Someone posted a thread on how his brother wife threw is things out because he cooked for a friend who visited and everyone was telling him to find a way to leave the house, is wrong for him to enter her kitchen bla bla bla..

This my question if it was her siblings that did the same would she throw his things out??

Most women are just wicked ,self centered and greed ....this happens in most home... women don't want there in-law visiting is only there people that are welcome.....they want to control the home.
Kitchen is only an issue when the in-law enter to pick anything but if is there own relative you won't hear anything.
My own older brother wife did same to our last born ....she always complaining anytime she visit for few days but her own bro/sis will visit for months without any complain.....my sis haven't step his house for like 3yrs now because of that issh.

Let always speak the truth when we give advise instead of being economical with the truth.....it wasn't because the guy cooked for his friend she threw is things out ....is just wickedness of most women... they don't want to see there in-laws....they want to cut the husband family off for there selfish reasons but if anything happens is still the same people they run to.
This things happens alot and very annoying..... Only a foolish man take such rubbish from is wife....
YOU THROW MY SIBLINGS THINGS OUT WITHOUT MY PERMISSION YOU ARE GOING TO YOUR PARENT HOUSE.

Note :
I can never choose my wife over my family neither can I choose my family over my wife.

No wife can make me misbehave to my family....no family can make me misbehave to my wife.

A counter thread.
See bros you can't judge in family affairs.
You might see it from one perspective and another will see it from another. Also depends on the sibling's relationship. And temperament. And on how the man treats or handles his home. So many factors so don't judge. Every one on that thread is right. Based on their experience.

In my own opinion it can't even happen when the woman no chop winch. "In my opinion" because I value my family pass anything. It can't also happen because my brother can't even stay in my house in the first place. It can't happen because if my brother stays with me before wedding he must go. Shey you see? Something like this happened to me 22 years ago. Not to driving me out but she screamed and lied on me. Till date I don't even speak to my brother because of that issue. For I don't forgive. 22 years ago ooo. I don't know how my niece looks like or the wife. I do learn of her issues once in a while and I send anonymous azas to her but it ends there. So it depends. I hope you get the point

Bros thank you very much.... I was so upset when I saw that thread, especially when my fellow guys, sorry "Ladies with preeq" disguising as my fellow gender commenting rubbish because they got married....One even said his own brother is now an intruder in his house...like WTF!!

Most Men useless this days oO....

MejiLoyon:
A counter thread.
See bros you can't judge in family affairs.
You might see it from one perspective and another will see it from another. Also depends on the sibling's relationship. And temperament. And on how the man treats or handles his home. So many factors so don't judge. Every one on that thread is right. Based on their experience.

In my own opinion it can't even happen when the woman no chop winch. "In my opinion" because I value my family pass anything. It can't also happen because my brother can't even stay in my house in the first place. It can't happen because if my brother stays with me before wedding he must go. Shey you see? Something like this happened to me 22 years ago. Not to driving me out but she screamed and lied on me. Till date I don't even speak to my brother because of that issue. For I don't forgive. 22 years ago ooo. I don't know how my niece looks like or the wife. I do learn of her issues once in a while and I send anonymous azas to her but it ends there. So it depends. I hope you get the point

My question.....why is always an issue if is the husband relative

So because am married my family can't have access to my house anymore

Like I said is foolish men that takes such.

You have a very solid point op. it's pure wickedness from d woman. if it were to b her siblings she would smile about it. When a man marries a lady with chronic entitlement mentality that's what happens,she will at a point feel entitled to the man's life. spare the our privacy BS.

Slynation:
Bros thank you very much.... I was so upset when I saw that thread, especially when my fellow guys, sorry "Ladies with preeq" disguising as my fellow gender commenting rubbish because they got married....One even said his own brother is now an intruder in his house...like WFT!!

Most Men useless this days oO....

That was why I open this thread..... some men are just sissy this days.....how will my own blood be an intruder in my house.

My siblings that can stake anything for me.....I can't choose my wife over my family and I can't choose my family over my wife period.

I can only choose my children above them.

Godoverevery:


My question.....why is always an issue if is the husband relative

So because am married my family can't have access to my house anymore

Like I said is foolish men that takes such.

I'm not here to argue. I just enlightened you. Foolishness is a gift bestowed upon everyman. It depends on how you use it

MejiLoyon:

I'm not here to argue. I just enlightened you. Foolishness is a gift bestowed upon everyman. It depends on how you use it

True that bro...... I get you perfectly.

How do we know what the truth is? It didn't seem like it was the cooking in her kitchen and serving his friend that was the issue.

The OP was obviously economical with the whole truth. Someone who has such entitlement mentality about his brother's acquisitions.

Does he treat his brother's wife with respect or he treats her like a leech that came to take his place in his brother's house?

It is not news that some wives can be territorial especially with husband's family. Everyone should learn to respect each other's space.

All this husband's family fighting the wife is becoming old. Left to some, the won't allow their brother get married so that they can have his undivided attention.

Make we reason wetin this op talk with one kind mind first......You go see say valid points full am..

Similar thing has happened to me before... infact,in my own case,my elder brother's wife wouldn't even let you in especially when my bro isn't around.....Na for dormot she go take attack you like say na beg you Cor beg

She kept on doing that shiit for some time,but now that we are all grown ups,we gave her her space which she has so much craved for...this life no too hard abeg from the moment you realize your left shouldn't be called or seen as your right

I dey kuku tell any girl wey I dey date say-"no matter what, don't joke with my family cus I won't joke with yours"

Whether me and my family people dey quarrel,no chuck your mouth put, because you won't be there when we will settle our misunderstanding.....

Godoverevery:


My question.....why is always an issue if is the husband relative

So because am married my family can't have access to my house anymore

Like I said is foolish men that takes such.

When a man gets married, that house becomes his wife's home more than his siblings'. But it is a hard pill to swallow by the family. They cannot just come in and do as they like anymore. It's common sense.

When I visit my brother's house then, I maintain my lane. I ask his wife's opinion on things before I do it. Even after I cook for the family, I still ask her to dish the food for me. It is her house.

If everyone is doing well financially, no one will have time to disturb their brother's wife because they will be busy with their own lives.

Weak ass men. It is the hand that you gave your wife, that she will use to follow you. Most men this days cannot differentiate between love and strictness. I remembered those days if my dad is coming back, how everybody will be adjusting including my mom, who is also rushing to serve food. I weep for this generation of men.

THAT THREAD WAS VERY VERY ANNOYING
AS A REAL NIGGAR, I ALWAYS TELL ANY GIRL THAT I WANT TO DATE THAT MY FAMILY COME FIRST, IF YOU ARE NOT SATISFY WITH THAT, PACK AND GO.

ImaIma1:
How do we know what the truth is? It didn't seem like it was the cooking in her kitchen and serving his friend that was the issue.

The OP was obviously economical with the whole truth. Someone who has such entitlement mentality about his brother's acquisitions.

Does he treat his brother's wife with respect or he treats her like a leech that came to take his place in his brother's house?

It is not news that some wives can be territorial especially with husband's family. Everyone should learn to respect each other's space.

All this husband's family fighting the wife is becoming old. Left to some, the won't allow their brother get married so that they can have his undivided attention.

typical woman response... respect which space

Her family will have free access to the space and mine won't??

Slynation:
Bros thank you very much.... I was so upset when I saw that thread, especially when my fellow guys, sorry "Ladies with preeq" disguising as my fellow gender commenting rubbish because they got married....One even said his own brother is now an intruder in his house...like WFT!!

Most Men useless this days oO....

Gbam!

ImaIma1:


When a man gets married, that house becomes his wife's home more than his siblings'. But it is a hard pill to swallow by the family. They cannot just come in and do as they like anymore. It's common sense.

When I visit my brother's house then, I maintain my lane. I ask his wife's opinion on things before I do it. Even after I cook for the family, I still ask her to dish the food for me. It is her house.

If everyone is doing well financially, no one will have time to disturb their brother's wife because they will be busy with their own lives.

that the problem....am sure you will do same when you get married.
is her home meant for her relatives while the husband relatives are now intruders.

Well my mum is also guilty but I told her to her face it was wrong.

Godoverevery:

typical woman response... respect which space

Her family will have free access to the space and mine won't??

Don't bother arguing with any female or expecting her to hold her gender accountable and concede their fault and nature. They are full of śhit. I blame the weak and silly men of this generation.

Godoverevery:

that the problem....am sure you will do same when you get married.
is her home meant for her relatives while the husband relatives are now intruders.

Well my mum was also guilty but I told her to her face it was wrong.

Of course, Imàlma1 will do the same. All women are basically the same. Even your sister who was shunned by your sister-in-law will do the same to her husband's siblings when she gets married.

Self-centeredness, cold-heartedness, and manipulation: the canonical keywords by which we understand female behaviour.

Martinez39s:
Don't bother arguing with any female or expecting her to hold her gender accountable and concede their fault and nature. They are full of śhit. I blame the weak and silly men of this generation.

That what I hate most about them they will never own up to there shit but will rather claim victim or shift blame.
You married a man and immediately his family are intruders while yours have free access to the house.

Godoverevery:

that the problem....am sure you will do same when you get married.
is her home meant for her relatives while the husband relatives are now intruders.

Well my mum is also guilty but I told her to her face it was wrong.

I am married and I don't have inlaws or my family staying with us. And when my inlaws come around, they ask when they need something. They won't just do anything because it's their brother's house.

My people tend to understand that aspect of marriage. Because even when we visit our brother's house, we all act like we are at the mercy of his wife. She's the one that now tells us to stop behaving like visitors and enter the kitchen and help ourselves.

When there's mutual respect for each other's place in the family, there will be peace and not competition.

ImaIma1:


I am married and I don't have inlaws or my family staying with us. And when my inlaws come around, they ask when they need something. They won't just do anything because it's their brother's house.

My people tend to understand that aspect of marriage. Because even when we visit our brother's house, we all act like we are at the mercy of his wife. She's the one that now tells us to stop behaving like visitors and enter the kitchen and help ourselves.

When there's mutual respect for each other's place in the family, there will be peace and not competition.

you just talking about when you visit your brother place......

my question is do you treat your own people/siblings the same way when they visit you??...Do they ask your permission for everything

Godoverevery:

typical woman response... respect which space

Her family will have free access to the space and mine won't??

You want me to respond as a man?

There's no competition as to whether it is husband or wife's family that has access. I can easily scold my sibling to wash his plate or take his legs off the chair or to go help me do the dishes.

But with my inlaw of the same age, I have to walk on pins not to offend him so that he doesn't have stories to tell the family when he gets home. He might expect me to serve him amd pack his plates.

So if you were to pick one, who would you pick? I am realistic not sentimental. If my husband has a sibling that is agreeable and I relate with better than with mine, I will readily pick that one. I don't need my life harder but easier.

Godoverevery:

you just talking about when you visit your brother place......

my question is do you treat your own people/siblings the same way when they visit you??...Do they ask your permission for everything

Because he's the only married brother I can refer to.

Whether my siblings or my husband's siblings, everyone acts with common sense and I reciprocate.

Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

ImaIma1:


You want me to respond as a man?

There's no competition as to whether it is husband or wife's family that has access. I can easily scold my sibling to wash his plate or take his legs off the chair or to go help me do the dishes.

But with my inlaw of the same age, I have to walk on pins not to offend him so that he doesn't have stories to tell the family when he gets home. He might expect me to serve him amd pack his plates.

So if you were to pick one, who would you pick? I am realistic not sentimental. If my husband has a sibling that is agreeable and I relate with better than with mine, I will readily pick that one. I don't need my life harder but easier.

But as the husband am expected to understand and accept you picking your siblings over mine

you aiin't sentimental but really selfish....so your siblings won't offend your husband, can he scold your siblings??
am expected to tolerate your siblings but you can't tolerate mine??

Op


There are many sides to this, but it chiefly rest with the man on how he handles his house.

But as it concerns relatives, none should be treated more special and none should feel entitled. Simple

Yusufisraelj:
Op


There are many sides to this, but it chiefly rest with the man on how he handles his house.

But as it concerns relatives, none should be treated more special and none should feel entitled. Simple

bro no matter the side to the story she can't do that to her own sibling.....it is wickedness.

mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

You are a movement. Welcome back

Whether your relatives are nice or not, there's always gonna be that deeprooted animosity towards third parties. Most wives are naturally selfish with their marriage. They only pretend to luv their inlaws

When I read the thread I SMH and moved on, no comment. I have experienced that just bcoz I slept over at my bros house on emergency after arriving the city late cos of traffic.The wife was talking rubbish that I came without informing them.This is someone that has had holidays in my home for up-to a week. I left and went for the conference I came for.Almost all her 5 siblings have lived there at one point orthe other and the day I was leaving the sister brought 3 of her kids for hols. l learnt they stayed for a month .Imagine if it was from the husbands side.

more than a year now, my legs hasn't neared it.I have my own home which gives me peace. I'm still the one who invites my own in-laws.last yr she was talking about hols and I shut her up.Let her stay in her house let me stay on my own.

Useless things are what we bother about; my kitchen,my this and that.Nobody knows 2moro.There should have been other ways to settle the issue other than throwing him out unless he is challenging her.

Before marriage, a man's first duty is to his family, but once he's married, his first duty is to his wife, then his parents and siblings. God knows how hard you men find LEAVING and CLEAVING that's why Jesus emphasised "For this cause shall a MAN leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife" Mark 10:9

The lady in question, the brother's wife went to the extreme, true, but then the man's brother didn't honour the woman of the house.
And everyone knows a woman's office is the kitchen.
Hence he knew she doesn't like him, nor him, her, why then did he enter her kitchen (which is hers by right of marriage) to cook without obtaining her permission?

By virtue of marriage, the house is hers, the kitchen is hers and the food is hers, because "the two shall become one"
If you're married and yet you don't see your wife as a co-owner, a partner in that home, that's not the Biblical way.

"we struggled together" yes it can be quite painful but IT IS WHAT IT IS.
We don't know the woman's story, if she struggled or not before getting married, but we know that a woman, upon getting married, leaves her family, changes her father's name and adopts the man's.

Look, op, this is God's way. You can choose to obey or not, but if you don't, prepare for a peace less home.