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taylor89:
God wey get the “MAJESTY” never get PTSD na you come dey get

I feel you suffer inferiority

You no wan hear anything wey go make any MAJESTY near your wife or family again be it in male or female form / adult or child form

Or your wife is in labour at odd hour & the only doctor on seat is the real MAJESTY her ex. Lol you go rather carry your wife go meet Shekau to help u than watch Doc MAJESTY see your wife TOTO again

If you come change job and your bosses name is MAJESTY you go find rope enter bush majestically

Imagine this kind man become a lecturer tomorrow and one innocent student wey entire community contribute money send go university, unfortunately for the innocent child his name is MAJESTY

Nothing that boy fit write wey you go pass am

Na dem!! team "your wife is a stranger", "your wife is not your family" sighted. Smh. Peeps who don't understand the institution of marriage. May you all receive divine wisdom.

talented321:
If i never had problem with her parents why will she have problem with my parents.
Beside if my mother is the one worrying her, then my wife has to tell me because i know how to handle the issue, the one reason she will have the guts to retaliate back is when i am not playing my role as a husband to maintain peace. I don't think any woman born by a woman will stress my own mother in my own house, mama comes first not one stranger.

Who offended you💁‍♀️

bluefilm:
Nonsense

This made me laugh , but the writer is right

Reminderz:
okay... let's do this.

the red flag I can say I noticed from the person I once had something with that I knew we weren't going to last was having a bad sexual history... some were also displaying slay queen's attitude..

some might find this funny but always check these with the woman you intend having something serious with..

1) check how religious she is... I mean someone that's truly religious and prays well not just the churchy person... they are generally submissive and have preserved values...

2) check her sexual history.. have a background check on her

3) check her family background and how United they are in her family... if they are disunited, it's better to back off..

4) if she has any tattoo and multiple piercings, dump that b!tch

5) check her social media account and see her activities, what she posts, likes, follows and mostly her comments.. she will sooner or later reveal her true self..

6) check her relationship with her family especially with her dad and brothers

7) if she's generally lazy and can't cook, dump her!

8 ) if she doesn't take care of herself or generally dirty with her space, dump her!

9) if she has more male friends and mostly seen around men, a red flag...

10) if she has no problem revealing her body, dump her...

11) if she has the "my body, my choice" attitude, dump her..

12) if she always posts too much of herself on social media, it's a red flag.. unless she's posting for business... it shows she's insecure and not confident, someone always looking for validation from strangers to feel good... that's not who to be with... date someone who's confident with herself

13) if she bleaches, dump her!

14) if she has olosho close friends or friends displaying oloshoic attributes, dump her!

Dear nairalanders, a friend's father has been missing since Sunday afternoon (20/08/2017). he was last sighted by a bike man on Thursday (24/08/2017) around Iyana Iba, Lagos state. please any one with useful information should contact the nearest police station, or the numbers on the attached picture. Thanks.
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Na wa o, this is just bad, milk and other dairy products are especially bad when expired, they should not be toiled with at all. God help Naija.

The woman doesn't even know how to lie. So they went to look for mangoes in a hotel, and she left the girl that accompanied her to talk to a "stranger", and later left to urinate. How did she know that the man paid the hotel attendant #500? Na wa for this kain hotel mango o. May God repay her accordingly, I just hope that little girl is not in some sort of big trouble.

Divorce is not as easy as many people make it seem, it has far-reaching effect on the couple and both families. in case of violence, physical separation is usually better, while effort is being made to resolve the issue. marriage I know can be very challenging, but 10 months is also too short to consider divorce. Adjustment between two different people is usually not easy, but with the right attitude, it can be achieved. No marriage is totally free from challenges, unless you wanna divorce and remain single forever, because men ehn.......bone story!

Nice thread akaglue. In my own case the reverse is the case o, in that when I was single I was very prudent with spending, I saved a very high % of my income. But since I got married ehn, fashion has been the in-thing for me, I buy clothes and shoes like no tomorrow. I just feel the need to really look good, (which I get compliments for each time I step out ). The thing dey chop my money nor be small (in an Igbo man's voice). maka why.......please how can I cut down my expenses on clothings and shoes, cos its really a big ish for me now o. Hubby nor dey complain sha.

I agree with you NobleG1, especially from the snooping part (dont wanna quote you, 'cos your write-up was quite lenghty. sure many pple didn't read to the end). But I just wanna say that no "one shoe size fit all" in marriage. As much as transparency and openess is encouraged in marriage, you need to study your spouse and be sure he/she is matured enough to deal with every piece of information before sharing. Its called emotional intelligence. You are not hiding basic info, but you are holding on to not-to-important info which may generate unecessary friction In your marriage. This institution called marriage is very complex and deep, a couple is made up of two different individuals with varying paradigm. views and opinions may not always be aligned, so you need not stir up trouble with what you know is not morally wrong, but may not align with your partner's views, ESPECIALLY WHEN IT DOESN'T AFFECT THE SMOOTH RUNNING OF THE HOME! I'm not in support of privacy in marriage, but I think we should know how far is too far, especially when dealing with an immature partner. you can't change or crucify an immature partner, you can only endure till the person grows up, but in the interrim you need a survival strategy to keep the home going. I have a wealth of experience in this, I just can't type all.
cc: NobleG1

hey! this one na one chance o hey! this one na one chance o

SagePerv1:
[color=maroon]If you're above 30 and you decide to live by this, please don't come crying “40 and still Single”. [/color]

very wrong perception! so because a lady is getting old she should settle for any kind of man? even if it means living in pains for the rest of her life? Is marriage now as important as life itself. Please dont aggravate the already wrong societal view about marriage. I'm surprised at the comments I've read so far, people seem not to read with understanding.#insult not intended#

ronald4lif:
Another interesting topic...

The male ego is extremely fragile and this is all the more true for the Nigerian male. They must be the bread-winner, must provide for their families. Men still are expected to pick up the check on a first date. The ultimate prize for any alpha male is always financial. Having the woman earn more often leads to a deflated ego, depression and general bitterness. So how does a man handle a successful woman? Oh well

So let’s not take the ultra feminist stance, that won’t help the already egoistic Nigerian men to cope with the fact that his wife/girlfriend is more successful than him. Flaunt your success by all means but don’t belittle your spouse for being less successful in any way, even in jest. For a man, the key is to be open minded and be strong. If your relationship is based on a strong foundation of love and commitment, the pay check should not matter. You should be a team. You go out, you buy things, you party, and you invest together. You do all this together. When you feel smaller in any way, talk about it. When you feel low, express it.

Differences in salaries should not be a hindrance when it comes to relationships. Men need to let go of their egos and women need to make their men feel special. This is an age old debate and there are no definite sides to take. There are some matured and settled men who have no problems with their wives being more successful and richer. And then there are men who will feel threatened by their wives earning more.

Having Nigerian men not get intimidated by successful women may never happen. We're way too egocentric and believes we must call the shots at the home front. And that our women should do our biddings always. Successful women will always want to have an opinion on matters of the home (which is very okay) but most Nigerian men will always want to subvert or disregard their wives opinion. Theirs should be final. This is where their ego gets deflated hence their insecurity on successful women.

You have said it all. Unbiased assessment!

ohaleoghene:
my fiancé and I has been dating for 6years now. met him after my high school. when he was around ,we had sex two to three times a week. now he has travelled abroad. and over a year I haven't had sex and I miss it. I sometimes self service but guilt kills me afterwards so I want to stop. any tips on how to over come sexual urge as I don't want to cheat or self service.

sex two to three time a week with a man you are not married to, so how often will you do when you eventually get married. That's why married people are advised to live together, you are having sex so frequently like one while unmarried. I don't know what to tell you, you took a wrong step from the beginning!

OXYGEN01:
Have you forgotten u are a nigerian? This thread was open to enlightened u a little but as usual a nigerian will choose to be a fool rather than to be sensible. Am not surprised. A nigerian will forever be a nigerian.Foolishness and stu.pidity will also forever continue to be part and parcel of u people. USELESS PEOPLE.

Why so much hatred for Nigeria yet you won't stay off the forum. You are so vulgar and always spewing insults on Nigerians. I think you are just being sentimental and uncouth! Change your ways!!.
Note: Don't bother quoting me because i won't check it. I'm outta here.

She got straight legs. Me likey!

gunners160: Huh it all depend on the both couples.thisdays,most people go into marriages with the sole aim of jst getting a child and that's all.sori to say, religion to also has a role in this boringness they tel couples dnt do this, dnt do dat, dnt date a guy/lady jst pray and your partner wil fall 4rm heaven.to make matter worst some religion tels you how to Bleep your wife and hw she wil dress anythng outside pastor style is a sin. gosh! 2rndly, some men are just so egocentric they misinterpret the meaning of a "weaker vessel".they see it has some1 who has no say,who is weak and has nuthng to offer and this is wrong.3rdly,lack of initiative.the man continues doing dsame thng everyday. the woman too continues doing dsame thng everyday the both couples dnt try to bring in new ideas,new initiative etc go to work cum bck and thats all.no new things to introduce to the marriage or make the other partner eager to see.lastly,people see dating as jst 4 kids and after marriage dating is over.hel no,dating is a continous process and thats why most couples today prefer when they are dating than when they are married.couples should continue dating and this wil reduce the high rate of divorce. this points above are the main causes of boredom in marriages until this issues are addressed it wil continue

You have said it all. i really like your point if view.

I think we should take note of the key point here which is"newly married" couple. No one is saying MILs are not welcomed in the home, the issue is are they supposed to be with the newly wedded??. kindly stick to the Op's question! In my own opinion it is not right, not for any reason.

So on point!!. Its not easy to be in a wrong relationship. Survival becomes the only focus.

This is a serious one, as your gf is not only jealous, but violent. It is not advisable to end up with a violent person, as she will be emotion-driven. such people only realise their mistakes after the deed has been done. if you genuinely love and want to settle down with her, i advise you take her for some kind of psychotherapy. Do NOT marry her unless u see the change you desire. All the best!

Where is the cake??

The fact remains that 90%of android users were/are bb users.....so wats the fuss about bb

That relationship actually had no foundation!!

Nosu: @ishilove I had to take my time to read ur story.

Let me ask u a question, if i buy u a plate of food and u didn't eat and u remain hungry. Is ur hunger caused by lack of food?
Dsame apply to a christian, u can sit down there and believe u are under a curse and surely the curse will begin to operate in ur life.
I don't know how else to say this. A lot of us dont know y Jesus went to the cross and what he did on the cross.
A lot of christians are too shallow in this Faith they believe and that y God hates ignorance
Ignorance equal death

What exactly is your point, or disposition in this matter? most people do not even understand the op. The op's questions are in two parts, which should be answered according. (1) Do u believe in generational curse, which can also be re-framed as 'does generational curse exist. the ans is YES generational curse does exist. (2) can a christian be under generational curse? in this case, it is very possible for a christian to be under this curse, this cud be due to ignorance of the curse, or hidden sin. Jesus is the only solution to breaking the curse. And i tell you while that genuine christian will be free from the curse, other members of that family who do not have the light of God still suffer on. I hope I've been able to throw more light on the topic. I dont like posting lengthy comments, otherwise i wud av gone on and on. #peace#

[quote author=nutty_hnic]The same church that founded Crawford University, Igbesa...where students payfees of more than 500k as tuition. go and sit down my friend.[/quote]That is not correct dude! feeding is included in that fee. Besides is it as costly as the likes of convenant and Babcock?

This is because most people hardly view other pages asides front page.

hope this makes u happy.

care should be taken in discussing issues that deal with self esteem. its not bad to communicate how u feel, and your sexual needs to your man, but it has to be done the right way. make sure the message is well passed across, attacking d issue and not personality. without insult and anger. Both can actually work towards attaining a gud sexual height. #peace#

lol at nairaland changing my exact words!! really funny.

Why speculating that your girlfriend will come down with kidney disease? The fact that it is hereditary does not mean every member of the family will have it. Besides love is meant to be unconditional, how would you feel if your girlfriend is also considering leaving you for the same reason, i mean put yourself in her shoes. Prayer conquers all problems, that is if you even pray concerning your relationship and marriage. What if a bigger problem that is not even health related comes up after wedding, what will you do. summarily i dont think its right for you to leave your girlfriend because of this, rather you should pray with her as a sign of genuine love. she needs you now than ever before, do not complicate her emotional trauma! #peace#

I took my time to read through all comments, and i must say majority did not speak the plain truth. marriage is complex and very unpredictable. No two marriages are the same, and no one knows exactly what to expect until u pick your own package. Many people do not know the difference between ENJOYING and ENDURING marriage. most Nigerians endure their marriages because divorce is even worse. if you are putting so much effort into making your marriage work, and your partner is not, are you enjoying such marriage? Happiness is a choice, yes i agree, u can choose to be happy even though you are not enjoying your marriage, simply because its your last shot! summarily, people should not confuse happiness with enjoying marriage. Majority will rather remain single in their next lives!! # peace#

Nigerians are just selfish. everyone fighting and clamoring for what will benefit him or her. I'm sure these students who are shouting that the strike should be called off despite FG's attitude won't be doing so if they were lecturers. Before you sit and condemn, make sure u won't do worse if u were Fagge. If things must change, then some people must suffer and endure. its just unfortunate that the students are the ones who have to endure now!! so that posterity will remember this period and commend all those who fought the good fight. After all FG has stopped salary for 2 months now, and ASUU is still unmoved, that is her own part of the endurance. lets all reason objectively without bias, in honour preferring one another. #peace#