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And him no even get six packs sef, dey list all this criteria odiegwu

Op she should be.... She should be... She should be this and that.. Which one are you? Oh!! I forget;? Proud and arrogant which is the only thing about your self that you stated and a negative one at that Wetin you get sef wey mk you dey list all this things and none for your self!!

Funny how men expect women to be that perfect one for them and they won't try to be the perfect man for you, they expect you to swallow every crap they feed you

Y can't you drop your pride and arrogance for her!! op you can only attract what you are.

I don't believe this who did she serve the palm wine to!!

BetterHalf:
Wow, you've got first hand experience on the matter, I respect that.
My bit about religion is the inherent condition of sticking with people of your own faith. Like the bible quote above, I've listened to pastors preach it to ridiculous extents in the line of; light vs darkness, heaven-bound vs hell-bound etc religion does not really help "unity" in this sense.

You sound more like your mind has been made up, you only looking for people to agree with you.

My dear! Do what ever pleases you but don't think about your self alone, think about latter and the kids.

iFuck:
It's a fact of life, not everyone will end up being rich.
Since we all agree with that above statement, not all ladies will end up marrying a rich guy.

Yes , you may date one.
Actually, you may not be the only one dating that rich guy.
You may also enjoy the perks that come with dating a rich dude.

But since you are not the only one who wants him,
He may end up dumping you for someone better.

At the end of the day, you will still have to settle for a broke guy.

Now, this is how to escape from ending up being poor and miserable.

Date a broke guy who is ambitious.
With your support and encouragement, his fortunes will change for the better.
When he eventually become rich, he has no choice but to marry you.

#MyThoughts

This part got me!! Who told you he has no choice than to marry her?? A lot of guys have dumped their supportive gf simply bcz they got rich and feels she's no longer good for him. They find a prettier and younger girl to marry.

Say something else abeg, this one no follow.

If you wanna date a broke and ambitious guy, date him and be supportive in anyway you can. Have faith that things will work out between you both not bcz you were with him when he was broke but bcz it was meant to be. Believe also that if it doesn't work out, you will find someone else. Life does not start and end with him.

That way you can easily move on if it doesn't. Don't allow your self to be married out of pity no matter how long you spent with him, cz that's what a lot of people do.

Essence6055:
I will say these are the thoughts of a growing boy rather than a man speaking from insight..

Merciful lies prolong suffering, imagine a man cheating on his girlfriend and lying to her that he doesn't, they get married and she relays her suspicions to him and he denies, later on she gets pregnant and bear a child for him and later find out that he has been cheating since he met her... and decided to divorce him...

Now Here is what we have due to merciful lies.

1. We have a heart broken woman who may forever hate men
2. We have a single mother
3. We have a child who will grow up without his father
4. We have a child who may copy the lying and misbehaving genetics of his/her father
5. We have a child who may copy the pains of her mother against men.

Now Here is what we have due to the truth

Due to the fact that they are still dating and she asks him if he is cheating and he says yes, but apologizes

1. We have a couple who is ready to commit and solve their problems
2. We have a woman who is ready to be more than a house wife (get fat and unattractive) but be sexually attractive to ward off other girls just for her husband
3. We have a happy home
4. We have younger generation who want to copy such good behaviour

So Mr. DeLioncourt what do you think

From your own reference point, you also have a valid point.


Learned a new word today!! "Merciful lies"

DeLioncourt:
well.. you misunderstood the entire message. your first question should be "what is a merciful lie?"

Now look at this scenario. (this is a personal scenario).
A girl starts dating a guy and she loves him very much. They make plans to get married and all that. To avoid back and forths, let's assume that both parties actually are true to each other.
However, in the past, the girl lived a wayward life. Luckily, she scaled through without disease or unwanted pregnancies.
Eventually, the talk of previous sexual partners comes up. The girl tells the guy all the sh*t she has done and how she has never been the faithful party in any relationship before this one..all in an attempt to be honest.
The guy is dumbfounded as he is more reserved but very un-trusting. Now, he finds out these things and he can't get past them even though he still loves this girl deeply.
Trust is lost. Eventually, the relationship is lost.

A merciful lie would have been adjusting the truth in such a way that the receiving party finds it bearable and everybody is happy.
A merciful lie is not one that covers up concurrent misdeeds (like the cheating man in your example).
A merciful lie is one that withholds dangerous secrets for the greater good.

The truth is good ooo.. But some bones are better left buried.

From this, you have a very valid point.

I concur

I think I like this thread let me just be observing

fullofregrets:
well I have done everything necessary , my
womb is okay and intact

My dear your inability to get pregnant May not be Cz you did abortion, I have seen girls that did countless abortion yet they were able to conceive. Maybe it's due to improper timing or some homonal changes.

But let me as you! Op, for how long have you been trying to conceive?
How often do you have sex?
How well do you know your time? Your fertility period.

If you don't know your timing very well, you may have probably been having sex when you are less likely to get preggy. If this is the case, then I will suggest you master your time or or have sex everyday after your menstral cycle.


Telling the truth comes with consequences negative or positive. One have to be ready to embrace whatever comes your way. Make amends and move on. Do not worry so much over your fiancé it was never meant to be. Take care of your self, seek medical solution and also pray to God.

Good luck.


With all the comments here, no body is considering the fact that the man may even be the one with the problem and you are here beating your self up for nothing. Op did he have him self checked also? If no, what led you to believing that you are the one with the problem? Bcz of d abortion?

You see, this is why one needs to put her brain to good use. You were just focused on getting married without putting other factors into consideration. You were just desperate to get pregnant and when it's not forthcoming, you concluded its due to d abortion you did. Did you advice him to go for medical check? I guess not. You are here contemplating suicide this pain will pass like all things born of misfortune. Be strong

Op how old did you say you are again? 17right!! All you could think of is chiking a girl that will probably ruin you and send you back to d village in no time.

Did you forget why your dad choose trade over schooling? Well, let me remind you; it's because there's no finance to fund you. Now instead of you to focus on how to save the little change you get and probably send your self to school you are busy chasing a girl. Una na a' gu gi.

Tell that girl to stop bothering you, you are just a boy for God's sake. Worse still, the money you are spending on her is not your dad's. Focus on the trading you went to lag to learn and make things better for your self and family.

Remember this, where you came from will not determine where you will be. Your destiny is in your own hands, if you like play ludo with it.


Btw! Did you say she's an undergraduate, and she writes like that! You are a secondarian and you write pretty ok safe for the abreviations. Are you that dumb that you can't spot the difference between you both? Is one thing to know how to speak, it's another to be able to write. That girl may not even be in school but speaks good English just to fool people like you. Listen to her phonetics properly and you will notice blunders.

Tell her to stop coming to you, stop replying her texts and refuse to give into her demands. Else you will find your self back to your dad in no time.

NairalandEFCC1:
my problem is this , you can't force someone to do things your way , silence helps no one. I will be hurt if she wants to end things but it's not the end of the world

Why not talk to her and find out the reason behind her silence, who knows, she may have resolved to accept you the way you are.

Did she know you are a smoker before she accepted you? If yes, did you promise to change? If no, then the fault is yours. You should have told her and let her decide. Perhaps she wouldn't have been pestering you to stop.

NairalandEFCC1:
you women are wicked how keeping quiet now take help us, I feel that she is tired of us but she doesn't want to say it, I just needed people to confirm my thinking

At the bolded, so if people tells you that your thinking is right, does that make it right? How about you confirm your thinking your self!!

As for her silence, she's tired and thinking of the possible way to leave you.

Talk to her though.

Talk2Bella:
Is it compulsory we have sex every morning? I like it in the night he knows that but whenever he wants to leave for work, he wakes me up by 4am and wants sex and if I say no he goes ahead and start touching me until I respond.

We aren’t married yet but we live together, we will be married soon but I am wondering if I can cope with his morning sexual appetite, it’s voracious and that’s when he wants to pound me like a beast.

He says he helps him stay focused throughout the day, that sex is his exercise every morning and if he doesn’t get it his mornings aren’t complete, I asked him what if I wasn’t around to satisfy him he said “Where will you be?” now I have a feeling if I travel and I’m not there to give him his morning food he might cheat on me.

It’s not like I don’t like the sex, but every morning is just too much, why can’t he just be satisfied at night when I like it.

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Talk2Bella.

Let me understand something, when you want it at night he gives you, but when he wants it in the morning you complain, loll your man should be given a medal I mean it, he can get it up anytime and that’s not easy.

Sex is meant to be enjoyed and so far I don’t hear the complaint here, he doesn’t force you, but when he pushes your right buttons you respond and enjoy it and that’s good, the only problem I see here is the time of the day.

Most people enjoy early morning sex, they say it is the sweetest time of the day to have sex, and yes it is a great form of exercise, don’t deny him this and no he wouldn’t cheat on you when you aren’t there, if he will he wouldn’t take time to romance you when you say no.

Honey I see no problem here, sometimes wake up before him and initiate it, make his day better and great, you don’t know the pressures our men face out there and if there’s one thing that can make it better why not just give it to him.

http://www.talk2bella.com/2016/09/he-wakes-me-every-morning-just-for-sex.html

Best advice so far. Wake up before him and initiate it, he shouldn't be the only one initiating it

Lol @go out to buy corn flakes

smartKiwi:
Thank you Queen, you really spoke like you are in my shoes. But you know in Igbo land , that request will not sound well to her folks. Its gonna be a risk if I decide to forego and assume I will not witness worse scenario.


As for the other female friends. I don't intend to tell my intentions, just be friends with them. Use that as an avenue to learn more about them.

There are worse scenarios that can be tolerated though it depends on the individuals involved.

Both of you should sit down and discuss this, find a way to spend more time with each other. When there is love, there is always a way out. Trust me besides, she's an undergraduate, it shouldn't be difficult for her to device a means.

JeffreyJamez:
What exactly do you want to "know well" ?..look bro... You can never really know a lady well until you stay in the same roof.... and the only way any sane lady will stay in the same roof with you is if you're married to her... If you like go on 1million dates, if lady doesn't want to show you her true colour, you don't see it.


..and you didn't really answer my question... The lil cons you have seen in your babe, can you live with it... Yes or no?

The extent of her cons will be the determining factor if the op can live with it or not which on this case he doesn't know.
The only way is for the op to study her more which I don't how you can go about it due to the restriction and distance

But op, since your intention is to marry her, why not make your self known to the parents perhaps they may allow her more time with you. But don't promise marriage yet, "just tell them if things work out between you too" you both will like to know each other more. From there, you can take the rest up.

As for those working class ladies, you need to find out the level of their desperation. If they are too desperate, they will go at any length to mask them selves; If not, maybe you need to consider but not until you know where you stand with your babe.

CindyeMerAld:
for her to be that scared of u,it means you hit her most times..

She isn't scared of him, she respects him and her self too. You solve nothing by fighting worse still, in public.

Ohh!! How I hate to create a scene.

You can imagine the look on op's face when his sweety is fighting like jet lee. how embarassing

Talk2Bella:
You nailed it

Thanks dearie

truthsayer007:
You might just be the perfect one for him, who knows?

Stop forming joor and send him a PM

Hahahah! Sorry hon, am taken already.

Besides I don't reply pms not to talk of sending one.

Was just giving him a piece of advice. Not that it will matter anyway.

bigdreamx1:
yes i have another nairaland account but i'm not proud of using it for such.

Why aren't you proud of using it if your intentions are pure? You should have used your real moniker since you claim your intentions are real so that any lady who's interested will/ may go through your comments. That will enable her have a picture of who you may be. Like it or not, the attitude one displays online is 80% who s/he truly is offline.

But with this your disguise moniker, I doubt any reasonable girl will be interested.

Just my opinion though.

Once again!! Happy hunting.

Bwahahahahaha romanceland the land of too many dramas!!

And you registered this moniker today just for this!!

Happy hunting anyway..

dauntless15:
lucky for you i believe in fairytales and i want to marry you

Lolz!! You don't believe me? Well, you are not obligated to. It's who I am and this is just an inch of my story.

Before and during my undergraduate days, I used to help my mum out in her mini trading. She gives me #1000 everyday plus what ever I gave to her as what I make she will collect. With that, I never lacked nor beg Cz I find it very difficult to ask my own brothers not to talk of someone else. When my school went on a long strike, I decided to try something different. I went into network marketing of nutritional products, I organise seminars and presentations, lecture people about their health and run a mini test analysis on them with little token attached. Am a nutritionist/biochemist.
Fast forward to my service year, I was serving and doing my marketing, whether or not FG pay allawee on time e no concern me.
I told my self, am never gonna carry certificate around to look for job, I had the intention of starting my own thing, no matter how small. When my room mates were busy preparing cv, I didn't even bother. I told my self that even if I will work for someone, the job will come on its own. As God will have it, two weeks to my pop a job offer came by recommendation.
Today am a quality control manager in one of the food processing company here in the north.

Though am still planing on running my own biz.

Just a little faith, little push, courage and determination you will get there.

Get rid of fear.

So on point.

Nice one

Sacluxpaint:
Yeah, if only there are God fearing women around.

When you had the time to notice the virtuous ones, you were probably too busy changing them like you life depended on it. You fail to notice their qualities bcz you were just after one thing. Now you are ready and they are no where to be found

I hope you are God fearing nice and virtuous your self Cz these qualities are not immune to men, it goes both ways.

A closer look at her hand shows it's not fake.

But the booty is toooooo much, she's got no thighs to balance it plus she has tiny legs. Serious leg pain by the time she hits 50.