Giftedhands45: I have to join this forum to post this tonight.
I'm in my early thirties, my husband is just two years older than me. My husband has always been neglecting his responsibilities even before we got married, but I was seeing it as he doesn't have a better job and a struggling guy whom we can both join hands together to build each other. I endured everything with him. I have always supported and provided without complain. Since last year my husband lost his job, since then, he has refused to look for any other source of income. Even when he had a job, he always have one story or the other to tell about his monthly salaries. So, he still doesn't provide. Once, there's nothing in the house, he will keep watching because I can't watch my two children Starve. I will try everything, even call friends, families and borrow. He doesn't care how I borrowed and how I paid.
Now, he wakes up every morning and still go back to sleep. Whatever I asked him, he don't always have. He's response always is ''I don't have money '' I am the only one sourcing out everything in this house, I don't have a job as well, just struggling up and down with a business I do.
There's no food, school fees, bill, everything, he will ignore. I can't watch my children suffer. So, I keep struggling without any help. But he eats food and uses everything in the house with us. He wouldn't provide, but he can use them once they're available. Our house rent will soon expire and he has no plan towards That. The previous one I paid, but presently, my business is down
Lately, I've been thinking. I've never cheated since I entered this marriage, but If I keep struggling all myself like this, my children will suffer. I feel, I need someone who loves me and willing to support me as well. My children are too used to their father, it borders me if I separate them from him.
Leaving a marriage because he's not taking responsibilities, does that make me a bad woman?
What could make a man to be very comfortable not providing for his family but wouldn't want to loss the said family?
Have you ever been in my shoes, what would you advise me?t
Madam, but you saw that red flag in bold and you allowed so-called love or the zeal to settle down becloud your reasoning.
Yes, there is no perfect marriage anywhere, but there are things that if not in place the marriage cant work E.g the man not taking responsibility. Even the holy book says "A man who cannot provide for his household is worst than an infidel". Let me warn some of our yet to be married ladies here, from the way a guy shows concern over your needs while dating gives a glimpse of how he will care when you settle down. I am not saying you begin to dump family needs on him but even if he doesnt have, from the way he feels if he doesnt have will show you he cares and wont fold his arm when the family is in need by the time you get married.
@Ops, take a break from him, seperate(not divorce)for 2 to 3 months. Keep in touch but dont support him financially. Watch him and see if he changes. Life is a gamble, his head may reset and he will wear his hustling shoes and hit the town to survive.
The Senate also read for the third time and passed the establishment of the Federal Colleges of Education (Technical) in Aghoro, Bayelsa and Ago-Iwoye, Ogun States respectively.
20 advisers for only one person? the number is too much now , haba. I thought they said you are an experienced leader and democrat that knows how to fix Nigeria? Why this plenty number of advisers? So what will you use your own brain to think na oga presido?
Nvestor02: Most of the time, I laugh some haters who claimed that Tinubu is not healthy enough to rule Nigeria. Ever since this man assume office, he has been doing what sick man cannot do..
The only one ambition of Tinubu is to make Nigeria great and that's why go for presidential position to change everything from the beginning.
The man is a game changer, I'm proud of being Nigerian already Nd I know before leave office, many Nigerians will be proud like me.
GAZZUZZ: Let's split the matter into parts so we don't loose focus.
A. Engine Electronics
* Buy a personal scan tool.
Buy a portable scanner so check for errors when they appear, if you don't know what the codes mean, enter into cartalk, post the codes and we will guide accordingly.
Some vehicles have had their warning lights removed by technicians and card dealers, this is the time to restore and scan.
* Scan code results.
Scan code results that have to do with the following will seriously affect your vehicle fuel efficiency by as much as 40-50percent.
Engine running rich or lean codes 02 sensor codes P0128 coolant threshold All timing related codes Evaporative emission codes Catalytic converter codes Engine misfires MAF codes Exhaust gas recirculation codes Variable timing codes VTech codes Boost pressure codes
There are more, but these are the common ones. Have them solved properly (not by clearing code) and you will save a lot on petrol.
B. Suspension
* Tyre pressures : keep tyre pressures at recommended levels (check drivers door or fuel tank cover) vehicles with low tyre pressures, consume more fuel than vehicles with the right tyre pressures.
* Wheel alignment, Ensure your alignment is on point, when you have front wheels fighting with them selves and asphalt, it causes unwanted drag, which results in more fuel consumption.
* Keep windows up when on long trips , this will reduce the amount of wind resistance the car makes, less drag more savings on fuel.
* Aerodynamics, the abuse of vehicle suspension in the name of raising vehicle height usually has consequences when done poorly, when you have the head up and tail down, you are fighting to get through the air, and constantly loosing efficiency to wind resistance. Same thing happens when you load 4 adults at the back and fill the trunk with load
* Sticky brakes . brake binding is a situation where the vehicle is being held down by the brake pads without application of the brake pedal. Could be caused by work done on the brake switch near brake pedal, rusted calliper pins rusted calliper prisons, faulty abs pump. Whatever the case, if you get home, splash some water on each wheel, if you have instant steam from any wheel it is binding and should be checked .
C. Service and Maintenance
* Filters sparkplugs and MAF.
Some cars never get a replacement engine air filter all their days in Nigeria , replace your engine air filter with each oil change , clean and re gap your sparkplugs to the required spark gap.
Carefuly clean MAF sensor with the required MAF cleaner, please do not do MAF cleaning unless you are sure it is required, it is not an item to clean regularly.
* Fuel Pressure
We don't have very clean petrol, so if your car begins to feel lazy especially after a long trip, might be time to check the fuel filter and strainer inside the fuel tank , if clogged replace, you will get better miles per gallon. In most vehicles, low fuel pressure will not show up as an error when scanned.
* Blocked Exhaust system.
The inability of exist gasses to quickly leave the engine into the atmosphere, will cost you more on petrol.
Some vehicles are naturally predisposed to catalyst blockage e.g Honda , Acura , Ford , Kia , Hyundai. If your vehicle is one of those you might want to get it checked out, also if your catalyst has been stolen in the past and was refilled will wire mesh or a catalyst clone which also gets blocked easily you should have it checked.
Know your vehicle, if a vehicle starts dragging, something is off and should be checked . Blockages in exhaust in exhaust systems will not show up on scan results for most vehicles, it takes a smart tech/owner to detect it in early stages.
How will you start such article with BUY when the content is about how we can survive the subsidy?
Nigerians have reacted to a video showing the interior of former president, Muhammadu Buhari‘s house in Daura, Katsina state.
Buhari and his family moved into the house following the end of his tenure as president.
The video showed Buhari asking questions about the air conditioner in the apartment and some Nigerians said that the house wasn’t befitting for a former president.
Dont forget he is a ful.ani man. By their culture they do not place much premium on luxury houses , bc they are nomads. And he is a cattle rearer who ordinarily prefers to be his with cows in the grazing field most of the time. That doesnt mean if u give him a luxury apartment with superb aesthetics he will reject it. But its their nature.
triple996: Nobody will say he is old because he is an American
Nobody will say he is old not because he is an American but because indeed 80 years is truly his age. But in Nigeria, they will tell you they are 71 even when they are 80+. That is where the problem is my brother, naija we too de do karapshion in everything.
kidap: Nigeria’s U-20 team pulled off a major upset on Wednesday night, June 1, 2023, by defeating Argentina’s U-20 team 2-0 to advance to the quarterfinals of the 2023 FIFA U-20 World Cup.
The Flying Eagles, as Nigeria’s U-20 team is known, took the lead in the 61st minute through Ibrahim Muhammad. The lead was doubled in stoppage time thanks to a goal from Rilwanu Sarki.
Argentina had several chances to equalize, but they were unable to find the back of the net. The Flying Eagles held on for the win to set up a quarterfinal clash against either Korea Republic or Ecuador.
The win was a major upset, as Argentina was considered one of the favorites to win the tournament. However, Nigeria played a strong game and were able to get the result they needed to advance.
This is Nigeria’s second consecutive appearance in the quarterfinals of the FIFA U-20 World Cup. They last reached this stage in 2019, when they were eliminated by Ukraine.
The Flying Eagles are hoping to go one step further this time around and reach the semifinals of the tournament. They will need to play their best football if they want to achieve their goal.
Here are some of the key factors that contributed to Nigeria’s victory:
The Flying Eagles’ victory over Argentina is a major boost for Nigerian football. It shows that the country has a bright future in youth football. The Flying Eagles will now be looking to reach the semifinals of the FIFA U-20 World Cup for the first time since 2005.
Here are some of the players who stood out for Nigeria:
Nigeria will now face either Korea Republic or Ecuador in the quarterfinals of the tournament. The match will be played on Saturday, June 4. The Flying Eagles will be confident of reaching the semifinals, but they will need to be at their best to overcome their opponents.
Until we see his selected team, we cant celebrate yet. Afterall his immediate predecessor told us he was taking his time and got back after 6months with square pegs in round holes. And by today we have lost over 63,000 Nigerians to insecurity. We pray he does well bc its for the good of all of us.
N3TRAL: The NLC are empty individuals. Government didn't fix petrol prices, NNPC did for their filling stations.
By virtue of the Petroleum Industry Act, NNPC is a private company and no longer a government corporation. The prices fixed by the NNPC are independent.
Filling stations that are not under the NNPC franchise can sell at whatever price they want.
Let's face it, the NLC wanted their party to win. The leadership of the trade union endorsed the Labour Party during this year's general elections.
It is painful when groups try to stall genuine and pertinent economic plans because they're not in power. It is counterproductive to play politics when its time for governance. Tinubu himself and most members of the APC countered Jonathan when he started the process of removing fuel subsidy many years ago.
However, the NLC and its sister organisation, the Labour Party, will fail to stop the removal of fuel subsidy and will fail to win elections in 2027 😂
So now it's a genuine effort? In 2012 it was not? Nigerians,u can't seize to make me laff
Did i hear you say Resume Work? Which work? Nigerians you make me laff. She has no work in Aso rock. The law does not even officially recognizes she exist. You guys should go and look for work and do.
lhordspy: With due respect to his predecessors. This is not your regular placid or laid-back Femi Adeshina or Garba Shehu, who are only known for dishing out defensive reactions and birthday shoutouts. This man Alake is information manager and 'school-teacher' in one person.
Whenever you hear 'Goodday gentlemen of the press' ... Just know it is Mr. Dele Alake either ready to pass information in a very enthralling, engrossing and convincing manner while maintaining full professionalism.
Or he is getting ready to school intrusive, unprofessional pressmen. The 'busy-body' AriseTV lady who tried to misbehave during one of the then APC PCC press briefing can attest to the fact. Alake had to stop Fani-kayode from engaging in a war of words with the obvious partisan unprofessional journalist. Then he schooled her on ethics of journalism which she and the media house she works for; lack, and also gave AriseTV a fair share of their own reprimandation as take-away.
Dele himself is not a journalist by training, he only obtained a post graduate certificate in Journalism , how will he school pressmen ?
Madmohamed123: all the office occupy by Fulani should be dismantle immediately this terrorist occupied all office in Nigeria they think they own Nigeria
jerk: Forget about freelance writing, the job has casted now. Look for another freelance job and check if it will be affected by the current AI programs that makes jobs easy now. Better look for your own job and take the advantage of AI to create your own job or niche, the era of freelance is coming to and end and only few might remain.
So long as Google is against AI content, AI writing is yet to take over anything. No serious organization makes use of AI content for anything serious.
HardMirror: I will keep this short and no one should send me any message.
So last year I decided to revisit freelancing because I am a gifted writer and been writing for many years so why not use it to make money?
So I registered on a freelancing site and the journey began.
Making money is never the problem if you are a freelancer, the problem is how much time can you give to the job. The job was just too much that i had to employ many nairalanders to work for me. At a point I was earning $900 per week (i could earn much more than this but where is the time to do more work?) but the work was just too much. So much that i moved to an hotel for several months just so that i can focus and have the hotel staff attend to all my needs so I dont have to do any work except my writing job.
This is a job that would make you want to go mad. You will work mornimg and night as if you have no life. Forget social life, all you will be after is to meet deadlines.
People will think you are a yahoo boy because you dont go to an office and you are always on your laptop. They also see that you dont have problem with money. To make it worse you are always going to bank to collect dollars and take to aboki.
I shake my head when i see nigerians complaining that there is no work. There is work but most people cannot work. That is just the truth.
If you know you can make these sacrifices then you should consider freelancing so far you have the skills for the jobs you want to apply for.
I can concur with what you said, but its when you have a lot of offers after giving solid value to a couple of customers which shows through your 5 star reviews. Infact, i spent sleepless nights at somepoint that i almost started regreting the freelancing thing as well. Yes the dollars may be coming in but your life will be a bit miserable bc you wont have time to rest or even flex. Which aspct of writing are you into? copywriting, technical writing, just blog/articles wirting or? Besides, i thought you were sharing some tips that will guide readers of your post to socceed in case they want to go into this also?
Or11: There's something called a warning which is what you could have told her. Try this stunt in a developed world and watch her sue you.
Which developed world are you even referring to? Which company in a so-called developed world will have a staff come in almost 3 hours late perpetually, take calls while on duty for an hour and so on? Look i have been privileged to work with one or two developed world companies, they dont take such bro. Are you aware some organisations in such countries dont even allow you access to your phone while at work? Those people a minute of their time for your work cant be used for any other thing. Those companies would fire her even faster than this employer did. No serious org tolerate such indicipline
Family › Re: Leaving A Marriage Because He's Not Taking Responsibilities, Make Me Bad? by qtx(m): 4:42pm On Jun 06, 2023
