zoeymikey:


I'm trying to understand why you so pained..
So, it's now a crime to ask for jobs or skills to learn,and where did you see me begging.

Ignore him.

Bostin:
I rebuke it in Jesus name .. I've seen more dirty things about her movement which couldn't find her a husband in the past seven years she left . Now she thinks I'm still the doomy she left and can easily manipulate me to come back ...I don't want to die young .

You did not rebuke her in Jesus name when you put that baby in her.

Well, you really don't need to pretend to be friendly or friends with her, because she may actually not have married with the secret hope that you two will get back together, not that she didn't have options, like you think. Chats like this will leave her in the dark on where she stands. You do not need to decieve her, or attempt to decieve her with friendly conversations.

Go to the families, let them insist on her presence in a family meeting and let your people relay to them that you need to see your child and make arrangements, even if you aren't planning to marry her. In the meeting, finances and distribution of visitation should be discussed. Straight and simple. You are not together but as adults, you can make a decision over your child. There can be a go between that is not even the mom, but an elder in her family, to ensure she complies with visitation.

I can't advise you to go to court. She might decide not to show up, messy legal battle, etc. meeting the family is close up and more effective.

I hate pies with thick crusts and thick outer layers, with very little inner content. It's so nice to see a pie filled to the brim, and the outside is just a very thin layer. It might cost more but it's worth it. Also. The Nigerian crime of making the potato the highlight of the pie. I really hate that stuff. They call it meat pie, chicken pie, etc, but it's tiny meat and plenty potatoes. All these people naming their pies with variety of names, but it's really potato pie. 😡

Well done op.

This Nigeria where people will crucify you for being different. They wíll be preaching the consequences to you, meanwhile they are the ones punishing you, both in front and behind the scenes.

Teenwolf:

Reptilians are nephilims created by fallen Angels by mixing thier angel DNA with human and reptile dna

Ok fallen angels, so God is above the fallen angels, so we are safe if we look to God for protection. 😁

Go and complete the rites needed to make her a complete wife. I'm sure if you express your desire to marry her properly and show proof, she will consider, connect properly and respect you.

You don't need to talk to her first. Organize a meeting between your family and hers and let apologies be exchanged, and plans made for a simple wedding. After this, the people she respects in her family will call her to order and if she agrees, the beginning of a respectful union will start.

You really cannot hang her in the air with just an introduction, and expect her to be happy with you.

You are so right.

Nazgul:

A guy would only demand sex from you once you start making monentry demands.

I have female friends whom I don't sleep with but I can assist them financially whenever they call me because they have contributed to my life one way or the other.

Dating is more than sex. A guy would spend on you without you asking once he sees how valuable you are to him.

The moment you make everything about money, he'll want to hit and run as fast as possible. And you should note that the decision to give yourself to a guy rests on you and you alone.

Well, I don't think so. I think many men around spend nothing but ask girls for sex after professing love to them. Yeah some guys do respect some women, the 20% they like. The 20% they see as human beings. But the rest will ask for sex, cover with romance, get sex for free and still borrow said lady's money.

One tactic is gold digger shaming. Many girls give sex for free because they don't want to be called prostitutes. And the guys gladly ask for more.

Nazgul:

My dear I disagree.

The problem here is that girls start dating earlier than guys. So by the time she's 18-21, she's already a pro. And has mastered the act of breaking the hearts of innocent guys.

A girl who wants genuine loves doesn't go about demanding the world from someone who asks her out.

Yeah she doesn't ask and she gets nothing and that's when she wises up and starts asking.

goslowgoslow:

I can see that there is a generational gap between me and you even without knowing you. You ladies always present yourselves to men as a sex object. The man never asked for sex but all you keep talking about is sex sex sex sex.
I already agreed with you that sex is part of relationship nobody is denying the fact that sex will come in.
Where you got it wrong is where a lady is asking a man "can you take care of me"? at the FIRST INSTANCE! Una no dey shame?
You don't even know to man's intentions! Some men wants to get serious with a lady, they have good intentions but asking such question immediately is a red flag.
If they get into friendship or relationship are they going to have sex immediately? As a lady without even asking such question you should be able to discern to an extent the capability of a man before you get down with him.
If that is what you do then good luck to you!

The more you see, the less you know. Discernment is deceit. You ask. You get your family to investigate secretly, prove what the man is saying. Trust no appearance nor words.

When does she ask, anyway? After the relationship has gone on a while and derailed into sex lane, where she's no longer thinking straight and can even marry the man with her money if she has it.

Real relationships should not waste time. It should be cold and direct. Ask relevant questions. Make serious moves. Involve family immediately. If it works, respectful union. If it doesn't we move.

But this take it easy, move slowly union is just a scam.

Shhhh. If you are a community dvck.

goslowgoslow:

Before I respond properly to this your epistle please show me where the guy asked for sex .

You must think you're smart. Like I said, wallow in pretence. In this Nigeria, let me see thirty men who will enter relationships without wanting sex.

Nazgul:

The truth is these days, so many people go into relationships with ulterior motives.

Girls want money not love.

Guys want sex not love.

At the end, the weaker party gets hurt. That's the reality about relationships in this our generation.

Girls start off wanting love and getting deceived. Deceit makes them hard and some make sure they collect money so as not to be duped totally. But right from the start many guys have NEVER wanted love, only sex.

goslowgoslow:

Sex is part of relationship both side enjoy it.
A lady asking a man at first instance if he can take of him is a sign of low esteem.

A man asking a woman for sex must also be a person of low virtue.

Sex is enjoyed by both partners but even at its request a woman is already regretting because of the heavy moral expectations our society has on women. If after sex there is no marriage, she will carry the cross of being seen as used. If she gets pregnant from the sex, she will be the one to be stigmatized. If the man is immature and tells everyone, she will be the one to be shamed.

If the relationship is serious, and the man is to be seen as breadwinner and potential leader of the family, how is it bad to ask about his ability to provide. A relationship where both of you never discussed finances and how you will pay bills or prepare, is it serious? Are both people in such a relationship really planning a future, or just planning to have sex and pass time? So if tomorrow the woman married him and finds out he's not capable and she never asked in the relationship stage, won't she be the one to be blamed?

goslowgoslow:

Did he ask for sex? Birds of same feathers....

Keep wallowing in pretence. Sex that you would later initiate.

Nazgul:
Lol. This post is so funny.

The truth is everyone (guys and girls) want to outsmart the other in every promising relationship.

The girl wants to milk the guy, the guy wants to have sex with the girl. Who ever beats the other to it, calls him/her a mugu.

That's how damaged relationship is these days.

They don't want her to ask for money, but they want her to accept premarital sex.

StillDtruth:


See cover up, twisting, lying and deflection. No where did i say that men's cheating is a aet up but i understand you need to cover up your exposure else all your plans and moves which you make against men are scattered and destroyed

'And a cheat with a man who won't cheat, sets up the man to cheat like this guy'

The highlighted part of your post speaks for itself.

StillDtruth:


Eh eh ehn! Don't join the issues.

You women cheat and love to cheat because you love sex and variety just like men (including other purposes)

And a cheat with a man who won't cheat, sets up the man to cheat like this guy

https://www.nairaland.com/6524069/wifes-sister-crash-marriage#101125615

https://www.nairaland.com/5821527/wifes-sister-wants-me-sleep#88936489

Common the girl in the street the wife noticed is it now the one in the house?

If men cheat, it is a set up, if women cheat, it is out of their bad nature

No problem.

StillDtruth:
You people think you are joking when you say women and Satan are 5 and 6.

Women are eviil.

It is True, if you are too God fearing and righteous and blessed women will not like you and if they date/marry you they would try to change you.

And if they are not successful, then they would set you up and frustrate you to cheat so that you would become dirty like them.

And if that does not work, then its bye bye end of relationship and marriage.

Women are so evil that they do not key with righteous men!

Wow so women can set up and frustrate men into cheating, but if women cheat, y'all will say we have no excuse.

illicit:


It's just food

They are just hungry

Which warrants stealing a co workers food every day? I'm baffled by how little you take this.

You mean you don't see the wickedness? The person that labored to pack the food, goes home hungry every day! Even if the thief is hungry, is that not a wicked way to sate their hunger?

If the reptilians control these things, what about God, or all those small deities people worship? Are you saying they don't exist?

Staying a virgin till marriage is the best decision. Premarital sex isn't worth it. But unless your spiritual strength is high, and you have strong forces behind you, don't ever announce your status to any man or woman. They will make sure you lose it. Happy birthday.

illicit:



Exactly what I mean

If u could put laxative in food, you would put poison too, that's my point


U really want to kill someone who stole food?


FOOD 😲

If it is just FOOD, why didn't the other worker buy her own food. Since it's just food. Or you are saying that the owner shouldn't be pained.

She should keep going home hungry and being happy with the thief.
After all, it's just food.

It is very pretty.

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You mean the way my uncle used to introduce women to our family. But never marry them.

Men dey frustrate women for this life sha. My dad said that a woman's life is a life of disappointment and I understand now. Women just be on their own and men will come and be deceiving them. Claiming the reason is because they love lies. 😂

tflepper:

What would your own weird act be🤦🏻‍♂️

Are you trying to imply that I was abused?

Zonefree:
The lady used him as backup plan.


A lady that can't date you in school but accept to marry you after school is not the right one for you.


They won't teach you this in school.

Yeah.

School relationship where the girls will be collecting abortion, heartbreak and drama from some small boys that are up for sex and not ready to get married, boys that are still building themselves. Help me ask how many women that fell victim to school relationships have been able to rebuild their lives as a result of those same useless demonic school relationships. Tell me how many of them married and good things came out of it.

99% of girls had university relationships in their so called hoe phase, tell me what they gained except those school boys using them as clout 'I have slept with her' or 'theres no virgin in Nigeria again'. What is in the useless school relationship for most women? Something that only one percent of them will turn out sensible. How many of the broken ones will you guys compensate. You just want to go on fvcking spree.

The effect is so known and bad that when you enter in 100 level your lecturers will be warning in class that such relationships don't go anywhere. They have seen the results severally!

Abeg make we rest! What is the advantage of school relationships? Better don't come with that lie of 'building with him' because we all know those guys turn around to say that you did not contribute anything to their success during the 'building'. They will later say there is NOTHING like building during school days, the girl suffered with them and they also suffered with the girl. Just wan chop for free. Alaijékuje.

Someone probably abused him when he was little. People who were abused come out with these weird tendencies that they are seemingly unable to control themselves. He needs mental rehab and a psychiatrist.

Coming out now and looking like the pervert when he's probably a victim himself. Still, doesn't justify his actions. He needs to be off the streets for the children's innocence and safety to be intact.

Magnoliaa:


Purple speedy as how? 😂😂😂

Lol Magnoliaa it was probably just an attempt at flattery.

Mrtaye:

Are you purple speedy

Lol not at all.

Even with things being hard, if misunderstandings reach that level, then divorce is better than cheating to fend. Just leave cleanly and openly. Give it a few years before dating around again.

FuckSilly:

How you feel or what you think doesn't change facts and reality.
No man with functional brains will believe that a lady who has once have sex with man or men and no longer a virgin is truly holding and keeping herself for marriage in this generation. 99.99999% of you girls that says that are players, time wasters and chronic serial cheats. While one fools is believing and respecting your request, you'll be busy sneaking and whorìng about with other guys.
A girl that's not a virgin doesn't have any true figure of BODYCOUNT. No girl alive will be honest about it, even in front of God one on one, many of you will still lie, so why will a man who knows all these believe whatever comes out of your mouth as regards your sexual past.
THE ONLY GIRL WHO CAN BE HONEST ABOUT IT IS A VIRGIN.
Sex is a very big issue and it goes way beyond the physical, so a man with sense is supposed to know and be sure of how many sexual encounter a girl he wants to make his life partner has had.

You want to be sure of sexual encounters as you don't approve of them, yet you encourage these encounters. That doesn't make sense.

So every girl that is not a virgin is a bad person, according to your post. That's not a logical statistic or conclusion. That thought is just a loophole excuse for men to f around. Perhaps it's better not to make conclusions on all women based on the ones you have been with.

If a virgin is the only one that can tell the truth, and a perfect person, then none would have fallen to be non virgins or lied.

So the solution is to continue sleeping around? Doesn't make sense to me.