Just vibes, cobwebs and coconut in their heads.

You're so uncool.

Firstly, even in your so-called academics, general knowledge doesn't need to be referenced.

Secondly, this article is an opinion based on the writer's experience. If it doesn't really with your own experience, you're free to present reject it and write about your own experience. The article is not a research paper.

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by Munzy14(m): 6:39am On Jan 16, 2021
TeemahBeddings:
Okkkk.

If you want someone who will do all your chores for you. Hire a maid. You are your partner helper. Simply because you are the man doesn't mean you should turn your wife into a slave. During our forefather's time, the sole responsibility of the woman is to hold the home front and help on the farm once in a while, the man brings the food and money to the table. But now, you want a maid and someone who brings money to the house.

Shameless bunch of men tongue
Na dem!

African feminist.

Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by Amumaigwe: 6:39am On Jan 16, 2021
Slackerpenguin2:
It is a good article...and I liked it

The problem is, many Nigerian men will use this article to point out their wives and girlfiriends weaknesses...and refuse to correct their own.

You seem to be in a very severe pain over this educative post from a fellow woman who is obviously older, more experienced and mature than you. Are you guilty of the scenario she painted? Then make necessary corrections and save yourself the inevitable consequences she expressed rather than going all over the thread boxing the air.
Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by chinchonglee(m): 6:40am On Jan 16, 2021
bareal:


Tonto Dike is also smart by the way
Says who?
You or Nollywood movies
Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by Jeffy1206(m): 6:41am On Jan 16, 2021
chinchonglee:
Knowing how to cook and clean to me can never be a criteria to marry a girl.
What turns me on is smartness!
it is not but marry one that is very lazy and can't cook, then invite your friends to the house for the weekend, ask her to cook for them... cool then on boiz outings, come back and tell us how you feel later after they must have let you know how you fukup grin cheesy wink wink
Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by chinchonglee(m): 6:41am On Jan 16, 2021
Iamsane:


Smartness dey sweet and e go belleful you.
Food sweet and e go belleful you
Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by Oyiboman69: 6:43am On Jan 16, 2021
TeemahBeddings:
Okkkk.

If you want someone who will do all your chores for you. Hire a maid. You are your partner helper. Simply because you are the man doesn't mean you should turn your wife into a slave. During our forefather's time, the sole responsibility of the woman is to hold the home front and help on the farm once in a while, the man brings the food and money to the table. But now, you want a maid and someone who brings money to the house.

Shameless bunch of men tongue
so that should be the reason you cannot do your duty as a house wife?...good quality of a good woman is far more from house shore alone...read the article again...
Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by Nobody: 6:48am On Jan 16, 2021
Amumaigwe:


You seem to be in a very severe pain over this educative post from a fellow woman who is obviously older, more experienced and mature than you. Are you guilty of the scenario she painted? Then make necessary corrections and save yourself the inevitable consequences she expressed rather than going all over the thread boxing the air.

Pained for what?

I agreed with the post

But my observation is that here in Nigeria we men don't learn or get similar lessons at all.
Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by Munzy14(m): 6:48am On Jan 16, 2021
Maids are loyal and good home managers...


This is what a man look forward to in marriage... Because the peace of mind is centered around these things.

If you like be a genuis, fine pass ,be endowed front and back...if you are not loyal and lack home management skills your case is OYO...

Men will date u , chop yoni and move to that loyal lady you think has no class when it's time for marriage.

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by Amumaigwe: 6:52am On Jan 16, 2021
phineas:


No these ones do not represent the average Nigerian man.Only the jobless ones with a lot of free time on their hands.No succesfull man underestimates the role of a thinking ,smart ,connected or spiritual helpmate to weather the storms of life with them.

Underachieving men with challenges on their perception of self,either in wealth or size cant deal with such partners those are the type that marry a yes yes woman or maid.They are not the average Nigerian man just a small vocal minority.You know what they say about empty barrels

Any woman that fails in her home's domestic front cannot help any man spritually or with any good thinking because it is not in her by upbringing. So deal with the basics and everything will line up without additional efforts.
Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by Amumaigwe: 6:57am On Jan 16, 2021
Gerrard59:


Yes, because there are several questions which it didn't answer. What economic stratum are these men who married maids? How many men have they interviewed factoring income levels, location, age etc., before they came to the headline? What are the implications of a certain strata of men getting married to maids? These mothers weren't asked if they would accept these kinds of men as in-laws. And a whole lot more. Maybe if the media house cited a study that answers at least one of such questions, it will make the article more logical and insightful.

Resd the woman's profile and notice that by her profession, she is positioned to interface with women with daughters of marriage age and must have noticed a trend from issues she has dealt with long enough to draw an inferrence.

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by 2016easy2017: 7:02am On Jan 16, 2021
TeemahBeddings:
Okkkk.

If you want someone who will do all your chores for you. Hire a maid. You are your partner helper. Simply because you are the man doesn't mean you should turn your wife into a slave. During our forefather's time, the sole responsibility of the woman is to hold the home front and help on the farm once in a while, the man brings the food and money to the table. But now, you want a maid and someone who brings money to the house.

Shameless bunch of men tongue



One of them just sighted

Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by Mrpojj(m): 7:02am On Jan 16, 2021
TeemahBeddings:
Okkkk.

If you want someone who will do all your chores for you. Hire a maid. You are your partner helper. Simply because you are the man doesn't mean you should turn your wife into a slave. During our forefather's time, the sole responsibility of the woman is to hold the home front and help on the farm once in a while, the man brings the food and money to the table. But now, you want a maid and someone who brings money to the house.

Shameless bunch of men tongue

How many women dey bring money to the house?
Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by 2016easy2017: 7:06am On Jan 16, 2021
Ladyhippolyta88:
Mtcheww.

Old fabricated story


2nd one sighted. More to come sir

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by 2016easy2017: 7:08am On Jan 16, 2021
Chii59:
That goes to say that the average Nigerian man wants a MAID, not a wife in the sense of the word, PARTNERSHIP, but a subservient, docile, baby maker, who's only good for the kitchen and the other room, but never an equal who's capable of making and taking decisions in the homestead when and where necessary.
What you want is what you get.
Cool.


3rd one sighted sir. More to come

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by 2016easy2017: 7:11am On Jan 16, 2021
Chii59:
That goes to say that the average Nigerian man wants a MAID, not a wife in the sense of the word, PARTNERSHIP, but a subservient, docile, baby maker, who's only good for the kitchen and the other room, but never an equal who's capable of making and taking decisions in the homestead when and where necessary.
What you want is what you get.
Cool.

She washes the clothes
Cook good meal
Take care of my children
Clean my house
Then rests and relaxes the way she wants while I do others. This way she won't be Mrs FCMB, she won't make loosed ravaged daughters for me, she prevented my children from being kidnapped etc etc

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by Amumaigwe: 7:12am On Jan 16, 2021
Chii59:

Oh dear. Poor thing, I see you sweating up and down this post. Seems you're invincible. No one cares about the noise you make.
There, there, sorry for the stress. You are talking to the wrong generation. Do you need a megaphone? grin

That's why this your warped generation is doomed. Your philosophies are failing you, yet you refuse to accept helps you crave for just because it does not align with your philosophies that have already failed you. It is a viscious circle.
Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by chinchonglee(m): 7:13am On Jan 16, 2021
Princewell2012:


One man's meat is another man's poison.
My younger brother is doing well in his business, but his wife cooks rubbish. He only eat a good food when ever he comes to my house. He is not happy about it. Yet the woman is educated.
Food is nt my thing.

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by 2016easy2017: 7:13am On Jan 16, 2021
[quote author=Kaimaonyeana post=98102422]Marry the maids then and stop whining like a kid. A lot of male nairalanders are disgusting. From their thread, to their opinion down to the way they type and even their thought process. So shameful. Make una change this 2021[/quote

But......the writer is a female and a mother!!!
Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by chinchonglee(m): 7:14am On Jan 16, 2021
Jeffy1206:
it is not but marry one that is very lazy and can't cook, then invite your friends to the house for the weekend, ask her to cook for them... cool then on boiz outings, come back and tell us how you feel later after they must have let you know how you fukup grin cheesy wink wink
Bro... I won't feel bad so long I married a smart and good woman
Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by TeemahBeddings: 7:22am On Jan 16, 2021
Mrpojj:


How many women dey bring money to the house?
ask me grin

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Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by TeemahBeddings: 7:23am On Jan 16, 2021
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Incognito403:

Obviously, you're a naive teenager.

Which woman brings money home? No matter how much a woman has, that mentality of "Your money is our money but my money is my money" won't leave them.

They won't let the world hear anything when they bear any small financial responsibility in the house.

Their money is generally useless. They should return to the house. Any job any woman will take should never prevent her primary responsibility in the home. Afterall, the job is only contributing to her personal account, it's not contributing to the development of the family.
undecided
Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by emonis88: 7:31am On Jan 16, 2021
[quote author=Gerrard59 post=98102005]This article has been recycled countless times on the FP. Don't you guys get tire
Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by teeboy100(m): 7:39am On Jan 16, 2021
[quote author=teacherbim post=98102039] Do you think is all about endowed? Wise men don't give a shit about that[/quote after all, everyone will starring at your endowed woman
Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by chatinent: 7:55am On Jan 16, 2021
Minjim:

I need two daughters O! And Gods willing two sons
That's not in the area meant.

Read again.
Re: Suitors Now Prefer Our Maids For Marriage To Our Daughters by MistadeRegal(m): 7:55am On Jan 16, 2021
teacherbim:

Do you think is all about endowed? Wise men don't give a shit about that

You spoke my mind accurately.
You deserve a truck load of chocolate.

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