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Lalami3232:

Whatever mistake you make on earth is forgivable but don't ever make the mistake of underestimating the power and effect of money. Oga and madam, don't ever try it.
With money, you can do almost everything and anything you want.
What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news

Oga as you dey claim say this 2025 is your year, oga try to get a tech/crypto/forex skill. Else, na only for your imagination na you go fit live your dream life

Boss you don talk am finish nothing to add again

Namaster:
Oh boy!

1. Married for 10 years.
2. Has 3 kids.
3. RECENTLY got a job with BETTER pay.
4. NEVER initiates sex.
5. RATIONS sex and it's down to just 4 times in 30 days.
6. CONSTANTLY complains of stress.
7. BLATANTLY tells you to get your sex elsewhere.

Dude, this woman NO LONGER finds you attractive if she ever did.

She has achieved her goal in marriage. She has 3 kids and has gotten a job with MORE money so she does not need yours anymore.

By the way, realise this:

NO man ever thinks his wife is even CAPABLE of cheating on him.

They'd SLAM their chest with confidence and proclaim it to the world. Meanwhile, the said wife is giving professional porrnstars a run for their money with ANOTHER man.

So NEVER discount the possibility that she's cheating on you.

BUT even if she's not, the fact remains that she is NOT attracted to you anymore.

Sex is an INCREDIBLE way to relieve stress.
A stressed woman who finds you attractive would be EAGER to jump your bones. Not refuse you.

Also, a wife who STILL loves her husband and finds him attractive would NEVER advise him to go out and fuccck OTHER women. Instead, she'd do better.

The fact that she was even the one who brought it up should be a HUGE warning siren inside your skull.

She could be INSTIGATING you to cheat because she ALREADY cheated and is attempting to assuage her guilt.

Someone suggested you do MORE chores with the hope of getting MORE sex.

That's RIDICULOUS!

It has NEVER worked. And it'll NOT work for you, either. In fact, it could AGGRAVATE the issue.

Women HATE it when men do "nice things" for them with the hope of getting sex.

They find it REPULSIVE. And close their legs, padlock their pussies and melt down the keys for good measure.

Doing more chores will NEVER get you more sex 'cause she'd counter with the argument that it's something you should have been doing anyway.

So, it'll NEVER work!

The fact is something FUNDAMENTAL has changed for your wife and she has REPLACED you.
Either with ANOTHER man or her new job.

You have 2 SIMPLE choices:

1. STAY in a sexless marriage.
2. DON'T stay in a sexless marriage.

It's up to you.

But before you make your decision, consider this:

Your wife no longer cares whom you stick your dick in, as long as it's NOT her.

Guy you dey give me joy cause everything wey the guy need to do the solution the problem you don list am down the day my gf talk say make i try go out to see girl wey fi dey with me nah that day i turn her to fu*k mate nah the next week i start dey date one shima even that one sef don tire me

Hmmm this is actually not true though some cases we can say that but let me tell you most ladies tend to like black guys because they believe liking them or dating them will actually reduce the competition they are getting from other ladies, while some love black guys because they find it weird to date a guy who shares creams with them to maintain their lightness either way get money if you wan get good girl if you like black light midnight or white like snow if you no get money for naija them go finish you.

You and the man nah one category una dey the real person wey she fear nah the main man funniest thing be say she fi be side chick to your main gf naso one girl wan useless me me wey don gather them like 4 i no get time to dey think about babe.

Balablue64:
Clean one that can suck my pernis

No worry them go suck your spe*m join

Go oyingbo railway opposite mainland hotel them plenty there

Mercylike:
Shut the hell.. It is not by force..

How many men have turned the lives of women around and they end up jilting the men without an remorse.

Why do we feel remorseful for a lady left by a man but we don't for a man left by a woman

Bro you should shut the fu*k up if reverse was the case i will still say the same cause i dont deal with all this gender bullshit alright its bad let accept it okay you cant just get help from someone you know you dont want to have anything with and still continue to deceive her, so bro those gender shit you guys do on nairaland is none of my business.

TheTundeMuniru:
Omo! I'm still with her though and I deserve every good things in life.

I brought the issue here so you guys can help me view things from your perspectives.

Okay bro how you wan make she feel omo una get mind oooo

If this is true then you dont deserve a good life sorry to say so when she dey turn your life around you no remember now money don come better marry her cause watin she go use your eyes see you sef go tire

Bro respect her decision for the whole family to kick against you meeting her means nothing good will come out of it, you can calm your babe down tell her to explain what's going on. By the way if you think marrying her will make history repeat itself then you can option out now not too late.

Philistine:
Shame! Just Imagine the level of civilization in Yorubaland. Spits!

Sometimes una go just talk like say the stuff wey dey up don shrink

iamtoofan:
You don hear money it as clouded your reasoning, poverty as dealt with us

There are situations you wont understand until you find yourself in that situation .... i have dated a gurl for one year, we romance get nake but she will never allow me penetrate ... i cant explain the torture except you witness it


To make matter worst she be law student ... i had to be me in my best behaviour, i scatter the r/ship laslas b4 she pity me 🤣
shola god will judge you i suffered

Loll that one sef dey

You get mouth dey talk break up you wey the girl dey give money you still get mind dey talk am owing 22k for tpain era t he girl sef try at least you dey see her nude she suppose no even show for your side at all oga go pay her money back goan hustle

See the best advice I'll give you Is let him learn by himself cause that one dey enter brain Weller than advice no matter the advice you go give am nah you be the bad person so leave am if the girl don use he head finish he brain go reset for this tpain period you dey lodge cheating wh*re inside house.

Loll you wan com insider comer

Not like am supporting the lady but you should be able to understand her reason do you know the insult she received daily from her family, she's only staying because of the baby please try to gather money and pay her dowry, base on what she said about being s.x machine means her parents don use am insult am weller.

budaatum:
Indeed you didn't. But the reason you want your phone back is you haven't gotten what you want.

Below is a list of what you've confessed you wanted.

so we can you know communicate

show sign of appreciation

us being together

relationship with a girl.

Let's just say it's part of it though

HandsomeSkeleto:
Take your phone back quick!!!! Before talk will begin to enter talk. Those girls deserve no mercy. Never help them with what you can't afford to lose.

Me, for one, do not pity any member of that gender at all in any matter in this life....
As long as we're not blood relations, and you're not my wife or someone I'm really planning to marry, forget it. It will just be pure business between you and I !!!!

Lemme run along now before they start coming for my jugular....

I come in peace....

Thanks boss

budaatum:
Do you know what quid quo pro means?

Basically, you quidded but got no pro in return, so I guess you can take your phone back.

Personally, I'm glad her dad slapped her. No father wants their daughter to be in the ashewo business.

Next time, let the person know what you are quidding for to avoid misunderstandings with the pro you want in return.

I didnt even ask for anything in return

immortalcrown:
1.
Did you give her the phone because she needs it or did you trade the phone for romance? If the former is the case, don't collect the phone from her. But if the later is the case, I reserve my comment on that.

2.
Her father slapping her is a different issue. It could be that the father is the type that believes in using strict behaviour to checkmate children. If this is the reason he slapped her, I won't discuss it because the girl is not the one seeking advice here.

3.
It could be that her family is irritated by your personality. This might be the case since you said that her sister hates seeing you around her.

I borrowed her the phone and I told her she should use it for the main time

Good evening guys well this is my first time doing this. I just want to hear you guys opinion, cause am currently serving in one private school so I met this girl just normal teacher in the school I confessed my feelings to her and you know the way nigerian girls are, at first she was forming hard to get and all , after sometimes she started relating and all well the issue here is she had a problem with her phone and I've 3 phones most of which has little issues the first one is infinix smart hd or something, I do use that to mine all this crypto update and all the other 2 phones cant mine so she started talking about me using 3 phones without even thinking about her, so I gave her my iphone 8 so we can you know communicate i didnt give her this phone to keep but to just use it for the main time and all, she didnt even show sign of appreciation, she was just like she's not comfortable with the way my pictures and my documents are on that phone I told her to chill up that at least gradually I'll start sending the pictures, this girl formatted the phone the next day. I decided to keep quiet about it now she has this sister that do complain about us being together to the point she insulted me when I gave her the phone she didnt ask where she got the phone from .
Now the issue here is that her dad saw us together yesterday slapped her and now she wants to break up so I told her we need to meet to discuss but my main plan is just to collect my phone back tomorrow, I dad didnt even ask her where she got the phone from, so I just want to ask if this is a good decision.
My friend was annoyed he saw he cant even believe at this stage am still doing hide and seek relationship with a girl the girl is 20 though.

You no see as the guy dey do like ode if parents dey pray make them born good pikin them get reason and nah another woman carry this one for nine months, na olosho wey neighbors dey service nah him he dey call girlfriend, I no go dey surprise if he buy that iphone 15 arindi Omo Inu radio

Black flag 🏴 Japa

Man watin you look for you go see even after your mistakes like 500 red flags you still no Japa from her you never see anything

Harvesters don fly enter ny go to business as always

Rubbish untop 1-0 penalty for that matter

See how babe dey okay fine na outside I wan go marry

Bro your own better I be 28 no beads only mustache even if my friends dey abuse me I no dey take am serious again person even call me 17 years old boy

spencekat:
Most Nigerian guys caused this arrant nonsense.Girls marry up and most guys marry down.

I swear na why one guy dey talk say he dey work for he broke girlfriend because of her pussy how you go go school for years get better work or hustle before you make it then settle for less like it’s not even funny anymore

TotoIsGud4boy:
you're really ignorant... man up lol.. women are not supposed to work, are you a lazy man? I'm a man but I love to provide for my broke gf as long as she's LOyaL and provides me pussi

First of all you don’t know me you don’t know what I do and the Bleep you called me a lazy man shows how dumb and crazy you’re you don’t even know what am doing working for a girl can be nice to you alright but you see me and you na only because say we be guy join us together we no dey the same level if you dey work for your gf because of her pussy then trust me in the nearest future you’ll beg for food dumbass fool

With this mentality, I believe as a lady you’ve this mentality then you should be able to work and work hard you can’t have this mentality and still be poor as a female I blame rich guys that settle for poor or average girls I swear, because if this people believe miracle will come above you don’t want to work, yet you want to enjoy,