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Millenniumlady:
when i try it on you your eyes go clear

Serene123:
Have u hacked someone WhatsApp chat b4?


If u haven't, then keep calm bro.
Whenever she is online, I get notified and read everything she is typing

I am yet to see any evidence between her and that guy.

Kaeboy:
Two different WhatsApp can run on a phone at a time but one WhatsApp account can't be logged in, in two places at a time, it's not possible.

Serene123:
Please I will need your constructive opinion on this. Been battling with this thoughts for some time now.

I engaged my girl last year. Reason why I did engage her was because I saw her intent to be with me. I have seen her gave out her cash to help get somethings for our new apartment. She has even used her cash to buy some properties she wants in the house when we get married.
She has stood and defended me to her family on why she is getting married to me. She has really earned my trust and never regretted engaging her. She is one girl that every man will like to have as wife

In the course of our relationship months back, I noticed there is this guy that call her. I questioned and she said is just a friend. I have told her I am not comfortable with the call. Yes I have listened to the calls and it doesn't sound serious
On 25th Dec I place a call across to her phone and she wasn't picking. She later told me reason why she didn't pick.
While we were together I noticed she didn't pick cos she went out with the same guy I have been complaining about. I got to know via a pic.
She has insisted nothing serious is going on.
I was so angry and I needed to take her phone and check up something. We struggled with the phone and she injured her nails.. She is saying I am a woman beater and I have anger issue.
She started keeping to herself and phone and was bold to tell me that this action of mine has succeeded in killing the feelings she has for me.

She has asked for time to get her mental health back and for close to two weeks now we haven't been flowing well..

I have tried to talk to her so we fix this shit but she said she needs time.

I have decided to give her the time she needs while I focus on something else. Yes, I miss her

I won't lie, is emotional for me and someone is currently trying to fill her vacuum by being all nice. I am getting closer to her, but my heart still yearn for my fiance.

I don't know if I am doing the right thing by being close to another lady. I don't know if I should belivee her that she has lost feelings for me and move on.
I need your advise.

Sorry for the lengthy thread

Serene123:
Have u hacked someone WhatsApp chat b4?


If u haven't, then keep calm bro.
Whenever she is online, I get notified and read everything she is typing

I am yet to see any evidence between her and that guy.

MyChoice1:
Bros, I'm telling you something I've been a victim of.. I'll be online chatting and someone else is reading and seeing the chat at the same time in his own phone! He can even respond to your chats or even delete them from his own phone!

triangulation:
I can teach you. I don't know how the private mailing thingy work on Nairaland. If you can drop your WhatsApp number here, I will chat you up

Aliii:
Bros you are a man and you should have authority to tell her what you don't like and she listens..if she doesn't let her be..I have been in almost your shoe the babe nor dey hear ,I gave her four years to listen she refused ..[b]she always say I am just managing you, when I have no disability,[/b]then I made up my mind and let her be ..it wasn't easy I almost died because I loved her,but I didn't die..she got outside to see for herself after a year she started to beg that shes sorry ..I didn't listen ..bro let her be ..if the guy bleep her finish ..I eye go open .

Aliii:
Bros you are a man and you should have authority to tell her what you don't like and she listens..if she doesn't let her be..I have been in almost your shoe the babe nor dey hear ,I gave her four years to listen she refused ..she always say I am just managing you ..when I have no disability then I made up my mind and let her be ..it wasn't easy I almost died because I loved her,but I didn't die..she got outside to see for herself after a year she started to beg that shes sorry ..I didn't listen ..bro let her be ..if the guy bleep her finish ..I eye go open .

Beze992:
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That being said, I have noticed that in a twisted way most men seem to value women that stresses them . It's really baffling, when they see the loyal ones that never tries to manipulate them, they tend to take those ones for granted.

wirinet:
You seem to align with what you want to hear, which are the opinions of mostly female readers who are talking from the their own experience and perspective.

Most guys giving you advice have passed through this exact same scenario. I also had a serious girl friend that told me she had a guy friend, she talks to and visits regularly. Still the same excuse "he is only a friend". I told her to cut it and I don't tolerate male unrelated friends. She told me I should not control her. I only heard rumours that she visited him after I banned her not to. That was the end of the relationship. Mind you this was a 3 year relationship and I truly loved her. She came to her senses three weeks later and came to beg for forgiveness. Me, I don't forgive because I warned her of the consequences before she she decided to to go over to the guys place. If she would not listen to me on such a critical thing while we are dating, is it after we marry that she will obey me?

You will learn the hard way.

shadowmancer:
Shaaaaraaap! Contrary to Taylor Swift's vituperative track 'Blank Space'....99% of men don't wants love when it's torture. You Nigerian ladies are just something else. Ona just dey fvckn complicated and get indescribable complex with ego the size of Trump's private jet. All leading to mental confusion. Man's-not-hot knows wetin he NEED when he NEEDS it, be it sex, love, family, future, but as for una...una go mix everything together in a twisted way to take confuse, destabilize ad mindfvck wetin the partner NEED. All of una dey MAAD. I swear down!

SexytorresE:
gals are smart . We don't keep chat when we knw we have such guys like u around that goes through our phones

Beze992:
Firstly, your writing style is terribly childish, it's rather tiring trying to decipher what you wrote. Secondly, why the emphasis on 'need' did someone take what you needed? Thirdly, learn to write coherently without throwing your emotions everywhere and stop using abusive words on people. You can pass your message across without sounding obscene, it's not nice showing you don't have home training.
And lastly, I'm entitled to an opinion same way you are, so stop having seizures over mine. You can counter my point in a civilized manner without throwing tantrums.

dayorich:
08029112333.

Serene123:
I have gone as far as secretly getting access to her WhatsApp. I didn't see any single chat with her and the guy nor another person. But the calls just keep pisisng me off.

I realised I shouldn't have gone that far. I should have just be calmed and let her do her wish

binarykid:
I am a guy and I will be candid with my opinion. YOU MIGHT BE OVER REACTING!!!
YES! i know what is trending now, YES! I know we are all quick to accuse every lady that we suspect of being unfaithful but YOU MIGHT BE OVER REACTING!.
I Say this categorically cos I know a couple that had almost similar issue and the guy messed everything up cos of his 'insecurity'.
The moment you keep checking her messages, snooping on her social media accounts, check for everything and anything, my guy, your heart would always lead you to see (and continue) seeing what you are looking for. Honestly at some point you might feel that you are losing your mind cos of different thoughts.

She is obviously hiding her phones and other stuffs cos she already knows you are snooping and that you would read unnecessary meaning into whatever you see. You can't just ask her to break a friendly relationship based on your own insecurities. (That's selfish)

Solution: Call your girl, apologize to her, have a heart to heart discussion with her (let her know your fears) and then analyze her response. Also ask her to introduce you to that "her friend".

In relationships nothing is entirely guaranteed. The person that is giving you attention now and you are already catching feelings hmmmm do you know the kind of bones she has in her pot?.

Calm down and take a deep breadth. From your description, you obviously have a good woman and you know it but your insecurities wants to mess things up. I hope you make the best decision for yourselves.

Peace!!!

wirinet:
You seem to align with what you want to hear, which are the opinions of mostly female readers who are talking from the their own experience and perspective.

Most guys giving you advice have passed through this exact same scenario. I also had a serious girl friend that told me she had a guy friend, she talks to and visits regularly. Still the same excuse "he is only a friend". I told her to cut it and I don't tolerate male unrelated friends. She told me I should not control her. I only heard rumours that she visited him after I banned her not to. That was the end of the relationship. Mind you this was a 3 year relationship and I truly loved her. She came to her senses three weeks later and came to beg for forgiveness. Me, I don't forgive because I warned her of the consequences before she she decided to to go over to the guys place. If she would not listen to me on such a critical thing while we are dating, is it after we marry that she will obey me?

You will learn the hard way.

Atticusxsz:
The bolded got me all cracked up.

shadowmancer:
And by mere text you could deduce if one's been childish but yet find it hard to figure out what exactly makes Nigerian gals behave conflicted.

Who cares about my writing style when the points laced therein has been passed across.

Listen to your rhetoric...."Did someone take what you needed" implying a need is always something that can be taken. How does one write coherently without imbuing his typings with evocative words if need be?

Go read up some Shakespear you Belzebub of the 992 circle telling me how to convey my message without sounding obscene, this is Nairaland, a forum for all manners of obscene comments and crazy talks with unguarded words.

Better hop on to any of those facebook religious Nigeria groups if you want to read comments from sheeples whose bleating reflects how homely trained their suckling arse are.

yungchop:
This OP is just an attention seeker. .
I wonder when WhatsApp starts allowing one single account to run on two different phones.. Lies kill you there

binarykid:
I am a guy and I will be candid with my opinion. YOU MIGHT BE OVER REACTING!!!
YES! i know what is trending now, YES! I know we are all quick to accuse every lady that we suspect of being unfaithful but YOU MIGHT BE OVER REACTING!.
I Say this categorically cos I know a couple that had almost similar issue and the guy messed everything up cos of his 'insecurity'.
The moment you keep checking her messages, snooping on her social media accounts, check for everything and anything, my guy, your heart would always lead you to see (and continue) seeing what you are looking for. Honestly at some point you might feel that you are losing your mind cos of different thoughts.

She is obviously hiding her phones and other stuffs cos she already knows you are snooping and that you would read unnecessary meaning into whatever you see. You can't just ask her to break a friendly relationship based on your own insecurities. (That's selfish)

Solution: Call your girl, apologize to her, have a heart to heart discussion with her (let her know your fears) and then analyze her response. Also ask her to introduce you to that "her friend".

In relationships nothing is entirely guaranteed. The person that is giving you attention now and you are already catching feelings hmmmm do you know the kind of bones she has in her pot?.

Calm down and take a deep breadth. From your description, you obviously have a good woman and you know it but your insecurities wants to mess things up. I hope you make the best decision for yourselves.

Peace!!!

Serene123:
You clearly stated everything. I over reacted. At a point. I can't even Imagined I had to hack her phone. That was mad. I am ashame of that. I became toxic. Created many assumptions in my head.

While reading comments here, I finally realised my own mistakes. Even the incident that led to the dragging of phones, I now realised I could have acted more maturely then and prevented what happen.

We make mistakes, and I have learnt from my mistakes. I will talk to her on a good day about everything that's my suspicious.

Those saying I should leave her, I understand them. Those saying I be mumu, simp, I understand them.

But I know there ain't a steroptype way of resolving issues.
I am seeing this as an obstacle.

But I ask, does running away from obstacle the only way of solving obstacles.

Maybe is cos a woman is involve here. What if it was a guy doing this, what will the lady be asked to do.

I understand women are being painted in a bad light in our generation. If you fix your mind in this, you won't have a woman in your life.

Hence I am carefully taking my time in making any decision.

For now, we need space

Serene123:
A married man dropped his number here and we spoke at 3am till 6 am.
He told me he has similar situation like mine. Ended his relationship cos of assumptions due to calls he was seeing.

He spoke to me maturely and while he was speaking, I saw my own self and my errors. They are happily married.

He advise I give it time. That's what I am doing

triangulation:
I can teach you. I don't know how the private mailing thingy work on Nairaland. If you can drop your WhatsApp number here, I will chat you up

success10:
this is my WhatsApp number
08023406640..
I need the skill to hack WhatsApp

Beze992:
Here you go again with the tantrums, I pray you find the peace you so badly need. And for the records, not everyone has a 'herd' mentality, so I don't have to join people who write in an obscene way to so. And I still reiterate that you can pass your message across without sounding like someone having an epileptic fit.
Don't bother quoting me again, I will not reply since you can't be civil in your conversations. However, I still stand by the last paragraph of my very first comment....... Happy Sunday.

Serene123:
A married man dropped his number here and we spoke at 3am till 6 am.
He told me he has similar situation like mine. Ended his relationship cos of assumptions due to calls he was seeing.

He spoke to me maturely and while he was speaking, I saw my own self and my errors. They are happily married.

He advise I give it time. That's what I am doing