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But wait OP

If you now copy all you content to nairaland, then what will you now rank for?

You have a great niche, don't burn it.

Tried talk

sonofanarchy:
if that thing win call me bastard screen shot am keep

But guy, why you go dey refer to person as "thing".

I hope say una matter no too serious?

At least, show love.

Respect.

makydebbie:
Yay! I'm interested.
Thanks for being thoughtful, oya where is it?

My bad, I left them on the moon.

I only came back with myself

makydebbie:
Where have you been?

Been to the moon, care for moonflakes?

I brought some back for you, Debbie!

I nominate MAKYDEBBIE

https://www.nairaland.com/makydebbie

CC: Dygeasy

Hmmmm

So is that girl dead or practicing?

God help them.

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Holy bullshit.

It has to do with the nervous system.

What if the guy had hit his head against the floor and had a concussion or had the seizure in a pool and drowned.

Everyone around should be arrested for being collectively dumb.

It's an offence!

The cells are fried.

Buy another power bank

He is young but going senile.

I just don't know why I am laughing.

Some people know and they will like this post!

Eleyi gidi gan

Pull the plug and runaway.

Oh, you can't do that, they are your parent.

Risky venture.

I think she played you brother.

You just gave up your lead.

PS: I might edit this later

There is a level of intelligence you get to, you can actually read people and even predict next moves.

You become a good judge of character, and character says alone about you.

Your dressing, appearance, stature and posture, speaking and intonation, carriage and charisma, perfume and cologne, countenance etc. Precedes you.

Sometimes a smart person can remember predict your past and future.

It is not mostly spiritual, they are just intelligent.

Example, a young unmarried man who seem sad,

I can tell him God wants to change his story, a better job is on the way, I saw a beautiful woman in his hands.

The key is to be very VAGUE and more CONFUSING.

pocohantas:
You earn trust.
If your actions are one kind, you begin to lose the trust.
You don't expect that trust to be served to you on a platter.

My ex used to be like, you don't trust me...you don't trust.

Guy wey fit lock im airtime balance join.

The day I hacked into his WhatsApp ehn.
Chai! Endtime guy...

True talk.

So the guy turn you to sherlock holmes

Jaqenhghar:
Word!
Its funny how people lie to you, steal from you then act offended when you dont trust them. Trie words there man

You have been there my Guy,

They want you to just TRUST them.

This will serve as a reminder to those who trust blindly

I get seriously peeved when people talk about trust like it is their right or something they can just get without charges.

I find it very laughable that people believe that once they are In a relationship with you, trust automatically comes along as added advantage.

Sorry to burst your bubbles, TRUST is something else and it is a beast, but so everyone can follow, I will leave beast out of this.

Every one of us now have mobile phones, let’s call the PHONE our RELATIONSHIP then TRUST becomes the BATTERY.

As you know already, your phone cannot function without its battery, so your relationship cannot stand without trust.

We all know that already, but the issue we have now is on how people view trust, some just think of it as pizza that you just pick up as your own so far you have the cashor made an order.

Trust does not just come in one fell sweep, you can actually fall for someone immediately and love them with all your life but TRUST has to be built, you just do not fall in trust.

Like your phone battery, trust has to be charged continuously and if left on its own, the battery depletes and your phone or relationship in this case becomes null, void, and totally useless then it dies.

BUILDING TRUST IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Just like a house, you have to build your trust in your relationship step by step, block by block.

No one has a monopoly to it and once you are in a relationship, it becomes the duty of you and your partner to cater for the trust you share and charge it to 100% percent and nothing less!

There is a common deception in relationships, where one partner says you cannot touch their phones you just have to trust them, SERIOUSLY? That is the greatest scam of the century.

Trust grows on actions and perception, and one of those is being able to know what your partner is up to and not lost in the dark, have you seen a hunter in the night without his headlamp, he will just keep shooting blanks.

You cannot just trust anyone because you love them or you believe them a lot, they need to show you evidence in their actions and words, why they should be seen as trustworthy.

No one should demand for trust out of thin air, it is not your birth right and if anyone does that to you, that person is a fake, a sham, a con artist, a thief, a scammer and the list goes on.

If you are trustworthy enough, you should not be bothered about someone snooping through your phone, this is not just anyone but your partner, your WIFE, your HUSBAND and yet you hide chats and delete call history and you demand TRUST? Something is definitely wrong with you upstairs.

They will say what you do not know will not kill you, REALLY? People who die from food poisoning, were they aware that they are eating poison? People who get assassinated, did they know about the impending assassination? did the "Evans tha Kidnappers" victim know about their impending kidnap?

I could go on and on and show you why that logic is flawed, knowing everything you can about your partner will save you heart ache in the future, take that to the bank.

Do not ever be with anyone who demands for trust without working for it!

You cannot keep late nights and want trust.
You cannot keep all your friends as the opposite sex and expect trust
You cannot be secretive and expect trust.
You cannot hide your phone and expect anyone to trust you.
You cannot talk down on your partner and expect to be trusted.
You cannot keep telling bold faced lies and expect trust.
Loving you alone does not equals to trusting you.
Trust is not something you pick off the ground, you work for it.

Stop demanding to be trusted and make yourself TRUSTWORTHY!

SOURCE: How TRUST is the new SCAM: Stop this blatant lies about TRUST!

Author: Prec1ous

ImaIma1:
Well it is about openness. I pick his calls and he picks mine and the sex of the caller is never an issue. There is no reason or basis for suspicion. He can keep female friends even if i dont keep male friends. We both know what boundaries are and we try not to cross them.
It is about understanding and communication but what works for us might not work for another couple.

I will still like to learn alot on this relationship model

pocohantas:
Oga, all men can not be the same.
Leave other people with their opinions and stop tagging them beta males. Who made you king of alpha males?

Nawa!!!

It was a coup, and a new king was born in my person.

Aside though, opinion is a personal right just sometimes it overlap.

I also agree, all men are not the same.

Stay happy.

ImaIma1:
Good points. But it is probably your personal opinion and experience that informs most of it. In all my years i have had more male friends and i haven't had issues with them. If at all they had other ideas or thoughts, i guess they kept it to themselves.
It has not affected my marriage in anyway cos i married someone that has more female friends than male.

Woooow, and you are cool with it?

Like you know he has so many female friends and you are down with it.

Is it more like, since you have male friends you can't tell him not to keep his female friends.

This is a new type of marital arrangement and I applaud you.

ImaIma1:
I always had more male than female. For me, it was easier to talk to guys. Plus girls were just surrounded by too much drama and pettiness. ..malice, backbiting, envy, competition,etc. But guys were so plain, drama free and easy to get along with.
The line was always drawn cos i am very blunt and straight to the point. No grey areas for me

Let's not start again.

Guys are always easier to talk to because almost all of us are soft with women. The statement you made is something other guys will say about girls.

Guys Vs guys also have drama and AL those competition you talk about.

You should not be running away from shadows, my opinion has been that, you know your heart but you cannot read his heart.

Everything thing you said up there is just Me Me and ME, can you vouch for the content of his mind?

If your relationship is just good morning and good evening, great but when you start investing too much, then you will get a new flavor. It is cool if you are single but back off if you are engaged.

The point is, you may end up being hunted.

This are the likely scenario.
He may be bidding his time and still sizing you up.
You are unattractive to him.
He is benefiting other things from you.
You are forcing the friendship and he does not want to hurt you.

If your female friends are gossipers and all that, it is a judge of your character and no matter how you minimise that part of you, you will realize that you are not growing.

olaboy1:
Go back and read what you just posted, pay attention to this part (When I met her in person, I was wowed by her beauty. But I sized her up and knew that if I make a move on her it won't work. I knew it would be more beneficial to have her as a friend rather than loose her in any attempt of wooing her)

You are the beta male many of us here have tried to describe, you settled for friend zone when you perceived her value to be higher than yours hoping to get a consolation lay. You have also proven one of the points one poster stated about 4 types of M/F friendship.

quote author=Konami94 post=60030537]For the girls, there are probably few types of male friends out there.

1. The ones who befriend you and hide in the guise friendship, but with explicit intentions to lash you.

2. The ones who think they can't have you, so they settle for friendship hoping for a miracle to happen someday. (Friendzone things)

My guy, you are still here answering all this beta males? I am already causing wahala in another thread since.

If that girl had given him the chance, he will also lick her anus. He was just bidding his time till the cake gets to him but his game is not solid.

They think it is by speaking grammar.

I think I will create a post on : friends to lovers to teach them.

makydebbie:
Feel free,
At emboldened bro...

You should edit you email off, I sent a mail already.

That bold part was a disclaimer .

thank

makydebbie:
LOL, bro thanks.
Business? Never thought of that, but I'll love to be a journalist and a writer.

I wish to send you a PM, so I ask your permission!

I currently operate a blog and we may bank on controversial topics like this to make a break.

I am a writer too and do not worry, we may never meet.

makydebbie:
Don't forget to keep this comment in the trashcan as well.

You have actually turned a lady after my heart here because you have been able to separate emotions from reality.

You should venture into business, you will excel.

wolextayo:
I have read through the comments, I was expecting a question from those comments but it never emerged.
A Girl can have many male friends but that doesn't mean something is going on under the skirt. Also, I contacted 10 girls for a short survey on this topic and also on my question. 7 of the girls claimed to have more male friends while the rest said they have more female friends. The outcome of my question's survey also showed that 8 of the girls (2 married) started their relationship with friendship while the remaining 2 claimed it was just a 'woo and come back for reply thing' and it was sealed till today.

My Question

Pls if we don't start an intending relationship with friendship, how better should it start?
I'll be expecting answers to this question. Thanks.
Cc : fineboynl
Prec1ous
Makydebbie
Kondomatic
Tosyne2much

I was also going to do a survey too, so I might know if the trend has changed, so I appreciate your effort.

Did you notice something in your comment, two started with friendship and now are married, that is the catch.

We are not against having opposite sex as friend, what I am championing is that, it will always become more than friendship.

I am not talking the basic good morning and good night friendship, I am talking of a fully invested friendship between opposite sex where secrets are shared, moments are enjoyed together, emotion must grow.

All those girls saying they prefer guys are just parasite and my gross is in this fact, why will you be in a relationship and your bestie is off the opposite sex.

Your friends in the survey are single, I am cool with that because they may find love, but if you are engaged the other friend is a threat.

sharpwriter:
why don't you eat fish

I wish I know.

Childhood phobia or I was born that way.

If there is fish in your food I will not come close talk less of eating it.

thowbie7ven:
Total Bullshit Bro!...I just dey look all these guys saying"There's no P in a girl having too many Male Friends"...Let the cards turn opposite them a see if they'll be cool with their so called girlfriends/fiancees hanging out with her male friend(s), sleeping over in their house(s), cooking for them etc...all in the name of being "friends"...I bet, 90% of guys can't even make do with that..same for the Females also...

there is nothing i hate more than hypocrisy.

Imagine having issues with your girl and she is calling a male friend to seek comfort.

I dont blame all those beta males

thowbie7ven:
The almighty Lord that has bestowed upon you "Wisdom, knowledge and Understanding" won't leave you for the enemies to kill...Thank you very much for this piece...Infact, I broke up with my Ex just because of this same issue...too many guys always calling them her friends...she'll always go out/hangout with them in their cars and what have you, always going to their houses to cook for them...uses them as her dps anytime they hangout etc...Initially, I was cool with it...but later, I started noticing she was getting carried away then I started calling her attention to it...Then she started saying I was Insecured, I don't trust her...blah blah...This was a girl that followed a Male friend to a hotel to spend a week with him(with another Female friend of hers)...I just had to break up with her...I cannot coman kill myself

Guy you dodge bullet ohhh.

If she was single, no wahala but in a relationship, that is BULLSHIT!