WackyJ1:


The first four comments on your post told you what you needed to know.

But you're hell bent of screwing yourself.

All the evidence is there.

But your attachment to her is making you discard all the evidence that she is cheating on you for the one thing you can hold on to to tell yourself she is not.


You are not experienced.

That is why you are like this.


Those of us who have been cheated on and believed several times until evidence came to wake up up by force,

We have already seen the signs.

1. She has someone she always calls

2. She didn't pick your calls and lied to you about the reason why

3. You found out, she didn't confess.
b. You found out from a picture of the two of them a picture she was supposed to delete.

4. She fought you for your phone and then turned around to gaslight you by calling you a woman beater.

5. She wasn't remorseful and instead told you she needed space for her mental health. She wasn't even trying to reconcile.

She is somewhere collecting mental health prick.


I have listed 5 things that show she is cheating on you.

You have only one thing to hold on to as the reason for your hope.

I would have ended things at reason number 2.

If you believe she is not cheating and there were no chats with the guy, why are you here?


You want someone to cuddle you with false truths. You should have met your female friends for that.

But guess what.

Even your females friends will tell you she is cheating on you.


Let me tell you one more eventuality.

She will be back.

She will apologise. She will beg. She will soothe your ego and you will take her back.

You will be happy.

You will think you have won.

Just save money for your DNA test along with the money you will be spending on the wedding.

And if the gods are kind to you, you will see proof that she was cheating while claiming to be restoring her mental Health.

Serene123:



A married man dropped his number here and we spoke at 3am till 6 am.
He told me he has similar situation like mine. Ended his relationship cos of assumptions due to calls he was seeing.

He spoke to me maturely and while he was speaking, I saw my own self and my errors. They are happily married.

He advise I give it time. That's what I am doing

slumcat:

Kindly note that not all married men are wise. Lots of married women are being fvcked daily... They are also married to some so called 'men'.

You can find these women on Instagram and Facebook flaunting their bodies, following and professing their love for male celebrities. Some look decent, but they're still cheats. Their marriages look clean until they're caught... Just like the FCMB scandal.

Since your so called fiancee has confessed that he gives her money, you should know that he fvcks her in return. It's simple mathematics. But no, you will keep blaming yourself.
There's something that guy has that you lack and she is very willing to give up your proposal to keep getting it. It could be money or a big d!ck...or both.

I repeat, you're too mumu to be married in today's Nigeria. Guys will finish your wife with d!ck. You've already started hacking her phone before marriage. After marriage your suspicions will increase. Anytime she goes out you will be restless and your blood pressure will be very high until she gets back. You will likely die from high blood pressure before you clock 40.

You are naturally foolish but I will do my best to instill some artificial sense into your coconut head.

Be wise.
Get sense.
Don't be a DNA victim.

wirinet:


Any you think most of us men giving you advice here are unhappily married or single?

Serene123:


Not chat. I can attest to that. I secretly had her WhatsApp on my phone for like a month without her ntoitce.

I saw other chats, but not that of the guy

shadowmancer:

Click on my profile and read up my previous posts so that you will realize how and why I specifically kept referencing Nigerian gals (not girls in general), all of whom the word "smart" are light years far from, what best describe [your] nonchallant behavior to utilize emotional wiles as a means to be unduly mischievous while leaving a man mentally and emotionally wrecked at the expense of feeding an insatiable hunger for avarice and ego is nothing but CUNNINGNESS. (you all are one same twisted cvnts)

shadowmancer:

Click on my profile and read up my previous posts so that you will realize how and why I specifically kept referencing Nigerian gals (not girls in general), all of whom the word "smart" are light years far from, what best describe [your] nonchallant behavior to utilize emotional wiles as a means to be unduly mischievous while leaving a man mentally and emotionally wrecked at the expense of feeding an insatiable hunger for avarice and ego is nothing but CUNNINGNESS. (you all are one same twisted cvnts)

SexytorresE:
you will be alright my dear . You've been through alot from girls . Move on!

SexytorresE:
you are depressed and u need help. Stay safe I'm not the course of any of your predicament u might have gone through in the hands of anyone . U don't come here and put ur frustration on me pls . Take a pill and don't be silly

shadowmancer:

Wait!
I can't believe, a mere respond to your drivel could go so far as to get under your skin, so much that you had to quote me twice just to react. Jeez!

I'm always on the move because I've always been alright, as I'm not your dear. You can save your phony appeasement for the next guy who's going through a lot emotional machination from the hands of you treacherous Nigeria bimbos.

If by textual expression you somehow could determine I'm such a depressed person who critically needs help, then you should also be able to determine why do you keep struggling in denial, for refusing to acknowledge how much you reek of low self-esteem. Relax , breathe out and take a deep look at your moniker, it's not hard to figure unless you're a bimbo!

Serene123:


I learnt from his experience.

And the best thing to do is stay back and think, analyse the situation. Rushing to end the relationship immediately may not be the right idea cos everything staring me on the face are ASSUMPTIONS.

I have been thinking. Okay right now I end the relationship.

Why did I end the relationship?
My babe is cheating on me.
How did I know she is cheating on me?.

On Xmas day she was out with a guy who always call her.

I don't really know how that sound to u?.

I am am staying back for now to clear my head

binarykid:
God bless that married man! I wish I can do same and have the talk with you.

You see everybody here shouting break up! end it! she is cheating! bla bla bla hmmmm. It is true that every situation is peculiar but we can still pick certain similarities from each situation.

I know the feeling of even imagining that your babe is cheating on you, 1million thoughts would flood your mind from different angles. It is even worse when it is someone you truly love. I have seen relationships crash based on assumptions, infact I know a guy that practically added his fingerprint on his lady's phone and can call this lady over 50times a day whenever she is out of the house cos of suspision (its usually a crazy feeling to deal with). The lady was actually innocent on all claims but had to save some of her male friend's name with female names cos explaining to the guy that there was nothing makes no difference and dragging the phone even makes it worse. Even with all the access the guy had to her phone, he still felt insecure and would always look for something. (insecurity grows)

You are the one in the situation and only you can make the decision for yourself cos you know the level of relationship/understanding you have and have built with your babe. I will still suggest you have a heart to heart with her. [Get her to introduce you to this 'friend'] analyze her response and make your decision whether to trust her or not. Don't allow the ongoing DNA scandal becloud your mind.

I am certain that even with the 'space' your mind would still wonder about where she is or what she is doing. While someone is around also trying to warm her way into your heart. Don't lose a 'supposed' good girl on the platter of assumptions.

I hope you make the best decision for you.

Serene123:


I learnt from his experience.

And the best thing to do is stay back and think, analyse the situation. Rushing to end the relationship immediately may not be the right idea cos everything staring me on the face are ASSUMPTIONS.

I have been thinking. Okay, right now I end the relationship.

Why did I end the relationship?
My babe is cheating on me.
How did I know she is cheating on me?.

On Xmas day she was out with a guy who always calls her.

I don't know how that sound to u?.

I am staying back, for now, to clear my head

Serene123:


I learnt from his experience.

And the best thing to do is stay back and think, analyse the situation. Rushing to end the relationship immediately may not be the right idea cos everything staring me on the face are ASSUMPTIONS.

I have been thinking. Okay right now I end the relationship.

Why did I end the relationship?
My babe is cheating on me.
How did I know she is cheating on me?.

On Xmas day she was out with a guy who always call her.

I don't really know how that sound to u?.

I am am staying back for now to clear my head

Serene123:


I learnt from his experience.

And the best thing to do is stay back and think, analyse the situation. Rushing to end the relationship immediately may not be the right idea cos everything staring me on the face are ASSUMPTIONS.

I have been thinking. Okay right now I end the relationship.

Why did I end the relationship?
My babe is cheating on me.
How did I know she is cheating on me?.

On Xmas day she was out with a guy who always call her.

I don't really know how that sound to u?.

I am am staying back for now to clear my head

Opus85:
This is the marriage we are talking about and not boyfriend girlfriend matter. Someone you want to wife is already behaving like this, how will she behave in marriage?

Chii59:
Funny enough, more men wail on romance land than women.
Why on earth should a mere misunderstanding lead to a scuffle which damaged her nails.
Children everywhere

Excel99:
My two Kobo advise is that, you can't change anyone. Only God has the prerogative to change people. If you go on to marry her, be prepared for consistent heart break. Even if she leaves that guy, there will be another. I like to ask though, have you made her to reach orgasm. Are you a selfish lover in the bed. This could be key

triangulation:

Alright, I will chat you up

dayorich:


I'm still waiting for your chat sir.

triangulation:

I can teach you. I don't know how the private mailing thingy work on Nairaland. If you can drop your WhatsApp number here, I will chat you up

Serene123:
Please I will need your constructive opinion on this. Been battling with this thoughts for some time now.

I engaged my girl last year. Reason why I did engage her was because I saw her intent to be with me. I have seen her gave out her cash to help get somethings for our new apartment. She has even used her cash to buy some properties she wants in the house when we get married.
She has stood and defended me to her family on why she is getting married to me. She has really earned my trust and never regretted engaging her. She is one girl that every man will like to have as wife

In the course of our relationship months back, I noticed there is this guy that call her. I questioned and she said is just a friend. I have told her I am not comfortable with the call. Yes I have listened to the calls and it doesn't sound serious
On 25th Dec I place a call across to her phone and she wasn't picking. She later told me reason why she didn't pick.
While we were together I noticed she didn't pick cos she went out with the same guy I have been complaining about. I got to know via a pic.
She has insisted nothing serious is going on.
I was so angry and I needed to take her phone and check up something. We struggled with the phone and she injured her nails.. She is saying I am a woman beater and I have anger issue.
She started keeping to herself and phone and was bold to tell me that this action of mine has succeeded in killing the feelings she has for me.

She has asked for time to get her mental health back and for close to two weeks now we haven't been flowing well..

I have tried to talk to her so we fix this shit but she said she needs time.

I have decided to give her the time she needs while I focus on something else. Yes, I miss her

I won't lie, is emotional for me and someone is currently trying to fill her vacuum by being all nice. I am getting closer to her, but my heart still yearn for my fiance.

I don't know if I am doing the right thing by being close to another lady. I don't know if I should belivee her that she has lost feelings for me and move on.
I need your advise.

Sorry for the lengthy thread