jaxxy:


Not praising his mediocrity bt haven’t seen husbands that take off and abandon their family when their wives give birth to triplets? This guy married a stupid gal with no job or ambition who gave birth to triplets. He must be a saint. Has he even done a DNA cos I don’t trust that gal 1 bit.

And so?

What if she dumped the children at his doorstep after they were born. Don't you know that mothers abandon children too?

Stop typing diarrhoea here!!

Nuttella:
You dont have money to take care of a child yet you were having sex without protection.

Avoid fornication, it will save you a lot of stress and heartbreaks.

I had money for one child and I was not expecting them to be triplets. My worst nightmare

Regex:


I keep praying and telling God, I don't want twins, triplets or anything more than one baby at a time.

It's one baby at a time.

It's not easy sha, in my next life I want one baby at a time if it's triplet again, I rather remain childless

DrFunmisticGlow:
that's 1983, not 2021.

Be pragmatic man!!

Funmi i expect you to understand my pragmatism in this situation.

I ask again..giving this unfortunate circumstance, will you rather prefer the guy do crime to savage the situation? or dies of high BP? even if he gives the entire salary to the lady it will never be enough. So you all castigating me for opining that he sets up at least a food stuff business for her should contact the guy and help him with funds to take care of his family.

I rest my case.

Regex:


I keep praying and telling God, I don't want twins, triplets or anything more than one baby at a time.

It's one baby at a time.

If it comes, what will you do?
You thank your God.

I have never seen a twin that's keen in birthing twin again.
Don't know why.

thelish:



Can u brainwash poverty to look like abundance?

Yes and very easy to brainwash poor person.


The way I will present 1k , might not be the way you will present 1k

You might give a girl 5k she will complain,
I will give same girl 2k she will be happy.

All na level of wash wash .

Toks2008:

Funmi i expect you to understand my pragmatism in this situation.

I ask again..giving this unfortunate circumstance, will you rather prefer the guy do crime to savage the situation? or dies of high BP? even if he gives the entire salary to the lady it will never be enough. So you all castigating me for opining that he sets up at least a food stuff business for her should contact the guy and help him with funds to take care of his family.

I rest my case.

of course it won't be enough.

Either he gets more of give his children away for adoption before they die of poverty in his house.

descarado:

If it comes, what will you do?
You thank your God.

I have never seen a twin that's keen in birthing twin again.
Don't know why.

My papa na twin. The possibility deh there...

If I do, I will thank God and take care of them. Its the more reason I want to really get to a certain level in life before I start procreation.

Prospertochu:


It's not easy sha, in my next life I want one baby at a time if it's triplet again, I rather remain childless

Ah swear.

Prospertochu:


I had money for one child and I was not expecting them to be triplets. My worst nightmare

Guy go get a loan if you must. Get a small shop for her and let her start food stuff buisness like retailing rice,beans and selling other food items and you can also add other stuffs.

There will be enough space for her in the shop with the triplets and she can always attend to customers whilst she attends to the kids at the same time.

Please dont kill yourself with thinking ..Pray hard and work hard and i belive that the same GOD who gave you the babies will favour you. Please dont regret marrying her, cherish her and the gifts she has given you.

I wish you the best.

dear OP,
my advice is that your mom should be the one to be considerate here to be candid the 25k is too small talk to your wife with love let her know you will increase it to 35k talk to your mom too i believe she will understand.
i wouldn't blame any body its not your fault that you didn't oppt for abortion an its not he fault too that u're a sharp shooter with one shot three goals .
you both need to come with better ideals remember that even if u earn 100k it still not enough think of business i will suggest pos for now i believe with that daily expenditure will be carted for the you can move from there. don't mind anyone that is blaming you here o if e easy make dem go try am u be man jare but man up ok. peace be on to you.

DrFunmisticGlow:
of course it won't be enough.

Either he gets more of give his children away for adoption before they die of poverty in his house.

Adoption ke! iyen ma le o.

shomutuski:



Bros you can't blame him, the ish here is that it wasn't planned from the kids down to the marriage. Stuffs like this put us in the rat race.

He can still escape out but he will be extra disciplined plus he needs to build a mental fortitude to prevent his wife complains and nagging from getting to you.

Oga mi, poverty is bad oooo, make God help us, stories like this they make wife cheat sef as she no get work too.

Even the woman eye go see for family house.

My husband i love you, nah money they talk oo.

I'll like to create a forum of high value men where we can discuss issues surrounding our finances, growth and mental health.

We go through alot and internalize the pain..


We are better together.

He’s 28yrs for God sake, he’s suppose to be enjoying his life at the moment not struggling with life. With 55k salary you can still enjoy yourself as a single man and grow wider in life. With what I’m seeing 1m can’t not sort his issues on time. I see generational poverty striving

Make I no lie, 25k is not enough for me per month as a single guy, talk more of a woman with 3 kids and the husband go chop food inside too ... OP na one chance you enter so. That’s why it’s not good to allow people pressure into marriage because at the end, Na you go suffer am. OP the only option you have is to expand your source of income in whatever way possible or the marriage will end which I’m sure you’re both tired ....life is very hard gan

erico2k2:

its her level i n life,My mum had three kids and she was working still, from teh look at things so if she was working she will stop work cos she had kids right? or if she has a shop, shop will close down cos nah she first born, abi if she dey cook food sell she go close cos say she born piking abi?.
This is one of the reasons why a man must not marry a jobless woman, life is tough!

I can't remember saying she will stop work foreva that's the way u sound right now.
And yes if u are working and gave birth some place of works will give u break for ur kids to be a little bit strong.
When my 2 sisters give birth they were given a little break to nurse there babies.
We are talking abt 3kids here.
Well it depends

DrFunmisticGlow:
And so?

What if she dumped the children at his doorstep after they were born. Don't you know that mothers abandon children too?

Stop typing diarrhoea here!!

Bt after giving birth what is she doing nagging is her new job? Recklessness and complaining is her new hobby? She shud go and sit down. If the guy left the country which doorstep will she drop the kids at

Nobody expected the babies so both parties shud work hard to cater for them instead of over labouring one parent. Is he superman?

Can you please stop blaming your woman
In this time, prices of everything has skyrocketed and feeding just one person sef is too much, so i really don't know how you expect her not to complain. You both are to be blamed... You are trying and she's trying too.

You don't expect her to leave three infants at home and go out to look for a job. If you have taken care of a baby, you would know 3 is a handful.

Rather than look for who to blame, seek solutions and try to work on your finances and if possible, try to let your wife know how much you earn and how you spend the money, so she would know you are trying.


You both are to be blamed. None had savings, nothing nothing. So please sort out the consequences of your actions

Klass99:


Lol , I thought you African men said vasectomy is a god forbid plus tufiakwa something? Abeg contribute towards his triplets instead.

Have you seen the other threads where guys are complaining of the mess they either created for themselves or got themselves into? There was the thread where;

1. Live in lovers who were test running married life without sex came here to disgrace themselves.

2. The other one said his lazy and unambitious girlfriend is pregnant for him, after encouraging immoral cohabitation between them.

3. The other guy said his girl was living with him because she got a job on the island and mainland is far (they always have an excuse to justify their actions, are people not going to work on a daily from mainland to island) then further complained about how she is not using her money for anything in his crib and he is funding everything.

4. And now we are on this OP's thread with triplets and an interesting lead to how he got married.

It makes me wonder are "you guys" not swallowing this redpill very well . Or is it only online that the redpill is effective?

I missed a lot o. But damn, for number 1 & 2: sheer f0olishness and acute stoopidty. Number 3? My problem with Nigerians in relationships: they don't discuss the most important aspects of esp if they desire to get married. I'm for intending couples to cohabit for a short while with boundaries set but prior to this, people should have a serious tete-a-tete on what they want in marriage - who pays most of the bills et al. This anywhere belly face approach smacks of poorly educated and unexposed people.

Regarding the last statement, those theories are always triumphed online but rarely practiced offline. Just like the nonsensical SMAN uproar which I knew the vast majority of Nigerian male wouldn't implement. Most of these red-pillers on Nairaland are hungry and mentally malnourished miscreants.

On this topic, I am an advocate of never being held responsible for someone's irresponsibility. This man will have still have sex with his wife (which is right anyway) but he won't adhere to family planning practices and that will compound his problems. The best he can do now is undergo a vasectomy to prevent any childbirth and focus squarely on his triplets. Judging by she boring three children at once, she might procreate twins or even quadruplets later. That's the possibility I rather sponsor its non-existence. A Nigerian woman who has witnessed the stress of childbirth will likely adhere to family planning but knowing how most Nigerian men are incompetent and obstinate towards family planning methods, the most extreme method must be applied before he scores a goal in an away match.

My people if only we know the right source. We can just contribute any amount we have for this babies. #100, #200 will go a long way. I dont know. The did has been done and We all make mistakes. There are people seriously searching for these beautiful Angels some where now. And cartons of whatever they need will be readily provided before they are even e exhausted. But the reverse is the case here. If we can, let's help out. Honestly I have a baby here and I'm seriously thinking about the welfare of these little gifts from God.
And the woman now, we can't bear hunger while breastfeeding honestly. The stress is just too much.
Wahala no dey finish.

Basics now is Pampers and milk. Then cloths to change because they grow fast. Just basics. God knows a carton of the cheapest formular wont even go for more than a few weeks. Nna nawa o

Man up Bro. Based on what you wrote here, she has no fault at all. Taking care of 3 kids at the same time is no easy feat. It cost a fortune to raise 1 kid not to talk of 3 at the same time. Do the simple analysis yourself. These kids eat like ant. More like every 15minutes. Pampers and co. She has to take care of herself also. Go to the market and see what food stuff is saying. I had to apologise to my wife the day i tried to buy food stuff myself. Fucking expensive. My D*** no rise that day o.

Another thing is to be very patient with her. Tell her sweet words daily. Care for her genuinely. Furthermore, be very supportive in raising the kids. Help her with chores and whatever she does. Again, ask about her on future too. Remember, she didnt also plan to become a house wife at her age. She has dreams and aspirations. Ask her about them...ask her what you can do to help. If you can, do help! Women go through a lot to have kids for us. Let us manage them. Appreciate them.

If you do most of these things, she will calm down and beginning to see you as someone who is genuinely interested in her not just her p***. Think of this always, "You cannot feel your way into acting but you can act you way into feelings" God bless both of you.

Prospertochu:
I got my girlfriend then now wife pregnant, I wasn't ready for marriage. My plan was to take care of her and my baby while she stays in her father's house, her mother was fine with it as long as I take care of my responsibilities, but everything changed when the scan confirmed that she was carrying triples, her mother said I must marry her because there's no way her daughter will still under her roofs with 3 children.

I pleaded with her to give me sometimes to find my own accommodations because I was living in my father's family house after his demise I stay with his siblings while my mum left with my younger sister.

My mother in law refused saying I must do something fast because she doesn't want people to mocked her that her daughter has gotten pregnant out of wedlock not just with one baby but 3 so I managed to save enough money to get a place for our own but her mother refused saying I must pay her bride price first, I didn't have any more money so i have borrowed from friends and added to the money I had to pay for her bride price. It wasn't a big party just something small, I took my wife to my father family house where we are living now with our triplets but things hasn't been easy for me, taking care of 3 children it's not easy, I am grateful that I am rent free but household bills are killing me.

My wife and I are always arguing because she keeps asking for more money my salary is 55k I use to give her 20k monthly, 10 monthly to my mother and I use 20 and save 5k she said the money wasn't enough that I am stingy, I now started giving her 25k she is still complaining about the money not being enough. I refused giving her more she started staving me of sex and foods. My family are tired of separating us fighting almost every day, my uncle has asked us to leave the compound because we are disturbing there peace and I had to beg him to forgive us that ur shouldn't be happening again and I cautioned my wife but she is threatening to abandon me with the kids. I have told her to do her worse because I am tired of her madness. I wish I never married her in the first, all I could've do is to take care of my kids and let her be I know it's too late now to change the past but what should I do?

blesskewe:
she isn't considerate..................



ur cup of tea sha

Lol that's the only thing you can say

[quote author=Gerrard59 post=99927025]

I missed a lot o. But damn, for number 1 & 2: sheer f0olishness and acute stoopidty. Number 3? My problem with Nigerians in relationships: they don't discuss the most important aspects of esp if they desire to get married. I'm for intending couples to cohabit for a short while with boundaries set but prior to this, people should have a serious tete-a-tete on what they want in marriage - who pays most of the bills et al. This anywhere belly face approach smacks of poorly educated and unexposed people.

Regarding the last statement, those theories are always triumphed online but rarely practiced offline. Just like the nonsensical SMAN uproar which I knew the vast majority of Nigerian male wouldn't implement. Most of these red-pillers on Nairaland are hungry and mentally malnourished miscreants.

On this topic, I am an advocate of never being held responsible for someone's irresponsibility. This man will have still have sex with his wife (which is right anyway) but he won't adhere to family planning practices and that will compound his problems. The best he can do now is undergo a vasectomy to prevent any childbirth and focus squarely on his triplets. Judging by she boring three children at once, she might procreate twins or even quadruplets later. That's the possibility I rather sponsor its non-existence. A Nigerian woman who has witnessed the stress of childbirth will likely adhere to family planning but knowing how most Nigerian men are incompetent and obstinate towards family planning methods, the most extreme method must be applied before he scores a goal in an away match. [/quote

Hungry and mentally malnurished miscreants. This is a typical description of some people here. Especially the ones that are so fast to type abusive words without profering the most basic solutions. Nonsensical nonsense. Lolzzzzzz

Slynation:
A whole triplet....This one loud oO

Instead of quarrelling everyday with her, be a man of little words, no matter the level of provocation, do nothing/say nothing, just let it slide....

I'm used to saying "May my preeq never put me into trouble one day" but it has partially landed me into one, one day I will post my own story....!!

Tell us na abeg

aroundtheearth:
@OP, I just saw your other thread:
https://www.nairaland.com/6126177/wife-says-stingy-money

You were advised on there to start a business for your wife, within/close to your home. Did you two give that a try?

Someone is earning 55k that can’t last the family for a month, where do you expect him to see money to start a business for his wife?

cococandy:
who do you think is going to take care of 3 kids for free? Y’all love to underestimate what child care involves. One child will give him grey hair overnight not to mention 3 at once

Maybe he should stay home and care for the 3 children while his wife goes to find something that pays more money than 55k.

Gbam.

Chummynoni:
you bleeped up. you shudnt have settled down when you knew that you were not capable. cos u give woman belle, no mean say u must marry her. leave that woman before she sends you to hell

What if they leave ur daughter or sister with triplets to cater for alone? Sure you will not kill the man on sighting him?

CanadianNaija:


Drop money for what? So that they can relax and born the next set of triplets?

Actions have consequences, when he survives this one he will learn through experience and also teach others.
I for one don't believe in rewarding bad behaviour, its easy to shout I love you up and down. After knacks without precaution comes children, he should carry his cross.

Glad to know I'm not alone. People shouldn't be responsible for another's irresponsibility.

Toks2008:


Guy go get a loan if you must. Get a small shop for her and let her start food stuff buisness like retailing rice,beans and selling other food items and you can also add other stuffs.

There will be enough space for her in the shop with the triplets and she can always attend to customers whilst she attends to the kids at the same time.

Please dont kill yourself with thinking ..Pray hard and work hard and i belive that the same GOD who gave you the babies will favour you. Please dont regret marrying her, cherish her and the gifts she has given you.

I wish you the best.

If the children are still less than 12-18 months,the business money will probably waste. Let him keep it till they are matured.

merieam16:
She might not be like that...Taking care of three kids i mean triplets without finance can be fraustrating. 25k is way too small 4 their upkeep


op, just double ur hustle. wen ur kids are grown alittle bit, let ur wife go find sumting doin too

Without help, that woman might not do anything reasonable. Her hands are not only full but filled up

I see this as a cry for help. My good people of nairaland please find OP a better job. 25k for triplets in a month, these children may suffer malnutrition. School fees is still ahead. Please save a life.

So stop complaining about your wife no let those fools push you to d wall

Go back to God
Na sure odd i dy give you
E go lead you to d right for more income/hustle

God will bless you

Or send me email let me give you one hustle

Prospertochu:


The least I can do is to sell my children please go to motherless home

Prospertochu:
I got my girlfriend then now wife pregnant, I wasn't ready for marriage. My plan was to take care of her and my baby while she stays in her father's house, her mother was fine with it as long as I take care of my responsibilities, but everything changed when the scan confirmed that she was carrying triples, her mother said I must marry her because there's no way her daughter will still under her roofs with 3 children.

I pleaded with her to give me sometimes to find my own accommodations because I was living in my father's family house after his demise I stay with his siblings while my mum left with my younger sister.

My mother in law refused saying I must do something fast because she doesn't want people to mocked her that her daughter has gotten pregnant out of wedlock not just with one baby but 3 so I managed to save enough money to get a place for our own but her mother refused saying I must pay her bride price first, I didn't have any more money so i have borrowed from friends and added to the money I had to pay for her bride price. It wasn't a big party just something small, I took my wife to my father family house where we are living now with our triplets but things hasn't been easy for me, taking care of 3 children it's not easy, I am grateful that I am rent free but household bills are killing me.

My wife and I are always arguing because she keeps asking for more money my salary is 55k I use to give her 20k monthly, 10 monthly to my mother and I use 20 and save 5k she said the money wasn't enough that I am stingy, I now started giving her 25k she is still complaining about the money not being enough. I refused giving her more she started staving me of sex and foods. My family are tired of separating us fighting almost every day, my uncle has asked us to leave the compound because we are disturbing there peace and I had to beg him to forgive us that ur shouldn't be happening again and I cautioned my wife but she is threatening to abandon me with the kids. I have told her to do her worse because I am tired of her madness. I wish I never married her in the first, all I could've do is to take care of my kids and let her be I know it's too late now to change the past but what should I do?

Regret ke?

Start a business for her, she should go and acquire a skill...baking, cooking, decoration, buying and selling.

These things fetch cash for ladies.

Then u start up a business for her...Even 200k will not do her for a month...She will still be like oliver asking for more.

Teach a woman how to make her own money, and save ur self unwanted expenses.