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Macaroni, some carrots, green beans, onions on the side, topped with vegetable soup mixed with smoked fish and pepper sauce.

Served in different styles. 😅

cr7lomo:
Gone are those days when men were expected to take care of their women.... women now go to school , get jobs and run businesses.... no man should be expected to take care of an adult....

Why did the woman go to school just like the man ... the same expectation bestowed upon man should be same with women....

In the case of a family where children are involved, childbirth and raising children has an effect on the woman which she may either be able to bear and return to work, or it might affect her ability to work. Hence the man doing the major financial duties.

Also based on children, someone needs to be present at home to raise them, even if such a parent is partially present. Unless you guys plan to use nannies to raise your kids.

So the woman may end up having a smaller job in this case.

underpinna:
The only bad thing is that she may go spiritual as she believes in that.
For now, I am cool and haven't heard from her.
I've always told her that I'm not interested in marriage. I don't know why she was hell bend on ending up with me.

Toh it’s up to you to become a prayer warrior now.

Before…

Why him no go wear mask? Abi you want people to finish him.

underpinna:
This lady mounts me like a cultist. Omoh, I don't even know who supplies her with info.

Call a mature and responsible person that will help you explain and beg after you tell her your intentions, let it be a very private three person meeting, after which you have your bags ready and leave the apartment forever, immediately after.

If she is too violent by nature, wait till you have secretly left, then text or call about the breakup and try to apologize and be courteous.

Personally I don’t believe in all these statements where it just looks like the lady suddenly got obsessed. I think you silently allowed her to assume that things were serious through somewhat romantic gestures.

All in all, no relationship at all, is better than a pity relationship

ediko5:
You thought you could eat your cake and have it? 😂 😂

Una never see anything. You liked your papa mate in your 20s and in your mid and late 30s you're suddenly in love and want your younger brother's age mate to marry you

I think I’ve crossed these bridges you mock me for.

And no, I don’t fancy juniors.

Mid thirties is a young man and the same mid thirties mean an old woman. Ridiculous.

ediko5:
Na because of how old cargos dey damage themselves na.

Even when nobody calls out men, they still look for how to clear themselves.

ediko5:
Personally I'm not a fan of a man getting married to a far younger wife but let's look at it this way:

A lady in her early and mid 20s will see a young man of her age and 5 - 7 years older as a small boy, at that age she'll be dating her 10 - 20+ older men and when she's 33+ she suddenly start looking for her age mate to 3 years older men for express marriage, at 37, she'll reduce her age to 33 and start looking for men as young as 30 years for marriage.

So you mean the young should happily marry a left over old cargo after jumping from one bed to another with 10 - 20 years active experience on the streets ?

I know you're also an old cargo that's why you're saying this.

But my question is Always:

Why younger men?
Why not the older men that had you in your prime age?

All this is a long story.

Men like young women and always have. So let him go for his choice.

He shouldn’t have done that. He should stop letting his wife’s presence determine his worth.

ComeComing:
All these pains because he refused to wife an old cargo.. Smh

I don’t support you calling her an old cargo. I’m not happy with a woman being treated as disposable and valueless because she is not a little girl.

I just know that you guys prefer little girls. Or rather, young girls. So he’s going to be miserable with her, which won’t be fair to her. Let him free her so he can continue hunting small girls to his hearts desire. If not, na she go hear am. And SHE doesn’t deserve such trauma.

Let him go so that there will be peace.

Unstick yourself, before you go ahead with a pity relationship. Before you start crying, day and night about how she blocked you from dating younger girls. Before you diminish her because your eyes are still outside.

A breakup is better than the humiliation you’re going to be giving her.

ibtommy:
My sister, sorry if you got me wrong. Don't get me wrong. Don't you know most of the young girls listening to some of these feminists become more confused than they were before listening to them? They assume all men are bad and even decide to treat them badly. Their approach to feminism should change such that it can be tailored down to helping women who have already entered "one chance" with some bad guys, and also helping the younger ones to be careful and choose right. We are not talking about men now, but because of your reaction, let me just say that not all men are evil and it is a good thing for a man to be teachable and not arrogant. Some men are too arrogant to be corrected. Women too should learn to submit to their good husbands (this doesn't stop them from correcting their "good men" if they misbehave a little). Submission is not subjecting yourself to be subjugated by any man. If a man tries to subjugate you just because you are submissive, then you need to speak out on time before it's too late. Don't let any man take advantage of your submission. Make I stop here jare

👍🏾 Good explanation.

chidiokay:
what have you being doing with your phone, you dont know ibom comfort !

since you thought you could shade guyz with "Y' all" and get away with it i have to pull an air hostess on you

Do anyhow n your cloth will tear ...

I read up some posts about the ibom case here, so I get where you seem to be coming from, but I think women get corrected more than men and take to the correction by force or naturally.

dequir:
She ought to be paying child support to the man she left with 5 kids to feed and nurture alone.

She is a real example of an irresponsible and laid back spouse. The husband should sue her if she is eventually traced in Nigeria.

Okay but it would be fine if she had allowed him to go and leave her as he planned.

Onlinetutor7:
The worst, is when they say Alright.
You see that Alright, For some it can mean "The Battle Line has been Drawn"

🤣

chidiokay:
Did emerson comfort take simple correction, " Y' all means both male n female here

make kettle no call pot black ... abeggi

Who is Emerson comfort?

‘Y’all’ adressess both males and females? Great. I’m not sure I understand but you can explain further.

ibtommy:
You garrit. Don't mind her. All of those feminists are enjoying the "thing" behind closed doors while coming out publicly to bash men. I know say some men behave as beasts, but that doesn't make all men evil. Those feminists should keep quiet and rather learn and teach our young ladies how not to rush into men but to take their time and choose right. E good for her sha.

You have assumed that if women address men, even slightly, it means that all men are evil. The statement in bold is what you guys truly desire, I believe.

Y’all don’t want to be corrected at all, that’s why anytime you’re criticized, you take it as an attack on all of you.

I know.

DeepSight:
CAPITAL NO! NOT TRUE!

So we have negative mindsets about men but men don’t have that about us?

DeepSight:
Really?

Women are the funniest ever.

Man: Good morning.
Woman: What do you mean by that?

Man: Hi, how are you are, do you have a minute?
Woman: You are very insensitive (slams down the phone)

Man: Hello Madam, something dropped from your purse.
Woman: How dare you talk to me, I am engaged.

I can go oooooooooon and ooooooon.

Vice versa.

Men have many negative mindsets towards women, so they should be careful about who they mix with in the name of love vibes.

Love the gown but apart from religion, the man ruled world in which men force what we must do, has forbidden those of my age from wearing it. Mockery from young boys most especially and pick me women awaits if early to late thirties wears that especially in northern Nigeria.

It’s a chat forum here though and I chose to talk about the dress and not the topic. I can choose here. I must say Seun is doing a good job of banning nuisances and any attempter trying to harass someone for putting down what they don’t like.

Pan toast and eggs, with tea. One of my faves.

As you can observe, I took the picture of this pap and leftover moimoi in mid motion.

The picture wey I wan snap no consign the owner of the food

Very foolish statement.

You said life tests you?

No, you tested life and it replied.

I’m mad at you for you 😢

Not exactly food but food related….

Thanks to my trusty vegetable scissors for helping me get through vegetables when I don’t want to cut. Just snip away…

Get your garri by yourself, I already tried by making the Akara 😄

IamMobisola:
It is clear most of these men are pedos.

Spot on.

omooba969:
Body count na water!

I don’t understand this comment. Explanation expected…

Dagger111:
They don knack this one tire. Pele my dear.

Insults can never cover the truth.

Well, after sex, men tell women to take a walk. When women see that men are consistently taking a walk after sex, they stop that method, because they are being cheated. Being tasted up and down in the name of tasting before marriage, yet, no marriage.

You don’t want women to protect themselves. In the name of not cheating you. Is that realistic. They can’t keep digging a deeper grave for themselves, allowing men to test and leave, building up a higher body count.

The only thing I will condemn is when the woman or man says no sex, but is sleeping around behind their partners back.

Kai Kai Kai …goosebumps on my body.


I wish them the best, maybe it’s love.