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Our Children Against Sexual Exploitation (CASE) training program at OLUYOLE HIGH SCHOOL, FODACIS, IBADAN on Wednesday the 29th day of January, 2020 was a success. We give God all the glory.

378 students from JSS 1- SS 2 were trained on how to prevent child sexual abuse. The training session was highly informative and interactive. Special thanks to the school authority for giving us the opportunity to train the students and to the staff and students for their co-operation. We also want to thank our volunteers.

If you own a school, run an orphanage or works with children/teenagers in churches, mosques or any institution, we can come and train them on how to prevent child sexual abuse. REMEMBER the more people are informed about child sexual abuse, the fewer victims there will be. If you are interested, please call us on 08180495451 or send an email to us at emailtotalchild@gmail.com

If you are interested in what we do, you can get involved in 3 ways:

1. Volunteer Partner: Join our vibrant team of volunteers to administer support programs to schools and other institutions
2. Resource Partner: Donate academic and other materials to support our cause.
3. Financial Partner: Donate fund to support our high-impact programs and outreaches to reach children and teenagers in schools, orphanage homes and other organisations.

For enquiries, Call 08180495451 OR reach us via:
Email: emailtotalchild@gmail.com, Facebook page: Totalchild,
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Our Children Against Sexual Exploitation (CASE) training program at ACCESS COLLEGE, OKE-ADO, IBADAN on Friday the 24th day of January, 2020 was a success. We give God all the glory.

63 students from JSS 1- SS 3 were trained on how to prevent child sexual abuse. The training session was highly informative and interactive. Special thanks to the school authority for giving us the opportunity to train the students and to the staff and students for their co-operation. We also want to thank our volunteers.

If you own a school, run an orphanage or works with children/teenagers in churches, mosques or any institution, we can come and train them on how to prevent child sexual abuse. REMEMBER the more people are informed about child sexual abuse, the fewer victims there will be. If you are interested, please call us on 08180495451 or send an email to us at emailtotalchild@gmail.com

If you are interested in what we do, you can get involved in 3 ways:

1. Volunteer Partner: Join our vibrant team of volunteers to administer support programs to schools and other institutions
2. Resource Partner: Donate academic and other materials to support our cause.
3. Financial Partner: Donate fund to support our high-impact programs and outreaches to reach children and teenagers in schools, orphanage homes and other organisations.

For enquiries, Call 08180495451 OR reach us via:
Email: emailtotalchild@gmail.com, Facebook page: Totalchild,
Instagram: @totalchildnetwork

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At TotalChild Children and Teens Network, we have started our year 2020 training program for students on how to prevent child sexual abuse. This program is called CHILDREN AGAINST SEXUAL EXPLOITATION (CASE). The objective of the program is to train students on what child sexual abuse is and how to prevent it.

On Friday the 24th of January, 2020, we will be at ACCESS COLLEGE, IBADAN to train the students on STRATEGIES FOR PREVENTING CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE. It promises to be an educative, informative and interractive training session for the students. Please check the flier for more details.

If you own a school, run an orphanage or works with children/teenagers in churches, mosques or any institution, we can come and train them on how to prevent child sexual abuse. REMEMBER the more people are informed about child sexual abuse, the fewer victims there will be. If you are interested, please call us on 08180495451 or send an email to us at emailtotalchild@gmail.com

If you are interested in what we do, you can get involved in 3 ways:

1. Volunteer Partner: Join our vibrant team of volunteers to administer support programs to schools and other institutions
2. Resource Partner: Donate academic and other materials to support our cause.
3. Financial Partner: Donate fund to support our high-impact programs and outreaches to reach children and teenagers in schools, orphanage homes and other organisations.

For enquiries, Call 08180495451 OR reach us via:
Email: emailtotalchild@gmail.com, Facebook page: Totalchild,
Instagram: @totalchildnetwork

OR reach the Director via:
Email: writecyrilisi@gmail.com Facebook page: cyrilisimedia
Instagram: @cyrilisi Linkedin: @cyrilisi

At TotalChild Children and Teens Network, we have started our year 2020 training program for students on how to prevent child sexual abuse. This program is called CHILDREN AGAINST SEXUAL EXPLOITATION (CASE). The objective of the program is to train students on what child sexual abuse is and how to prevent it.

On Friday the 24th of January, 2020, we will be at ACCESS COLLEGE, IBADAN to train the students on STRATEGIES FOR PREVENTING CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE. It promises to be an educative, informative and interractive training session for the students. Please check the flier for more details.

If you own a school, run an orphanage or works with children/teenagers in churches, mosques or any institution, we can come and train them on how to prevent child sexual abuse. REMEMBER the more people are informed about child sexual abuse, the fewer victims there will be. If you are interested, please call us on 08180495451 or send an email to us at emailtotalchild@gmail.com

If you are interested in what we do, you can get involved in 3 ways:

1. Volunteer Partner: Join our vibrant team of volunteers to administer support programs to schools and other institutions
2. Resource Partner: Donate academic and other materials to support our cause.
3. Financial Partner: Donate fund to support our high-impact programs and outreaches to reach children and teenagers in schools, orphanage homes and other organisations.

For enquiries, Call 08180495451 OR reach us via:
Email: emailtotalchild@gmail.com, Facebook page: Totalchild,
Instagram: @totalchildnetwork

OR reach the Director via:
Email: writecyrilisi@gmail.com Facebook page: cyrilisimedia
Instagram: @cyrilisi Linkedin: @cyrilisi

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BE PROACTIVE: TAKE IT BY FORCE

“...the kingdom of heaven suffereth violence, and the violent take it by force.”

Proactivity is a vital principle in the school of success. To be proactive means to create or control a situation rather than just respond to it after it has happened. It means to be enterprising, to take charge, to be dynamic. If you want to break limits this year 2020 and achieve all your dreams, you have to be proactive. You have to be enterprising and dynamic. It does not have to be business as usual. You have to think out of the box and do something that you have not done before inorder for you to achieve your dreams. If you keep doing what you have been doing before, you will keep getting the same result. Someone rightly said “the definition of madness is to keep doing the same thing and expect a different result.”

The so much awaited year 2020 has long arrived and it is gradually going. While things are already happening for some, some people are still waiting for things to happen for them. My brother, do not wait for things to happen this year, make them happen. If you wait for things to happen, what you will get at the end of the long-wait will not be what you really want. This is not the case of “the patient dog eats the fattest bone.” No. You have to work smart and hard to eat the fattest bone. No time for wasting time.

A new year and a new decade have started already. You don’t have to waste time not vigorously pursuing your dream and thinking that there is still time. This is the time to press the pedal and get started. Nothing will happen until you make it happen. The law of motion rightly says “an object will remain in its place of rest until an external force acts on it.”If nothing acts on it, it remains there forever. You will remain where you are until you push yourself to start something. If you don’t move, nothing will move. You have to kickstart and push yourself in order to break limits. Start the pursuit of that dream. Put it in motion and you will see how everything will fall into place to take you to the next and higher level of success.

You have said that, this year you must get a job. The year has come and it’s time to get the job. Don’t wait for the job to come from nowhere and fall on you. You have to go get the dream job. Start the search for vacancy. Write the application letter. Repackage your curriculum vitae. Start knocking on the doors of organisations that needs your skills to submit your application. If the job is not coming, try to volunteer or intern in the kind of organisation your want to work. Be dynamic and sooner or later, you will get what you want if you don’t give up.

This year, do not let the fear of failure cripple you from taking actions. Be ready to fail as many times as possible until you achieve your dreams. Failure is a vital ingredient of success. People who are afraid of failure never achieve anything meaningful in life. Put the fear of failure aside. Take the bull by the horn and pursue your dream. This year there’s no time for dulling. Leave any environment that kills your dreams. Break any relationship that limits you. Set yourself free from every negative thought that belittles you and makes you to doubt yourself. This is your season of breaking limits. You have the potential to do more than you can every think or imagine. Rise up bro and get started. This is the best time to do it. Start now and success awaits you.


Be happy. Be successful. Be YOU.

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13 IMPORTANT THINGS TO TEACH YOUR CHILD AT AN EARLY AGE BEFORE SOMEONE CONFUSE AND DEFILE THEM

Here is a list of things you need to teach your child(ren) at an early age:

1. Warn your girl child never to sit on anyone’s lap no matter the situation and who the person might be including uncles.

2. Avoid getting dressed in front of your child once he/she is 2 years old. Learn to excuse them or yourself.

3. Never allow any adult refer to your child as ‘my wife’ or ‘my husband’. It is part of the ‘grooming process’of pedophiles.

4. Whenever your child goes out to play with friends make sure you look for a way to find out what kind of play they do, because young people now sexually abuse themselves.

5. Never force your child to visit any adult he or she is not comfortable with and also be observant if your child becomes too fond of a particular adult.

6. Once a very lively child suddenly becomes withdrawn you may need to patiently ask lots of questions from your child.

7. Carefully educate your grown ups about the right values of sex. If you don’t, the society will teach them the wrong values.

8. It is always advisable you go through any new material like cartoons you just bought for them before they start seeing it themselves.

9. Ensure you activate parental controls on your cable networks and advice your friends especially those your child(ren) visit(s) often.

10. Teach your 3 year olds how to wash their private parts properly and warn them never to allow anyone touch those areas and that includes you (remember, charity begins from home and with you).

11. Blacklist some materials/associations you think could threaten the sanity of your child (this includes music, movies and even friends and families).

12. Let your child(ren) understand the value of standing out of the crowd.

13. Once your child complains about a particular person, don’t keep quiet about it. Take up the case and show them you can defend them.

Remember, we are either parents or parents-to-be. And remember “THE PAIN LAST A LIFETIME”

The best way to protect a child is to teach him/her how to protect himself/herself.

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DON’T MEASURE YOUR SUCCESS BY WHAT OTHERS HAVE AND HAVEN’T DONE

“SUCCESS is a journey not a destination.”

The reason why many people are depressed with suicide rate on the increase is because they tend to measure their life’s worth with another man’s measuring tape. Do not measure your success with what others have done or accomplished in their own life. Doing so is detrimental. If it happens that they are ahead of you in materials things, it will make you see yourself as a failure which can lead to depression and if care is not taken, can lead to suicide. We all came into this world for different purpose and to fulfil different destiny. No two persons have the same calling. Our assignments are different. So if our purpose here on earth is different from that of others, why then do we tend to measure our own success with what others have achieved in their own life?

That your class mate has gotten admission and you are yet to get yours does not make you a failure. That your age mate is already married with kids and you are still single does not make you a failure. That the person you graduated from the university at the same time with, has started working in an oil company, and you are yet to get a job or a good job, does not make you a failure. What others have achieved or have not achieved does not in any way make you a failure or a success. We are all running a different race and on different lanes. Some are running sprint, some middle distance, some long distance, some relay and some hurdle.

The way and manner each race is run is dfferent. The rules are different. What makes one a winner in one type of race, does not necessarily makes another a winner in another type of race becuase the rules are different. You are called to run your own race which is quite different from that of any other person. Concentrate and focus on your race without unnecessary distraction from what others are doing. If you must be declared winner at the end of the race, you must find out what type of race you are called to run, what are the yardstick for success and what is required of you. This will help you to adequately prepare for the race and win.

Your race is your purpose in life. It is what you are born to do. You must know your purpose in life and try to fulfil it. You can never experience true success in life until you discover your purpose and stay at the center of it. Prosperity will come to you when you are doing what you are called to do. Now when you find your purpose and start working in it, you have no business measuring your success with what another person is doing in his area of calling. That does not count. You measure your success in line with what God has called you to do. You don’t compete with anybody. You compete with yourself. You strive to be better than your yesterday. You develop your gift and continually refine it so that you can make more impact.

Time and chance happen to everything in life. Like my friend will say “It is not the first person to get to a police station that wins a case.” There is time for everything. Your time to settle down will come if it is meant to be. Your time to buy cars and build houses will come. Your time to have children will come too. You just have to stay focus and refuse to be distracted. Don’t envy anyone who seems to be getting ahead in life. Be genuinely happy for them knowing fully well that your time will come.

Work hard on your dreams. Find out what is required of you and do it. Stay committed to your assignment. And if you truly wants to be successful on what God has called you to do, then WORK HARD, STUDY HARD and PRAY HARD. That’s the three unbreakable laws of success in any field of human endeavour.

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TotalChild Children and Teens Network (TCTN) is pleased to announce our Child Sexual Abuse Awareness and Prevention Campaign Project for year 2020 tagged Children Against Sexual Exploitation (CASE). The objective of this project is to create awareness on child sexual abuse and teach children and young people how to prevent it before it occurs and how to get help when necessary. Oyo State has over 2.4 million children who are at risk of child sexual abuse. Out of this population, 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys will be sexually abused before the age of eighteen. 90% of this abuse is likely to come from family members or people known to the child while 10% may come from strangers.

Child sexual abuse has devastating and long-term consequence for the child, families and communities as a whole. Victims are far more likely to experience anxiety and depression, among countless other serious health problems later in life due to the trauma they experienced as a child. Child sexual abuse affects children of every race, gender, religion, and socio-economic status, not to mention a majority of time, the abuse is committed by someone the child knows. Many people believe that child sexual abuse will not affect their family, but statistics prove that these situations occur far too close to home. The good news is we can all prevent child sexual abuse.

During the last year, we have been piloting Children Against Sexual Exploitation with some public and private schools in Ibadan. We executed the program in five schools and were able to reach 2,300 students. The impact has been tremendous with most of the students coming out to say that they are being sexually abused and needed help. We have also appeared live on some radio stations in Ibadan metropolis to enlighten the public on child sexual abuse and how to prevent it. The feedback from those radio programs has been overwhelming. The Children Against Sexual Exploitation program educate students on what sexual abuse is, myths and facts on child sexual abuse, perpetrators and pedophiles, effect of child sexual abuse, how to prevent it, personal safety tips and what to do if sexual abuse occur.

We have seen measurable success and wants to expand our Children Against Sexual Exploitation program to address the issue of child sexual abuse in Ibadan and environs. Our goal is to reach a minimum of 100,000 students by reaching out to 50 schools during the three academic sessions of 2020 and also reachout to children and young people in religious institutions and orphanage homes.

If you are interested in what we do, you can get involved in 3 ways:

1. Volunteer Partner: Join our vibrant team of volunteers to train students on how to prevent child sexual abuse in schools, orphanage homes, religious institutions etc
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3. Financial Partner: Donate fund to help us produce the workbook on child sexual abuse to be given to student free during our training session. There are a lot of benefits for sponsors of this program

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This is from the author of this article: How to prevent the boy child from sexual abuse



NEW BOOK ALERT!

CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE PREVENTION TRAINING WORKBOOK

Following my experience of teaching students how to prevent child sexual abuse, I have put together a workbook that is suitable for students in primary and secondary school. This workbook is one of the approved materials for the Children Against Sexual Exploitation (CASE) Project being executed by TotalChild Children and Teens Network

The workbook is in two sections. The first section contains simplified information on child sexual abuse and practical ways to prevent it. The second part contains exercises on different topics on child sexual abuse. It provides space for the student to write down what they have learnt about child sexual abuse during a training/workshop session.

This workbook aims to help students to know what child sexual abuse is and how to prevent it. While this workbook is perfectly suitable for students, the first book written by me on child sexual abuse: Understand and Preventing Child Sexual Abuse, is suitable for facilitators, parents, teachers, care givers and young adults.

To get your copy please contact the author:

CYRIL ISI
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NEW BOOK ALERT!

CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE PREVENTION TRAINING WORKBOOK

Following my experience of teaching students how to prevent child sexual abuse, I have put together a workbook that is suitable for students in primary and secondary school. This workbook is one of the approved materials for the Children Against Sexual Exploitation (CASE) Project being executed by TotalChild Children and Teens Network

The workbook is in two sections. The first section contains simplified information on child sexual abuse and practical ways to prevent it. The second part contains exercises on different topics on child sexual abuse. It provides space for the student to write down what they have learnt about child sexual abuse during a training/workshop session.

This workbook aims to help students to know what child sexual abuse is and how to prevent it. While this workbook is perfectly suitable for students, the first book written by me on child sexual abuse: Understand and Preventing Child Sexual Abuse, is stuitable for facilitators, parents, teachers, care givers and young adults.

To get your copy please contact the author:

CYRIL ISI
Tel/Whatsapp: 08180495451
Email: talk2cyrilnow@gmail.com

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SAVING THE BOY CHILD FROM SEXUAL PREDATORS by CYRIL ISI

When we talk about child sexual abuse, everyone seems to focus on the girl child. Hardly do we talk about the boy child. We somehow believe that the boy child is immune or naturally protected from sexual abuse. And because a greater percentage of child sexual abuse is perpetrated by older boys and men, we often conclude that the boy child cannot be a victim of sexual abuse instead he is a potential predator. Boys have been known to be sexually abused times without number. 1 out of 6 boys will be sexually abused before they turn 18 years. This sexual assault can come in different forms and majority of the perpetrators are male themselves. Though older girls and women also abuse young boys, but the men and older boys are the ones who abuse younger boys the most.

The worst part of male sexual abuse is that the victim hardly talks about it or report it to anybody. They can be abused for years and won’t talk until they save themselves from the abuser or are saved by external forces from it without anyone knowing. The victims find it difficult to talk about it. Shame and denial often do not let them speak up and most times they don’t even know who to talk to. They cannot talk to their mother because it is like a “taboo” subject. And their father who might understand them if they open up is often not available. Their father is very busy looking for what the family will eat and so spend less time at home to effectively communicate and bond with the boy child.

This issue of sexual abuse against the boy child is an issue we need to pay attention to. As a child life coach and counselor, I hear so much about sexual assault against boys and it often breaks my heart. Parents, teachers, care givers, guardian and everyone involved in a child’s life, please be at alert and safe the boy child from sexual predators. They are all over the place. Let’s be vigilant. It is our responsibility to defend and protect every child from sexual abuse including the boy child. Let’s not pay too much attention to the girl child and forget that the boy child still need the attention because he is still a boy and cannot protect himself from sexual abuse except we empower him to.

FORMS OF BOY CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE

The sexual assault against boys can come in different forms. These include:

1. MouthAction: Most heterosexual men and women who sexually abuse young boys will make the boys perform MouthAction on them. The male predators will ask the boys to give them Mouth Action until they climax. The female predators will ask the boys to lick their vaginal and suck their breast until they climax. They might not touch the boy at all or force themselves on the boys but use the boys as a intimacy gadgets to satisfy their sexual urges.

2. Vaginal sex: Female sexual predators that abuse boys will make or force the boys to have sexual intercourse with them. They will sexually manipulate the boys to have erection and make them to have sex with them. This often happen between an older girl or woman and a younger boy.

3. Anal sex: This is the most terrible and devastating sexual assault against boys. It is painful, dehumanizing and a “taboo” sort of sexual act that leave the victim traumatized. The perpetrators are usually homosexual men who are sexually attracted to boys. These sexual predators will usually forcefully rape the boys in their anus. It often leads to bleeding and tear of the anus because the anus is not a place where an erected penis is supposed to enter. This is a terrible form of male sexual abuse that can physically and psychologically devastate the boy child

4. handling: Here we have the sexual predators which can be male or female always handling with the private part of the boy. They derive pleasure in playing with the penis and buttocks of boys. Most times they will handle the boy’s penis until the boy climax before they will leave him. While they are doing this, they can be masturbating themselves to derive the sexual pleasure that they desire.

5. Other form of boy child sexual abuse includes exposing the boy child to pornography, masturbation, voyeurism, exhibitionism etc. Some even go to the extent of taking naked pictures of the boy child to be used for different purpose including commercial and even to blackmail the boy not to talk and always conform when they demand for sex.

WHO ARE THE PREDATORS?

People who sexual abuse the boy child can be found everywhere including schools, families, sport clubs, recreation centers, voluntary organisations, religious institutions etc. Most times the predators are not only adults, they can be teenagers and even children of same age with the child. The boy child sexual predators include:

1. Pedophiles: A pedophile is a person suffering from pedophilia which is a psychiatric disorder in which an adult or older adolescent is sexually attract to young children. Male pedophiles will be sexually attracted to young boys and try molests them sexually.

2. Homosexuals: Homosexuals are those people who are sexually attracted to people of the same sex. Majority of the reported cases of sexual abuse against boys are perpetrated by homosexuals most especially the once that involve anal sex. Homosexuals who are pedophiles will sexually assault boys because they are the ones that are easy to get and cannot physically defend themselves against the assault. These homosexuals can be found everywhere and can be teachers, doctors, care givers, pastors, imam, relatives, parents, guardians etc

3. Heterosexuals: These are males and female sexual predators that are sexually attracted to the boy child. They could be teachers, house helps, relatives, siblings, parents, coaches, spiritual leaders, doctors, nurses, caregivers etc

So the boy child sexual predators can be anyone. Parents have been known to sexually abuse their own boy child. Teachers include private home teachers have done worst. House-help are top on the list here. Master who younger boys are learning trade/vocationally skills from informally, are also on the list. We also have coaches who teach boys sport and those people who own correctional centres for young people. The list goes on.

PLACES WHERE MALE SEXUAL ABUSE ARE VERY COMMON

Parents please watch out for your boy child. There are some places where the risk of male sexual abuse is very high and prevalent. These include:

1. Boarding schools: Schools with boarding/hostel facilities, most especially the ones own by the State and Federal Government is a breeding ground for boy-child to boy-child sexual abuse. Here it is very common for students to be the predators. While teachers are also involved, the students are the worst here. You will have students who call themselves “school father” and “senior prefect” sexually abusing those in younger class. They usually pick their new victims from students that are newly admitted into junior class. They will threaten these JJC (Johnny Just Come) boys into silence and sexually abused them in manners words cannot say. In the process, these boys will become addicted to the sexual act and become predators themselves, abusing other (JJC) who are just admitted into the school. And the circle goes on. Parents if you have kids in public boarding school please educate them properly on the need to talk/report to you if anything like that is happening or wants to happen. Make them to know that it is not their fault and give them the necessary help they need to heal.

2. Camp meetings: Camp meetings organized by voluntary organisations, religious institutions etc are also a breeding ground for boy-child to boy-child sexual abuse. In the camp, the boys are made to sleep together, bath together and do other things together. While it helps them to socialize and build their social skills, it is an avenue for sexual predators that are much older and stronger to abuse the timid and younger ones. During the night while sleeping together or when they are bathing together, is when they perpetrate the crime. And often the victim will not talk and the perpetrators will go scot-free. Some camp masters who are pedophiles and homosexuals also use this golden opportunity to abuse as many boys as they can before the camp meeting is over.

3. Voluntary organisations like Boy Scout, Man ‘O’ War, Boys’Brigade etc are also places where the boy child are often sexually abused both by older boys and their instructors/masters.

4. Correctional homes/facilities: A correctional home is a place where they take children most especially boys that are badly behaved and involved in social vices like drugs, stealing etc. They are own by the government and some religious institutions. These correctional home has been known to be a place where boy are sexually abused by their teachers/correctors and guardians. In recent times, most correctional homes own my some Islamic organisations were shut down because of report of diverse kind of abuse meted to the boys kept there with sexual abuse topping the list. Parents if you have a child that has problems that you cannot handle and you take them to a correctional home, please from time to time, check on them to make sure that they are not being abused. Don’t abandon them there.

5. Sports Club: Sports club like football clubs, tennis club and other athletic clubs for boys are also common ground where young boys are sexually abused. These boys are usually abused by their coach/instructors who might be homosexuals and pedophiles.

6. Orphanage/foster homes: Most of these orphanage homes that are not properly run and managed are also places where boys are sexually abused by their foster parents or guardian. In this case, the boys don’t even have anyone to report to because they are orphans. Their guardian, who is supposed to be protecting them, will be the ones sexually molesting them. And this will continue until the boys grow up and gain their freedom by leaving the orphanage home.

7. Special need school/facilities: These are places where they provide assistant and professional support to children who have special needs or are physically challenged like the blind, deaf, dumb, crippled, autistic etc. In these kind of places where the boy child is physically challenged, the rate of sexual abuse is very high and the perpetrators are usually the owners and care givers who might be pedophiles or homosexuals

8. Other places where the boy child sexual abuse often occurs include: at home (most especially during holidays), in the school, in the neighbourhood where boys go to play etc

SIGNS THAT A BOY CHILD IS BEING SEXUALLY ABUSED

There are some signs that parents and others involved in child developmental activities can watch out for inorder to know if a child is going through sexual abuse. While it might be difficult to get the child to talk, these signs can be a pointer.

1. Bleeding and sore in the anus.

2. Physical pains associated with difficulties in excreting or sitting down.

3. Avoiding certain people or places

4. Start asking questions and feeling concern about sexual orientation.

5. Going back to younger behaviours e.g bedwetting.

6. Sleeping problems, nightmares, eating disorders, anxiety and depression.

7. Secrecy and always isolating oneself.

8. Unecessary outburst of anger and rebellion.

9. Falling grades in school

10. Cruelty to animals, bullying, self harm of any kind.

11. Use of alcohol or drugs

12. Chronic stomach pain and headaches.

13. Always mention a new freiend, older friend and unexplained money or gift items.

14. Sexually transmitted disease (STD)

WHY BOYS DON’T REPORT SEXUAL ABUSE

It is not common to have boys report or tell anyone that they are being sexually abused. It will take a boy-child that is well informed and properly trained on child sexual abuse prevention, to report an abuse no matter who it is coming from. This is one reason why parents and guardian must take time to train the boy-child on child sexual abuse and how to prevent it. If they are well informed and empowered to report it, there is every tendency that an abuse will be prevented before it even occurs or prevented from getting worse. The following are some of the reasons why boys don’t report sexual abuse.

1. Remembering: Boys often tend to cope with the trauma of sexual abuse by trying to push the experience to the back of their memory inorder to forget about it. Talking about the abuse is like reliving it and feeling hurt again. This is usually the case when the boy-child is raped through the anus.

2. Loss of love: Children especially the boy-child worries about reporting an abuse because they don’t want to loose the love of their parents or guardian. They feel that once they are abuse, they become “dirty”. If they now report the abuse to their parents, they will not love them again because they are now “dirty”. This often make boys to keep quiet and keep trying to endure an abuse or try to forget about it if it is a one time occurrence.

3. Separation from family: Most time the boy-child will not report an abuse because they don’t want to be taken away from their family. They feel that if they report and it is found out to be true, their parents or guardian might take them to another home or place to stay. Because they don’t want that separation, they would rather not report.

4. Shame and guilt: Boys do know that having any form of sexual act with an adult or older adolescent is wrong and shameful most especially if they are of the same sex. They feel shameful to openly say another boy or man rapes them or even a girl or woman rape them. They older boys will often feel guilty about the whole thing. Because of the feeling of shame and guilt, they would rather keep quiet.

5. Blame: Some boys do not report sexual abuse because they feel that if they report, they would be blamed for the abuse. They feel they will be blamed for allowing it to happen or putting themselves in the position or place for it to happen. Most adult do blame children when an abuse occur instead of condemning the act and blaming the abuser. This often does not make boys report.

6. Harm: It is always common to have sexual predators threaten their victims to harm them or even kill them if they report to anyone. They instill so much fear on the child that makes him to keep quiet because he does not want to be harmed by the abuser.

7. Blackmail: Most boys will not report sexual abuse because they are being blackmailed by their abuser. The abuser will look for a crime the child must have committed or something bad the child has done and do not want anyone to know about or they might have taken pornographic pictures of the child and use it to blackmail him and because the child does not want anyone to know about it for fear of being punished, he will keep quiet and allow the abuse to continue.

8. Deny of privilege: Most boys will not report an abuse because they do not to be denied some privileges they enjoy like special gifts, money and other form of assistance they might be getting from the abuser. Some abuser will threaten the child that if he report, he will not be allowed to be part of the group or participate in a competition or occupy a particular position etc

HOW TO PREVENT BOY CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE

In preventing male sexual abuse, information and communication is the key. A child who is well informed about child sexual abuse and empowered to report when it occurs will likely not be abused. The best way to protect a child is to empower him to protect himself. And empowering them involves letting them know what they need to know about sexual abuse and how to prevent it. While no child is immune against sexual abuse, they can prevent it when it wants to occur. Here is how:

1. Teach the boy child the rules for personal safety against sexual abuse. These rules are:

Rule 1: It is NEVER all right for someone to TOUCH, LOOK or TALK about one’s private body parts. It is never alright for someone older or bigger to ask you to TOUCH, LOOK or TALK about their private body part.

Rule 2: If someone tries to break this rule, say “NO” and RUN AWAY.

Rule 3:Tell someone you trust and keep telling until you get the necessary help.

2. Talk to the boy child about body parts early. Name body parts and talk about them very early to your boy. Use proper names for body parts, or at least teach your child what the actual words are for their body parts. Feeling comfortable using these words and knowing what they mean can help a child talk clearly if something inappropriate has happened.

3. Teach them that some body parts are private: Tell your boy child that their private parts are called private because they are not for everyone to see. Explain that mommy and daddy can see them naked if they are still young, but people outside of the home should only see them with their clothes on. When they get older and become adolescent, mommy or daddy is not supposed to see them naked. Private parts for the boy child include penis, scrotum, buttocks, anus, perineum, mous pubis and groin

4. Tell your child that body secrets are not okay: Most perpetrators will tell the boy child to keep the abuse a secret. This can be done in a friendly way, such as, “I love playing with you, but if you tell anyone else what I did to you, I will not give your gifts again.” Or it can be a threat: “This is our secret. If you tell anyone I will beat you or kill you” Tell your boy child that no matter what anyone tells them, body secrets are not okay and they should always tell you if someone tries to make them keep a body secret.

5. Tell your boy child that no one should take pictures of their private parts: This one is often missed by parents. There is a whole sick world out there of pedophiles who love to take and trade pictures of naked children online. This is an epidemic and it puts your child at risk. Tell your boys that no one should ever take pictures of their private parts. Predators can even use these pictures to blackmail the child.

6. Teach your boy child how to get out of scary or uncomfortable situations: Some children are uncomfortable with telling people “no”— especially older peers or adults. Tell them that it’s okay to tell an adult they have to leave, if something that feels wrong is happening, and help give them words to get out of uncomfortable situations. Tell your child that if someone wants to see or touch his private parts they can tell them that they need to leave to go use the rest room.

7. Tell your boy child they will never be in trouble if they tell you a body secret: Boys often tell me that they didn’t say anything because they thought they would get in trouble, too. This fear is often used by the perpetrator. Tell your child that no matter what happens, when they tell you anything about body safety or body secrets they will NEVER get in trouble.

8. Tell your boy child that these rules apply even with people they know and even with another child: This is an important point to discuss with your child.

Source: https://cyrilisiblog./2020/01/03/saving-the-boy-child-from-sexual-predators/

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PROFESSIONAL DIPLOMA IN PHOTOGRAPHY

The Professional Diploma in Photography is a top-notch photography course that is suitable for anyone who really wants to have an in-depth knowledge of Photography as a Trade and as a field of study. The course covers all the fundamental areas of photography and also extensively covers areas like graphics design, videography/cinematography, computer applications, social media marketing and entrepreneurship.

This course also includes NABTEB Modular Trade Certificate training in Photographic Practise and Graphics Design. At the end of the training and examination, students will be awarded a National Technical Certificate (Modular) in Photographic Practise and Graphics Design respectively.

This course is suitable and highly recommended for the following set of people:
* Those who want to know and have in-depth knowledge of Photography both as a Trade and as a field of study
* Those who want to learn a new skill and gain mastery of all the tools of the trade they need to start their own photography business
* Those who want to teach photography as a trade/entrepreneurship subject at the secondary school level or tertiary institutions
* Those who want to have multiple streams of income while practising photography as a business because this course grooms you to become master in videography, computer operations, graphics design and social media marketing
* Those who want to work with government parastatals and multinationals as skilled men.
* Those who want to work with the military and other security agencies as skilled photographers.
* Those who want to work with media agencies as photo journalist, photo editors, video editors etc
* Those who intend to go into movie production and cinematography
* And lots more

WHAT ELSE ARE YOU WAITING FOR? REGISTRATION HAS STARTED FOR OUR 2019 ACADEMIC SESSION.
DURATION: One year (Two Semester)
MODE OF TRAINING: Full time and Part time

21 REASONS TO LEARN PROFESSIONAL PHOTOGRAPHY AT PINNACLE COLLEGE OF MEDIA, ARTS AND COMMUNICATION, IBADAN

1. We use up to date and state of the art training equipment to train you on the art and style of professional photography

2. 100% hands-on practical training experience with exposure to the theoretical aspect of the fundamentals of photography

3. Highly subsidized and affordable training fees that can also be paid monthly or instalmentally.

4. Certified, experienced and practicing topnotch facilitators who are skilled, ready and willing to effectively train you on professional photography techniques.

5. Well developed course outline, materials, handouts and books to guide you during and after the training.

6. We train and prepare you to take NABTEB (National Business and Technical Examination Board) Modular Trade Certificate exam which qualifies you for the highly sought after NATIONAL TECHNICAL CERTIFICATE (MODULAR) in Photographic Practise. And also take City and Guild of London Institute Professional Photography exam and certification.

7. We give you photography projects and assignments to handle as part of your photography training that will help to strengthen and perfect your professional photography skills.

8. We train you on the techniques and give you tips on how to professionally cover events like weddings, naming ceremony, birthdays, corporate events, red carpet events etc.

9. We train you on how to effectively use all kinds of DSLR cameras, studio lights, external flashes (speedlight), reflectors, head lights, tripods etc

10. During your training, we take you out to cover events like weddings, red carpet shows, birthdays etc with our in-house professional photographers from PICMAC Photo Studio.

11. We teach you the practical techniques of enlarging and framing pictures (portraits), photobook production, album packaging and picture slideshow creation.

12. We take you through the business of photography, pricing strategy for different types of photography jobs, creating a portfolio, photography business plan, branding strategy, registering your photography business, agreements and contracts, social media marketing and acquiring the right tools for your photography business.

13. We ensure that you become master in photo editing with the use of Adobe Photoshop, Lightroom, DG Foto Art, Picassa, Noiseware etc

14. Professional Certificate or Professional Diploma will be issued at the end of the training during a well organised graduation ceremony that attracts key players in the industry.

15. Internship opportunities and externship training programmes in photography labs and studios that can further groom you to become the best and master in the trade. Business mentoring after the training until you are good to go and stand on your own.

16. Flexible training programme which can be done on weekdays (morning, afternoon or evening) or weekends (Saturdays) and also suitable for working class, busy people or students in tertiary institutions. We also have specialized sandwich programmes for students studying in higher institutions that enables them to train only on holidays until they are through with their trainings.

17. Short training duration ranging from one month, three months, six months or one year. We also have one day master class training on different aspect of photography.

18. You also have the rare opportunity of learning photography along with specialized courses like videography/cinematography, graphics design, makeup artistry or computer appreciation if you wish.

19. Exposure to relevant foreign photography grants for beginner photographers and also federal government business grants and loan opportunities for those interested in starting their own photography business.

20. Our training programme is suitable for everyone: educated, uneducated and semi-educated. Those who want to start their own business after training or look for jobs with their knowledge and certificate. Those who want to write professional exams after their training or those who do not want to write any exam but just get the practical working knowledge. Those who prefer the apprenticeship style of training or those who prefer the professional style of training. Those that can use computer or not. And also suitable for the old and young alike.

21. Location is not a barrier. If you are staying far from our training centre or you are from other states in Nigeria, you can get affordable apartment to rent for the period of your training or you can pair up with other of our students who rented a place as hostel for themselves. We can help you get a suitable place for rent at affordable price if you wish.

For more information and registration please contact:

Pinnacle College of Media, Arts and Communication
18, Anfani Road, Off Ring Road, Challenge, Ibadan
Tel: 08180495451; 08101809463
Email: picmaccollege@gmail.com
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