talented321: Obj u are the number one problem in this country, since they boot out your woman rapper goodluck and co''' u now act strange. I remember u have your own result during the president election still yet u failed' u that used power to install governor in my dear state'' u now they complain. Oga go and relax
Sonnobax15: Anger!!!! Then again,some words shouldn't be taken lightly before they are backed up by actions....Chebi she get family members na? Why don't you report her to her family?.......Death wishes aren't something one should joke with.....
When marriage which is meant to be enjoyed is being endured,then quitting it shouldn't be one of the major option one must consider..
IconicR: Jonathan, his Ministers and Buhari killed Nigeria and now Asiwaju is carrying the load alone 😢 and trying so sad to make Nigeria work again yet some few set of people are just spewing trash all over social media. Learn to solve problems from the root if you want a lasting result. This woman and others are the root cause of the problems we face today in our country. May God help Asiwaju to solve the problems
So BAT is the mesiah? Who brought Buhari through unholy alliance? He said it himself in Emilokan video so dont try to vindicate him.
Ijelenwanyioma: I am legally married to this man and we have 3 sons together. Recently he purchased some land which he actually told me about but when I checked the documents of all the land I only saw Mr(his name in full) and not Mr & Mrs (his name and surname) or Mr (his name ) and Mrs (My name ). This really gave me great concern and when I asked him, he told me it doesn't really count because the properties also belong to my children. Later he started accusing me that I am nursing ulterior motive in my heart and maybe I want to take over the properties which is blantly lies. I just want to feel ownership of the land too
Please am I overreacting on this issue truly or my husband is planning something behind me ( maybe remarrying)
My dear talk to a lawyer and he/her will convince you that if that document is written with Mr and Mrs lagbaja, if anyone challenges you people in court the person will collect that land from you people. Becuase there is nothing like Mr and Mrs for landed documents in court. You better allow your hubby put them in his name and make you next of kin or put them in your childrens names. Anyway you gain.
jmoore: The worker shared a photo of a fine house on Twitter with the caption: "With 5M, I can build this 2 bedroom house for you if you already have a land."
The house has cool finishing but looks too fragile o
[quote author=HonNL post=124501418][/quote]I hope the west is not trying to turn africa to the battle field for their political and economic aggrandizement? Becuase that will mean disaster to african countries. The best the countries can do is to distance themselves from taking sides.
And for some of you already aligning with either parties, you have to first understand the implications before you start shouting this or that is a superpower. Everybody in that kind of war will be a victim.
uche87: Virtually every week, a Nigerian abroad comes out on social media to lament the scarcity of partners for meaningful romantic relationships. In recent times, we have had a more frequent outcry from women. Not just average women but beautiful and classy ones. What do you think is the problem? Are the men going extinct? Let's dive into this topic from a UK experience.
Have you ever felt lonely despite being in a very crowded space? It is a weird feeling. Everybody wants to help and at the same time, nobody wants to help. This is what dating in the United Kingdom seems like.
Here are some reasons why it might be challenging finding a partner abroad:
(1) Culture shock:
The United Kingdom is a multicultural society. You get to meet Indians, Africans, Chinese, Pakistanis, Europeans, and generally people from different works of life. Their belief systems, behaviours, and different approach to issues are different. People naturally avoid what they find strange and this could affect romantic relationships.
(2) Ethnic Division
In most cities in the UK, people don't mix especially outside work. The people have doctorate degrees in 'minding their businesses'. The Chinese roll with the Chinese, Indians to Indians and Nigerians roll with their own. People just feel more comfortable with their own.
(3) Too fast, too busy:
Life in the UK is just too busy and fast especially if you are a fresh immigrant. You might have to deal with the rigours of work and school as they run concurrently. These two engagements might make a whole year look like 6 months. Oftentimes, romantic relationships take a secondary position. Some people would pick shifts over romantic dates because that is what pays the bills.
(4) Historical concerns:
Before the tier 4 visas became popular, most Africans saw the locals as keys to their stay in the country. Relationships have always been a means to an end in the UK. A selfish end so to speak. The nefarious activities of internet fraudsters have always complicated interracial relationships. For this reason, most tier 4 visa holders or citizens are wary of new entrants.
A lady who holds a British passport or Tier 2 visa might doubt the love interest of a suitor holding a tourist or student visa. There is widespread distrust in the country and nobody wants to be used as a ladder to step up. Consequently, some potential good men slip under the radar.
(5) Stereotype:
Nigerians don't have the best reputation in the UK. This is related to the previous point made. This has led to hasty generalisation and unwarranted assumptions. On dating sites/apps, some people will not talk to you because you are a Nigerian. This might be due to an adverse experience or an ordeal told by a friend, or family member about their experience with a Nigerian.
(6) Ego:
The UK has so many successful women. Most of them become big-headed as career success and financial breakthroughs come. They tend to desire men in or above their social/economic class. But African men in their supposed class fear women like them because of issues around control. Men don't want to travel on a ship with two captains. Before you know it, one woman is still single at 40 despite her beauty and achievements.
(7) Small population of Nigerians:
Despite the Japa Syndrome, Nigerians are in the minority in the UK. Out of a population of over 67 million people, Nigerians account for just 0.5% which is 271,390 in England and Wales. Most Nigerians come to the UK married. These two factors limit the available options on who to date. Even if you want to consider someone outside your ethnic background, they might not be interested in you.
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Due to the sensitivity of this topic, I will not dwell too much on it. It has been criminalized, but it is still what it is. Coloured people are not really in demand except for people who just want to briefly explore. Call that jungle fever!
(9) Lack of intentional efforts:
In the UK, you have to consciously work towards getting married. Attend social gatherings, meet people, shoot your shots, join dating apps, join churches, approach people for relationship referrals, and never give up when you hear a 'no'. You might just be lucky the next time you try.
(10) Marriage isn't a big deal:
People in the UK are not so big on marriage compared to their counterparts in Africa. I have a colleague who has been engaged for years; nothing is happening and nobody is under pressure. In Nigeria, people will ask questions like "Are you Froddo in the 'Lord of the Rings'?" Generally, people just live together as partners for years and have kids together without being married. An African might frown at this on cultural and religious grounds.
(10a) Accent:
Relationships start with active and good communication. In the UK, some accents are just too complicated to understand. This makes verbal communication stressful. Most people become easily uninterested in those that don't speak like them.
(10b) Indiscriminate sex:
Due to loneliness and cold weather, most people just want to have fun with no strings attached. They want to experience that crazy feeling of intimacy for the moment. Since society doesn't attach importance to 'body counts', people jump on as many beds as possible. This is paramount amongst single parents. Single mothers just want to drink alcohol on Friday nights and have sex without entanglements. They tend to enjoy their sexual freedom and conclude that serious relationships might take that away. If care isn't taken, a woman might wake up to realize that she has had more sexual partners than a full-time prostitute at the end of the year. Sex is easy, love is hard.
These are some of the reasons I have been able to come up with. I'm pretty sure they could be extended.
Conclusion
It is possible to find love in the UK, although it is tricky. The key is being very intentional about the love search. From my personal research and experience, I believe the most effective way is through referrals. When you meet nice people, tell them to introduce you to their like-minded single friends or family members. Make your intentions clear. This is equivalent to getting references for a job application. Additionally, expand your social circles, and join African churches with huge members. Some pastors take it upon themselves to matchmake people and it works. Dating apps might not be the most ideal place to seek a meaningful relationship, but we never say never.
My own is a warning to other Nigerians. Look for any other to draw or do, dont start flooding Chan's wall with unneccessary designs. Do any other thing and God will bless you through whatever it is. Ever since Hilda cooked for 100 hours and got into Guinness book, every nigerian wants to cook 200 hours. rabish!.
He left and said he was traveling to the east, I was so worried because it was already late and why was he going to the east unprepared..
In the evening around 7pm I started calling him he refused to pick and later after some minutes he called back and said he was at ijebuode going to east😩 haaaa ijebuode kee now now.
Omo I waited till 8pm I didn’t see my husband, I became so uncomfortable, not until I opened the wardrobe to change my cloth hold and behold I saw my husband hiding inside the wardrobe 🤣🤣🤣🤣 but first one security in my estate said he was playing table tennis at the estate park since afternoon… I didn’t know oga sne@k from the backyard and pack himself inside wardrobe for me to be worried because he knew I won’t be comfortable alone 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I don’t know if I should laugh or what.. but the way odogwu fold himself eheee 🤣🤣 omo I screamed JESUSSS!!!
dfrost: It's a means of communication. We have to move away from some ideologies.
Most calls from outside Nigeria these days initiate either from Zoom, Teams or WhatsApp (if you supply your mobile number to them).
Most corporations now incorporate WhatsApp API to their site.
Personally I no longer load airtime more than NGN500/month to [b]call granny [/b]over voice. Any other person is WhatsApp.
We are not quick to adapt, that's our major problem and then some of us sit on a high horse.
The bolded part is not official. If you have ever worked in a well structured oraginsation, you will agree with those wo say its unprofessional. Most people shouting there is nothing worng, i bet you have little or no knowldge of how standard organisations work. Besides, Whatsapp API is mostly not for calls, there are for things likes sending and recieveing of transaction reports via whatsapp platform, chats etc. calls may be ,but the least on the list of reasons for API integrations. I have handled quite a number of such integrations for some businesses.
TOBILOBA2023: I noticed that some people sees use of WhatsApp for calls as unprofessional.
I prefer WhatsApp calls to normal voice calls because it's more cheaper and also helps save normal call airtime for lines that are not registered on WhatsApp.
A woman refused to engage me in business discussion because I called her via WhatsApp. She feels I'm not serious or professional enough.
Do you have any issues with WhatsApp calls for business/official purposes?
Not proper especially for the first time.
Keep in mind that the receiver also needs to use data to communicate with you while you are trying get business from him/her.
Besides, it portrays your company as a less privileged organisation who is just managing resources with a lot of inefficiencies. And it also means as a business, you cant afford airtime for business calls.
I really do not think it's an issue of modern or archaic person , its about biz communication values and ethics.
Rather, manage to raise airtime and communicate to establish some familiarity or the first , try to understand if the person wouldnt mind Whatsapp calls or chats in your subsequent communications and you will be good to go. Through wisdom a house is built(says the holy book)
Chucks13: You are the one who failed your education intellectual status. Minus 63 years from 70 or 71? Bro it's just 7 years difference meaning in normal village setting Tnubu, obi bitch and Atiku will a play group playing football together at vilae primary school field.
Pls use your senses. 63 years is a fuc-king grandpa age.
Zyxsc: 1. For a man, it's just a bills-paying institution. You go pay bills sotey you go forget wetin carry you enter the marriage in the first place
2. Enjoy your bachelorhood Wella before going into it. 40 is not too late for a man to get married.
3. You can't prove you're mentally strong until you're married because na then you go know what it takes to retrain an adult child like your wife. She go do some kain things wey be say, e fit make you go crazy.
4. If you can avoid it, please do. It's not worth it. Once you're married, you'll loose a part of your freedom. You can only regain it at the detriment of your home.
5. Don't go into marriage because of children. They may grow up and not make you happy by going against your wish (of course, they have their own lives to live. You've lived yours). Don't go into marriage because you love your girlfriend. Na this one go clear your eyes pass. Go into marriage because you want a life-long friend. Even at that, it's still a gamble. E fit shock you 10 years down the line.
All sound good except number 4. My dear now that you are still young you may think you wont mind, but as age starts setting in, you will regret big time for not marrying at all. Loneliness and depression wii kii u.
Oga stop shouting, if you mean biz , be silent and do your work without tv , radio orsignboard adverts, all we need is results not words. I tire for this country sha.
[quote author= post=124339958]A Nigerian Man Identified as Salman Musa Yari from Bauchi State, has revealed that he survived after allegedly being poisoned by his wife.
The Public Servant made the shocking revelation in a Facebook post, As Sighted By On Monday, July 10, 2023.
A check by , revealed that Yari got married to one Aisha Mohammed Kariya, on May 13, 2023.[/quote]The poisoning will not stop until you paedophiles stop forcefully marrying kids who will later begin to hate you people for it. Thank God u spared your life anyway. But u guys must learn.
Politics › Re: Nigeria Has Disappointed Africa, World — Obasanjo by qtx(m): 10:10am On Jul 25, 2023
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