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Its easy getting married,but not easy to stay married.Marriage is for the strong hearted and emotionally mature.No one can change her mind on that,I am sure she has reasons for not wanting to get married.Let's be honest,many people would still be single today if not for family and societal pressure to get married!Most share her thoughts but can't voice it out so their mother doesn't die of heart attack e.g my mum.

misspicy:
I have Learnt not to love a man 100%...

Give him just 10% of your love,give your books or career 40%, give your God and family the 50%...

lobatan

This niggas ain't loyal

they don't deserve all our hearts and commitments

You harsh o..I was thinking it was only me who saw relationships this way..sometimes when my fiance is misbehaving,I go just look am smile..The guy no know say my heart na kpomo.Na bend e go bend o,e no fit break like glass!

Steesaadiq:
Babe, truthfully, the fault is mine at all. God is my witness. I loved, cared, and respected her even up to this time. How we got here, I sincerely do not know. This is a woman I stood by during her trying times. Again, trust me, the fault isn't mine.

if that's the case,just find a conducive environment,sit her down and talk to her.Hear what she has to say in her defence.If her attitude continues,you have to start mourning the end of your relationship before it becomes official.You can never keep anyone tied to you,no matter how much of a good person you are.They should also want to be in the relationship,its a 2 way street."Soldier go,soldier come,barrack must remain!"Life will definitely go on.

Steesaadiq:
Bro, your comment struck a chord in my heart. U referred to me in ur last sentence. I'm passing through hell right now trying to cut ties with a lady I had loved for 4yrs. Our plan is to get married next year however she suddenly turned a new leaf some 2months ago. What bothers me right now is: she wouldn't tell me her position as regards our relationship. She has deliberately created a distance between us. She wouldn't call unless I call. I'm suspecting she's seeing someone. Seriously, I don't know what to do right now.

what did u do?You guys always make the mistake of relaxing after you have gotten the girl to love you.That's when see finish sets in.You start feeling there's no need to take her out and make her feel special.That's where you lose her.I tell people love has to be fed daily to give it life and keep it going strong,or it would die!Guy,take it from a chick who knows what's up,ur babe has emotionally checked out of the relationship.She is just hoping you can read the handwriting on d walll and move on.Just call her up and talk to her,tell her things are no more like they used to be.That would help you know where you stand at least.

I learnt to always look out for myself,to keep choosing my happiness over and over again.If not,I for just die ontop man matter.

Its better to say the price of the device is not yet known,than directing us to their facebook page with just 20 comments.The company is not even replying people's messages.

How much is it?

It is specifically the Gionee F105 , device of midrange running Android 5.1 Lollipop with an IPS display 5 inches with a resolution of 1280x720 pixels, a processor quad-core 1.3GHz , 2GB of RAM, an internal memory of 16GB expandable up to an additional 128GB and network support 4G LTE . The smartphone measures 144x71.3x8.1mm to 155 grams in weight and has a front camera of 5 megapixels , a rear 8 megapixel camera and a battery of 2400mAh .

Youngpo413:
you can buy the samsung galaxy A8,its a nice smartphone and affordable too,that's what I'm using,moreover .Gionee products are very nice.

well done o,a phone of 108k is "affordable?"

Thanks guys,I'll have to do more research for other alternatives,if not,I'll settle for this.

@donpre,I want to get this phone but d poor multitasking discouraged me.Please how bad is it?Are there solutions,like a setting in the phone to improve multitasking?Also,can I open candy crush,minimize it to browse and still be able to return to it without the game restarting?Also how good is the phone in terms of camera,design,weight and audio quality?Please other users are free to chip in their suggestions.I wanted to go for the infinix note 2,but can't waste my money on a 1 gig ram phone selling for 31k.This gionee m3 mini seems to be the best budget phone around.

SOLD!

masqot:
Let it go - Frozen,
Beautiful Creature - Rio

You are such a girl at heart to have seen frozen and even love the song!I begged my man to see it,he was just looking at me as if I was speaking spanish.To him,cartoons are for kids.

My favourite is fifty shades of grey...Yes I love the soundtracks from d asha.wo movie esp - I put a spell on you by annie lennox,I know you by skylar grey and love me like you do by ellie goulding and earned it by the weeknd.I also love 'the pepples' OST by maxalyn lewis 'turn you on'.

unibenstudent1:
hi

hello

Aminat508:
my dear check my dp too my face is oily too, u can use Milani oil control powder. It is very good

but its pressed na,I prefer loose powder.It sets makeup better.I hate that "pancake lady" look that most pressed powders give when used on foundation.That's y I use them for touchups.

Aminat508:
I have an oily face too, but i use Milani powder and Milani face primer.


Ailin Powder is good for oily face.

thanks diddydiva,u too much.aminat,pls what shade do u think I wud use judging from my profile pic,someone said bronze.I want to be sure because money work hard nowadays.I use covergirl clean pressed powder,I have to let it finish then would get milani mineral powder.The ailin is to set my black opal foundation cos it can get oily after some hrs.

smartigo:
Pls tell me your lying. Again, what happened thereafter to the marriage or the man? I would be so disappointed if that man still stayed in that union. Gosh!

They are divorced now o.The woman was a real terrorist.On some occasions,when they have issues at night she would start using spoon to hit stainless plates and bowls,telling him he won't sleep in peace.The man would go to his car,wind up the windows ,turn on the AC and sleep there till dawn.When I asked him how they met,he said they dated for 5 months and got married when she became pregnant.Things are happening in this country bro,that's y this op's story is not surprising to me.One has to be prayerful and discerning when getting married.

greatcrown:
I find it hard to believe you.

But then let's assume u are saying the truth.

These are my conclusions about your wife:

1. She has mental issues. Very close to full blown madness.
2. She an ex cultist
3. She is diabolic
4. She is an unbeliever even though she attends church or rather place of worship.
5. She is stubborn.
6. She is an adulterer
7. She is an opportunist
8. She is dangerously smart and can go any length including murder to achieve her aim.
9.She was not properly brought up even though her parents were pastor.
10. She is not trustworthy. Not fit to raise any child for you.
11. She is a devil in human flesh
12. She is worse than everything I have said.

About your daughter:
1. There is a strong tendency that she is not your daughter. You may need to check to be sure.

About the pastor of the church where you wedded:
1. He is manipulative.
2. He is inexperienced in marital issues
3. He lacks the right qualities to provide spiritual guidance.
4. He is guilty of your wife crimes by association.
5. He is biased and will continue to support your wife for God's known reason.
6. There is something devilishly secretive that connects him and your wife.

About the parents of your wife:
1. They know the truth of their daughter but will never support you publicly.
2. They are praying and hoping that their daughter will change for the better.
3.They feel sorry for you in their closet but can't admit publicly.
4. They are equally baffled and surprised that you are still in this marriage.
5. They are surprised that your parents are so soft in their handling of this issue.
6. Like most parents will always stand by their child pubickly

About your parents:
1. They are soft.
2. Their sense of judgement has been altered by indoctrination rather than by the truth of God's word.
3. They are praying and hopeful that things will get better.
4. They are worse than your wife parents by still supporting u to remain in that house.
5. They are confused and don't really know what to do about this issue.
6. They are expecting God to do something whereas God is expecting them to do the needful.

About you:
1. U are stupid!
2. U are foolish!!
3. U do not value your life.
5. U have what it takes to manage banking operations but alas you cannot manage your home.
5. I don't know your age but you are not ready for marriage.
6. U know how to employ experieced mechanic, plumber, etc to work for u, but unfortunately u don't know how to get experienced pastor to handle your marital issue. Listen not all pastor are qualified to handle most issues they claimed expertise on.
7. You are fearful.
8. You are closer to the grave than u knew.
9. You are senseless. I think u need to buy some sense.
10. For close to four years you have being have being contemplating divorce and yet you still do not know whether it is right or not (Please read Kenneth Hagins book on marriage, divorce and..)
11. You were born into Christian home but u do not take time to study the bible rather u were feeding on the crumbs from here and there.
12. How can a grown up man expect all family members to collaborate with him before sending out a killer out of your house.

If after all this, u still ask what should I do: I will say it is better u commit murder now than allowing your wife to murder u the very next second.

Give this man one chilled orijin,a full roasted chicken to go with it and crown him king of his community.You have said it all bro!

Nairaland ladies abeg na,does it mean no one has heard of the powder?

orezimena28:
Trust that her cultist boyfriend that died would have been beating her 100%. This kind of girls don't need soft hand. Na better kpo kpo. She go maintain! Op no get hand to kill her too? Match her FIRE for FIRE! Give her close marking! Give belle join sef!

Jaguda sef dey get Oga!!!

area!!we dey know waffi anywhere we see ourselves.lol..

bellong:
Did you or anyone conduct a psychiatric evaluation on all those people before dismissing they are not mental health patients?

A simple logical analysis will tell you that there is something wrong somewhere. You obviously know little or nothing about mental health illness.

I'm not making an authoritative statement on the state of her mind but giving the guy possible situation based on his narration.

There are millions of unevaluated mental patients roaming freely as free on the streets because of our ignorance. Most people believe it is until you run mad on the street that you have mental sickness. While many who have mental illness cannot go for treatment because of stigmatisation which is also an acute ignorance from people who think they are knowledgeable.

In summary, in as much as you or anyone else is yet to conduct a psychiatric examination of her, you can't dismiss it with boldness it is not a mental health case.

You are looking at this issue from your professional point of view.If I were to do same ,I would not see the op as being under serious spiritual bondage.Afterall,the law doesn't recognise witchcraft/sorcery.I get your point,but every sane human being has a choice to behave in a certain way .She obviously saw that he is not a violent man and milked it.She may be pyschologically disturbed,afterall I am not skilled in tht field.The issue here is op running for his dear life,he has endured enough.The psychiatric evaluation is for her family to take care of!He must not become a matyr in the name of marriage,especially one void of love and happiness.BTW,every one of us has one psychological issue or the other..Some have OCD,paranoia,depression,unusual attachment issues,phobias and many others.We are dealing with the physical here,and op needs to leave for the sake of his own sanity!Or you think he doesn't need to be psycho analyzed for coping with all that crap?

Joeyy:
25k! Ready to pick up.

no sir,30k last.

bellong:
Op,

What you have described about your wife is beyond character flaws. She is suffering from acute mental disorder. Mental issues do not always end people on the streets like mad men.

A mentally sound person especially woman will not seek to hurt her baby. She believes everybody is against her life, hence her resort go herbalist. She is having personality and behavioral disorders.

No matter the involvement of her parents, she wouldn't change not because she doesn't want to but because she is incapable of rational thought at the moment. This mental illness may have come from her past with the cultist. That is not the point here anyway but for you to know that she needs urgent medical help.

She will never agree she has mental issues, it is for you to seek help on her behalf.

What to do... Vist a psychiatrist, narrate this story to him. I am sure he will take it up from there. There will be significant changes once she starts treatment.

However, you need serious prayers and fastings as she already opened doors for principalities to your home by her actions.

I assure you that if she gets medical help, this will be a thing of the past coupled with prayers.

It is well with you bro.. May God open doors for you in the new year.

Are you a psychiatrist?You sound like one.I have encountered women worse than op's wife during my mediation sessions,so please this is not a pyschological issue.The woman has bad character,clear and simple!I hv encountered a client who told me his wife came to his work place,stripped naked and started laying curses on him with her hand placed on her vag.ina.That one is just one instance,there are so many cases I have even forgotten now!My point is,she has a clear mind.She was lucid enough to pretend to have a good attitude so he could marry her.There are lots of women like that out there,so its beyond all what u said.

Well op,SORRY is your name!Nairaland men,learn from him.I always tell my friends that the so called born again ladies that don't miss church,tell u no sex before marriage,always smiling,don't wear makeup,wear mary amaka skirt(very long and roomy) etc are the deadliest!Its when you marry them into your home you will get the full picture!Na those of us when dey wear makeup,dress well and drink alcohol nai dey be like devil for una eye.The fact that a girl looks homely and spiritual is not enough to wife her,many can pretend for africa just to get the ring..That's why I recommend at least 2 yrs of dating,to get to know urselves well enough!You men are easily decieved walahi!She woke up by 4 to sweep and you just said "this is my wife"! Oga op,u are acting under the influence of serious jazz.For a man to know that his wife does runs,tearing all your clothes,pulling a knife on you etc,and not leave the marriage is a clear indication that you have been locked in a spiritual cup. You don't need Angel Gabriel to appear to you in a halo telling you to leave her na.This is a good time to separate yourself from her.Look for a good friend to squat with while u clear your head(that's if her craze has not rendered you friendless)!Pray and go for deliverance.Please stop going to your pastor,because he is not helping in any way.While you are at it, get a divorce attorney and do the needful.Man up before you die because of woman!

osazeeblue01:
No. Any girl that told u she keep male friends than female just know that she is a prostitute. If u think am lying go for research yourself.

wow!Your stupidity astounds me.

This op and his far fetched theories!I am a lady and my best and closest friends are guys,both married and single.I don't have female friends because of their attitude of envy,competitive spirit and gossiping.Besides,its not every man that thinks with his dic.k!Though,its dicey when both of you are single.Even at that,you must not fuccck your friends na?There should be a dividing line.I can't trade my male friends for anything o,they are ride or die!I know I can trust and rely on them.So its not all cases of male-female friendships that transitions into friends with benefit.

If she loves makeup,you can get her a face primer or powder.

tivta:
I disagree with you, it is not as expensive as you paint it, there are things on the list that can be done without, also there are cheaper alternative, instead of hobbies diaper you could buy pampers or even nappy, clothes for babies are extremely cheap compared to adults, babies should be on exclusive breast feeding for at least one year, other things can be bought gradually, it is only when school fees is to be paid that is when the stress comes, I blame the op's wife for not listing the cost of the items, I even believe she wants to use it to make money for her self.
Now to you, don't run from marriage because of the cost of raising a child, if you don't have the finance after marriage wait for a year. Or do you want to buy your baby designer clothes?

lol,quality baby things are expensive.Please make your enquiries well.Even pampers you mentioned will be used like 5 times a day.Frisco gold is abt 2500 (formula).Its very few women who can do exclusive for a year.Except the husband is very wealthy,women nowadays have jobs to hold up.So the issue of exclusive is not applicable to everyone,not with the harsh financial realities on ground.My friend stopped breast feeding at 4 months because the child disliked breast milk.In that case would you force the baby to suck?She is now strictly on baby formula and she drinks it well.I have 7 aunts,all have kids so I know a lot abt these things to a large extent.If you go cheap at times,you would end up regretting.My aunt bought one unknown diaper for her baby.When the baby poos,the stuff leaks out of the diaper.She tossed it in annoyance.Please clothes for babies are not in anyway cheap.I don't have a baby yet,but for women with kids to even tell d op to get 100k for those items,that should tell you something.I used to reason like you until my aunts started having kids.Besides pregnancy in marriage can happen at anytime,so the issue of waiting for 1-2 yrs doesn't work most of the time.Its not even advisable for a woman who has not started childbearing to go on birth control.When she is finally ready for kids,it may take a while to happen due to the drugs and all.