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Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Nobody: 9:09pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
Ugosample:exactly so its western culture that will tell a mother to be scantly clad and be swinging her ass and telling her child to smack the ass and then upload the video for all to see the mother cant use common sense ni |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Nobody: 9:09pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
lefulefu: It has everything to do with the west because before the Advent of social media and celebrity idolization which by the way originated from the West, we did not have it this bad. Now a parent would say because in America children are not flogged as a means of discipline you shouldn't do same on her kids. Try it and she would get you arrested. A teenager would be allowed to tint her hair because the parent feels she should be allowed to express herself as a teenager who isn't even an adult yet. Values we never entertained until the Advent of Western influence. Parents were very strict back then before the Advent of the internet but now that the world is somewhat Interconnected this is why you can see a Nigerian engaging in plastic surgery or trying to look more American than Americans themselves. |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Nobody: 9:13pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
lefulefu: You are right, i also wonder how the kids will feel like in school after the school teacher or one of the pupils or students has seen the mum in a sexually seductive pose. Nigerian celebrities now cover every stupid thing they do online as hustle, without thinking about the effect on the child. Father and mothers are needed in the training of a child, they are the people who will be the role model for the child. |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Nobody: 9:15pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
Tetehjewels:a child can be corrected without flogging the child to death.u can smack the child on the bum bum a little to make ur point if the child is very young and if older u can scold him.not using what looks like weapon be using it to hit the child all in the name of installing discipline.if start beating the child like an animal it would make him hardened and that wouldnt turn out well.Anyway nigeria"s system is broken and family values is no longer there and thats why u see kids ending up like that.The internet,facebook and instagram has no path in the decline of familiy value in nigeria. |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by jaxxy(m): 9:15pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
WoundedLamb: U are deviating. One of ur points was suffering aspect. I didn’t say it can be experienced elsewhere besides Africa. But as an African it’s easy to relate with it here than in American ghettos. My definition and perspective of suffering is wife and broad bt that danfo u jump is all part of it in the natural world. Have u gone camping b4? Do U see how they cook their meals? They don’t bring gas cookers and stuff even though they can afford to. They want the camping experience. They make a fire, some learn how to do it the caveman style from dry grass. They sleep in tents with no Ac. That’s suffering in the controlled world. Africans who have been trying to escape suffering all their lives and who only like enjoyment and show off won’t understand why whites to some of these hard experiences. It’s an opportunity to learn. When they visit rural places in Africa it’s an opportunity to learn even though it’s though and smtmes dangerous. Backs/Africans have the mentality of trying to escape this bt forget its a valuable learning experience. Ur Confort zone is not the most productive place. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Ugosample(m): 9:15pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
Tetehjewels: Blaming the west for this is just amusing and laughable |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Nobody: 9:16pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
Ugosample: Anyway, i can hardly find it in our culture until the globalization and promotion of homosexuality by the western media and schooling system. |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by ChiefS(m): 9:17pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
WoundedLamb:20 years ago it was a good idea but now things have fallen apart. If he ever tried it, the child may end up in the kidnappers' den |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Nobody: 9:17pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
thebosstrevor1:even if the father isnt married to the mother but at least he should make his presence felt.if one parent is absent there will always be an empty void in that child"s life and it will affect the child negatively |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Ugosample(m): 9:18pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
lefulefu: Beating kids like goats is the "typical" African way of correcting a child. I personally am not against spanking in totality, but the way black folks beat their kids like goat and animals... No wonder many of them grow up to becoming hardened criminals and soulless people 1 Like |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Nobody: 9:18pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
lefulefu: So true... |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Nobody: 9:20pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
Ugosample: You described the poor and frustrated parents |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Ugosample(m): 9:22pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
thebosstrevor1:I witnessed one as a teenager back in naija The image still traumatize me till date |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Nobody: 9:22pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
lefulefu: Do you see how you twist words? I mentioned flogging and not corporal discipline. Which one is flogging to death? Did we not all go to schools here? Did we not have teachers who used the cane to discipline us? Which one of us was flogged to death? Stop twisting stuff to make it look terrible when you should be smarter. In black America parents are now made to look like heroes because they used the strap on there kids simply because they now know that the constant sparing of the rod on their kids has made them turn out as bad eggs in the society. They are doing it but over here we would rather follow the white American side who do not believe in such "NONSENSE" as they call it. In America you can try scolding an older kid (i wish you luck with that) especially if he or she already missed out on the right upbringing. They are ready to stand up to you or even fight you in your own house because there are laws that seemingly protects them and they can easily claim abuse and get child protection services to deal with your sorry self. To everything there is an Origin and for Africa, any Un-African traits you see today in us did not Originate from us. They were externally injected from the West. QED! 1 Like |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Nobody: 9:24pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
Ugosample: Yes same way applauding the west for the spread of thug life, sexual immorality, drug abuse in their countries is also amusing and laughable. It's like a virus, it ALWAYS gets out |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Abid2020(m): 9:36pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
WoundedLamb:You had said my mind our lingua franca is English language those races he mentioned only used their local language to do everything unlike Nigeria we speak various languages I believe if Nigeria has sole language just like the race mentioned there won't be a need for lingua Franca and everything will be done in that language so the parents living abroad will want their children to learn their native language in case their a need to return home |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by 1Sharon(f): 9:36pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
Tetehjewels: What's wrong with tinting your hair lol? |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Nobody: 9:42pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
1Sharon: Understand the scope of our discussion please. There is an extent to liberty while yet under the age of adulthood. Once a teen is allowed to begin modifying her looks at such a young age she begins objectifying herself. This being their impressionable age is the wrong timing for that. This is also the same reason why they are not allowed to drive, drink, smoke, or be inappropriately dressed as teens. You may as well ask what is wrong with them dressing up as they feel like too. |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Abid2020(m): 9:45pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
KingAzubuike:What are you saying? |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Burruchaga71(m): 9:56pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
chineloSA:Am saying South Africa is the worst place to raise a child |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by WoundedLamb: 9:58pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
RisenPhoenix1: No bro, I don't think you're more objective. I'm just more practical and less sentimental. I didn't turn out bad. My friends didn't. So what's the basis for choosing an African kid if not sentiments? No, I didn't I call 911 and I wasn't tempted to. I was only the "why" type. And I'd like my kids to always ask "why" too. My turn to ask you: Be honest, did you turn out bad being an abroad raised kid yourself? |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Klass99(f): 9:59pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by adexpa(m): 10:08pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
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Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by havilla(f): 10:09pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
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Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by WoundedLamb: 10:12pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
jaxxy: Don't get it twisted. I created this thread and my take has always been the same, you do not need to take your kid to Africa to suffer small. Every other thing I say, revolves around this. Training inside forests and all that, are partly fun and partly for experience (an experience that could come handy given our immediate environment). It's tasky but it's a also a structured learning process. That's beautiful. But going to Africa to suffer and then learning how to survive in Africa while you'll end up living in America isn't ideal to me. Camping and coming back home afterwards is different from a baby carrying a bucket of water. |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Nobody: 10:12pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
WoundedLamb: If I didn't, it's because I spent almost all my holidays back home with my grandparents who talked sense into my foreign head. But times have changed drastically now. I wouldn't want my children growing up abroad in these times when children are given too much freedom. And the reason why I asked was that a friend's kid called 911 on him in the US. He has already sent all his family back home while still working there. Children are given too much power. I'm not a fan of beating kids, but every so often, a whaling on the nether regions is very highly recommended. All my kids are "why" kids as well. They didn't have to grow up abroad to become so. Overall, I'd say that they are much better adjusted than their cousins who are still living in the UK, and not having grown up as part of a minority; are much more confident in their own skins. I'm all for a little pride in oneself. Difficult to carry off when you're part of barely tolerated minority. |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by micklovasta: 10:16pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
madridguy: Continue lying to yourself |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Erojepromise(f): 10:21pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
etrange:gbam!! you hit the nail on the head.. with this l think a kid that will be good will be good regardless of where he's raised |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by WoundedLamb: 10:24pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
RisenPhoenix1: I don't think the western world really changed dramatically from what it was 20 years ago. If visiting home was all it took for you to turn out fine, that would have be sufficient for your kids as well. A kid called 911 and you think that sufficiently supports your argument? Well, I've been on this app for almost 10 years and I've lost count of how many times I read stories of children who killed thier parents. But then I understand there'll always be exceptions. You need to understand that too. Your kids are the "why" types. They didn't have to stay abroad to be that cause of the way you raised even in Africa. Likewise, your kids can imbibe whatever habit you want them to imbibe even while living abroad. I believe kids here are bolder, more curious and more inquisitive. But most importantly, they more practical and less sentimental. Did you send your kids home or you now live in Nigeria too? If it's the later, then your case is entirely different. |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by etrange: 10:27pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
Klass99: @bolder, the Nigerian in me took over for a few minutes. Thanks for the hints! 1 Like |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by etrange: 10:30pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
lefulefu: It's funny cause when you call them out, they'd say the whiteman is a greater scammer. First, the white man being a greater scammer doesn't justify anything. Second, our attitude, like the one you described, encourages scamming while the white man works hard to catch and deal with these miscreants. My people. |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by etrange: 10:34pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
Tetehjewels: Nigerians are known for scamming. There's nothing you'd say out of sentiment that will change the fact that this is an existing perception. You can list the things Americans are known for, it's not in my position to call you a liar. But I've lived in 3 countries (excluding my home country, Nigeria) and I can tell that this is what Nigerians are known for. It's sad but it is what it is. Not everyone agrees Nigerians are scammers but we all know that's how Nigerians perceived. Sorry but not sorry. |
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