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Martowskin: dis is d best taste av seen since yesterday among all d girls. My dear god wil giv u ur heard desire, ur taste is just moderate and acheiveability is 80% nt like most of them who is dreamin nd they wil neva wakeup

yeah, God will grant me my heart desires, Amen. Thanks sweetie.......

[quote author=P4VS20]HERE AM I, SEARCH NO MORE, so how re we kickin it off? looooooolz[/quote
lmao. U're really funny.

LastApostle: No need of writing epistles to buttress your standpoint. I can make poverty disappear from your lineage permanently.

Smh....u're soooooooo pathetic. I learn't a lot from what you referred to as an "epistle". Be nice and stop been sarcastic.

Well, the qualities my partner should have include:
*God-fearing (foremost). He must love God genuinely and everything about him should be based on the things of God.
*Educated.
*An excellent communicator and a good listener.
*A focused and positive-minded person.
*He should have a good heart and be honest.
*Should be presentable. He musn't be prince charming.
*A good confidant. (Someone I can do tete-a'tete with). Lolz......

goodsegs: Hello Guys,I think i am losing it all due to my recurrent anger in my Relationship.I have been having a wonderful relationship,But I get angry quite fast especially when i discovered i am being lied to.The last issues i have with my Fiancee really got so bad that we considering breaking our relationship.

I overreacted and said some awful stuffs out of anger.I have lost concentration at work and i keep wondering what i need to do to get things back on track.

Even while we agreed to call some stuffs off for now,i really want to take some steps to revive this relationship.

I have been dating her for Three years and we are planning on settling down Next Year.I have had a deep thought,and i think i have over-reacted in many of the situations.

I will appreciate a good approach in dealing with Anger especially when you have issues in trusting A woman perfectly.

U're not alone on this. Nobody likes been lied to. But you have to work on ur temperament so that you can guide your utterances especially when you are mad at someone. At least, u've been able to identify your flaws which is a good step. Whenever you are angry and battling with your emotions, just take a slow deep breath and walk away. Try to focus on other things which will be of interest to you. After a while, u'll get over your angry mood and will be better prepared to handle whatever d problem is. Cheers...

Mobinga: Not dropping any pride

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lolz, u never ready nah?

Silly. Mstcheeeeeew. Whiz-kid should change his name to whiz-adult abeg. Wetin concern am with Tonto's spelling. Besides, Tonto was trying to add some effizzy to her spellings, not neccessarily becos she can't spell right. Twitter is a social network where anyone is free to write d way he wants. #Arrant Rubbish#

africanrapper: Parental Upbringing has a BIG influence on Self-confidence. I'll narrate a personal story to buttress this fact.

I used to be a very bright child - from Kindergarten, Primary and Secondary Education. Teachers, Colleagues and friends all attested to the fact that I was a bright (sound mind) person. But as I grew up certain things that happened in my Life altered my self-confidence.

I was raised in a very 'SPIRITUAL' home (you should understand what I mean by that). Popsi and Momsi were more concerned about Spirituality than the well-being of their kids. Popsi usually spanked me seriously for reasons such as playing football with my agemates, sharing jokes with my peers, etc.

Once we are back home from school, neither me nor my siblings were permitted to leave the House - even to see a friend. And my friends noticed this, because they were not permitted to even come visit me at home. My father would always literally chase them away, so that his children would not get corrupted. Today, those boys who he chased away are Medical Doctors, Engineers, Lawyers etc - doing well in their different endeavors. Point is: They were just nice people.

So, at a time, I even became afraid of my friends. I always thought that my father was somewhere around monitoring me to know what I do. He always wanted me to be 'LIKE HIM'.

When I was 13, my family got split (DIVORCE). As I turned 17, I took sides with my mother and went to be with her. My Father literally HATES ME TILL TODAY because of that decision. My father would always say that I'm a good-for-nothing boy, a stupid boy, bla bla bla. At a time, he started comparing me with some people I even thought I was better than - and mehn, that comparison was killing. Geez!

As I grew up in Life (maybe 20-25), I observed that I had lost my Self-Confidence. I wasn't doing well in School - not because I was a dullard academically, but throughout these years, my father had made me think I was good-for-nothing. To make speeches in public became a problem for me - cos I always thought I was going to say something stupid.

Even when I find myself among girls, I'd be EXTREMELY SHY to get close. Meanwhile, my friends did these things (Public speeches, getting the girls, etc) with so much ease that I once wondered whether I was 'NORMAL'.

Anyway, I've managed to finished school, started a business. And I've decided to get back on all the opportunities that I lost while growing up:

a)MY SOCIAL LIFE
b)MY LOVE LIFE
c)MY ACADEMIC

I will overcome these fears by God's Grace. I will ensure that nobody (I mean NOBODY) makes my children feel inferior about themselves.

#utchay#

Exactly my thoughts. Parents should not drive their children to resentment, so that they won't be frustrated at the end. I'll keep on repeating myself. Thank God u succeeded against all odds.

carefreewannabe: thank you. it's beautiful.

lolz, thanks sweetheart.

IMHO, low self esteem is largely dependent on parental upbringing rather than personality. There is an admonition on training up a child in d way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it. It is the responsibility of parents to show enough love and care to their children, both in words and in deeds. Also, in d book of corinthians of the Holy Bible, (sorry, can't remember the exact verse), parents are advised not to drive their children to resentment, so they won't feel frustrated at the long run. Many parents nowadays try to instill an extremely competitive spirit into their kids. Although competition is a basic survival instinct that every human must possess, it is pertinent to know that extreme cases of competition could cause one to be highly insensitive, unrefined and selfish, which brings about decay of manners. Some parents want their kids to ALWAYS take d lead irrespective of d toes they step on to accomplish that. What I'm saying in essence is that, kids should be made to understand that success is a beautiful thing and that there are positive ways to accomplish that. A child who finds it difficult to comprehend speedily may be assisted by parents lovingly without having to remind him/her of how excellent kids his age are. Children look up to their parents in virtually every aspect of their lives hence they need their parents contributions on delicate issues. The first stage of breaking a child's low self-esteem starts from the home. Once that is done, the child would be better prepared to cope with bullying and pressure from peers. In Nigeria, especially in our traditional settings, children are perceived as been rude when they try to put up a defence over an accusation which might probably be false. They are usually hushed to keep silent. Little things like these could lower a child's self-esteem without the parents realizing it. In every home, there is need for heart-to-heart conversation between parents and children. Parents have the greatest role to play in improving a child's self-esteem. #sorry for this epistle. Was trying to be succinct as possible, lolz#.

mitchyy: Thanks dear

U're welcome.

Nice thread poster....*thumbs up*

solbil: i want someone to ans my question. Why cant a man get married at the age of 22 even if he can afford it and a woman can marry at that age? What has the woman got that made her more qualified for marriage than the man at the same age.

The answer is not far-fetched. A man is the major provider while his wife renders assistance. Also, the nature of women physiologically allows them to marry earlier than their male counterparts. Women have limited time of conception. B/w mid 40ties and early 50ties, women are almost entering a new phase of life, 'menopause' where conception stops whereas an 80 year old man could still impregnate a woman. So, there is obviously no need to rush into marriage if u are a male. Your attention should be diverted to acquiring the basic survival instincts. Although, if you are financially stable between the ages of 22-25, then I fink one could consider marriage. Personally, I would suggest that the person waits a little longer, let's say 27-28 before settling down. #my 5 naira#

kenono: Is this English you typed or Swahili, IBU EZIGBO ITI BORIBO!!!

Rotflmao. Eziokwu!

ireneidiva: Smh. I hope u hav sense(akonuche). But I strongly doubt. So no comments

Lmao.

buchibabe: Its ok. Go n sin no more! Lollz. No hard feelings. Take care

Awwwwww, tanx dear.

[quote author=buchibabe][/quote]My apologies. Soooo sorry for the wrong accusation. I went through your comments on that thread. Mehnnnnnnn, little wonder why u sound dis way. Once again, I'm soooo sorry. Hope I'm forgiven

buchibabe: Its just d greedy nature of men.its natural. No b today e start,no mata how good looking,hardworking,Godfearin a woman is,whosai! A man wil always look outside.

So ladies,no think say ur guy na saint o. U get assistant wife or gf somewhere

Bushybabe, sorry Buchibabe, why are you soooo devoid of trust. In your other post, you were proud of cheating on your boyfriend without any single feeling of remorse. It's bad enough that there are sexual relationships everywhere which isn't right from the religious perspective. And to think that you attributed your sexual promiscuity to having the grace of God upon your life. Please, stop washing your dirty linen in public. Stop giving the world a wrong impression about women. Although, I hate to admit that I appreciate your bluntness, but please guide your utterances. U ain't married yet, are you? Don't be too sure of urself. #nuff said#.

ogini32: any man dat lives is wife and start chasin another woman is nt wat live because u were nt forced 2 marry her so u shuld look well b4 fallin in luv...

Oginiiiiii? Easy wit ur gbagaun abeg!

[quote author=190-the-clown]i have borrowed money to my man before [/quote]What happened to your 7 girlfriends? Are u a bi-sexual

idowuswap: Let see how igbos go become president with thier atrocities aims.igbos are now boko haram why all bcuz of money.even 4 jail na dem plenty pass .and they are die like flies.animal tribessssssss

GBAGAUN!!!

idowuswap: Let see how igbos go become president with thier atrocities aims.igbos are now boko haram why all bcuz of money.even 4 jail na dem plenty pass .and they are die like flies.animal tribessssssss

Like seriously, apart from your senseless, out-of-point and completely irrelevant post, I fink you should be flogged for tribal bashing and been so silly. What d hell happens to been a waka-pass? Must u comment? Silly ass!

Beautiful thread, nice one poster. I served in a village called Umana Ndiagu, Ezeagu LGA of Enugu State. It was a wonderful experience. I remember when we left camp for our ppa, we were hosted and warmly welcomed by older corpers. The village was about 1hr:30mins drive from the Coal city. I found it hard to sleep for the first 3 weeks because I was scared of the Environment. Most of my colleagues re-deployed to the city and I was left all alone in the lodge. I spent most of my time with some of my fellow Batch members who were posted to other neighbouring villages. It was a challenging experience though. My joy knew no bounds when new batches of corpers were posted to my ppa. Amongst them was a garrulous but funny yoruba gurl who shared my room with me since I had barely 2 months to go. At night, she released explosives from her bum. Mehn, it wasn't funny, but somehow I got used to it. Then there was the calabar dude who prepared and consumed his custard without adding anything like sugar, milk...to it. When you ask him why? He will simply instruct you to read through d container, dat all the neccessary ingredients are already embedded in it. His accent is just enough to spice my day. Good thing about him is that he was neat to a fault. So many funny stories I just can't share but in all, it was a wonderful experience. The students where stubborn, rude but friendly. Serving in the village is sooo much fun, trust me. It gives you a glimpse of the other side of life and prepares you for a great future ahead. Awwwww, feeling so Nostalgic right now......

flairlady: i am thought the film is the faking types,that is why the translated is not corrected.even faked hollywood dvds are have not correct translation.

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Madam, seems like you are 1 of those incompetent hands hired to subtitle the above-mentioned movies.

What a shame! I'm disappointed. Can't these movie directors get competent hands? Mstcheeeeeew.

The ideal length of courtship before marriage should be 1 year maximum for the following reasons:
1. A lady who is ready for marriage should be old enough to handle the challenges of marriage. She should be a helper to her hubby. She should strive to be educated. If for any reason, she couldn't make it to school, should try to learn something practical and should establish a means of livelihood no matter how little. That way, she won't depend entirely on her hubby.
2. A lady who is ready for marriage should have reached an appreciable level in her education. If she is in the university or polytechnic, she should be in her 300level or HND 1 respectively and should be more than 20 years of age.
3. She should be deep-rooted in d things of God. She should understand some basic principles about life and the need to be supportive and hardworking.

As for the male folks who are ready for marriage, the underlisted holds:
1. The guy should have completed his university education and must have started up something worthwhile to sustain him and his prospective family.
2. If he is not keen on going to school, he should acquire some sort of practical skills. He should have a business of his own that will fetch him steady source of income.
3. He should be above 25yrs of age. This matters a lot when issues like marriage is talked about. Maturity is needed on his part for him to be able to cope with the rigours of marriage.
4. He should be God-fearing and should heed to the bible's advice on husbands handling their wives gently since they are weaker vessels.

With the above points, I don't think dating is neccessary. Hence IMHO, the ideal duration of courtship before marriage should be maximum of 1 year. Dating is for kids, courtship is for adults.

Ideally, a lady is free to have suitors. If she's got d appeal and what it takes to be admired, she is definitely gonna meet different guys. Please, don't get it twisted ooo. A lady can have as many admirers as possible without neccessarily sleeping with them. Not all relationships end in marriage. For example, if a lady is in a relationship which isn't clearly defined, I think she should leave her options open. A lady can be friends with the opposite sex without sleeping with them. Although, the best option is to examine someone closely before you start a relationship with the person. Long courtships isn't a guarantee for marriage hence the duration of the courtship shouldn't be more than a year. A lady feels insecure when she is stuck in a relationship for too long without any guarantee of marriage. As for guys, please be honest. If you find out that the person you are dating isn't good enough for marriage, please make her understand by giving her genuine reasons. Don't waste her time by dating her for soooo long when you ain't gonna marry her in the long run. If only humans were sincere, there won't be any need for a spare tyre. Also, a relationship built on the word of God won't need a spare tyre. I don talk my own ooooo. #END OF STORY#

Nice one poster. In my opinion, life is all about learning and exploring. Although no-one is perfect, we could strive to be almost perfect only if we accept our flaws and work on ourselves. The 7 afore-mentioned virtues are what makes a lady virtuous. What makes a lady decent, appealing and responsible depends on her ability to take positive charge of situations. Once a person is genuinely God-fearing irrespective of gender, every other thing will follow suit. When u truly choose to live right and serve God from the depth of your heart, you will want to work on ur temperament, be selfless, understanding and kind. To each his own. #My 2 cents#

odoguigbo: I must to tell you that that my so called lady has no worth to claim my life for her refusal of my proposal to her. Why should I take Otapiapia cose of a mare woman that are boku in every where. My handsome question to you who had a decision to kill ur expensive self, is: When you are come to this macorosm were you born at same tunnel with her or did you take an oat in the spirit world that she must be the only woman you should live with? No! You met her one day and one day you same ganna meet another woman that will accept your proposal wf joy. Do not carry women's issue at head, they are not material!!!

........gbagaun!!!!!!!!

Nice thread. I'm sure your "future" wife is doing great wherever she is. A little bit of patience and prayers will bring you guys together.*thumbs up*.

If your left eyes blinks severally on its own, it's sign of impending danger, if your right eye blinks severally on its own, it's sign of goodluck.

I love this thread. Nice one Ops. My favourite verses proverbs 25:17. Be seldom in ur neighbour's house lest he gets weary of u and hates u. Proverbs 17 verse 9-11. Whoever covers an offence promotes love but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends. Ecclesiastes chap 7:26. And I found more bitter than death d woman whose hands is snares and nets and whose hands are like fetters. He who pleases God escapes her but the sinner is taken by her,