Including your sisters and your useless girl friend.

mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

Before the birth of my first born

My wife will want to have sex like five time a week , the urge was always there and he mostly be the one to ask for it .

Fast forward 32x

now , we have our last born ...

She is no more interested in sex as before and I still want sex like 3-4 times a week ooooooooo


That's how women push their men out to have sex outside

Olunmercy56:
Some married women said most of their husbands are not romantic enough, some husbands concentrate more on work than their family. Etc

Which will you propose; a husband that is romantic or the one that work hard to provide for her??

CalliDora1:

Na food?

On a more serious note though, I think what usually causes it is, the woman is most times overwhelmed with the wifely duties at the homefront. in the process she's expended therefore sex will be the last thing on her mind as the passion for it will have died from exaustion from doing chores. If you observed, it usually happens after the kids have started coming and the workload has increased.

If the man can make arrangements for a house help ( not necessarily a live-in help) to assist with the chores, the woman will be more relaxed to reason sex as it's only a relaxed mind that can get a woman in the mood .

Stop it CalliDora, are you talking about this same Nigeria where majority of wives have maids who do the chores? Or at least live-in family members who assist in household duties.

Olunmercy56:


You are blessed for that

Amen

RisenPhoenix1:


Women use sex to buy love. Men use love to buy sex. Like any economic transaction each party is looking to find a bargain, i.e. spend the minimum amount of their currency to purchase the maximum amount of the service they need. So once women have gotten the man's commitment, they will thereafter spend as little sex as is necessary to keep him from straying to another market. Whereas, once a man has acquired the woman's sexual favours, he will spend the minimum amount of love and commitment to keep her from withholding them. The best solution is to marry more than one wife. Thereafter, they can share the sexual burden among themselves, and the man can pretend to love all of them equally and share a little of his attention among each of them; satisfying all parties involved.

Factoid of life. Free of charge for you.

Evil genius. Nice one

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[1] Ishilove --F
[2] Harthor5 --F
[3] Olummercy56 --F
[4] teleprompter---F
[5] CalliDora1 --F
[6] Bukatyne ---F

Didn't know nairaland has these many females in. the forum. Now I know what kind of topics that interest them!

Love it!

I'm still doubting the gender of the two below

Ishilove, Olumercy56

You words display great intelligence

With polygamy, there would be rivalry. Each woman would double up on her efforts to keep more of their mutual husband's attention. There will also always be a nagging feeling that another wife is getting more sex than her, and this will trigger the wife to try to get even more from the husband (keeping a greater share of the market so to speak). Finally, a woman always finds a man infinitely more attractive when he is not readily available to her beck and call; and it also triggers their possessiveness when other available females find him attractive. All these complexities will work in his favour.

A woman in a female herd does not think the same way as a woman with exclusive attention to a man. Polygamy is a woman leveller and destroys all their transactional techniques; that is why women hate it. It is like the difference between a customer's options in a monopoly and in a free market; the man being the customer in this case.[/quote]

Komu1048:



How you people arrive at. Women in the past don’t work beats my imagination. Women that wakes up as early as 4 am sweeps the compound before the husband even wake up n cook for the family.

Then follow their husband to the farm, produce oil, weed, harvest and cook for the workers. Get firewood and harvests, carry it on their head home(most of the distance are minimum 5km) and yet do all the house cleaning and arrangement and wash cloths.


Last last, as the husband sleeps, she wakes and watch over the kid and husband at intervals to ensure they are fine. Don't even compare women of old days with women of this generation. God won't even forgive you if you do

Doing house chores isn't an occupation, of what financial gain does sweeping the house bring?

I'm saying women should leave all Accounting, Medical, Business and Political jobs they do today for the men like it was in the past to stay home and practice home making and petty trading.

That way the women complaining about men not having enough money can sustain the polygamous relationships

esthel:
I think you should contribute intelligently and logically. This post isn't for people like you. Mind you "All of them" includes your mother, sisters, aunties,female friends" etc so you need to watch your words.

this "including your sisters and mother" doesn't have the kind of weight your gender people believe it has. What's special about one's sister or mother?
The guy is still a morron though

Olunmercy56:
Some married women said most of their husbands are not romantic enough, some husbands concentrate more on work than their family. Etc

it shows u are not marid,u nid 2 b marid b4 u cn hv a say on dis

mariahAngel:


Don't mind him.

Polygamy will lead you to an early grave because of sex. No go do pass yourself o!

too much s?x will not lead you to death, i guess. You cant escape death, thats the law of nature, not to much sex

ArcFresky:
Personally, this is my worst fear...I detest cheaters. I need to marry a nymph.

Let's pray your wish don't come through. You hv no idea what a nympho is................

Ilekokonit:
Most black women lose interest in sex after 2 kids.

Also, one of the major causes why black women lose interest in sex after 2 kids is because after each child birth, black women damage the lining of their vaginas by steaming it with boiling water when they sit on potties filled with boiling water, herbs and Dettol all in the name of healing the insides of their reproductive tract. This has the effect of cooking the insides of their vagina to a point where they no longer have much feeling in their vagina as the sensitive nerves in their vagina has been damaged beyond repair and because they can not feel anything in their vagina (barring a horse dick), they shy away from sex which they no longer enjoy because they have with their own hands damaged their own vagina.

This is before factoring in that after 2 kids, their vaginas has been stretched / widened and at times torn by a difficult child birth and so with them now boiling their vaginas by sitting of a potty filled with boiling water, the result is that their vaginas are no longer fit for purpose as they can no longer feel their husbands dick and they then start using sex as a weapon by denying the man sex and so the man has no choice and decides to satisfy his natural urges outside with a woman who gives him sexual healing and also treats him better than his wife who by now is only interested in the kids and loves neglecting her husbands needs.

What is this one saying sef

bizme:
Let's not go down that particular rabbit hole. It is only people without a good knowledge of history that tries to idolize the past and paint the present in grimmer hue. In the past there were utility values for polygamy that were peculiar to that time. First, most of the households were farmers with hundreds and thousands of acres to till. The fact that there was no organized labour as it were (sometimes community arrangements existed), each man literally had to produce his own workforce in-house. In other words, there was a specific need for having several children.
Secondly, diseases like malaria, sickle disease, polio, and many communicable diseases that were not understood, were killing children in particular in droves. And surviving to adulthood literally became a game of numbers. You might start out with 10 children under the age of 5 and only 1 or 2 survived to adulthood. It is not uncommon for most grandmothers 90 years and above to tell stories of how many children they gave birth to and how many actually survived. This in particular, together with the first point, necessitated the polygamous arrangement.

Lastly, mortality rate for men was much terrible at the time, many dying from communal clashes and wars or getting raided by slave-traders. More women, much fewer men.

Polygamy served specific societal purposes and it wasn't because of sex or waning desire for sex. Most wives were circumcised, and it was generally frowned upon for a wife to enjoy sex any way.

I am setting the record straight here because that guy was incorrectly trying to paint a lofty picture of the past.

Wow. A comment like this is what I always crave for anytime I open any thread on this forum. Very educative and factual.

Not my wife

bizme:
I really enjoyed your exposition although I disagree with your prescription of polygamy as the solution. If your premise is correct it means everyone of the polygamously acquired wife will eventually lose taste for sex. So the cycle continues... How many wives would a man then need to keep to sustain his sexual desires?

Your assertion isn't exactly true..
If a man marries more than one wife and each wife decides to give a certain amount of $ex,to keep the husband's love and attention..
Then it follows that the cumulative effect should go a long way to satisfy the sexual needs of the man..

SimplyFacts:


I'm still doubting the gender of the two below

Ishilove, Olumercy56

I'm male...

angelfallz:
Not for me. helping with house chores would be at my own discretion or a chore i choose to do myself

Try and provide assistance to your wife at all times. If you can't do the chores regularly, get someone who can

Olunmercy56:
Some married women said most of their husbands are not romantic enough, some husbands concentrate more on work than their family. Etc

That is where many women get it wrong. It is through that men get so much involved with work in marriage than when they were single but this is because the man cares and do not want his family to suffer. This is supposed to be the time for the women to understand and even be more romantic with the husband than they had ever being but unfortunately all they focus on is what the men are not doing, they hardly talk about what they have done to put things in order

.

Nigerian men are boring in bed. Porn movies are meant to lecture you on how to spice up your marriage. A woman loses interest in sex after giving you obvious possible signals to up your game. Secondly, men after marriage now see sex as a right and demand for it at a woman's odd hours. Communication is key to a healthy sex life after marriage.

Hi Heroclitus, I can see you sent me a mail, what is it you want to talk about?

mariahAngel:


Let's say we go with it:

The question is can most men of nowadays do what the men of old did?
Can they do what their grandfathers and great grandfathers did?
Can they cater for a polygamous family? Heck! They're even barely able to cater for a monogamous family, talk more of...

Na by talk?

my grandfather married 12 wives and had a lot of concubines. He never had to buy any of them weavon that cost 120k or bought any of them cars. I could easily provide for 20 women what he provided his wives back then. The men of this age are a proper joke and not worthy of the title of a man. You see a man will toil and buy his wife a car she will be using it to carry a boy to a hotel or even just dash it out to a pastor. If you think a woman in a polygamous home under a serious patriarch will try that nonsense you are obviously joking. These women wipe the floor with their men because they know their position is secure and the man is a joke

mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

Lol

So who would now be assisting me with bringing in money for the family?

BennyDGreat:


Try and provide assistance to your wife at all times. If you can't do the chores regularly, get someone who can

mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

Just like all the females in your family! Ewu

Ishilove:

I'm male...

Thanks for clarification, Boss

mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

Our mother nko

I think it has a lot to do with biology and priorities especially when the children start coming! Women undergo alot of hormonal and biological changes after childbirth and as you know, taking care of children preoccupies the average woman more than man

mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

What does Nigerian girls are useless got to do with these suggestion... u dey craze?

Sometimes the men just come, do 2minutes romance and then sex... this makes sex uninteresting. I want Sex to involve exploring, the pre-intimacy matters a lot but some husband just kiss the breast small, then start fingering and then sex with the absence of a cuddle after the deed, begins to look like a routine and the woman suddenly gets tired of it.