₦airaland Forum

It’s a male controlled world.

The men want you to go round naked while you’re young, not yet a mom and single, not belonging to any of them. You think you are able to do as you wish because of your own strength but the only reason you were not cowed into submission is because they like it. Get the reports from most of the older women and married women. Society is a bully.

You think women want to really evolve into wearing those old wrappers and bogus gowns, old lady hairdos and what not? No, they suddenly got older, got hitched and had kids and then everywhere they went, If they tried to dress like they did when they were single, young boys and men would harass them, people would berate them etc.

Men believe your life is for them. You’re not available or attractive to them anymore (according to the ridiculous rules they made by age or birthing) so your right to wear certain things has been revoked. Should you choose to wear those things still, the men will make it very hard for you…along with the many, many pick me women we have in society…like those ones that look at you with disgust when you buy food in a restaurant because they believe you should have cooked (as a woman born to live and die in the kitchen without enjoying being served, that you are).

They control this show still, the men, through harassment and traditional rules. A woman feeling good is only valid to them if the woman is pleasing to them, that is young, not a mother, not married. The rest of us are forced, a lot of us against our will, to be musty old women. If you think many of us really want to stay out of the spotlight and not dress up, you’re not seeing deep. The male centered society forces it on us.

Wanna continue being a babe? Gotta be a fighter, gotta be brave.

Good luck.

Boiled sweet potatoes, eggs and stew.

When you get pregnant, you will ‘see yourself’ along with childbirth, along with the first few months of taking care of a newborn.

It is then you will understand the need for kindness, tolerance and understanding in this life.

For some reason they had to describe the suspect as a divorcee, first and foremost. 😂 She couldn’t just be a woman? The effort to demonize divorcees is very pitiful and obvious here. She is entangled in a crime not yet confirmed, but the fact that she divorced is the center piece.

Abegiii….

DMCY:
Lent someone 100k since last year February. People around kept telling me not to lend the money to the person but the crying and gnashing of the person’s teeth made me feel they really needed it. Omo! Till now shishi I never see, instead na fight dem deh follow me fight for adugbo.
I don leave and forget even tho I dey pained.

Same story but I chop insult on top. The person is super bold, no remorse.

I thought of this today, doing good will not make you anybody's friend.

Please men should stand up and get laws in their favor if they feel they are being sidelined. Rather than put up complaints anytime they notice something being done for women.

This is a very good move.

Iretii0511:
They said the woman is his mother. I hope she’s not the one that molested the child to this point so much so that he didn’t think it was wrong to do that to her anywhere.

News we aren’t sure of.

Mother or not though, he needs so much therapy, rehabilitation and help from professionals in the field of psychology.

If this is real then some one or some people really abused this child sexually to the point he has become like this. Not only do they need to investigate and find out the culprits, but the child needs serious rehabilitation and therapy, rehabilitation.

Sad the woman had to experience that. But I haven’t seen a situation where a woman can press charges against a child for harassment.

Firebox123:
if na woman beat man nko it's not unfair abi

You already know it’s unfair. Still, this crime was probably committed because the man knew he had more physical strength. He took advantage of his strength as a man.

They must do something about it. It’s very unfair.

I wish I could have therapy. Too bad people want to discourage and ruin the business.

I agree with you.

motymop:
I believe her.

Many Nigerian men want to sleep with anything.

The amazing stuff about this is that, the man left the financial side where he could make money and was thinking about sex.

I found a way, to really destroy a Nigerian man, just get a beautiful woman, they will forget about business deals they are suppose to do. Disgraceful

Especially the bi racial and light skinned beautiful women. Them no dey use eyes see that one.

AGManuel:
I've taken my time to go through all the comments and I really want to say I appreciate everyone who took time out of their busy schedules to talk to me like a brother.

The married men, those in relationships and the singles, your advises all meant a lot to me.

I learnt alot and I realised so many things I never knew.

Thank you all so much , I have been equipped with knowledge and the experiences you all shared and I really appreciate.

Thanks family.

Is like I go marry the girl, na better woman.
Is like na ashawo de my eyes true true

Please marry your spec and let her go. I don’t want that girl to suffer.

But when that girl came out and said her man must have 500k in his account before marrying her, you guys cursed her and were filled with anger. Because truth is bitter.

cr7lomo:
Did u even understand my statement?? Who is talking about virgins eating a man's money?? I really don't understand the sort of brain u women have

This is your post.

cr7lomo:
Just like u women will wanna drain a man's account and when he has no more cos he's been drained out, u women dump him...so who are u leaving him for to marry?? So u see, it goes both ways ... its left for the man to protect his funds while the woman protects her body ...

[quote author=cr7lomo post=134860446].

You are claiming the explanation above as an equal reason why men do what they do to virgins. If you were not referring to virgins, how does this come in as defense for your gender deceiving and defiling them in the first place?

Okay, put my first paragraph aside, how does the use of a man’s money equate the taking of a woman’s virginity? Is a woman’s virginity refundable? Though money is hard to make, it can be remade. Virginity cannot be remade. Let’s not compare the two please.

Women almost always protect them selves, their virtue. Men are the adventurous ones who are not going to rest until they can say they’ve slept with A, B and C. That is where your virginity scarcity problem arises from.

Adexgentle005:
Lol are you really a female ? I doubt it.

What makes you doubt?

cr7lomo:
Just like u women will wanna drain a man's account and when he has no more cos he's been drained out, u women dump him...so who are u leaving him for to marry?? So u see, it goes both ways ... its left for the man to protect his funds while the woman protects her body ...

Even when the virgins are not looking for funds, men assume they are, just to justify going after their pussy. Even when virgins weren’t looking for funds, they are deceived with sweet lies. A lot of them only wanted to be courted and married properly but they were deceived and lost their virtue.

A family will send their girl to university after toiling and training and tell her to keep her honor. She will agree only to meet a barrage of guys that will keep trying until one of them breaks it. So for all the other girls.

Only one or two girls will escape and leave university chaste. And that is because they were seriously hiding themselves while the many year hunt at school was ruthlessly occurring.

Control your dees and stop talking to women who if left alone and not deceived will remain chaste.

Bendeco02:
Madam chill abeg

Nothing like force

Your gender greed and lazyness is what destroys them

If a man didn't rape to dis-virgin, then i don't see any force on it.

The ones doing hook-up, who forced them?

Any girl that is not eager to loose her virginity won't even entertain the discussion to bagain for her virginity.

Stop deceiving yourself

Rape is not the only force. Deceiving someone that you love them and pressuring them until they open leg is force. I will marry you deceit to make someone who otherwise will not agree is another force. Following someone back to back until they agree is force. Seduction only for the purpose of opening leg is a big indirect forceful method used to disvirgin.

The 90 percent of women who are no longer virgins out there were all lazy, greedy or hookup virgin girls Abi? It is you who is deceiving yourself.

It is only innocent girls that know the true nature of men. Because due to desire, they see the crazy things men can do. Harass in the office, wild stares, crazy attempts, crazy offers of money and what not, harassment when nobody is around, ETC.

You guys are the ones to tame your Mandingo.

dkidd:
Lol I no understand U oo. Do I go about disvirgining girls for fun? If I meet a virgin and confirm she's one of she insists on keeping it why not. I will gladly comply. I'm not for destroying hymens and moving to the next but about keeping one for good when she comes by... If she's worth it

Maybe not you, but the numerous men out there and the number of non virgins speaks against your claims.

Maybe not you, but the average Nigerian man must taste and destroy. There are threads on this very site that prove such.

dkidd:
No matter how "we" force and do everything possible according to U, it still won't change the fact that new chasis is better than a tokunbo car. And there are still a lot of those available. Chasis I mean

And it doesn’t change the fact that you will still repeat the same story with the majority of the new chassis and complain about scarcity of virgins again.

As if the tokumbo wasn’t new chassis once. So how were they handled and how have men changed that it won’t be the same story for the new ones.

If your ways don’t change, the complaints won’t either.

dkidd:
No one forced U to fall for it.

It’s very easy to defend oneself with words. Everyone knows the truth.

You guys force, you force and you do everything possible. You even use it to brag to friends, and later complain that you did not see virgins to marry.

Sotey una write books upon books on how to deceive women into your beds. You guys need to be quiet.

Talking as if it’s not you guys that go out and mount pressure, use all forms of deceit to disvirgin the girls. When even on the streets some men request virgins for their one night stands which they pay for. You insist on breaking them yet you keep talking to them like your gender is not the problem.

AGManuel:
I'm sorry for being an ingrate. Thanks I'll work on myself.

Please marry that your exact spec and let her go. It’s not fair that for the rest of her life, she will remain married to a man that doesn’t truly desire her.

Chickensoup:
That's their preference. Everybody is allowed to seek for what they want. That doesn't make them perverts.

Will you say same for women who want rich and handsome men?

I don’t know why Nigerian women will see themselves in a hard situation and the next thing they want is not to allow their children to have something different or better. They find themselves struggling and the next thing their female children most especially they force to struggle with them. The child must not be integrated into the suffering, it’s an act of bitterness from the women.

So because you don’t sleep as an adult as a result of the decisions you made and where fate took you, that child must not sleep. Bitter and wicked action made out of jealousy of that child’s peace.

That aside some situations call for taking the child along like if nobody is home but the child must not join you to work at that four or five am. You are the adult, shoulder your responsibility and let the child be occupied with one nice thing or the other while staying with you as you finish up.

So we should understand that when we make it and come home with achievements and riches, it is not our doing. Being rich and successful is not our doing. It is the will of God. HE gives who HE wants, and HE takes from whom he wants.

I see pride in peopl. People always believe it is their selves and because they are so smart that they made it. They really think it’s to their merit. Because they did everything right, they were given good opportunities and they used them. If God doesn’t allow it, it won’t happen. Despite all. Unless HE says it’s in the cards for you.

Ilekokonit:
Beating an 18 year old man all in the name of seniority is absolutely wrong, it is setting the example for him that violence is good but it could backfire one day if the 18 year old man gets a weapon like a knife and uses it on the older brother who physically attacked him first.

You guys don't remember that men are territorial and even lions who once ruled their families with iron fists eventually get defeated in a brutal fight to finish with their own son.

Also, why do you need to rob him of his self confidence by beating an 18 year old man

If you guys are not careful, that young man will hate you for life for robbing him of his dignity as a young man and you would not know that he harbours hate in his heart for you guys until decades from now.

If he had done what he did outside, I doubt the streets would have any regards for his dignity. You never know who you’ll try shit with outside and what extent they will go to exert their dominance and prove that they are not fools. It’s a jungle out there, hence your loved ones need to understand the severity from home before the heartless outsiders teach us lessons.

Truly, sometimes correction with disgrace kills the desire to change. But it’s the nature of the offense that decides if that is necessary.

Zonefree:
A hungry Nigerian girl is a recipe for evil.

A hungry Nigerian man who you help is what then?

I see men helping other hungry men out of nowhere without sleeping with them, a Nigerian man can take pity on another Nigerian man and buy him a rich meal just to help him so what do you call such a hungry man happy to benefit from such kindness?