₦airaland Forum

mirexxx:
you're lying

searching4love:
Going by the trend of cheating mostly found among the female folks especially Nigerian girls, one begins to wonder if there is still hope for we the unmarried men. Where are the women of virtue and dignity why has promiscuity become a norm and way of life among our ladies Are there still good women out there Are there still ladies who stick to just one guy irrespective of your financial situation?


I have been scammed and taken for granted by ladies who took advantage of the love and care i had for them. It saddens me to know that most Nigerian men have the same story to tell about our females. How and where can one really find the love of one's life in this our immorality filled society?

Your opinions are needed

sexymoma:
Ma Brother you are right o...
I saw it live In Ojota Axis... This particular guy is contesting for Lagos Senatorial Something Something sha
Come and see how he was throwing One One Thousand Naira for the Agberos.
Next thing i saw was Nokia Torch light been thrown to them too... Come and see rushing

valkaka:
Please don't kick me off for trolling. This is not meant to be intentionally upsetting.

In another post, someone said that I should respect women more. I do think about sex a lot, and probably have a "manic" sex drive due to hallucinogen use when I was younger.

Should I respect someone just because they were born female? Does that make sense? Do they need any sort of commensurate achievements? I mean respect any more than the basic respect that you give to anyone just like the cashier at shoprite?

I see some girls walk around like "being female" is an accomplishment, despite the fact that they have never done too much of anything in their life. A lot of girls say they identify with "being female." What does this even mean?

I am male. I don't have to talk about it all the time or expect special treatment, do I?

Should I respect a woman just because she is a woman in a way that I wouldn't respect another man just for being human?

And without getting in to my life story, I have spent quite a bit of time in Intensive Care Unit's amongst other things, so I do not think that "going to school and getting a job" is the definition of survival.

What about the fact that men build houses and women live in them and call a man anytime anything breaks?

What about women that sit around and do next to nothing while their "man" spends his whole life at a job to feed her? Should I respect her just because she is a woman even more than to respect any other human being, even a bum on the street?

I did not say that they were intellectually or emotionally inferior, but I shouldn't have to respect someone just because they are female. And I suppose also, I shouldn't DISRESPECT anyone just because they are female.

I suppose it's all on the individual. (I think I just answered my own question, but feel free to respond anyway).

And here's one for the feminists. For the first 99% of the existence of our species, women depended on men to survive. They could not eat meat without getting it from a man. Men created civilization. Men make up armies. Men defend civilization. Men are the police (for the most part). Men are faster. Men are stronger. Men have better hand-eye coordination. Men hunt. It's only because of thousands of years of civilization that you can go to the grocery store to get your meat. Men build houses.

What do women do? I would like to hear some feminist responses to this one.

valkaka:
Please don't kick me off for trolling. This is not meant to be intentionally upsetting.

In another post, someone said that I should respect women more. I do think about sex a lot, and probably have a "manic" sex drive due to hallucinogen use when I was younger.

Should I respect someone just because they were born female? Does that make sense? Do they need any sort of commensurate achievements? I mean respect any more than the basic respect that you give to anyone just like the cashier at shoprite?

I see some girls walk around like "being female" is an accomplishment, despite the fact that they have never done too much of anything in their life. A lot of girls say they identify with "being female." What does this even mean?

I am male. I don't have to talk about it all the time or expect special treatment, do I?

Should I respect a woman just because she is a woman in a way that I wouldn't respect another man just for being human?

And without getting in to my life story, I have spent quite a bit of time in Intensive Care Unit's amongst other things, so I do not think that "going to school and getting a job" is the definition of survival.

What about the fact that men build houses and women live in them and call a man anytime anything breaks?

What about women that sit around and do next to nothing while their "man" spends his whole life at a job to feed her? Should I respect her just because she is a woman even more than to respect any other human being, even a bum on the street?

I did not say that they were intellectually or emotionally inferior, but I shouldn't have to respect someone just because they are female. And I suppose also, I shouldn't DISRESPECT anyone just because they are female.

I suppose it's all on the individual. (I think I just answered my own question, but feel free to respond anyway).

And here's one for the feminists. For the first 99% of the existence of our species, women depended on men to survive. They could not eat meat without getting it from a man. Men created civilization. Men make up armies. Men defend civilization. Men are the police (for the most part). Men are faster. Men are stronger. Men have better hand-eye coordination. Men hunt. It's only because of thousands of years of civilization that you can go to the grocery store to get your meat. Men build houses.

What do women do? I would like to hear some feminist responses to this one.

Lacomus:
The guy's lucky he had told prominent personalities at least they could testify in his favour, my advice is build ur life n stop fantasizing about gold digging n sugar mummy.

In other news I want to say a very big thank you to God for making this day possible n also to Jtwice,Uk and every Nlder.
Happy sunday!!!!!!!!!!

Nneka123:
choi! you be keeper! why have unprotected sex in the first place? , I mean how could you have sex with two guys? this is serious what should we do for you now? um tell them you are pregnant for both of them. court closed! case solved!

Princecalm:
I think you should confront such people if it irritates you, and not coming to tell us.
However, change is what we desire.

martyns303:
Frankly He's just being lazy.

How was he surviving before he got married? After marriage he relinquished basic responsibilities such as cooking, cleaning etc solely to his wife

These are the reasons why a couple should do chores together. Cos she can be sick, pregnant, had a baby etc.
I hope he appreciates her more after coming to the realization.

Guys your wife/fiancee/GF is not a machine or a paid maid, if you can't do all those chores. How do you expect her to do them all alone and she's the weaker sex?

Here's a few tip on how i share chores.

1. Follow her to the market, am terrible at pricing things so I don't even bother, but I carry the bags, by watching, I now know how much a particular item should cost on average. I can now help ones a while with market, tho she always say they cheated me.

2. Am with her in the kitchen, I help dice okra, clean fresh fish, blend tomatoes etc. Now am a pro in cooking.

3. We clean together, Saturday being a major cleaning day.

4. I wash my own jean, and help with hers, while she washes all our clothes that require hand wash, she is very meticulous. Boxers, bedspread, towels etc goes to the washing machine.

Like my mom will tell us her male children, "men don't NEED respect, it is women who need it, between a man and a woman, the man will always be respected, he doesn't need what he already has"

Richard6:
If you are the type that chats on BBM, you will understand what am saying. If want to learn some tricks on how to be cunny, simply meet one of your sisters and she will teach you because girls are naturally cunny. Some of them always claim to be wise, they usually dont come out open and express what they want but will always do it indirectly using signs such as when they need sex, when they need money, when they like someone, they also indirectly ask for BIS subcription too.

Below are some of the things they usually write on their status when their BIS expires and need someone to help them subcribe.

1. WILL BE OFFLINE FOR LONG:
This is a trickish way of forcing you to ask her why will you be offline for long. Initially, she will pretend not to tell you.
Guy: Dear, why do want to be offline for long?
Girl: My dear, never mind, its personal.
Now the guy will claim to be a good friend or caring or to show concern and persist to know why without knowing he is actually entering into into trouble.

2. WHO CARES ABOUT ME:
When she asks this question, her intention is to induce converstaions and some guys will be like...Baby, you know I care about you. She will now smile because you have entered the net. The next question is...I know you do but can you proof it? The guy will respond ofcourse, just tell me anything you want. Thats when she will now chip-in what she actually wants without you knowing. To the guy, he is proofing but to the girl he is not proofing, he is subcribing for her because she is not interested in whatever you claim to be proofing but her BIS.

3. NOT NOW:
This is another indirect way of asking for BIS subcription because when she writes it, some of those guys who have been chyking her for sex or maybe for love will be like...baby whats the problem @your status? She will first complain how stupid android is in melting down someone's MB, she will say it in such angry mood that she just subcribed N2000 for MB last week and its almost finished, sometimes she will blame it on her sisters and end up saying that the worse is right now, she doesnt have a dime to subcribe now. In that way, you the chyker have been told to do something indirectly and as a chyker, you will be like..Oh, sorry about that, I will see what I can do..which network? She will now say...Thank you darling, you are so nice and sends a hugging and kissing smiley. Your response will be...Welcome baby, its my pleasure.

4. DAMN BROKE:
This is the one they all do both for BIS or when they need money from chykers or their boy friends. This one isobvious, you dont need to ask someone with such status what does she want. Some guys will start sending encouraging words like...dear, take it easy its just for a while. Some guys will be like...My dear, its every where o @your status. People like us will pretend not to see it. But believe me, there are many that will stil respond and say...Dear, lets talk about your status. Every other message entering will remain "delivered" and not "Read" because she is now busy with you and its only messages from people like you that need to be read, others are stingy.

5. NEED TO CHANGE NETWORK:
She writes she needs to change network so that someone or people will ask her why and believe me, people or someone will surely ask. And you know as someone who needs to change to another network for browsing will need to subcribe it. She will give you many reasons why wants to change which may or may not be true but at the end she will also add...but I have a problem. You will definitely ask what the problem is and thats when she will make her intentions known to you in polite way as if her status isnt all about that her intention. Wise guys will tell you, hmmm...I think its better you manage that network until the BIS expires.

6. PUTS A CRYING OR SAD SMILEY:
When a girl puts such faces on her status, the chykers and the boy friend (s) will start asking questions. She will first try to put you in a defensive situation by first telling that there is no need telling you because you might not help or that she doesnt want to bother you with her problem but why did she have to put that face there when she wants to carter for her problems alone? Believe me, some guys dont like challanges especially someone who has been finding a way to show you that he likes you. Immediately you say what the problem is, he will try to proof you wrong.

7. GUYS ARE STINGY:
When she writes this, some guys in her chat list will be like...Na today you know?, some annoying ones will be like...you havent said what you want, some will be like...how do you know, the ones that will enter the trap will be like...baby am not among the stingy ones, some will be like...You are wrong, not all guys. She will now look for replies that suit her intentions and start up chats with you. If you say you are not stingy and that not all guys are stingy, you have to show proof and that way, she will get what she wants.

8. HOW I WISH:
Guys are good in asking what do you wish @your status. Some with bad minds will think what she means is..How i wish I was with someone right now. Whe you ask out of curiosity, she will tell you that what she means is how she wishes she could have a caring and loving guy. In this way, she will end up getting what she wants from those distrubing chykers and sex seekers.

9. AM NOT OK:
This is almost same as No. 6 except that here she expresses her mood in words and not with a smiley. As someone who is chyking a girl on BBM or someone who is dating someone, you need to know why she is not ok. She will tell you I will be fine, that you dont need t bother and you will persist to know why she is not ok, thats when she you will buy the problem. If you pretend not to see it like us and if you two are close, she will ask you whether you didnt see her status which is normal or if she is a desperate one, she will ask you if you didnt see her status whether you are close or not.

10. CALL ME IF MY BBM IS NOT AVAILABLE:
This is an indirect way of saying No. 1
When she wirtes this, those chykers will be asking why, why, why? In this type of case, she always says it directly that she doesnt have money to subcribe for her BIS for now. Believe me, either her boy friend or one of the chykers will definitely do something.

11. I LOVE CHEERFUL GUYS:
She will write this one few days to the day her BIS will expire like 4 or 5 days ahead. There will be arguments, there will be some lovely chats and when the time comes, she will write any of the above status already listed above.

Girls, try these and you will always get someone to subcribe your BIS.
Guys, be aware of these and you will never be a victim.

akinsadeez:
see those rides Lord have mercy on me. These people are also human beings like me nah

Airforce1:
that ride mehn

Working on my musical album
Join you guys soon

kayboy4y:
It's not a NEWS joor. What do u expect? Nurses in our various Hospitals lack Moral and Ethical consideration. All what they are after is to collect money. They are worse than Police. I pray for his quickest recovery!

AK6464:
So help him God

Goahead:
That must be Airtel

xreal:
BTW
When did he start his music career?
How many singles/albums does he have?

Am I missing something?

olexjay:
Congrat bro!

We av heard how someone meet his crush on Facebook and Nairaland, now we waiting for twitter and bbm

ylaa:
nonsense topic. cant you discuss without mentioning women?

xp17:
yes, for guys. A guy could have some random sex without any string attached and still go back home with all his love, leaving non behind, but when a lady does likewise, know she's got some feelings for the fella , opssss! sorry you've lost her to the guy.

bottom line, men don't cheat, they only explore. Abraham did it,
David did it,
Solomon did it,
who am I not to? I dey craze?





hit like if you get the gist.

keppyy:
Very well Spoken....This city is filled with cheats...

Gosh...I started serving here last year and I can boldly say this town town is filled with loosed men and women who would offer you anything and everything to get in between your legs...

I try my best to avoid it all, it's really not been easy because you'll be really tempted, but I'm determined not to fall for all these things...

A man called me poor because I refused his request, he said my mates will all drive cars and I'll still be trekking because I'm forming innocent....He even said that I'll keep living in the poor side of town (nyanya) because my good girl syndrome will not get me anywhere...

He said I will not get a job in this town if I can't open my legs because there are a million girls in this town that are ready to spread their legs wide open...He said I should just go back to my village because abuja will not favour me...

It's really not easy in this town but I'm determined...

rockstarB:
I have this mentality that Nigerian guys dnt marry till they are 30 upwards.

skelefish:
I don't understand ur last sentence.

U tink early marriage is wht makes a man responsible?

rockstarB:
U can try online dating. I met my bf there and we will be 4years soon. I never knew some guys still wish to get married young. My own bf will soon start serving and he is talking abt marriage already it's cute tHo. I wish u d very best.

jaybiz007:
Summary, she should avidly support her hubby in:
Gambling, Drinking, Clubbing and what have you...
#EndTimeThings

celeron40:
And this is news? This generation is so lost in people-worship..."Eating amala"..so?

brito:
I like your maturity, even poor guys have consequences. None of my daughters will marry a poor guy, I will make sure they are good to go too.

basisop:
I screamed when I saw the kiss picture. I again wondered why I screamed. The man was handsome but now has an ugly mouth.

humilitypays:
lol, nobody is stopping women from sampling men and cheating like men na....its women that are stopping themselves because of their natural making.

I am sure if I tell u to come so we can just be sex mates, nothing attached, u will scream, curse me and call me names, and this your reaction may be because u are dating or married to one guy somewhere sampling other prettier/hotter women. so its just nature not your fault.

Women need to understand this and deal with it.

if nature or biology wanted women to be sex freaks and explorers like men, it would have also made it possible for men to get pregnant.

If a woman chooses to be sleeping around, na her body go tell her...lol

justmenoni:
ok oooo but u know in our culture cheating men are a bit tolerated unlike their female counterparts,what do u think would hv happened be the op caught his SIL kissing another man even 10 years after 10 years of marriage to his brother? we aint oyinbo nah

justmenoni:
@Op in as much as i dont support cheating partners or cheating in a relationship or marriage...but after the incident have you ever take time to ascertain what could have led ur BIL to commit such act? of cos ur sister is a phd holder,career woman etc but that doesnt makes her a good woman,wait i didnt mean she has a bad character but Sex plays a vital role in any relationship and alot of women actually denies their men the right to sex especially during the pregnancy periods...why not take time as some other members have suggested and talk with ur BIL and see what actually is wrong cos from your description he is a gentleman but wait oo does it mean womanizers are actually not gentleman or easygoing?.. talk to your BIL and ascertain what is wrong..i understand the kind of dilema u found urself in..but there might be more to the story than you actualy imagine cos if i should understand ur post very well you dont stay with them(ur sister and ur BIL) and even if u do i blv u dont sleep in dere bedroom..i have seen lots of couples screaming that u canhear dere voices form the main compound but on getting to their door or entering their apartment you will find them laughing and pretending all is well....Please do ur best and try as much as u can not to dissolve their marriages and wait ooo if ur sister sef is looking for a oman woman kind of man then she hv to exercise alot i mean alot of patience cos we men thse days are actually cheaters ;Dlike my brother usually says you cant be eating rice everyday there should be time you have to eat it with beans or plantain