stupidmod5:
my point, when u married u will have d nodge to have sex every where, because bed room sex get boring u wont know this cause u are still a virgin.

Let them have sex even inside a burning furnace and I won't care as far as they leave no traces.

There are husband and wives with children, all living in one room and no one knows how they have sex, so what's the difference, here wash the bedsheet after that's maturity, if you must use a room another sleeps in keep it clean, sex is more than two married people breathing fast and sinking deeper into one another, it a connection that points to everything we are it only little kids that takes sex as flimsy, do you know how many forces act during sex

Gang90:
So guys it valentine's day, I'm really disgusted, okay I stay in my brothers house, I travelled, I came back around 2:30 I wanted to enter my room but my brother told me wait a while, with my adult mind, I realised they having some couple time, I dropped my bag in the living room and head out.

But I came back to find out the room is scattered and the bedsheet there, a responsible woman should at least wash the bed sheet noting that a grown up Male stays there.

I will be 26 this year, I had not really had sex so all these things imagining a strange woman's bodily fluids in my bedsheet is disgusting. I can take it from the side of my brother but not the wife, she disgusts me honestly, she is not my girlfriend, not my sister, not my wife, not my mother why should she expect I wash her after sex sheets for her or why can't she just pick the sheet immediately and wash it, it could have dried by now. And it really feel awful for me if I try to wash it, honestly.

This is about to be the worst valentine's day for me, I'm planning to head out and rent a room in hotel but who knows most hotel rooms will be disgusting today, what do I do please advice.

I'm hating knowing already, cause if I didn't know it could all not be so dirty to me, now my bed looks so dirty to me and I can't attempt to wash it until at least 24 hours and I will wash it soaked in hot water, I hate nonses just cause my brothers accepts you does not mean everyone in the family sees you as one flesh.

Don't they have their room? In any case, if you are really hurt and you can't vex and leave the house cos you are still a dependent, what you should do as a man who is really hurt is to tell her to her face and jokingly that she should have washed and lay your bed after it was used......then wait and see what ensue later..

She will either be shocked, ashamed or just plainly vex and scatter it for you..lol
.this is what I can do to make me feel better and make her feel bad or confuse her....if you did that...she will either be shocked, ashamed vex or respect you....in whatever way she react...you win...lol
..though she might tell ur bro...but no biggy

Gang90:

I said I will stay up and work through the night then tomorrow, I can sleep a bit in the parlour cause I said I will not touch that sheet until after 24 hours, I had brought my work chair from my chair stack and I know what I'm saying, tomorrow, I might take the bedsheet to the cleaner or wash it with hot water, that's me but I have other reasons to take a little movement, 1. The well is almost dry and the pumping machine no longer works effectively, I wash two cars at least once a week, I help with the school runs or staying with the kids if they are going out, but now that it clear they have no regards whatsoever, I'm going to take a little break until at least work is less, let me see how the wife will not wash the sheet herself this time, she will draw water from over 20 feet underground and my brother might wash his cars himself or go to the car wash and myself will be more than happy to work from home even if it in a car wash, if I wash two cars a week it will be #1400 a week it not a bad start if it even the only option

If am your brother, you will also sleep in your own house and cook your own food, with your own pots.
Frankly, you are just immature. Better go wash those sheets before I open my eyes.

Anyways, I understand.
I stayed with my sister and her husband once when I was still job hunting and the husband brother was also staying in the house too because it was a very large house with many rooms

One afternoon I came back from my outing and when I got to the room I was staying I found the door locked. I wanted to knock but before I was able to I heard adult noise/ sex noise coming from inside the room so I just stepped away and went to wait in sitting room for my sister husband brother ( ) and his girlfriend to come out, I knew it was him in the room and it couldn't have been my sister and her husband because both of them had jobs that they work 9 to 5 and are never at home in the afternoon.

Anyway after some time the guy came out and came to sit in parlor to do his office work on the laptop. He didnt even look embarassed or anything, just greeted normal greeting and started arranging his work station in parlor, meanwhile the girlfriend was still in the room, probably sleeping. I couldn't force her to go out so that I can enter my room to freshen up and rest so I stayed inside parlor waiting for her to wake and leave.

After some time she sha got up and joined us in parlor then her boyfriend ordered shawarma for both of us and we ate and then he ordered uber for her to take her home then she left

Chai

When I got back to my room the whole bed looked like iyamma to me, I even saw empty carton of postinor 2 on the bedsheets to confirm that they were doing mummy and daddy on my bed. I dont know why they didn't use their own room.
I dont know why they didnt lock the house door and do it in parlor, why they chose my bed instead.
I told my sister about it when she returned from work and she laughed and said I should lock the door next time and go out with the key.

Since I couldn't sleep on that iyamma bedsheets where two people did their yamayama I turned the mattress over and dusted it hard and spread like two wrappers on it to sleep that night.

Then I washed the bedsheets in washing machine.


The end.


Chai, I too dey talk sha. Who asked me for my life story sef?


OP sorry about all this, regardless of what anyone says, it was very wrong of them to have sex in your room, very wrong and unhygienic.

Sleep on the floor or remove the sheets and sleep on bare mattress. Tomorrow wear nylon bag on your hands and wash the bedspread.

Ndo

GerogeI:


If am your brother, you will also sleep in your own house and cook your own food, with your own pots.
Frankly, you are just immature. Better go wash those sheets before I open my eyes.

That the best I will be in my family house and i will make it faster and we divide everything for a start, and I will be a landlord

Gang90:

That the best I will be in my family house and i will make it faster and we divide everything for a start, and I will be a landlord

Are you from where?
You think things will be divided just because you want it done. Better go ask your elders, that you are agitated does not mean you inheritance will be handed down especially if you are likely to waste it away as you sound quite immature.

CHoccolaTE:
Anyways, I understand.
I stayed with my sister and her husband once when I was still job hunting and the husband brother was also staying in the house too because it was a very large house with many rooms

One afternoon I came back from my outing and when I got to the room I was staying I found the door locked. I wanted to knock but before I was able to I heard adult noise/ sex noise coming from inside the room so I just stepped away and went to wait in sitting room for my sister husband brother ( ) and his girlfriend to come out, I knew it was him in the room and it couldn't have been my sister and her husband because both of them had jobs that they work 9 to 5 and are never at home in the afternoon.

Anyway after some time the guy came out and came to sit in parlor to do his office work on the laptop. He didnt even look embarassed or anything, just greeted normal greeting and started arranging his work station in parlor, meanwhile the girlfriend was still in the room, probably sleeping. I couldn't force her to go out so that I can enter my room to freshen up and rest so I stayed inside parlor waiting for her to wake and leave.

After some time she sha got up and joined us in parlor then her boyfriend ordered shawarma for both of us and we ate and then he ordered uber for her to take her home then she left

Chai

When I got back to my room the whole bed looked like iyamma to me, I even saw empty carton of postinor 2 on the bedsheets to confirm that they were doing mummy and daddy on my bed. I dont know why they didn't use their own room.
I dont know why they didnt lock the house door and do it in parlor, why they chose my bed instead.
I told my sister about it when she returned from work and she laughed and said I should lock the door next time and go out with the key.

Since I couldn't sleep on that iyamma bedsheets where two people did their yamayama I turned the mattress over and dusted it hard and spread like two wrappers on it to sleep that night.

Then I washed the bedsheets in washing machine.


The end.


Chai, I too dey talk sha. Who asked me for my life story sef?


OP sorry about all this, regardless of what anyone says, it was very wrong of them to have sex in your room, very wrong and unhygienic.

Sleep on the floor or remove the sheets and sleep on bare mattress. Tomorrow wear nylon bag on your hands and wash the bedspread.

Ndo

Lol, this situation is quite horrible, I might not even sleep tonight, I just can't wait for day to break, I'm allergic to cold floors and also has Tommy pains whenever I sleep on extremely hard surfaces, i could however work till about 5 o'clock then tomorrow morning, i can go back to my family house for the time being or go spend sometimes with other of my siblings.

Then I will plan for whatever place I stay, it is terrible for me, if I didn't have options then it will be manageable but I have options, and staying here is not adding much values, my job I'm supposed to be travelling about but just becuase I stay here it feels somehow becuase I do work here and shelters had never been a problem to me and I can feed myself so why do they carelessly take my peace away, today is valentine day, if I decided to stay home, there couple of women and friend out there, why won't they even leave a little peace. Responsibility should have shown the woman that since there will be someone else in the room, it should be washed

Gang90:

That the best I will be in my family house and i will make it faster and we divide everything for a start, and I will be a landlord

On the other side of things, nobody expects a 26 year old to spend the night of 14th Feb in his room in his brothers house. On the flipside, am a prudent person like you.

On the reality side, I just want you to know you are missing a huge part of your life now. The girls or girl you are suppose to find now, you will never find once you cross your 30s, not because they are not there, but because you will be a mademan, looking for a needle in a haystack, where everything looks like a needle. So do not do the prudence thing beyond 28. Next year also ensure you have a girl hanging on your arms on 14 th Feb, not observing your bed sheets. You do not need to have sex with her, just have her with you. That alone is a lesson you will need.

GerogeI:


Are you from where?
You think things will be divided just because you want it done. Better go ask your elders, that you are agitated does not mean you inheritance will be handed down especially if you are likely to waste it away as you sound quite immature.

Lol at 26, the right thing to do in Igboland is to share the late father's properties among the boys, I never cared a lot about all those things especially when my brother had most times, taken his responsibilities as a father since my father's passing, I can always ask for my share of my fathers properties any day any time, well I had never looked that way becuase I believe I can make a name for myself but not when my peace is threatened and people making me feel like a liability just becuase I'm spending a temporal phase in my brother's house

GerogeI:


On the other side of things, nobody expects a 26 year old to spend the night of 14th Feb in his room in his brothers house. On the flipside, am a prudent person like you.

On the reality side, I just want you to know you are missing a huge part of your life now. The girls or girl you are suppose to find now, you will never find once you cross your 30s, not because they are not there, but because you will be a madman, looking for a needle in a haystack, where everything looks like a needle. So do not do the prudence thing beyond 28. Next year also ensure you have a girl hanging on your arms on 14 th Feb, not observing your bed sheets. You do not need to have sex with her, just have her with you. That alone is a lesson you will need.

I work for a small news corporation which I traveled to gather some news, women are a lot disturbing and I will be in trouble tomorrow for not taking anyone out, and even yesterday a spiritualist told me to be careful of women, I have at least 7 women that wants to be with me today, of which two are married, I had been serially avoiding women.

That's why all these things looks horrible to me becuase I'm running away from women, my two main lines had been off since morning, I have a project I need to deliver by tomorrow, the way it looks I prefer to stay home so that every girl will think oh, he didn't go out today, but even the home proved no more peaceful

Gang90:

Lol at 26, the right thing to do in Igboland is to share the late father's properties among the boys, I never cared a lot about all those things especially when my brother had most times, taken his responsibilities as a father since my father's passing, I can always ask for my share of my fathers properties any day any time, well I had never looked that way becuase I believe I can make a name for myself but not when my peace is threatened and people making me feel like a liability just becuase I'm spending a temporal phase in my brother's house

Am taking time to respond because you are young and need some mentorship.
If your brother is not taking undue advantage of the properties, then you do not need them yet as you are too young and will lose them.

Read my other post to you too. And think about it. Stop focusing on useless bedsheet that cost less than 2I a piece. By the way, are you guys not suppose to have spare sheets for weekly change or you practice wash and wear.

If its wash and wear, then I can tell you family income is that all that high. So be humble and wash the sheets, then buy a spare. Thats way cheaper than renting your own house out of empty pride.

This thing no be life

Wetin your brother's wife dey do for your house?

Gang90:


I work for a small news corporation which I traveled to gather some news, women are a lot disturbing and I will be in trouble tomorrow for not taking anyone out, and even yesterday a spiritualist told me to be careful of women, I have at least 7 women that wants to be with me today, of which two are married, I had been serially avoiding women.

That's why all these things looks horrible to me becuase I'm running away from women, my two main lines had been off since morning, I have a project I need to deliver by tomorrow, the way it looks I prefer to stay home so that every girl will think oh, he didn't go out today, but even the home proved no more peaceful

God made us to be with women. Only be prudent enough to marry them before sex. I think your spiritualist is just using your head. You are too young for such bullshit.

God, the creator designed you to see and savour women folk, because He needs you to give birth to the next generation. God has no plan of filling the earth with Jesus. He choose us, imperfect sexual beings. You do not know it now, but the truth is that you will be extremely deflated, probably depressed and sad if you do not have women folk around you in your midlife 35-50. So take the church drive for sexual Righteousness with a pint of salt. You need sex, it is a physical need, you cannot avoid. A few years from now, you will no longer be able to avoid sex, you will end up with masturbation if you remain alone. That's a sin as well, so why the hell should you avoid women. Just better find one to marry at the right time.

These are part of the reason why the bible went further to write it, that it's not good for a man to be alone. Do not fornicate, but do not run a way from women.
At every point have one you choose for yourself and keep her close.

Stop consulting spiritualist they will ruin you. If you are so afraid of life at 26 when you have nothing to fear, what will you do when you are much older and have real fears. Just trust God, and have a stubborn self confidence. Make your plans and try your ideas, you will makes mistakes, but from them you will learn the lessons that will help you build a successful life.
I can also see u did not spend a lot of your adult life with your father, and your brother has not filled that role well. Maybe he is too young.

Get yourself a mentor. Look in you work place for a man beyond his 40s or 50s, who you admire, his character and achievements. Meet him privately, and ask him to be your mentor. Tell him that you feel he can help you bridge some gaps you might have in making the journey into manhood. He will not say no. Do not choose a man with a broken home or hideous Character. Choose a man that is being celebrated, your CEO, DCEO, etc. Cheers and welcome to the life of a man!

Gang90:


I like women, I have a girlfriend, I just don't like people not taking responsibility and the more you do it, the more you look like your actions to me.

Why do you hate that innocent woman? (your brother's wife) or is it because she didn't allow her friend to date you?

Bankerboy:
Guy you have a problem, why is it dat you hate ur bro's wife dat much. Ordinary bedsheet. . Is either you remove it or you wash it or you pack out for them. . U've almost rejected every advice here , what do you want us to do 4u nw?

I taya too oo... thanks 4 dis qustn

Felabrity:
This thing no be life

Wetin your brother's wife dey do for your house?

Addicted Gambler read it again

Lol or you mean Brother had sex in his room.

Gang90:


My mates not me, your mates also works as astronauts, why are you typing on nairaland with a phone with broken screen, look, what you don't get is that my stay in my brothers house is mutually beneficial, cause after sex tomorrow they should also get ready to go downstairs and draw water up from over 20 feet water well, cause it is dry season and the pumping machine can no longer work effectively, and me I even need rest, so he wash his car or take it to the car wash, I guess the charge #700 now, I wash two cars every week that's about #1400, do you think if I worked in a car wash from my family house that I can't feed myself not minding that my mum is too happy to feed me.

Since she can't wash her after sex bedsheet, not only will she wash it but she will draw water from a well over 20 feet and my brother, well, he can afford at least #1400 in the car wash every week but he's got sit there and watch it being washed that's what you get when you take some people for granted, at 26, what else do I really need from people that I can't get on my own with the help of God.

Look, I also help with school runs sometimes I guess now either of them might have to stay home more or hirer a maid or get a house help. Case closed.

you are delusional and should better grow the fucck up. Go and confront them and stop forming macho here where no one knows or see you. You're a kid 100% who has no idea what it is like to be on your own. Go stay on your own where nobody will have sex in your room

An entitled nonentity.

Gang90:

Let them have sex even inside a burning furnace and I won't care as far as they leave no traces.

There are husband and wives with children, all living in one room and no one knows how they have sex, so what's the difference, here wash the bedsheet after that's maturity, if you must use a room another sleeps in keep it clean, sex is more than two married people breathing fast and sinking deeper into one another, it a connection that points to everything we are it only little kids that takes sex as flimsy, do you know how many forces act during sex

my friend will u wash ur sheet, stop showing ur virgin self u are just being bitter, keep it to ur self.

jeez u go sch self, even in university people b having sex on ur bed, wen dey don wash n continue stop acting like a class captain what kind of adult are u, u must be a loner bro that just bad

I was wondering where all these was leading to until I read the last sentence. You hate the woman. Why don't you get your own place?

Voltage131:
Why do you hate that innocent woman? (your brother's wife) or is it because she didn't allow her friend to date you?

Not because of that, I don't even know she exist in real time, she's the one always attacking me for no reason, exaggerating any little thing I do, my brother don't even use to tell me so many things she says about me, for instance about a year ago, she was taken home for her disregard of some aspect of our tradition for married women, when they went to her house for peace talks, can you imagine I was not even there neither was the issue about me, but she said all sorts of things against me there, my sister who now is late told me, what she said about me there, my brother did not mention that to me, but still sometimes she travelled, I was home alone and sick, light finished, she came back asked me if light finished I said yes, she walked away called my brother who is not in town told him that I finished the light but did not recharge it, my brother told her, why don't you pity someone that had stayed for days in darkness but have issue that he did not recharge the light, what is my business with recharging light, my brother did not tell me all these but told my late sister who told me, later that day my brother sent me money to go and recharge the light now, my elder sister that leaves in this city and used to tell me all what she says behind my back is no longer here, I had been trying as much as possible to avoid any trouble with anybody, becuase my case will be discussed in places no one will speak for me, so that's it since you went back to dig up my old post, I dont hate her, I just feel indifferent.

pek:
I was wondering where all these was leading to until I read the last sentence. You hate the woman. Why don't you get your own place?

I don't hate her, more like indifference, I had left several times but my brother wants me to stay around cause his business keeps him on the move and sometimes, I need to help with taking care of the kids

Gang90:

I don't hate her, more like indifference, I had left several times but my brother wants me to stay around cause his business keeps him on the move and sometimes, I need to help with taking care of the kids

She don't want you around her,you're suppossing to be living alone in your own apartment not with your brother and his wife,it good to live with your sister with her husband,than to live with your brother with his wife.

stupidmod5:
my friend will u wash ur sheet, stop showing ur virgin self u are just being bitter, keep it to ur self.

jeez u go sch self, even in university people b having sex on ur bed, wen dey don wash n continue stop acting like a class captain what kind of adult are u, u must be a loner bro that just bad

I went to school, I lived in a self contain, never had to share a room, even on matriculation day cause so many people came, so boys had some people who had visitors I allowed their visitors to sleep in my room while I slept in my other friends room, they had sex in my room left a pack of condoms and even used, heaven knew how those guys later disinfected my room, this is not about virgin bulshits, this is my way of life, school or no school people are different, I just don't like people having sex in my personal space and not take responsibility, if you must have sex in a young man's room at least wash the sheets, I'm not a house maid or a laundry guy for crying out loud

Gang90:

I went to school, I lived in a self contain, never had to share a room, even on matriculation day cause so many people came, so boys had some people who had visitors I allowed their visitors to sleep in my room while I slept in my other friends room, they had sex in my room left a pack of condoms and even used, heaven knew how those guys later disinfected my room, this is not about virgin bulshits, this is my way of life, school or no school people are different, I just don't like people having sex in my personal space and not take responsibility, if you must have sex in a young man's room at least wash the sheets, I'm not a house maid or a laundry guy for crying out loud

lol go tell ur brothers wife to wash the sheet

Voltage131:
She don't want you around her,you're suppossing to be living alone in your own apartment not with your brother and his wife,it good to live with your sister with her husband,than to live with your brother with his wife.

What I'm I blocking from her, it is not even about her husband's house, even if we go home in my family house it is that way, I can remember the other time there is more than five buckets in my house but I wanted to wash car I had put water in the bucket, she said she brought out the bucket to use I didn't say anything I brought another bucket turned the water, sometimes at home if I get to kitchen to collect food she will say, why I didn't ask if everyone had eaten, but she don't extend such treatment to her husband or even my second brother, my first brother (Her husband) like few days back we went home together, they are cooking another food but the food remaining, he said I should eat it, he can wait until the other food is done. So I can't tell my mother all these, she will be hurt, and my elder sister I can speak to is no longer there, sometimes I just come to nairaland to just talk, cause I just want to talk, but even when I speak about unrelated issue you guys finds a way to rope hate into it, I made a complaint, people having sex in my room at least tidy it up after it is irritating to me that's all.

stupidmod5:
lol go tell ur brothers wife to wash the sheet

She will wash it, I don't need to tell her, I'm up until tomorrow and I will give them a little space not only would she wash it, she will draw water to wash it. Let them have it to themselves and have sex as much as they wish to, before a month, it will really be up to them to wash it or not

Gang90:

She will wash it, I don't need to tell her, I'm up until tomorrow and I will give them a little space not only would she wash it, she will draw water to wash it. Let them have it to themselves and have sex as much as they wish to, before a month, it will really be up to them to wash it or not

ur own good, be feeling fly

You sounds as if you want to do it with your Bros wife. Werey

stupidmod5:
ur own good, be feeling fly

I'm young, and got grace, I will spread my wing, if i crash it is my decision, i really needed this push, I will buy her a gift if am ever made.

Gang90:

She will wash it, I don't need to tell her, I'm up until tomorrow and I will give them a little space not only would she wash it, she will draw water to wash it. Let them have it to themselves and have sex as much as they wish to, before a month, it will really be up to them to wash it or not

You seem to be living a lonely life
You just have to calm down and like someone said,expect less of people, at times we know what's right,we won't just do it,calm down
You seem hurt.
Just calm down
Ask yourself this question, what if they were little Children?
Make the matter as trivial as a kid
It is okay to feel real bad by it but the truth is,we're humans and we don't follow logic at times
Calm down
Bring in calmness into you and you need to spark up your life so things don't get to you this hard.
You need to create a barrier man and love and your happiness is the best barrier.
Space is good yes,infact the best for healthy family relationship at times but don't leave this hurt..
Your brothers Wife is simply human,don't expect her to be without blemish,ease yourself of whatever hurt and loneliness is inside you