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saaedlee:
i just want to buy you one trailer load of beer and bbq fish.... where you dey?

Lagos and i do not eat fish

Princefrankie1:
What's your real name bro. I am so convinced we are twins. This can't be a mere coincidence. Just tell me your surname.

I ma not a twin oh and i am from Edo state. Ijust love saying the truth

lilmax:
most nigerian girls are really vulnerable

my observation

if you need free sex, and you are not in a relationship.... just act as a best friend to a beautiful girl

this is the thing, make sure she's in a relationship, make sure she tells you everything ....make sure you are a pillar to her, someone who she can lean on

now when you want free sex all you have to do is what? cause a fight between her and her boyfriend I wonder why my body dey sweet me

when there's a fight who does she run to? her so called best friend ... her so called best friend comforts her, makes her more vulnerable, and bam she's turned on

and blah blah blah she would bring up the why did you do this to me card?

what do you do? don't act harsh. tell her you're sorry, hug her....tell her she's the most important girl in your life, once again she becomes vulnerable , you strike one more time

at the end when she's tired, she tells you get out ..... you move to the next beautiful girl

make sure you have like 3 girls that need you as best friend... you go dey bang free every week, just stir a fight that's all


well its someone story though not mine

bottom line: no strings should be attached

This guy has a theory already, i must put this to test.

All the hypocrites can pretend more!

Tori46:
I think you're right. When I was in 200L or so I had this friend whom I visited in his hostel and at home because we resided in the same state. We were close and I got to meet his mum. She liked me and she was always around whenever I visited.

Fast forward to this fateful day, when I got to his place he was home alone. Immediately I entered, he tried kissing me and I found myself struggling with him. He was more powerful but I succeeded in avoiding the kiss. His mum came back and we acted normal.

After that day, I foolishly went to his hostel and his room mate was even around. He tried kissing me again and we had to struggle. After that day I stopped talking to him. He noticed and asked what was wrong and I poured out my heart to him. He apologised and he said, "I was only trying to find out if you like me". I was irritated and I stopped visiting him since then.

I've also experienced the same thing with two friends. Since then, I made up my mind not to be too close to guys because I feel they'll try to take advantage of me. Who knows, I may not be lucky the next time. Funny enough, my boyfriend already warned me about having male friends but I didn't listen. Too bad I've not been able to share my experience with him but now I know better.

I gues we are justified now, makydebbie

Sister, you are lucky but be careful next time.

No matter how the intention is clear, man must want to harvest with time!

makydebbie:
Even the stupid boys will come here acting all sanctimonious that they're genuine. Pls goan tell my nephew that one maybe he'll believe.
Exactly! At a point you may even feel indebted to him, you may fall in love and your case is different if your "male bestie" is single. Lola I must create a thread on this ooo. Maybe next week the article will be ready or you no trust me again?

Ensure you quote me or i will fight you.

I will also work on mine.

This is the truth, i do not know why they are twisting it all

Danielmoore:
I cannot have a female friend without fvcking her except she is not attractive or older than me

This is a man talking and not those cock-chopped entity who reek of decayed hypocrisy trying to appear smart and brilliant.

Even if the intention was clear at first, if that girl is attractive, something else must crop up.

Unless the guy is an eunuch, is castrated or like you said, that girl is an OGRE!

Kenfil:
Even if am d ugliest girl in the room, I no go fit touch u with a 1000 feet pole .

I can't actually be in a room with the ugliest girl and in this case YOU!

to reach me you will need more than a 1000 feet pole, because I am afar off you in miles you cannot measure.

Acidosis:
Reality: Approximately 80% of rapes are committed by someone the victim knows – a friend or acquaintance.

It always start with friendship So to avoid stories that touch, it's best to set the record straight; some ladies today have become victims because a guy somewhere perceived their actions as "green light".

Boss, leave them and there so called male friends.

People who have seen things are talking, inexperienced fellas are also countering.

I will say it again, you only know yourself but cannot estimate how the other person is seeing you and interpreting your actions.

You give him an innocent hug everyday, sister, he may think you are leading him on.

Fix your issues and get a same sex friend.

Intrepid01:
Lol...I cant relate with this well well,,,the kind of guys that will say...."I swear I wont put it in, just let the two of them be looking at each other"....Lol......

Most cases (not all tho!), the reason why a guy and a lady will be best friends without emotions or sexual exploit is if one or both are totally unattracted to each other. Meanwhile I can tell you for a fact that...attraction grows with time, that unattractive lady today will just gradually start appearing attractive little by little due to proximity and familiarity.

There is nothing wrong in ladies keeping male friends, but a lady cant have a male guy has her best friend and think nothing will happen. It might take a while but something will eventually happen.....this no be theory o..na from experience.

Oga, leave that guy with his his so called "education".

He thinks the heart and emotion operates on logic and reason.

Some think, everything In life is black and white. Intelligence is not by posting list of 10's.

This thing is confirmed, a guy and a girl as friends, time is just the only factor that will affection grow.

Experience will trounce logic everyday.

imustsaymymindo:
Nawa o. Why you should not avoid hurting someone? You should hurt people on purpose because he or she is a friend? I dont understand your point here. Friends are actually the ones that should avoid hurting each other. That does not mean a friend cannot correct you when you are wrong or tell you the truth when it hurts and if that's what you mean, then fine.

What i am pointing out is...

Some are not real and avoid all sort of confrontation and try to be extremely good..

There is no way you wil not have an altercation with a friend, no one is oerfect except the person is trying too hard to be

Next2Bezee:
In some relationships, either parties won't be able to tolerate their partner deviating their attention between them and his numerous female friends. It becomes even more harmful to the relationship after marriage. What wife will be ok with her husband keeping lots of female besties and spending time with them outside his house?

This is what i am trying to point out too.

Imagine the wife saying, because i trust him and there are boundries, so he can keep all the female besties that he want.

I think that is a very risky mindset, except the marriage is off no importance in the first instance.

Next2Bezee:
I didn't even check for your post before responding, you've got it all covered already.

You covered it like i would have.

Great to see that thoughts can align sometimes

ozy4christ:
i dont agree with u my dear,all my friends are guys,i dont have a girl as a friend because of what i passd through.no man is a wood yea so its left 4 d lady 2 kw her boundary when staying wit her malefriends.

You are very smart, but how many are like you?

some even know nothing about boundries, they feel it is black and white. Those ones always get burnt!

But i still feel you have to work on yourself too, guys will naturally want to protect and pamper you and not hurt you. This will give a false impression to you that all is well when it is not.

This will lead to a situation where even in your wrong, they wil not correct or lash you. This comfort will not make you strong person. One day, those guys will leave.

Forget the hurt and get a female friend, it will show you more about yourself!

vchykp:
if you make friend with some that has never hurt you, then you have not started ur friendship

I really get time today, no sleep!

You are right, when people tend to avoid hurting and wronging you, then you should know that they are consciously walking on egg shell around you, that is THEY ARE PRETENDING!

MissRaine69:
I am secure in myself and I don't have self esteem issues.

I do not think your self-security and self esteem is a factor here.

The factor here is, can you withstand your man spending time with same female friends (as he calls them) repeatedly.

You may be strong at first, but you will get suspecious and jealous (depending if the relationship is really important to you though).

I know you will not find it funny!

cuvox:
I have lots of female friends.
great ones, help them alot and never for once even think of getting anything in return. going by your words, are you saying it's impossible to have female friends without hitting on them or what?
if that's what you mean then you need to have a rethink.

in reality, I know most guys only feign friendship to get close to a lady and smash her but stop making it look like all male-female friendship is just for fùckíng. some of us only have female friends cause they are the one we can genuinely pour out our hearts to.. genuine friendship bro.

Everyone talks from one side, youe emotions are in check... what about the other person? can you read their mind?

I have not ruled out the possibility, i am speaking on the end product. There is a way a so called female friend will Invest time and resource into you, you breath will start to stop.

in reality, I know most guys only feign friendship to get close to a lady and smash her but stop making it look like all male-female friendship is just for fùckíng. some of us only have female friends cause they are the one we can genuinely pour out our hearts to.. genuine friendship bro.

You stated it already, the FRIENDSHIP thing can lead somewhere. It is not about the sex matter though, but if you are in a relationship, you have no business with the opposite sex in terms of friendship.

If you are single, sail on, but know it might lead somewhere depending on how invested one of your becomes!

Ebayray:
My best friend's a male, we've been friends since childhood. Nigga is older than me, has his own fiancée too and we've never been interested in each other.
I have lots and lots of male friends. It depends on how you place yourself in such friendship. If you are the type of girl that's always seductively dressed or always telling him your problem, then one party will fall for the other, but if you're just mutual friends, no Strings attached, I don't see why I wouldn't be friends with guys.



My opinion tho

The issue now is.. No one knows where strings will get attached.

Depending on how close you were to him ... His fiancée may have seen you as a threat or quarelled about you (just a scenario)

It starts at mutuals and fondness tends to ruin it all.

A woman will always melt into a man, especially one who is always present and in that case, it is MR. FRIEND!

Next2Bezee:
Good for you.

If you still feel the same way when you fall in love with a guy whose friends are almost all female & he seem to spend a lot of time with each of them everyday then even more Tuale for u.

You response is what i will term CHECKMATE!

She would not even allow that.

tosyne2much:
Can't you see the absurdity of our people's mentality?


Can you now see that education sometimes doesn't keep people enlightened?

And i guess you are the smartest, the one whose education really made enlightened.

If you have a counter claim, why not display your illumination so others can see the light.

What exactly is someone in relationship seeking for in another person of the opposite sex in the name of friendship.

You may be contained but stop masturbating and leaking hypocrisy everywhere.

What does education has to do with matters of the heart and affection?

Can you control or tell your body the specific amount of testosterone or oestrogen and oxytocin it should produce as the case may be?.

adajoe555:
I have only 2 female friends and the rest are male. I know how they behave and there is a limit to everything. Some guys use such opportunities to start something funny . me just being careful sha


Boo boo have said I should limit my friendship with guys. So I'm trying my best

You relationship is a disaster waiting to happen.

All it takes is one male friend who is really interested and up to his game.

Then you will know that your BOO BOO know and why he said you should limit your friendship with guys.

Will you be comfortable if he has a harem and call them all friends?

Do not smell what you will not eat

Kenfil:
Just listen to urself... I prefer male friends and had lots of them before I got married.. All with zero attachments. Most of u will lose good women because u have been wired to think backwards smh

You are very funny, you are actually the one not thinking.

If we go back to ask you so called male friends, 90percent regret not sleeping with you. Just try it.

The fact that they respected you enough or mis-timed there strategy towards you does not rule out the truth.

And you are not special, you must have been too unattractive or worthless for them to bother.

A guy is telling you something about majority of guys, you are here countering with female oriented arguments and what you like.

You are married right?

I guess you still keep male friends, continue.

You will swallow bone soon

fineboynl:
i believe you are one of those shallow girls that only think of butt,Boob's and dick. no Wonder girls when broad minds are running away from people like you. and looking for male friends.

Guy free that girl.

If a girl is making a guy her friend, she only knows her heart, she does not know what goes on in the guys heart.

Every smile not a smile, it could be a smirk.

She made a point, attack the point and not her.

I just checked, you are the OP.

I can conclude now that you copied the post, next time, put the source link.

Greene66:
The sad part is that when it happen, we won't be there to say "I told you"

We will not be there.

Lalasticlala, please move this thread

Greene66:
They wont listen

When you want them to be smart they go all DUMBO on you.

They will be the first to shout blue murder whereas they are accessory and culpable in their own RAPE.

I am not defending rapist it that is how it starts, HE IS MY FRIEND!

He spends on you and you think all he wants is THAN YOU?

I LAUGH.

Evaberry:
My best friend is a boy.

I have more male friends than female

but truth is most guys just use friendship as a cover to start chyking u.

but the beat friendship I have/had have been with guys

guys are more thoughtful and caring than girls

they can sacrifice and go far for friends

a girl will just end up stealing your boyfriend, borrowing your make up shoes and bag and gossiping behind your back

A guy will just end up stealing your from your boyfriend.

All the sacrifice he makes is for one ultimate goal.

If you are not offering anything in return, you are setting yourself up for harm.

I still stand by my view.

A guy and a girl cannot be friends.

It is either they have a past romantic history, living in present romance or building the ground work for future romance.

Let us stop deceiving ourselves, the only relationship they can have and I will be half assured is if they are business partners.

All the girls I have dated, they all called me friends and I LOVE YOU entered into the equation from nowhere. Next, we were frolicking under the sheets, so called friend.

This is a secret, the easiest way for a guy to get a girl is to play the friendship card, along the line just change the game by adding romance, checkmate, she is yours.

If you as a girl cannot get female friends, then there is something wrong about you as a person and your attitude.

Guy also have problems and fights but the only time a guy calls a girl friend is when his game to see her pant is not in the advance stage.

Girls beware, you so-called male friends if given the chance will sleep with you without even thinking twice. Except you are transgender or have leprosy.

It is not ethical, someone will get confused along the way.

This is also a precursor to rape in some cases. The day they will gang rape you, your eyes go clear.

This is a guy's secret, we all want to sleep with that beautiful so-called friends of ours.

So girls, keep deceiving yourself.

If your best friend is a boy and he is not hitting on you then:

-You may not be as attractive as you think.

-You have a bad personality and we know guys are tolerant and pussy no dey bite.

-You are being preyed on the till you are vulnerable, he is watching till he can launch. When I don't know, a man can wait if he is certain to conquer.

- You are transgender or blocked.

Your only trusted male friends are:
Husband
Father
Brothers
Sons

READ THIS: How TRUST is the new SCAM: Stop this blatant lies about TRUST!

Godmother:
I'll try this out.

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It is not your site but the advertiser you are using.

They are making users to make forced installation from unverified sites.

remove all third party and advertisers fidelity in the site.
I can help you look around if you want though.

Which advertising network are you using?

Remove all the adverts on the site, especially the third party adverts.

Tell me if it still persist.

Aaribaba:
Yes precious

I will send you a mail

I feel like beating you, like are you for real?

Which school did you attend? They must be graduating dumbos

Are you sure, your testes have not been replaced with cheese balls?

Are you taking oestrogen shots?

Because, I don't understand what you are still doing with a girl that can throw such massive insult at you.

Leave and never ever look back!

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