₦airaland Forum

Beync:
Short hair. Gives a cool look and gentlemanly

tellwisdom:
Do you realize im one kind of a good and romantic guy any woman wld want to go for? #Roger dat                                                                                  

tellwisdom:
Have you lost ya mind??

In your statement-----> Most guys eyes just dey shook!. How did you come to this conclusion if not from experience

andy1:
on point jor!!, infact i luff u wit all my **art jawe, 

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Na lie?[/color]

mobf:
Double twale for you!! Imagine some hash head suggesting they'd prefer their kids speaking French WTF?!
@OP you must be high on something to suggest that pidgin english has a negative influence!
Abi dem do u something for yonder?

pro01:
Even if I'm worth a billion dollars, God forbids that I raise my children as 'bolo' mumus without street smarts. As long as they'll live in Nigeria at any point in time during their adulthood, it is a CRITICAL NECESSITY for them to learn how to not only speak what the masses largely understand (i.e. Pidgin), but also to possess elements of street wisdom and 'street charm' - which are necessarily intertwined with an understanding of the definitive lingo (i.e. Pidgin) of the vulgar majority. All this fake, pretentious 'aje butter'  nonsense would definitely make a person a soft target in the mean streets of Naija. My children would certainly not be anything remotely close to the stereotypical aje butter mumus that are terribly detached - largely by affectation and delusion of sophistication - from everyday reality.

It would help if I send them to the sort of secondary school I went to - any of the military owned schools such as Command Sec School, Airforce or Navy. Such schools - with the mixture of upper, middle and lower class students - have a way of toughening children and balancing their perspective.

Bottomline: Pidgin English is a MUST for my kids; if my native-level fluency in pidgin hasn't diminished my fluency in English, then I don't see how it would negatively affect my kids'.

Princek12:
I am right about what? What do you mean? Anyway, I agree with you that our pidgin English is the envy of many countries.

bhusayor:
You need me to expatiate on wats already in details?

Been following this thread and my observation is that anyone that has a contrary view isn't really on the same page wv you and you end up thinking they are taking it personally, whereas they are just stating facts and talking reality.

In order not to sound like a broken record, I share CalientMii, MrBrownJay n upendo's views.

Princek12:
Thank you very much. My parents taught my siblings and I how to live a balanced life. I have friends who grew up in England and whose parents categorically barred them from speaking pidgin English or their native language. Their parents sent them to England so that they can speak "good English." We, on the other hand, grew up in Nigeria and were allowed to speak Yoruba at home, but we were sent to a private school where we were taught very well and spoke only regular English. We learned pidgin English by speaking it to traders in the market and to other people who cannot speak it regular English.

Now, many of my friends who thought it is badge of honor to speak only language are envious of our ability to speak all three languages fluently, while they can speak only one fluently. I am also a proud graduate of law and chemistry from a top university in America. I now speak Yoruba, pidgin, or my posh English accordingly and at the right occasion. Bottom line is that diversity is good, so your kids won't be like all these unexposed kids who can only adapt to one environment, which is typical of many of our kids today, especially Nigerian kids born and raised in the diaspora.

bhusayor:
^^well put

upendo 98:
Yes a prudent wife comes from God but she aint manna. Gos is not in the biz of bringing women to men's doorstep cz he wants them to be men who put his words to action.
Activate the search engines (eyes,legs,mouth,brains) he naturally gave you and stop behaving like spirits.
Look the same God says 'whoever 'finds' a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour.Seek and ye shall find.[b]Delight yourself in Him and he shall give you your heart's desires.[/b]so how does all this seeking/delighting and finding go?

Do not be lazy and give God unnecessary work cz he wont do the search for you.Not after hes blessed you with brains.
And rem anytime you pick one line of scripture and build your life around it, you mess up good.

Now,even the most faithful make mistakes cz allowing God to guide your relationship is not immunity to failure.
And I will tell you why.He allows us to fail so that we stop boasting. Failures humble us and make us recognise the place of God.So if you ask me,its often the most faithful who fail and make the biggest mistakes.

Relationships are natural things.God only helps us to make decisions in line with His word but we are not immune to failure like everybody else just cz we use Him as shield. Stop applying natural principles and behave like a spirit then you see how that relationship will come tumbling down.

Now back to topic. Well am not a believer in first sight stuff.I got to know and feel you first before my mind can adjust to you being a future partner.

2mch:
Are your kids too dumb that they cannot speak more than one language? A child's ability to juggle many different languages shows intelligence.  . Nothing wrong with pidgin, it can open some doors same as polished english can. It is all about balance and a child's intelligence. There are some people that can speak pidgin and in the next minute converse in very posh english.

CalienteMi:
None offense taken.  I don't get caught up with online emotions.  But its all good.

CalienteMi:
It doesn't matter whom you are speaking of no one is perfect even though God fearing Christians and you are exactly right everyone is entitled to their opinion.  I spoke my opinions and what I have witnessed with my own eyes and ears.

CalienteMi:
I was told by a few people that they thought God was directing them only later to tell me they have misinterpreted the "directions". 

Holy One is not an author of confusion and the directions given will be concrete and clear however people tend to use God as a clutch for their foolishness and often times blame God for their careless ways.  I have seen and heard it too many times. 

Even in the bible it said do not be a fool.  I am only using the bible because it was mentioned on this thread. 

Satan/Devil knows the bible too and will use it against you.  Be careful.

Goldieluks:
For your info people who allow the direction of God into their relationship,can nevr go wrong,mind you.
I don't know why some people acts as if they know it all,where as they remain blind to the glaring light. You
don't know it all bro, and quit referring to such people as failures,because God himselfd created relationship right from the beginning,therefore we mere humans cannot over ride what has been written before we were created,just because we happen to maybe acquire education or live abroad.
[/quote/. Tell him oh! Make him understand that we are living in a whole wide world where the unthinkable happens. Humans and their funny perceptions!!!!

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Nope.  I however believe in the evilness of humans [/color]

CalienteMi:
No, I don't believe in meeting and identifying missing ribs at first glance.  I believe in waiting and getting to know someone wella before establishing a meaningful relationship. 

Time is valuable and I believe in time conservation.

God2man:
Realistic responses: here,let's learn. After i had waited for about 7-8yrs or so, as far i can remember, i did 3 days dry fast with fervent prayer,seeking the face of God for his will concerning the person to marry ,there was no real confirmation, again, i repeated the 3 days dry fast with vigil and intensive prayer, it was after this last one that the Lord touched my heart with the name of my wife. I got the confirmation myself on the prayer alter during the personal vigil. It wass real. What happened after that really amazed me. I began to have a kind of "glow" feeling towards this sister, it was awesome. Later,the sister(my wife) too was having the same confirmation on the other hand. The rest is history. God is still in the business of giving you your missing rib. It is happening. It has happened. It will continue to happen, provided you ask him. My own may be different from your own. Share and let us learn. God bless you. God2man.

sexkillz:
Errm!. . . . . . . That was actually my best!

sexkillz:
***Passing***

Goldieluks:
@OP,
One thing i believe is life without God is useless,no matter how rich,intelligent,beautiful,knowledgeable,poor,tall,or educated you are.
It is true that God never fails and He uses his angels to directs your path to the right partner/husband/wife.But if you should go on and do it on your own,
be sure to carry your cross on your own too, when the going gets tough. i wonder how some people who don't believe in Jesus or God,always uses the name
'Jesus' maybe when they drop their BB phone or maybe almost hit by a racing car,bicycle,or a passing van. Jeez!