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I don't hate anybody.

Hate is a really strong word/emotion, it can drive one insane, why put yourself at risk of such? Not worth it at all.

urchbarbie:
Lolx. Yh! It wld be nice to hear urself speak in 'strange' dialects like am trying very hard to learn some hausa.

That's really great,how's that coming?

I find the yoruba language pleasant to the ear, unfortunately for me, my yoruba friends don't speak it and I haven't really set out to learn either ,

I'm learning so many things I didn't know from here, this place is like one big giant ball of all kinds of Nigerians, but I've noticed that, most people's words are met with derision and people are really quick to temper, it's kinda frightening.

urchbarbie:
Ure welcome dear. They av seen ur posts n made up dier minds ure a really cool chick. Its expcted. U could actually mail anyone on ur own esp f u want to relate outside d confines of NL

Thats really nice, that way we all don't have to be strangers, really cool.

urchbarbie:
Babes o. I enjoy dis thread so much. U r now one 'commenter' i look forward to reading her posts. Pummeled kwa? U and ur vocabs sha. Straight for those oyibo novels i read. Weldon dear. Gods grace in fixing ur marital life in view as i pray for mine too

Lol, you are funny , honestly I like it here, I wish I can write in Pidgin and Igbo fluently, I'm learning fast here and I go show you soon.

Thanks for the prayers dear and amen to whatever you wish for yourself.

urchbarbie:
Dear. Some of dese mails r from potential NL chykers. If u av strength, u can reply by clicking on d icon on d front page i tink, or better still ignore it.

Oh! I was beginning to wonder if something was wrong because I keep getting it from different ids, I'm relived.

Thank you.

Please people, I don't really know how this works so, I've been getting a lot of emails saying those Ids would like to send me an email but something about us not being connected, that I'll have to reply the emails. I don't understand it.

rokiatu:
hehehe welcome to the fan club girl, the show is like my new fav show. Got everything, music romance dram, action backstabbing, sibling rivalry and so much more. I just love it. No dull moment with empire.

Thank you.

The music's great and I'm a lover of music, then the drama? I can't get enough of it. I'm hooked too.

kandiikane:
Maybe his wife broke his heart.

Aww! , maybe that's it, but he can be sad and cry if he wants to, without not being fair to all the beautiful women out there, who love their men truly.

I don't know much about cooking but this looks easy.

I think I'm going to try it out.

That's a shallow thing to say, he's always going on about how his wife is the best ever, now he's saying she's not beautiful? Am I reading it wrong?

Hi Rokiatu, I agree with you that Andre is very good at playing his role, I don't particularly like him, I'm with the poster that pities him, gosh! He's so pitiable, it gets sad sometimes.

Then Annika, she's just a really bad woman, this show just like scandal is full of twists, it's a very goo show. I'm going to see episode 7 now. I love the show.

Cookie, I love her, she makes ghetto kinda classy and she's funny.

Porsha's head needs to be checked .

chaircover:
Its not just that
These are the types of women who scream "all men cheat"
cos they know how sneaky she and her maried lover were back in the day

These types of women also seem to go for money anyway (why else will you date a married man if not for money surely its not the size of his dickkk?)
So when they do want to settle down, they wont go for a struggling youth corper.
They will go for Mr Rich Cassanova . . .forgetting that there are many women like her who want the same man too.
See as they are all chasing tuface

I know 2 ladies. One is in her late fortys and the other in her late thirtys. They are both still single and looking for even a bus driver to toast them. No show.
Yet back in the day, they both received cars and trips abroad as birthday presents from their randy rich married boyfriends.
The boyfriends have moved onto younger unilag girls while they are going to bed at night solo.
One tried to marry one of her married men and she landed in hospital after getting the beating of her life by the wife at home and the wifes friends and so she had to run away. Her facebook status went from Mrs back to her maiden name.
It is well.

Forgive me for laughing please but I couldn't help it, she must have been seriously pummeled .

veave:
Nne let me ask you first.
Please, all this his business he discusses with you.
Onwekwaa nke ifu n'anya gi n'abo? Abi its just speculations... maka ibanyekwa one chance...

I already read some things from some of your posts that are not clear.

Hi, can you please just write in english? My Igbo isn't all that .

What things would you like to be cleared on.

MarvellousGod:
Yeah, He should have discussed it earlier, that's a major flaw here.. But the point still remains we really don't know the reasons behind the man's sudden decision.. It's well anyway...


I only feel lil issues like this shouldn't escalate..

Yea, issues like this shouldn't cause a war alright, but then, the man was being unreasonable.

I hope they work it out.

blaizze:
I laughed really hard . preternatural, he is not mentally unstable. just like great heart God said, he is just too possessive. I feel his insecurities stems from the fact that he is not yet in the university while am almost graduating. I feels I want someone better. He is a totally independent guy and works for his money and also acquired advanced certificate and diplomas but not a university degree.

We don't live together. I have never even spent a night in his house before. I'm just tired of everything. He knows my house, my mum's shop and almost all my friends. He even knows my mum. whenever I say I want to break up he will start coming to all these places to look for me n start meeting all these people to help him talk to me. and will start making promises to change and all that.

He always says that I have seen someone new that why I wnt to break up with him. Is it a must to be in a relationship. I just want to be alone for now. without all this boyfriend wahala will achieve more.

I will just block his num and stop going out for now(my school is on strike). If I don see him and don't receive any calls I think he will get the message. No point talking to him about it cos it won't work. I just have to be firm.

Thanks for your responses God bless u all.

wow! I was certain he has a personality disorder.

The signs are all over your posts, he even stalks you, that's creepy, and you have to not go out because of this?

He needs counseling, you should talk to him about seeing someone, even if you succeed in freeing yourself from him, he is just going to do it to someone else, that's if he doesn't try to hurt you or himself, he can be helped.

goodheart4God:
But my dear it happens. He is not mentally unstable, he is just a possessive fellow. He isn't crazy at all. It is just his way of controlling to make him feel good about himself. I wonder what he is doing with the girl when he says he doesn't trust women.

The girl will do herself a lot of good if she breaks up with him. At 20, there is still so much to achieve and while doing this you will meet great guys and may end up in marriage. Don't let her mortgage her future for some chocolate boys.

Yea, I get that, but that's some sort of personality disorder right there. Possessive personality disorder to be precise.

Sophyrocks:
The bolded is my point. He refused to see reasons with her even when he knows the reasons are genuine and worthy to be noted. Strikes me as someone who always wants his way to be done at all times and sucha person is likely to be abusive. For him to have decided on his own for them to sleep over without having her agree is another flaw.

You couldn't have said it better.

MarvellousGod:
She was on her period, yes but whether she had cramps or whatever, we can't say.. just same way we don't know the man's reason for wanting to stay behind...Even if she had cramps, walking out wasn't the best decision, so she will continue walking out each time they have quarrel??.. To me, that's not how marriage works... But then, if the husband didn't have any cogent reason for wanting to stay behind, then he was very insensitive but still walking out wouldn't have been the best..

Regarding the man's action, the woman's behavior triggered it...We really don't know the full story shaa.

PS: I'm a woman too..

Yea, we already agree that she was rude, but the story said her hubby is usually selfish.

I don't think it's fair that he would just decide to stay over without discussing with his wife first, that's some tyranny there, furthermore, he refused to make room for negotiation when she gave reasons why she can't stay, I don't see any respect for her here.

I do know you are a woman.

MarvellousGod:
She shouldn't have walked out on him, it was rude.. She should have simply tried to convince him to go home or go buy stuffs she would need for the night.. maybe it was too late hence the man's request for a sleep over.. For him to call the woman outside to make the request shows he has some kinda respect for her nevertheless... She walked out on him, what was she expecting?? a pat on the back or what?? some other man may have even gone physical...When she was saying goodnight and walking out on the man infront of his mum, she didn't know it was rude? She only realized that when the man retaliated. ... Some people just like making lil issues complex, marriage isn't a battle field...

Besides, we are ignorant of why the man requested for a stay over, it could even be more pertinent than buying a sanitary pad et al..

Hi, I agree with you that the woman was rude to walk out on him, but don't you think to cut her some slack? I think the man was being overly insensitive on purpose.

I don't speak for all women but I think I speak for many when I say, a lady loves all the comfort she can get when in her period, it can cause some crankiness you know, and from the story, it can be said that the man has some serious issues, who in their right mind talks to another person that way?

Omg! For real?

The woman is probably mentally unstable and just lost it in that moment.

This is sad.

blaizze:
@babyosisi: He is 24 and am 20. He always complain about my size that I should add weight and stop looking like a child. I look really young for my age. Most people don't believe am up to 20. He is looks little older than his age so people always feel am his younger sister. I'm not thin or too tiny, I'm not even tiny sef. I told him once that I didn't ask him to look older than his age, lol.

@efemenaxy: The relationship isn't bad when are happy but disagree on so many things which makes us argue most times. I just feel we are not compatible.


@cococandy:the control and insecurities is just too much abeg. If I make a call in his presence he will 'stylishly' collect my fone to see who is just called.
I got in contact with an old neighbour last year n we started chatting on watsapp. Wen he checked my chats with the guy, he blinded his eyes to the part where the guy asked if I had a boyfriend and I said yes. He only noticed the part where the guy said he has being wishing to see me since we moved and I didn't let him n how he will like to see moved in school. my bf said that I had something to do with the guy that the chat doesn't look as if I was just friends with him (my former neighbour).
The pressure is just too much. He even downloaded one call recorder like that.

If he wants to dump me let him just do It already. i really don't mind. This guy is my first boyfriend. i keep asking him if there's anything i did to make him not to trust me and he says girls are not to be trusted. hear nonsense.
I just want to be firm and stop him from stalking me when I beak up with him.

so sorry for putting all the replies together. Thanks for your responses.

No one is supposed to talk to or treat another person this way, you shouldn't let anyone walk all over you. Is your boyfriend mentally unstable? He is acting like a crazy person.

Seems I'm starting late, have all current episodes but yet to see them.

Sounds interesting.

Truckpusher:
Don't even start it as every woman in every society gets paid somehow for sex or companionship or whatever you choose to call it .

Women made themselves cheap and men that can't afford women naturally can now afford dozens at once as long as they can afford what women need.

So,Relax ,fall in love with anyone that accepts all your flaws and remain there if not hand go reach you pra pra.

Please show some respect, some women actually work to earn a living and are very comfortable with their own money.

A prostitute sells sex, that's the main point.

I don't understand what you mean by getting paid somehow.

Edusouls:
noo is a lie, all women are prostititutes, in one way or the other they all demand some goodies for tasting their body..

Please, don't you think it's best to not say anything when you aren't sure of it? Saying things like the above makes one seem ignorant.

Don't you people have any respect for women here? I'm taken aback by the comments I see on this thread, it's insulting, especially to decent, hard working women out there, who have sex because they want to with their partners and don't demand any favors or whatnot because of it, please do well to correct yourselves, thank you.

SangoCrusader:
Then all women are prostitutes. Women get paid one way or another. By money, your time, your commitment etc

Jeez! Why would you say something like this? You should take it back.

A woman decides to have consensual sex with a man, how exactly does she get paid?

A prostitute is someone who offers you sex in exchange for money.

Equado:
u are wise!

And you are far too kind, thank you.

Jessewizy:
Don't mind dat brute

It's fine, he apologized but, good looking out.

Ipledge:
am sorry for addressing you like that

Apology accepted.

Ipledge:
will you give me ur toto for free?

This is offensive, please learn how to address people politely. Thank you.

pweetixandy:
did she say guys shld pay her for sex?

Not in so many words.

Is this like a real life thing?

No one is supposed to command anyone, let alone your wife, your wife is supposed to be your best friend, people deserve to be treated with respect.

How can this woman even be asking such questions? She probably should not have just walked out on him, though I don't know what else she could have done since the man doesn't care about her nor listen to her.

She's better off without him.

Now that's just low.