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| Re: Sex Before Marriage by baralatie(m): 11:15pm On Jan 18, 2021 |
Millenniumlady:Ehen! You need egusi or afang soup? |
| Re: Sex Before Marriage by mrksquare: 11:18pm On Jan 18, 2021 |
If only women understand that many men magic stick isnt kicking, hence the need to test run it. My ex keep complaining how her husband played a 419 on her by insisting on bed undefiled. The night of their honey moon it dawned on her that her husband has erectile dysfunction. He hardly can sustain erection. I always advise ladies to test so you won't start regretting the way my ex keep confiding in me about her ordeal. I'm a realist. my philosophy has always been that of testing is a vital element in relationship. Sexual compatibility is very essential in the sustainance of marriage. 1 Like |
| Re: Sex Before Marriage by Nobody: 11:19pm On Jan 18, 2021 |
MOVIC6: Exactly.. it's a sin 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: Sex Before Marriage by youngchopper(m): 11:21pm On Jan 18, 2021 |
really wordly love is blind and will lead you into destruction if you don't desist from it! relatioship that can lead into marriage is a timing bomb! if as a child of God and you are serious in going into marriage you don't need sex as a test for marriage! sex is meant for husband/wife untill then you don't have the right to have sex with a woman. what's the way forward friendship is the key to discover your missing ribs! adam/Eve were on friendship even in marriage and they did not have sex! God wanted them to be friends for a while before he will reveal the need and process on multiplication Gen 1:28! it was after the temptation of man that Adam realised what unclothedness is all bout God was not yet done with Adam on how to go about having sex with his wife Eve but in today's world if the man never see Toto Bleep e go be like say make the world end or maybe the babe no like the Bobo! taa! that's manipulation from the demonic kingdom women protect your virginity if you are no longer a virgin move on with your life and forgive the man and don't ever expect bride price from a man who wants to marry you that criminality and for the men pls learn on how to pick a wife from friendship and not from sex relationship advice most successful marriages is when you marry your best friend and not your sex mate! this is the word of God! thanks be to master #jesus #holyspirit una weldone #a_friend_of_man_is_a_friend_of_God king David 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Sex Before Marriage by BOSMANARIS(m): 11:27pm On Jan 18, 2021 |
Ladylite: No interest can be lost before marriage.....maybe on the case, there's no genuine intention (the reason for going for her is just for the purpose of sex). Someone said and I quote, "we value sex more when unmarried, reason we are so eager to have anytime the opportunity present itself" It is while in marriage that the loose of interest steps in. 1 Like |
| Re: Sex Before Marriage by Awoleesu(m): 11:27pm On Jan 18, 2021 |
I can sense you have a deep desire for an honest, practical answer. Whatever your motive for this post, I'll try as much as I can to answer according to my readings of your feelings... Sex is one basic instinct that humans and lesser animals have in common. While the latter are indiscriminate and indiscrete about who (sex partner) to engage it with or where to have it as well as the attendant consequences of it, humans make conscious and calculated actions about sex, hence we refer to ourselves as higher/advanced animals. In our bid to be 'human', we unlike animals have what is called Controlled Sex. Controlled sex entails every such effort to make sex fulfilling and less embarrassing (animalistic), and such tools in controlling sex include Sex education, medical measures (contraceptives and co) and of course Marriage! Now, on whether I think Sex before marriage is good or bad? I'll rather separate both terms: Sex is one major reason for marriage, but Marriage is far beyond just sex! So, if you attempt to forge a connexion between the two ( as is suggested in your question), I'll ask why do you want marriage? If you realise and take into account what Marriage entails, trust me, you'll always find that Sex is by far a minimal motivation for marriage (in the long run). For young partners (pre or post wedding) sex is a big factor, and this is understandable given the high level of sexual hormones running in the body. However, as age and other factors such as the struggle for economic balance and responsibilities set in, lesser attention is paid to sex. Let me be clear, sex before or after marriage will largely depend on the individual's principles - some borne out of religious or family precepts indoctrination. But for me, it would largely be about choice! Choice, as in "Why" or "Why not". If your choice to do or not to do it is primarily powered by external influences (peer pressure, religious standing etc) then I guess you still have a long way to go in understanding Marriage itself! But if your choice (and/or action) is based on a Purpose ( where you have clearly defined what is worth it for you), then I think you are good to determine whether sex is OK before your marrying or whether you hold on till after the wedding... In any case, the answer is always relative. What is important is that you know what you are doing! 4 Likes |
| Re: Sex Before Marriage by SpicyMimi(f): 11:35pm On Jan 18, 2021 |
Sex before marriage will cause you a lot of problems, both Mental & Physical...So run, Flee!!! 3 Likes |
| Re: Sex Before Marriage by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 11:35pm On Jan 18, 2021 |
I am sorry, but I will f*ck you before marriage. Who wants to end up with a 2 minutes man anyway? Just introduce the tip, and cum will be everywhere. 1 Like |
| Re: Sex Before Marriage by Princelyleo(m): 11:48pm On Jan 18, 2021 |
I didn't sleep with my future wife until we were married and that was during 10 months of courtship 2 Likes |
| Re: Sex Before Marriage by cooooooks(m): 12:01am On Jan 19, 2021 |
Sexual chemistry is key to long-term relationships and is an integral part of most healthy relationships. People should take their partners as they are and find the 'correct' answer to this question for their relationship. Do not have (or eschew) sex to 'save' a relationship. If you differ with your partner on this question, do not change your principle to 'save' the relationship. There is no guarantee that this will work in the long term. Even if it does, you are likely to despise your partner for making you break your principles. Personally, I don't see how my spouse and I will be in a healthy relationship and not be yoked. Then again, the major problem with 'pre-marital' sex is religion. I am no longer religious, and those reasons are now less pertinent. KimVenom: |
| Re: Sex Before Marriage by tete7000(m): 12:01am On Jan 19, 2021 |
KimVenom: Why subtracting religious belief out of it? Is religious belief not enough reason not to do something? God tells you don't do something, you don't need any other reason before you stop. God is enough reason to desist from a sinful act. He knows what is good or bad for man. |
| Re: Sex Before Marriage by solofresh(m): 12:09am On Jan 19, 2021 |
Why do some women thinks that sex favours only the man? Sex is enjoyed by both genders involved in it |
| Re: Sex Before Marriage by okwusdidi: 12:31am On Jan 19, 2021 |
If you can have sex before marriage then what is the need for the marital institution or is sex just for fun??What is marriage.But i would rather remain single than marry a fool. |
| Re: Sex Before Marriage by Elxandre(m): 12:37am On Jan 19, 2021 |
Funny thing is most guys who agree with such terms with their women often have one or more persons they're sampling outside. You marry a supposedly innocent man and end up with a cheat somehow. Lol |
| Re: Sex Before Marriage by simplesearch: 12:55am On Jan 19, 2021 |
How do you exclude religion from your affairs when the most important part of you that will remain for all eternity is your soul and spirit not the flesh you want to satisfy with fornication or premarital sex. Even without adding religious angle to your request, the moral implications of involving in premarital sex speaks volume. Come to think of it, will you be happy to have a daughter later in life that a man from the blue will be using her body to experiment with at will in the name of marriage which most times dont work out as a result of see finish. Another is that during this premarital sexcapade the tendency for abortion is rife some of which may end up being badly handled thereby resulting in serious damage to some of the vital reproductve organs, with attendant future complications and unwarranted tears. Also the shame and guilt of not being able to keep yourself till your d-day is also a factor to consider before undertaken such inglorious journey. Finally, your partner may forever be unable to trust you again to be a faithful partner since according to him if you can allow him to keep experimenting with your body even when you are not yet married he believes you can do it with any other person while keeping a sealed lip, in essence he sees you as a glorified LovePeddler, so your value diminishes greatly. My advice: Keep off premarital sex at all cost and earn your partners respect forever, even if he or she pester you your ability to hold your ground and not yield will make your partner hold you in high esteem, he will even be proud to talk about your uniqueness among his friend. You don't have to know all this to do what God has already instructed you do. Flee from fornication whether with random men or future partner! The best and most trusted antidote to premarital sex with the one with whom you're going to spend the rest of your life with is prayers, the more you pray before meeting him the less the desire to pull towards the flesh. And most importantly, ensure you avoid private visit to his house or frequent meetings at odd hours this may be a recipe for rape! 5 Likes |
| Re: Sex Before Marriage by na2016: 1:00am On Jan 19, 2021 |
KimVenom: OP: You will not get a one answer fit all. Alot of advantages of abstinence has been mentioned already but I will say if you can abstain is good but find a way to know if you are sexually compatible with your partner, this may sound simple but this has caused a lot of problems in very many homes. |
| Re: Sex Before Marriage by jonnayo(m): 1:07am On Jan 19, 2021 |
UyaiIncomparabl: This is the same lady that said she is a virgin. Please sister sex before marriage is a sin. |
| Re: Sex Before Marriage by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 1:12am On Jan 19, 2021 |
jonnayo: Story. I must test drive to avoid stories that touch the heart. |
| Re: Sex Before Marriage by erico2k2(m): 1:12am On Jan 19, 2021 |
MOVIC6:Nah today! that only concerns religious persons. |
| Re: Sex Before Marriage by SkyRicks: 1:15am On Jan 19, 2021 |
iamcee: Excellent word applicable in dream world. Once there is delay in marriage plans it obvious you partner will need sex like bad because in reality what you said holds no water. Sex after marriage is not for two year relationship oh oo immediately after the cultural stuff the man feels the need for it denial him that and sign you future divorce papers |
| Re: Sex Before Marriage by K4daniel: 1:31am On Jan 19, 2021 |
Sex before marriage is deep, it's kind of complicated and problematic in the end...women suffer more than men, If you want a complicated life and a low lifestyle, full of regrets, diseases, and possibility of being ashamed, even when you eventually got married things could be terribly terrible and bad. The two of you could be barren and impotent. The fruit of your body could be destroyed due to sex before marriage. Somebody said what you dont know is your senior...Please if you think all i am saying is rubbish, you want to test run and enjoy, pls go ahead, have sex before marriage..enjoy the flower..break the wall of the virginal. Sex and have fun..its your choice..you reap what you sow..In the end it leads to regrets..via unwanted pregnancies, abortion (killing of an innocent soul which God will ask from you if you don't repent and accept Jesus today). Whether you believe it or not, the spiritual controls the physical, in life you reap what you sow. If God says in the bible that marriage is honorable but bed undefiled.. you must not defile yourself, you must not have sex before marriage, it's an instruction for us..Paul warned the corinthians that every sins a man committed is outside his body but he that commits fornication or adultery sin against his own BODY..Sickness, low quality of life, low sperms counts , blockage of womb, loss of virtues(Healing, power, anointing, grace,Good favour with men and women) Gornohea and siphilis including many unknown diseases, mouth odour, body odour , cancer of lungs and scrotum,epileptic, lack of favour and all sorts of afflictions. This is because one has open the hedge of protection. Ecc 10v8 he that breaketh an hedge Serpent will bite. That's why the bible says flee..you think sex is not sweet..you think those men and women who are running from sex before marriage are cowards..No sir..they understand the trouble. They know that the pain is much more than the 5min of pleasure or10min. That 5min the damage has been done eye done clear..virtues are gone. That is why the devil keep tempting alot to keep falling. Men and brethren, it doesnt worth rushing when you know you will still have plenty of it when you are married infact do and tire. Think of the consequences. You could end up losing your life over a girl or man you had sex with. Its called transfer of demons..whatever inside you enters the other person vise-versa.If the spirit of death is pursuing one because there is a demon inside the man that is attracting death and an innocent girl who sleep with him. Same spirit begin to pursue the two. A lady had sex with a chain smoker and suddenly she said I just feel like smoking. Please keep yourself clean as a woman or man. There are various rewards for OBEDIENCE, such as open doors, favour, longlife, divine health, divine Prosperity, divine guidance and Joy with a life full of testimonies. We should be able to tell our kids i never slept with my wife/ husband before I married her/ him. GOD'S INSTRUCTION IS CLEAR, OBEDIENCE IS BETTER THAN SACRIFICE. IF YOU HAVE DONE THIS SIN MANY TIMES, GOD WILL FORGIVE YOU ONLY IF YOU REPENT AND ASK FOR FORGINESS, MERCY, FORSAKING YOUR WAYS AND ACCEPTING JESUS CHRIST TODAY AS YOUR LORD AND SAVIOUR. GOD HELP US ALL. 6 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Sex Before Marriage by pasol4real(m): 1:39am On Jan 19, 2021 |
iamcee:My dear this points you raised are not valid especially if they really love each other n really intend to be together |
| Re: Sex Before Marriage by COdeGenesis: 1:45am On Jan 19, 2021 |
Its better you have like sex for like a month before marriage. The lady should be satisfied beyond doubt and the guy should be satisfied beyond doubt. That way you both know you are sexually okay and compatible. The lady should equally get pregnant too to avoid stories 1 Like |
| Re: Sex Before Marriage by yYot: 2:50am On Jan 19, 2021 |
Doradorwa:See.... What you do not understand is this: Lust is Sex! |
| Re: Sex Before Marriage by yYot: 3:02am On Jan 19, 2021 |
Toks2008:This comment is a Big lie! When you are married, your eye go clear! |
| Re: Sex Before Marriage by AmbassadoR100(m): 3:33am On Jan 19, 2021 |
Bro. Sex before marriage is hard to resist with a woman beside you but with God nothing is impossible. Sex before marriage has its own consequences like unwanted pregnancy and Stds and even death. Our body is the temple of the Holy Spirit and so we should keep it sacred till the right time. Feeding your body all the time will make it strong to overcome you and lead you to Sin... So try and tame it atimes by not feeding it. If the woman beside you is a potential wife... The only way not to have sex with her is to first discus it with her.... Set strict standards for yourself and maintain it. Avoid being with her in a lonely place or laying in same bed with her. Pray and read the word of God always. Finally, if you are not yet ready for marriage... No need to have any woman in your life cos you can't dine with the devil and expect to win. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: Sex Before Marriage by Parkees(f): 3:36am On Jan 19, 2021 |
Bluehill1051: Broke mutha***k spotted. Vanity crew! |
| Re: Sex Before Marriage by ddeola: 3:36am On Jan 19, 2021 |
The truth be told e no easy o. That's why a very long courtship is not always encouraged. But if both of them are on the same page and agree to abstain until their wedding night it is very possible. My opinion, don't deceive yourself. I you are not ready for that aspect, stay away from any serious relationship. Body no be firewood o  |
| Re: Sex Before Marriage by OLULAW: 4:30am On Jan 19, 2021 |
Doradorwa: I would rather listen to this kind of pragmatic and honest person than Bible bashing hypocrites. Thank you lady. |
| Re: Sex Before Marriage by weyreypey: 4:48am On Jan 19, 2021 |
Millenniumlady:A lesbian in the making. Pity the unfortunate man who wifes you |
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