₦airaland Forum

Happy birthday beautiful. Your parents did well for you.

At least, in the future, no man will come bragging that you want to have what your parents were never able to give you (that’s one of their excuses). It is important for parents to have a good background story and standard for their girls, so tomorrow they won’t be intimidated by someone claiming they want what they’ve never experienced or eaten.

Parents, do all the great and expensive stuff for your girls so that when they grow up, no man will degrade them. That is, in addition to raising them well with good values.

Horrific and sad. I hope the cause of death will be investigated.

Asides that, on another matter concerning manholes, something needs to be done about all these ones in Nigeria left open. Some years ago I fell with one full leg into one due to the cover being stolen by these street boys … Abi is it pothole… the round metal cover was missing sha.

I didn’t fall through as my other leg was out. Quickly picked myself up. Taking the round metal covers off the holes in the street is akin to murder. People don’t care for life here. I can’t even walk down some streets without fear, you will see big holes that the ends of go several feet down. So it’s either you look out for yourself or fall in and nobody will know your whereabouts, those in charge of the roads or who opened the holes don’t care.

R.I.P to the girl.

adecz:
A breakfast ensemble for all day energy ...

Taking the chips and eggs and I’m out. I don’t know what the rest are.

There are too many male dominated spaces in this country. In my opinion, there are not enough hang out spots for women alone. Everywhere you look, it’s a bar or disguised bar for men. Even when it’s a place that women can go and not be approached, harrassed or disturbed, it’s usually ridden with so many kids. Any place that kids don’t overflow in, someone will come and create alcohol business in that area, next you will just hear ‘don’t go there, it is a man’s hang out spot.’

Women need places that are majorly occupied by them to hang out and feel safe in. Don’t tell me about gender discrimination when it comes to this, because - aren’t men discriminating against us by having so many hang out spots that are not safe for women to also exist in? Based on all the harassment, this woman’s story included, I wouldn’t bat an eyelid if some beautiful hang out spots, bars and clubs were created, where men are not allowed or made to pay extra, and it’s not for kids due to it being an actual adult space, though for women alone.

That’s one solution I see, because this needs to stop. This oppression needs to stop.

This is beautiful ❤️

It’s a wonderful start for her, a booster for her self esteem. From this she can have that confidence that she is meant for greater things and go for them.

Please don’t avoid them o, marry your spec. Before you will marry one innocent middle aged woman and start making her life miserable because what you actually wanted was gen Z.

nnamdi640:
The men most of them have moulded in their minds, are on their ways, they should hold on for a while, those men will soon arrive to marry them all.

You are angry that they have expectations. Don’t worry, you will understand why it isn’t criminal for a woman to have expectations when you’re older.

autoez:
Make una leave space for the women to comment na

Leave the agbayas.

Most men would not tolerate this from a woman - if it was the other way round.

Sallah food. We thank God.

Moi moi and garri … seems to be many peoples’ Sunday food.

JayEdm:
I did all the above...was loyal,gave money,advice, everything I had. Would even share money people dashed me with him. I was so open. Helped him apply for jobs,talked to pple on his behalf,prayed for him etc...what did I get after he started seeing small cash (which is still as a result of my effort o). He said and I quote " I never forced you to help me". This life ,never help an ingrate who is also e titled.

God will heal your heart ❤️ and give you a better perspective that appreciates your effort.

Wananonly:
The garri was all he had to offer her and she stayed bro. Giving him cooking and cleaning and doggy and monkey. Whereas people were who would have given her more if she followed them.

She didn't buy the garri but what she sacrificed was 10x more.

I don't care bro. Let the simpsults rain on me.

Don’t mind the African man who like many other African men is looking for a superwoman to save him - while other races are supermen, saving their women.

Jollof rice with vegetable soup containing fish.

Choose how you want to be served.

We like veggies, so I just made the vegetable soup, to give a different edge and variety to the taste and the preparation of the jollof rice.

Spaghetti mixed with spinach and fish. ‘Pomo’ added.

triplechoice:
I'm afraid your thinking is very faulty. It's filled with too many assumptions about men.

In the real world, not Nairaland where you have been educated wrongly, both men and women in this part of the world are involved in the "busi body business" of condemning young girls whom they see as inappropriately dressed.
And the major reason they do so is religious indoctrination coming from the pulpit and not because they fear the loss of "pristine vaginas" to marry.

If you insist men only do so because of what you imagined, then what of the women, especially Nigerian mothers who also do the same?

Is it because they are obsessed with marrying pristine vaginas or sleeping with them? Answer me.

It's not only men. Women are also guilty of the same.

There are some women who erroneously believe young ladies dress that way to seduce their husbands or snatch their boyfriends. You can't tell me you haven't come across such women.

One thing you didn't include up there in your argument is that there are some men and women who believe demons are influencing young ladies to dress the way their religion regard as immodest.
The word, paedophile doesn't describe men only. There are paedophiles amongst women. Those ones also go about molesting children sexually without anyone suspecting because it's assumed that only men are paedophiles.

However, you correct to condemn those who read "dark meanings" into dressings.

For me , I believe those teenagers are just following the latest fashion trends which makes them feel good about themselves. Those with "dark" reasons are either perverted minds or religious fanatics.


Hehehe. I hope you're not a man hater. Too "many men" every where in your comments.

Many women are also involved in the same kind of behaviour you're condemning "many men " for.

Women are the ones who even take it to the extreme in Nigeria. You can easily confirm this yourself by dressing scantily and go shopping in any of the local markets around you, and experienced first hand the reaction of your fellow women to your dressing. You won't be able to stand it . Some bold ones would even offer to cover you with their headgear or anything else as you move around the markets.

Recently a young lady who visited a local market in Nigeria, described how she was harassed and embarrassed by women there who forced additional clothing on her because they thought she wasn't properly dressed. The story was on the front page of this Forum. You can Google it to confirm.

It wasn't men that did that to her but women

.And that wasn't just an Isolated incident. It happens all the time in our local markets and any where else women are gathered. If they are not making attempts to cover you with something, they are eying you with disdain.

So , what are you taking about?

My post didn’t cover all reasons and was directed at men whereas women are involved - its good that you pointed that out.

Personally I don’t feel that my opinions on men are wrong though. You are right about the women and the variety of reasons, but I’m also not wrong.

I think men only care because they fear the loss of pristine virgin vaginas, the scarcity of pure brides for marriage. You know, because they only see women as a commodity to be preserved until needed - not a human being with a sense of style and a beautiful being that just wants to try out so many ways of looking good, enjoying fashion trends until they outgrow them.

On the other hand some men promote this kind of thinking, because they need it as an excuse to prey on little girls. Many of these kids just feel cool, they just feel like they’re having adventures and following fashion, but it’s the men crying about it that make all they are doing to be dirty. By the time some of these kids get lied to and taken advantage of sexually, they will face a world that tells them what they never knew - that they were mistreated due to the fact that some sex oriented, sex obsessed people believe that the only reason for that dressing is to seduce them. Some men think you came to this world only for them, if you are dressing with skin showing, it must be to catch their eyes.

Funny enough, I have nothing against covering up, I even think it protects the body more and protects kids from pedophiles, but these pedophiles exist amongst people who focus unnecessarily on the bodies of strangers, getting aroused and therefore reading sexual and dark meanings into their dressings which match the pedophiles’ obscene fantasies and triggers.

Imagine many men here saying that these kids are all having sex and doing hookup… kids that watched cool kid shows and just felt like dressing like those they watched…

Men involved themselves in a dirty lifestyle that doesn’t allow them to think straight. Now you men that immersed yourselves into a dirty lifestyle that gave you a dirty mindset will go and inflict these young kids with suffering based on that.

The assumption made on these clothes is a suffering inflicted on children by those with dirty minds and lifestyles. The girls have to hide themselves because of men who chose to corrupt themselves and now won’t let little girls and women live in peace.

chidiokay:
I missed primary 6 tho, but i dont know of any africa country that colonize the other in history

Asking you to be a woman stay a woman is not a call for slavery

Adam was lonely, naa why God remember to bring woman into the picture.

what if Adam was not lonely, just imagine

What were your examples of how to be a woman and stay a woman, again?

You mentioned that we should not misbehave where we are squatting. Made references to Churchill getting another woman so fast (to me that seems like I’m being reminded that I’m easily replaceable, not valuable and should behave, having that in mind.

And now - Adam was lonely. Hinting that we women are only here because of men.

I think making someone’s existence worthless, and only to be worthy when they completely live for someone else’s pleasure alone, is slavery.

Btw I don’t know about your primary six. There are other ways blacks have enslaved other blacks, which don’t include colonialism.

chidiokay:
trust me i am not close to white not to talk of " master" .. staying on your lane on the road does not mean your car cant move at speed

do whips still exist i can use slippers

Slavery exists from white to black

From black to black

From light skin to dark skin and vice versa

From men to women

And from women to men

So don’t give me no talk about not being white.

Especially with how you want to claim it’s a mens world like women were born to be slaves to them.

chidiokay:
does it matter what you love, flip it like pancake or turn it like amala does it change our reality .. m/f are not judge from the same lens and as such we dont suffer the same consequences

how long did it take churchhill to get another sweet celeb wife.

its a man's world, hate it buh behave yle you are squatting

Okay ‘massa’. We be good an’ docile. Juss don beat us with the whip, massa.

pocohantas:
Forgive her, Sir.
It is you she loves.
After all she came back home to you.
That should tell you a lot.

Don't allow the devil break your home.

😂

I love your cutting sarcasm. Like flipping the script. The thing they tell women to do when it’s them that got cheated on. And this went right over many dudes heads.

Shidinky:
Less simps
In the next 10 years hopefully you will start paying groom price at this rate.

Here’s your crown 👑 and your glass slippers 🥿

Princess Cinderella.

Kaczynski:
start by learning mandarin and become a translator for those Chinese men in nigeria


Korea is too racist, outside of Seoul expect racism

How about those learning Japanese?

My own is to no longer tell people my age but give my birth date for them to calculate.

I’d rather ask a question than answer yours. Why are you ‘age watchers’ so fixated on people’s real ages, looking for liars all about, why are you so suspicious of everybody?

It’s just so annoying for those of us that don’t lie about our ages. You never accept the truth even when told.

adecz:
Great 👍

But how come you didn't share??

I didn’t think of sharing o, just ate and enjoyed 😄 fair to say I forgot.

adecz:
What would go down with this?

Your post made me cook plenty fresh okra soup and stew, with eba.

People don’t understand and may never understand that power is transient. I will find it hard to believe in the authenticity of any old persons humility, because my life experience includes mostly people that stick to certain groups and have a lot of pride mocking others as much as they can just because they have it all now.