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purples25:
A man that says he wants to go, will go.

A man that threatens you with leaving will eventually leave.

Real love is unconditional, it asks no favours.

It is servile and undemanding until the end.

Most times it occurs without sexual thought.

Love is groomed and nurtured otherwise. . ...

Famousqueen:
story for the gods, rubbish

Rubbish abi. With everything you carry for chest there Kenya woman dey teach una game yet you cant learn. You think say wetin you carry is enough to keep a man if you no get game abi? Kwuntinu we shall huu on the baby mama side of life.

psucc:
Hope we are not going back to military regime. While his counterparts in other climes are commissioning schools and industries, he busy commissiong military formations with borrowed weapons.(Remember we borrowed attack helicopters from Pakistan for military training)

A man can only do what he knows about. See Trump, see Buhari each developing the area they know.

sleekymag:
I don't see anything but pure derailment and invitation into needless debates premised on faulting/judging ideologies...

No mind the guy he doesnt want to debate tithe payment but some other ideologies. Phony. Even Jesus no collect tithe, all these pastors are not levites so why should one pay them tithe?

BlaqCoffee109:
can't put it together verbatim but he asserted he is the don and deserves the bj but he can't see himself returning the favor because it is different rules for men...men are Kings; something like that. Point is a king bows only to his queen...so if it's different rules for men and men are Kings and he can't chow his wife...what then is she if not just an object of his pleasure? That my friend not just objectify her but also looks demeaning...like when big poppa's hot, all he gotta do is snap his fingers and she sucks him out...when he's about to cum all he gotta do is scream DJ Khalid ...we the best! With his fat face looking like a down syndrome patient while at it.

Lol.
If a woman has as much reverence and humility for the husband as she has for her boss in the office or pastor (for some) she won't see it that way. And i didnt hear the wife complain because white ladies tend to have such orientation towards their man. They cherish their men if they are loyal and responsible by understanding and not loathing their ego or machoism. Here, its the women of this generation dragging ego and macho with men especially if they are educated or rich. Imagine Chimamanda telling Hillary to remove wife from her bio that's her best advice to her of all things in the world.

Opentokwowledge:
"Helping him dress" is nothing but simple nicety. It could be as simple as doing/undoing one of the buttons on his shirt to make him look sharp or even just adjusting the collar of his shirt, doesn't necessarily mean dressing him up lol!...Even affords you the chance of feeling him up before he hits the road if you kwim ! Go easy on the 'girl power' thingy, makes you come off as some programmed inflexible cyborgs ...

No mind them. Thats how they are raising women of nowadays to be selfish and arrogant with no game(romance) and they will complain when a slay queen who gat game turns their mans head and account.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
I will tell him before he goes deep. One thing I hate about myself is that I don't pretend. However I must not worship and my man or be his servant for him to love me. I'm suppose to be there for him and be his companion and not a servant. All those things he mentioned are things people do. Not everyday Cos if you have something doing and children to take care of you won't do that everyday and a man would understand that. But I can't do all that just to keep a man. The is not a baby in kindergartten. Font tell me you want to keep a woman who things that's her only duty to you and call her a wife.

The problem with Nigerian girls is that they reserve their reverence, respect and sense of servanthood to their boss in the office or their pastor but little for their husband then complain when the man gets lost when his mind is blown by that single lady who gives him all that care and service. If you know you are not selfless or love or revere a man enough to not see those things as a big deal to do for him then dont marry him and allow him get someone ready to be his wife an serve him as he serves her in his own way too. Because you are just setting yourself up to be a baby mama with such unselfless, arrogant, egocentric and belligerent orientation. This is reality. I bet you will be arrogant enough to see passing him food below you or think that makes you a servant to cook and serve him meals. Both of you are each others servant or what is wife or husband without serving one another- fuxck mate then. Maybe he married you for fancy or to be a baby mama (because thats what he will see you as if you make yourself one by thinking only the children deserve your care) or Bleep mate.

BlaqCoffee109:
ehen...no vex oh,I dey reason am too sef eh.Come first you sef dey treat her like goddess? You dey totori her with those finer things... surprise dinner, you no dey play with awon leeches{runs gals} ; you no dey let her struggle for her own place in your heart ...all those Kain nice things abi?early morning mata,you too like beta thing Kai! @ Topic wetin some of us here dey try to yarn no be say those things nah bad things to do...but nah the way she list am as if we no matter for the equation...for instance reason wetin DJ Khalid say about im own wife for the world to hear...that was him dignifying his own wife as a LovePeddler...an object for his own pleasure; that was him mirroring the misogynist some men really are...that was condescending as this list too is...I don't have to do all of this to make my man be with me and my man being with me or me being with my man is just constant...granted doing some of these things factor but there is no one size fit all to do list...and it's shouldn't always be keep him keep him...how about keep her keep her! A woman taking care of the home front is great...but she is your wife, not your maid...hence treat her like a queen...the amazing aspect is that ladies who do all these things usually are taken for granted and in most cases lack personal direction or self esteem and too some extent the same men they do it for walk over them to cheat with the slay Mamas...so?d Tori long,I no know whether I make sense small

You make plenty sense. But this thread is about what is expected for a woman to do for her man . Ofcourse that does not in any away nullify what the man should do to keep her woman which includes getting her nice things and giving her the best experience in life. Maybe you can open a thread to that and hopefully we will all accredit such assertions. Also if a woman knows that being a wife makes her "everything" then no need for external maid to avoid temptation. The case of DJ khalid isnt that bad he said he is willing to take care of her but not by licking whatever. How does that objectify her? Is it really a rule or the exception that if a woman plays her role well the man will look outside? Can a man also use that as an excuse not to go out of his way to please the wife?

killsmith:
nonsense generalization.....

Yeah maybe.

olujastro:
The disturbance might not stop anytime soon as nothing has changed since.
All my life I've only looked out for and dated only financially independent minded ladies, not because I don't like to pay the bills (I actually love it) but because I don't understand why educated Nigerian women will waste their degrees and be relying on men to take over their financial burdens. Was the money spent on their education a waste?
Honestly, it's not so easy to find such ladies in Nigeria. You just might be 1 out of 10,000. That's how bad it is.
And when I managed to find such beautiful and independent ladies, I realised most of them are usually somewhat stubborn, display some level of disrespect, they do just what they feel like doing whenever they feel like without minding how it affects the guy.
Now we have to worry about having submissive wives simply because they make their own money.

I don't know any specific ways to impress a lady other than being yourself and be liked for the kind of person you are. At least I don't remember trying to impress any lady before.

Thats why i don't believe the love of any Nigerian girl unless she has more money than me.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
See all the things one has to do to keep a man.
So I was born and brought up for men only. Nos man will even enjoy that kind of a woman. Someone who sees his as a diety that must be appeased. No breathing space. So I won't add value to my life cos I need to keep a man. Na wow o. If I must do this to keep a man, then the man is free to go to the moon. Relationship or marriage is not a carrier.
Na wow for this kind people o

This is why baby mamas will keep increasing because i doubt you will tell him this before marriage and that he will hang around any longer if you sound like this after unless he has no manhood.

Lalas247:
u call that special care ....
I'll pass

What else is? Giving him a blow*job or pussy to lick?

BlaqCoffee109:
okay,it is well...who vex you or use you as atm no come take care of you on top the mata? Mbok take it easy

Lol. Thats funny of you young madam. Abeg no mind me. You reason nam na. Dey even dey joke near that morning doggie matter.

Why should a lady marry when she is not ready to take care of a man but wants a man to be responsible? Even morning doggy na matter. Ha

XhosaNostra:
Everything is wrong with it when he has two hands of his own. Sorry, but I just don't have the maternal instincts or the kind of love that'd make me wanna button up somebody's shirt.

Don't get me wrong, I'm a domestic goddess in my own right, but I do have my limits. To each their own.

Will you faint if you do? Dont worry there are hundreds of singles ready to do that and more. Just dont complain when e set. Such arrogance.

BlaqCoffee109:
ok sir, we have heard oh! Issorait

Thats how una go convert man to semi beast of burden or semi ATM without enough care only to complain if the man lose when he gets the care elsewhere or fully embraces his semi ATM status by being semi ATM to others girls too since that the only thing he is seen as by his wife and believes he is overtime.

BlaqCoffee109:
Naija men, it is well ...the concept of marrying a Naija man sef dey fear person; na wa oh! Na lie you dey house jor...

Why e no go fear una? They just told you what to do to at least know youve done your past una no gree. If the man finds out he is more or less a semi ATM in the house with little or no special care from the wife. He has to go cool off somewhere as a full time semi ATM.

Lalas247:
Lmao
U damn right ... well we will keep praying for females .. one day this nonsense will stop

Which nonsense? Will you rather he does that for you and you take his responsibilities then claim its nonsense for him to show you special care?

hopefulLandlord:
we've reached an agreement

Lol. Na only the yes you like abi. Thats a good negotiation tactics. I will like to know your tribe.

hopefulLandlord:
They've went through a period of doing that though, they just don't do it anymore

Yes especially Catholics especially because of their less affiliation with Christ which some are still struggling with today. Trying to uplift Mary and the Pope as much as Christ and all....

The good thing with Christians is that they dont go about killing and bombing each other just because of their ideological differences like islamist do.

makydebbie:
Hmmm...

You are speaking to me right here, and it's clear. So in essence, we should live to impact. Even though life doesn't make it easy with its unexpected twist and turns. What I don't understand is why life won't give us enough time to achieve our dreams and leave legacies behind for the next generation ( I don't want to understand anymore because it'll lead to endless questions.)
Life is meaningless but it's our job to make a meaning out of it.

You're saying the goal is to be useful and contribute positively, maybe that's where we'll find happiness.

Its not a must to achieve dreams or leave legacies, billions don't or they do in a low key way. Well, i have had fame and it doesnt freak me much. And legacies can be left in different forms big or small. Even being on NL to share your views is legacy left. Its just feeling too self important or ambitious that causes some stress. If one is healthy, worship his God freely and spread the good news one way or the other, i chop well, play well, make money well to build or leave in a very comfortable house and way, raise kids to also be comfortable and positively functional help others financially and otherwise then come NL blab am more than ok while inspiring for better comfort which may or may not come. Next generation go hear say i live well help others to too. That can be enough for one who is not over ambitious. As long as one tried to reach his maximium cadre thats enough wether its achieved or not. Even if death kill me then i no send i go just smile. Lol

makydebbie:
But it's true.

Birth of some is a blessing to the world not a curse.

killsmith:
Birth is a curse.

Existence is pain.

Life is a prison.

Relationships, morality, ambitions, goals etc are all Illusions created to take our minds of the fact that life has no meaning.

Extreme poverty or failures, lack of passion, love of man and God can only make one think like this.

LivingFree:
Maybe his dick game is on point

Most men that love giving heads, couldn't make you cum with just the dick so they need to warm you up.

Ps He is a don so he gets away with this...

She'll take diamonds over head, any day... Hence why wify ain't gonna object


Quote me and your dick will shrivel

I just quoted to see of that sentence will happen instead the opposite is the case. . Out of curiosity, then what happens to the pussy of a girl for quoting you? The hole go block?

brodalokie:
Stop acting like you caught me on the throat. The word of God is absolute and it requires us to pay tithes...
If you're a Christian you won't be here playing politics with it... The church has no business with the state.

Guy na your pastors dey play politics with your brain dey collect tax abi tithe wey a whole Jesus no even collect.

OkaiCorne:
I still wonder what being a Christian or Muslim or whatever has to do with the simple questions I asked you.

Since you want to dodge the questions which puts a dent on the false doctrine of monetary tithing...

Deuteronomy 14 v 22-29 clearly spells out what God required to be tithes...so I'm wondering where your Bible included money or gold or silver into the things God required to be tithed...

I am still looking for where Jesus or the Apostles collected tithes... Please give scriptural references...

A whole Jesus no even collect tithe neither the great apostles who paid with their lives die gruesome deaths na one man wey call em sef pastor wey sidon for AC.

brodalokie:
Let's discuss about the salvation of your life. This topic is not available for debate. It's a law already

Deflection is not the answer. Answer those questions and who told you my soul is not more saved than yours?

brodalokie:
Flip through the new testerment and you will find your answer...
I perceive that you are not a Christian. Are you?

You, a Christian, who has been flipping through it cant even give one chapter .

What has or did he say about killing of Christians and Buhari government affecting his members? You can see where the concern of these tax collectors lies.

brodalokie:
You're not entitled to that information until I know whether you're a Christian or not. Do the search yourself if you don't want to answer me.

My friend, answer simple questions and stop beating about the bush.