Nbote:
Dis is the President's home state ooo. Dis state enjoyed relative peace and tranquility in previous govt o

Not relative...they enjoyed absolute peace...Now their eye don clear. I served in that state. Was so peaceful

Pierocash:
It must be connected to infidelity.

I see no reason a married woman will be desecrating the temple of marriage with adultery.



People should do more of home work than courting

STFU

All of them Northerners. Nigeria is gone!
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Called him this morning after several weeks of postponing...woke up with a dream abt him, like a nightmare. MAY God continue to protect him

Asgard73:
Apc is evil...

Leave Yoruba people and their blind supporters with their hatred

Middle belt and southeast and south south should arm themselves mean mean

Yoruba people and Fulani people are one and same ...
northern Christians should be much prepared and be conscious of Yoruba people and their propaganda

Their support for killers and bandits killing us are out of envy and lust for power

Collectively we will pay em back in their own coins

Let us pretend about Yoruba support for killers and bandits ... while abusing southeast south south and middle below and northern Christian

Let us not forget.

Yoruba and Fulani are not sane...Don't be an idiot.
It's our leaders including Igbo, Hausa, Yorùbá And Fulani leaders who manipulates social perception and political ideology. They are the ones to be stamped out...stop your idiocy of generalizing a whole tribe tha is also being killed by Fulanis

This should be on front page

Justice3000:
You don't need to bother about that... Just modify... And you're good to go

You are simply not cybersecurity conscious plus it's implications if you say this.

iampeterben:
Contact the Administrator Mr. Lalasticlala he will help you delete your post.

Really? even the quoted posts? And do I contact him by normal PM? ....will he reply the mail since I'm not sure there's a formal protocol of contacting admin

Men are getting smarter in my own opinion, at 30+ a man's will and character is already formed and the past relationships have taught him hard lessons that he would love to heed for personal security.
In the same vein, he has better understanding of women, their antics and manipulation tactics, reason he's being direct and tries to avoid drama since drama achieves nothing other than wasted time, saps one's energy and resources.
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Women should grow up as well

Most social media or platform has this feature of being able to delete your post paraventure you don't want it linger or indexed forever on their database.
But here, I notice u may deactivate, but you can't find option to delete your previous posts if you so wish. And even after deactivating, your moniker is still obvious on posts or replies you were quoted.
I think it's not so right, and can give away one's privacy and probably a reason we may have to be wary of what we post here, defeating the purpose of being a faceless forum.
Or is there a way to delete that I don't know of?

coming2america:



And you got her on Tinder. Even for abroad sef,Tinder get as e be. No to talk of Nigeria where we all know thats a Runz Girl platform.

On a first date, why shd u even be telling a girl a sob story, that u were sick and nearly died, hoping to get pity from her.

You funny o. They girls only want to hear soft stories, and sob stories as they are available, only for enjoyment.

Next time, keep your woes to your self. Share only the highs,till you are sure of her. Better not even share sef,cos they can constribute zilch.

As for me, though, once i take yiu out,drop you or uber you home and you dont call or text, thats the end. I aint ever calling you again. Her calling/texting is a gauge of interest.

Cool

Ninjisky:


See my man, it’s your mind that’s not so urban not the place
God katapulted you to a place where you can recharge
Re-wired
Re-game
Re-
Re-
Re-
Re-
Etc
But your problem is that you complain far too much why not look deeper and see that place as a blessing?
Why not go outside take some fresh air, use those not so urban vixen as your guinee pig?

Is like social media is one of the things that wanted you dead somehow but you are too blind to see or notice then but now that you’re healing you wanted to start from there huh?

Who tf moved my cheese DAMN!!!

Thanks..will try and find alternative. Thanks

emmaodet:


I still find it amusing how fast ladies dump guys at the slightest sign of hardship/ when life turns. I really wish and hope i can have such cold heart but it seems women own na follow come and not learnt here.

Those guys have assassin heart. So cold

blinking001:

Hahaha, I can relate too, I had a similar experience too, I was on medical leave for 2 months, ending of last year. I was operated on, kongi wan kee person, you needed to see how my ladies were praying for my recovery, turns out they missed the Dig too. Kongi na bastard

Exactly...and all these gals thing can tire person...U can imagine the trauma and pain for the past one year, coupled with fiancee that left one in the lurch...plus konji after so long off sex... hmmm. It shall pass

blinking001:

Seems like you really like this girl, I would advice you take things slowly with her, but please don't call her, if she doesnt have the courtesy to call you back then let the heavens fall. Ungratefulness is a major red flag for me. Entitlement is another. I'll advice you look for other gorgeous women in that same university so you can spin plates with them. You become emotionally attached to a woman if she's the only option you've got. Personally If I notice I'm generating feelings for any of my girls, I dumb you immediately. It's just the way i roll.

Cool stuff. I haven't called her. Maybe I placed her on pedestal, thinking she's reasonable, to my shock I guess. I'm also egoistic. I have never given any need to even go on a date until recently when it seems I'm getting emotional/depressed.
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I think I will go with your advice by finding time to just drive to her school and see how it goes..that was my first time knowing that schl sef.

. Guy body don full..e don Tay...and I no dey patronise Ashewo

blinking001:

Tinder is not really an option for me, are there no girls in your neigbourhood, church, mall, etc? Don't feel offended I just want to know

I'm not offended....Tinder was never my thing. I never had time for myself cos of job, let alone time for tinder...but my being stuck at home owing to my chronic health issue led me there...since I'm back to parents place, it's somewhat quiet...not so urbane.
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Even in my neighborhood, gals aren't on tinder as such..I only get matches from far away..of course most of them are Ashewo so I delete them..so the reasonable match nearby is what I'm trying to follow up...and she's sort of a spec, cool, and stays in university hostel. a private uni

blinking001:

When you're out with the ladies always reduce the urge to shaleye, allow them to do the guessing, remain mysterious to them, never tell them your survivor stories because they ain't really interested. They'll always pretend to listen but deep down they aren't interested.
The girl in question is just shit testing you, please don't call her if she doesnt call you. Leave young girls alone especially university girls. Date ladies within your social class. You should be dating other medical practitioners etc na

Thanks .You made good points. I date from my circles while at work..though for fling. I don't feel to marry from them. For now, I don't even have access to them cos my illness took me far away from my work, and I'm not even back to work..cos I'm still unfit for job stress.....was only trying to look out since tinder was my alternative being bed ridden and stuck indoors for over a year.

SweetCunt97:
Well, depends on d individual. Personally I'd call cos e no mean anything to me. I'll advice you to go for a mature lady who understands cos student still get young boys flocking around them.

With your experiences, you need a mature lady.

SweetCunt97:
You probably over thinking everything. I simply call to check if she got home safely makes u seem caring. Let down ur ego, remember you d one trying to convince her to be with u. So i see no reason why you'd expect her to call especially for a first date. It only becomes an issue when it turns into and habit and when that happens, you communicate.

Was confused when you made the above statement. nice you have another perspective

The friend will still fuck_ that gal despite the open disgrace she got. Women no geh shame. She will go back to collect consolation preeq

SweetCunt97:
You probably over thinking everything. I simply call to check if she got home safely makes u seem caring. Let down ur ego, remember you d one trying to convince her to be with u. So i see no reason why you'd expect her to call especially for a first date. It only becomes an issue when it turns into and habit and when that happens, you communicate.

Okay. I don't know ladies have a norm of not calling after a fun-filled date. I just want to know if it's normal..or some red flag.
I seriously don't want to waste my energy on anything that's not worth it. I'm still traumatised from my last experience. Thanks

luminouz:
@pretend.

I have these to say:

1. Why did you have to hide your popular moniker? No one here would have judged you based on your story. Sometimes, sharing these stories with your KNOWN moniker drives home the point and makes better examples for others.

2. Just take it easy:
Hell, you went through a harrowing experience and survived, take some chill pill on this 24 year old babe. A student and that young? She is prolly shit testing, rigmarolling and rope-a-doping you to commit. You have been out the game for a year so naturally, your dating game is outdated but don't stress yourself on this chick by making the damn first move to call,text or whatever. She should on a norm have called to let you know how far, even if na to just say thank you for the outing and 5k you spent. Little gestures like that go beyond the act,to the personality within. Either she is not into you or she is being a woman with her drama.
My advice: Relax your mind, If she doesnt call to check on you. Meet more girls,get your frame and game up to date. Things will naturally pick up from there.

N.B: So your fiancée left you,despite your being in a lucrative profession(doctor), when you were sick and needed her? Well, the lesson there is you can't trust anyone unflinchingly but your own frame

Ikillbrokegirls made a valid point below your post.

Thanks.
I used new Moniker cos I posted it on Romance section, where I'm well known.
Meanwhile, I'm not popular on redpill thread...I don't post here, but I follow in the background.
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What baffled me most is that she dint give off those shit test stuff prior to our date..she was normal, cool and straight forward. otherwise I wouldn't have considered to go on a date...
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I was like, let me even get a feel of her person. And her body language was not bad when we went out.
Anyway. thanks for ur points

Hmmm

I will appreciate red-pillers to help me dissect this issue. Kindly quote it or mention my name so I can receive your comment. Thanks.

Background:
To relay this post, I created another moniker cos I'm very popular here with my usual moniker.
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I was due to marry this year. But due to a severe illness and some unforeseen circumstances that grounded me for like a year, I couldn't. I had to start afresh. I lost my job; but more importantly, I was only lucky to be alive and I'm grateful to God.
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The lady I was supposed to marry deserted me. But that's not the point. Today is my first date for like over a year after my misfortune.

Body:
While in the hospital a couple of young doctors were drawn to me cos they found me interesting and different, unknowing to them i'm also a doctor, but I din't reveal my status.
But somehow, I downloaded Tinder out of loneliness, and connected with a lady, she's like 24, in a private university. Cos of my issue, I din't follow up until last week, other than hi, hi
This weekend, we had a date, I told her all I've been through, and that I was in the hospital when I connected with her..I drove one of my Dad's car to go meet her in school, and afterwards we went out.
She was sweet. I like her. She was somehow cool. I spent like 5k...but the money isn't the issue honestly. And I dropped her back to schl after our outing.
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Conclusion:.
I was expecting her to call me, for like 24 hrs , she hasn't, I'm like isn't she supposed to call me? I don't want to fuck_ up or act clingy, so I haven't called her. I'm now so cynical and distrustful of ladies cos of my experience with my fiancee.
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I like this gal, I want to be serious with her..but I'm scared. What do you think ? Who's supposed to call first given the background story I related.
Thanks. Will appreciate mature and honest comments, as I don't want to start a new relationship on a wrong foot. Thanks.
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Next time, try Real Madrid Jersey and thank me later

TainyLite:
After I posted a thread about au my mother in law buried the placenta of my new born child some couple of months ago, I had to give the baby name at my parent place in other to the new boy fresh breathe of life... Since then I decided to separate from my wife and she went back to her mama house just for me to have peace of mind... I started sending monthly upkeep for both of my children and ready to take any other responsibilities that arises and I made sure I ghosted my wife ever since... Couple of weeks back she called me without reasonable thing to say nd I made sure I made the discussion brief and even told her to extend my greetings to her mother... On Tuesday I unblock her on WhatsApp nd fast forward to yesterday she is now asking me for clinic fees for my child nd even reminding me about my daughter school fees.. Why am surprise is that this is a woman that was telling me she can take care of her children alone even if I don't send monthly upkeep and it's just two months wey she don dey get tired.... After all I did to make her convenient then with me not even having any reasonable plan for my future... In just months I send her commot av secured part time admission for degree and my business is moving on fine with reasonable savings to back up... I even got an averagely furnished apartment to my taste which I will only dream of if I have a wife... For my children to have a good future am already seeing positivity in ghosting their mama wey never dey supportive and always nagging.... Atleast people can say whatever they like but AM FREE from this daughter of Jezebel.... Ever since I send her commot I made sure I raised my value based on some redpilled nuggets nd things have been going on fine for me.. Say whatever u like marriage na still scam and when u tie knot with unappreciative lady then one will just die gasping for breathe...

congrats for this revelation, as it dint come too late you. Enjoy your life....marry another reasonable woman...and if she act unreasonable, ghost her...Life is too short to spend under misery

SweetCunt97:
Well, continue wooing her. You the man and I'm sure she has other men who wants her as well. Simply give her a reason to be with u

Okay. So if I go by your prescription, and she fails to call for 3 or 4 days...when do you think I should call, and what shd be the content of my call?..

thesicilian:
If you're still deciding who should call whom first, then the first date wasn't really that successful

Truth is, I'm a bit confused....and wondering. Though everything went normal cos we both had fun

SmellySperm:
the spendie should call first to appreciate the spender..


but sim.ps would do otherwise

This gal doesn't look wild, or crazy, she looks serious and moderate, also into medical stuff....I'm just trying to tread gently.

I will appreciate more of red-pillers and experienced married women to make comments for personal reasons. Thanks.

Background:
To relay this post, I created another moniker cos I'm very popular here with my usual moniker.
.
I was due to marry this year. But due to a severe illness and some unforeseen circumstances that grounded me for like a year, I couldn't. I had to start afresh. I lost my job; but more importantly, I was only lucky to be alive and I'm grateful to God.
.
The lady I was supposed to marry deserted me. But that's not the point. Today is my first date for like over a year after my misfortune. And I still can't resume job duty yet cos I'm not fit

Body:
While in the hospital a couple of young doctors were drawn to me cos they found me interesting and different, unknowing to them i'm also a doctor, but I din't reveal my status cos I was still hurting.
But somehow, I downloaded Tinder out of loneliness, and connected with a lady, she's like 24, in a private university. Cos of my issue, I din't follow up until last week, other than hi, hi
This weekend, we had a date, I told her all I've been through, and that I was in the hospital when I connected with her..I drove one of my Dad's car to go meet her in school, and afterwards we went out.
She was sweet. I like her. She was somehow cool. I spent like 5k...but the money isn't the issue honestly. And I dropped her back to schl after our outing.
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Conclusion:.
I was expecting her to call me, for like 24 hrs , she hasn't, I'm like isn't she supposed to call me? I don't want to fuck_ up or act clingy, so I haven't called her. I'm now so cynical and distrustful of ladies cos of my experience with my fiancee.
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I like this gal, I want to be serious with her..but I'm scared. What do you think ? Who's supposed to call first given the background story I related.
Thanks. Will appreciate mature and honest comments, as I don't want to start a new relationship on a wrong foot. Thanks.
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