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blublahd:
I get you. my own take about sex is that I can't just shake the feeling of having sex with the wrong person, personality-wise. And by so doing I become active and then may just become fucck that one, Bleep this one, fucck those ones.
Am more of, if you are sure it's the right person and more importantly at a time you should at least have someone you are courting, that ain't a bad idea.
casual sex, just because she got a nice asss and, nice shape or cute face seems rather senseless to me.
I hope I don't sound feminine

No u don't sound feminine..I agree with u bro.

Johnsown1:
congrat for ur upcomming celebratin, and what if a self paid guy come begging and he is a V

lol..who the self paid guy help?My man is very comfortable.Besides,I have dating experience,So I have encountered rich men in high places,but I chose him.I know he loves me in a way no one has ever done.From the sacrifices he makes,to how he dotes on me..I can't trade that for anything na..Plus say he sabi work for bed..lol.BTW,the fact that a guy or babe is a virgin doesn't really score points with me.Its a decision,not a major achievement that should be shouted from the rooftops.

blublahd:
Really? what if it happens? e reach to go mountain go pray?

lol,before me and d virgin guy go even reach dating stage,I go don corrupt am sef with raw gist.I have a very dismissive disposition about this sex thing sha.If you fit hold body..Good!If not,do it abeg without having to apologize!No time o.

kennycanny:
Funny You. Na ur type they fall mugu pass

lol,na so na..The babes who act like they are very disciplined are the easiest to fall.Just get them in a lonely house..You go see the evidence.Just small kiss and pre-intimacy,dem go open leg.Many don't know that most people are virgins because of lack of opportunity.

Johnsown1:
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then if he turns out to be virgin,what will hapen
then if he turns out to be virgin,what will hapen

lol..I am engaged already to be married next year.So trust me when I say,it can't happen.I don't have a thing against virgins.However, I am very sexually active and loving it! So to each his own...

blublahd:
What if your husband turns out to be a virgin?

My husband cannot turn out to be a virgin.Not possible at all!

misspicy:
chisos


babe you wicked o....amma open a new account and form virgin sef ,virgins are the new IN thing and they are respected on nairaland because if i say am i virgin with this moniker now,nobody will believe me

lol..I am proud to be a non virgin o.I no kukuma dey find husband for nairaland.Those that are striving to be given the award for "most decent female nairalander" should keep up the good work.The last time I checked,I don't hv to impress anyone here.

funshy87:
Like say u be virgin, una go come here dey form holy mary

lol..bros one Orijin for u there!The way some babes form on nairaland eh.If you investigate their real life offline,na one yeye boy when dem dey feed sef, nai dey straff them with tramadol on top empty belle for one dirty face-me-I -face-you one room apartment.Yet once they log into nairaland they become virgins.They will even agree to any post on nairaland just to look like a "Wife material".SMH!Well,I aint got no apologies for whatever I say here.

kennycanny:
I understand that you can't be very close again becos you really don't have much in common again.

But please as much as possible be close to her to support her grow out of it. The real friends and good friends not only be there when we are doing great , both those that ll b with us when d going becomes rough.

I understand o..I do buy her kids stuff when I visit her.But we can't just be very close again.Before you know it,she would see me as trying to show off and all.I can't downplay my success in life to keep a friend happy.And female friendship has a lot of issues,jealousy and side talks.Besides,my best friends are mostly guys.

Beremx:
but where were the neighbors when the useless man was beating his wife?

"sighs"

RIP to the lady.

It seems you are not aware of Nigerian mentality of foolish endurance.Maybe neighbors even adviced her to leave the man o,but she preferred to remain there and die!Well shout out to the ladies that have vowed to remain in physically abusive relationships saying "you don't know how the next man will be."Pray you get out alive sha!

kennycanny:
OP reasoning is so funny. so once you see a lady that you truly trust and love enough to marry, You can just be having unprotected sex because you don't see her as a slot . Even when the two of you are not ready to start raising children.

Condoms are not only meant for preventing STDs , but also to prevent impregnating your wife, girlfriend, aristo , runs girls , in fact anyone since you do not want a baby that time.

Leave the guy na..If he knew the price of cerelac and other baby items,he won't open his mouth to spew this trash.the worst thing that can happen to anyone is to have a baby when you are not ready for it,esp financially.My best friend while we were growing up in 2006,got pregnant after we wrote waec.Now she has 2 kids out of wedlock for a guy who can't even care for her.Her family disowned her so she doesn't even have anyone to turn to.Last year she called me to send her 5k,that her last child is sick,and there's no money for hospital bills.School she no go again o,she can't even boast of SSce with 5 credits.Today she always makes statements to work me into a guilt trip for not being close friends with her.What are we going to discuss?I don't have kids neither am I still trying to write GCE ,so what are we going to talk about?She always has the impression that I am acting superior to her because of my academic qualifications.But the fact is,we can't be very close since we live different lives now.All that she could have averted if she was smart enough to make good decisions.She opened up to me that if she could do it all over again,she would not have allowed herself to be so careless as to get pregnant,when she could have been pursuing her education.Make babes wise up o.If you see a guy who has 3 kids,you won't be able to tell.Its the girl who looks worn out and stressed.Let's do things at the right time.If you can't abstain,use a condom so you don't bring poor kids into this world and introduce them to untold hardship just to prove a useless point.

misspicy:
kikikiki @ bolded i am sorry abeg

my dear i am weak i swear.....to think that I thought i have seen and heard it all from trolls, eediots,confused males,chauvinistic fools etc on nairaland and the Toks2008 had to come up with this and funny thing is the old fool tagging anybody against his useless idea Lovepeddler and slut

who dates an hegoat like that

He doesn't realize his sisters and cousins are also within the group of "lovepeddlers".Even his girlfriend may be knacked on the regular by one guy on the side with condom.Nairaland na really market sha,you see all sorts.So for the girls who are stupid enough to buy into his delusions,allow your bf impregnate you eh.If you are still in school,na you go stop.Tommorow,he becomes a graduate who has accompliished his ambitions,you the foolish girl will be there taking care of a baby u could have prevented with 50 naira gold circle.The one wen vex me was his reference to the fact that even a 20 year old guy dating an 18yr old girl should be careless enough to have unprotected sex.I want him to sit his sisters down and give them this lame advice,so they don't become 'whores' who should have been smart enough to use a condom to prevent Std's and unwanted pregnancy.Rubbish!

misspicy:
Thank you my sister,good morning hope you slept well?
so I thought i was the only female who can be truthful and OPEN for once and not listen to any jabs from stupid chauvinistic male egos on nairaland in order to be tagged innocent and given the dignity award like some eediots am seeing roaming here,i would have love to dismantle Almighty Toks2008 posts on this thread one after the other but i will save myself the stress and allow you go through the post from page 0 till here bet me you will find
1)misplaced priority

2)contradictions

3)over bloated ego

4erroneous accessions eg his first post that guys use condom ON not WITH girl,my sister is it only guys that are protecting themselves? and when i explained that part of his post as he meant only girls has STD the eediot said that is what he meant and ended up calling me slut,lovepeddler cheap etc,my sister is there any sense here?
and when i reciprocated his uncalled for insulting words,the agbaya,old for nothing fool got pained and had to resort to reverse psychology to get to me imagine,meanwhile that old fool started the use of insultive words
Now I truely believe that a fool at 40 is a fool forever

Because what will make an elder encourage sex without condom on the basis of dignity? love,respect and call the use of condom demeaning? even married couples use condom does it mean the husband is demeaning his lawfully married wife?
Now this few things is for your viewing pleasures

1) my post here does not in anyway relate to my life outside nairaland if you go through my posts you will see places i claimed to be a virgin,places support NO SEX BEFORE marriage,FEMALE VIRGINITY....my posts relates to the the topic on ground it does not reflect my personal life

2) I misspicy is not on nairaland to make hypocritic friends or look for men to call me chaste,dignity, innocent rubbish rubbish etc because that does not neccessarily mean am innocent outside nairaland or mean their useless selves will marry me.

3)respect is earned not demanded and when you begin to ask for respect on a faceless forum it means you are not getting enough of it outside here.......if you reflect respect people will respect you,but if you demand for it using insults on people then OYO lo wa

4) I will flee not run from men that reason like this in my locality because i actually have a male friend that said something like this,i reduced and stopped my friendship.with him

see contradictory words of toks2008 this yourself










after typing all the above the old fool typed this below



My sister are you still confused? in this present day and time where a woman should demand the use of condom and even carry condom with her incase her boyfriend does not have one around inorder to protect herself from STDs and unwanted pregnancy which this eediots might even deny, our know it all father on nairaland said girls who use condom is demeaning to them in the name of love respect and dignity


my sister I weak

my dear,my annoyance with you is the fact that you even took out time to reply him..I pity whoever he is dating.Walahi!I read the post and didn't even know where to start from in showing my disgust for his so called views...*Spits on thread*

Joy1706:
Your yeye view holds no water because it's mostly girls that insist on the guy wearing a condom..... so yea it's you guys that should be embarrassed.

P.S Most of us are sick of your foolish opinions. So pls do us a favour and stop posting all these trash

God bless u darling..I have been noticing op's threads on nairaland,most are void of commonsense and rational thinking.He needs a healthy dose of reality!

Toks2008:
You are getting it all twisted.

You can never remove the risk factor from whatever we do in life and even if you marry a virgin,she can still go out to bring any nonsense to you and visavis.

What i am implying here is that when a man uses a condom on a lady,that man is actually passing deep messages to the lady and ordinarily,any decent lady will not even make love "casually" because except a lady is a slut,no lady in her right sense indulges in sex with a man she does not love.

But when a man meticulously makes sure he uses protection on a lady,be most assured that the guy does not have deep respect and affection for the lady.

Now get this point clear,in my world,if you make love with a woman you claim you love with a condom because you dont want her to be pregnant for you then you dont really want her...forget all the cock and bull crap,if a man loves a woman and i mean really wants a woman,he will never be scared of lady getting pregnant for him even if he is 20 and the lady is 18.

wow!No offense bro..U need an overhaul of ur way of reasoning.So a man should be careless with the future of a woman because he wants to prove a stupid point?I know of married couples who use condoms as birth control,so what is your point here?Besides,since when did not using condom become an act of love!it only goes to show that the guy is irresponsible and doesn't love her enough to think of the consequences of his action should he get he pregnant.

belamour:
Actually I don't talk dirty when i make love with my woman

But during the day i might just send her text message that NO SLEEPING TONIGHT or I'M LOADED

*yawning*..which one is I am loaded again na?You be dangote truck when carry goods?

philinez:
You can dey talk like Mumu sometimes.
All 'your team' did was a Google search and in your small minds, your lame findings are authoritative .
So you've never heard of large Businesses that don't even have a website let alone a thin one? Are they bloggers that must load their website with whack content like you do yours?
Oga Ade! Grow up!
You're supposed to be a Tech. Blogger. Stop posting like a Paid-To-Blog fellow.

bros that was so cold..damn!I was wondering the 'team' he was referring to?

tivta:
That is the price you pay for eating the forbidden fruit first...

you try.

I can't do without the breath of life..Also,
1.My phone with sufficient data
2.My fiance (I love him to the moon and beyond..#too caring,hardworking and committed.
3.Money

So many expectations from women!Na wao.

This infinix people are not serious!People are still waiting for note 2 to be sold by online stores,they are talking of another phone?Have they finished selling note 2?Anyways,I am happy for the delay,it made me change my mind about selling my cubetalk 9x.

ESHOIZA:
ℓ̊ need a tab with a good camera which is within d range of 28 to 30k

then get the tecno droidpad 8,its 29-30k depending on where u buy from.

sats:
all that for a phone? even iphone 160k doesnt have OTG,
and xiaomi doesnt have nigerian customer care
op abeg you know foxconn?
you might want to talk to them to make u a phone

hehehehehe..you are not a nice person o..na really 'talk to them to make you a phone'.The one wen almost kill me with laugh na 'can withstand hard use for at least for 2 years'.op which one is hard use again na?

ESHOIZA:
please ℓ̊ want to buy Tecno droipad 8H someone should advise me on that meaning a better option for 30k or less can be conveyed to me

it depends on what you want..If you prefer a larger screen,the go for the driopad 8.I am personally interested in getting one for reading.However,if you want a smartphone,wait for gionee s plus or infinix note 2.

All except facebook password.

That na injury time.BTW I miss reading your blog posts @op.

IamMissMarvel:
Speak for yourselves.

The problem is, you judge people without knowing who they really are.

Should people come to you to tell you they are virgins or they are not engaging in premarital sex or even present evidence to you before you won't judge them and tag them as hypocrites?

Experience has taught me that the real virgins are not the ones who look it, they won't even tell you and they know as much about sex as those who are sexually active. Because they read.

You don't know who is knacking who behind and pretend no to.
That's why Christianity is an individual race. If you are pretending to be what you're not, your judgement dey heaven, and if you know the truth and still choose to mislead pple or act like you don't care, then your judgement is also in heaven.

The standard of the bible will NEVER change to suit our earthly standards.

We are all sinners thriving to be holy. And we can't get there by pretending to not know the truth cause it is this truth that will set us free.

aunty calm down na..don't go all spiritual on me.The bible has standards,I agree.But again,its a choice for everyone to make for themselves.Why would I want to know anyone's sexual status?- I hammer on hypocrisy because cases abound of people saying one thing and doing the opposite in secret.

Eddygourdo:
Everybody here is a Virgin, the OP is corrupt, he and me are sex addicts because he pointed out his opinions on a philosophy, if you are all Virgins who abstain from sex, who are those men who have slept with all the ladies I know and will know. Nigerians ad shameless hypocrisy is like bread and butter. Shame

lol..na we be the ones wen dey defile the marriage bed na.Nigerians are the biggest hypocrites on earth.You find pastors preaching about no sex before marriage, yet they are straffing fresh choir babes and even married women behind closed doors.Many are not even convicted deep down in their soul that they want to toe that line.They are just doing it because it makes them seem "holy".Wheras you still lie and commit other sins.

Toxay:
lets get it straight,happines shud nt b d goal 4 livin because u its momentary,PORPOSE shud be,which u cnt get in sex,premarital sex wud only inhibit it

well,2+2 equals 4,also 3+1 equals the same 4.My point is,we all have different ways of doing things..Everyone can't be celibate,so its basically down to whatever rocks your boat.

raayah:
They're also issues like vaginismus which cannot really be detected by the doctor ( vaginismus is severe pain in the vagina during sex).people with these problems can't have sex.

Even premature ejaculation is an issue, the man won't know he has until having sex.
There are also thing's like Micropenis ( even though the man may feel like he's endowed.)

there are various advantages of waiting till marriage but there are also several disadvantages and there is Nothing wrong In discussing them.

He is not encouraging pre-marital sex but let's not pretend that pre-marital sex is all bad.
Besides not everyone is a Muslim or Christian or religious in general...

GBAM!I know the dissatisfaction and contempt you are bound to feel when a man can't satisfy you in bed.Love cannot cover that one for long o.Because you would just be frustrated.Better safe than sorry IMO.

Great analysis op..Its very enlightening.Because many decieve themselves that they are in a no sex before marriage relationship,yet you find them doing everything short of actual penetration.I know I can't marry a man I am supposed to spend my life with without knowing what to expect.I never dey that strong spiritually!Besides,a lot of issues in most marriages stem from sex.I have recommended dissolution of a marriage because the man(a serious spirico) said the woman doesn't give him head.It seemed like it was a vital part of se.x to him.The woman said she can't use her mouth meant to praise God to touch his johnthomas..Both of them looked very spiritual,so it was shocking to me.Besides,I appreciate the op being real about this.Many say no se.x before marriage to appear 'holy and decent' to their serious partner,wheras they have one guy man or woman knacking it steady on the side.Finally,it all comes down to whatever makes you happy..