sassyangel1:


Hope u don't hammer fufu and correct ofe onugbu wth cold orobo malt? Jst kidding( buh seriously giving side eyes). Relax woman, belle wee come down except if u get big belle b4 pregnancy cos God is not an author of confusion (except u use surgery flatten ur tummy as our oyibo hospitals do 2 our mothers and they wee b deceiving us dt it's via sit-ups and push-ups).

Nwannem for wia. Where I see onugbu soup chop? No omugwo for me so na rice and indomie things with tea I dey oo.

We women are our own worst enemies cos the majority of the people doing the commentaries are women.

hunniesuzie:
3 weeks? Be patient, it will come down, there's still time for it to come down

Thanks. I really hope so.

jazzyjazz:


Nne just calm down and enjoy that big belle with pride because you brought forth a beautiful life.
Your stomach will go down with time.
I tied my stomach from the second day of delivery and then I got a postpartum belt all these didn't help. My belly was still big. But with time I took my mind off it and now everyone keeps hailing me that my flat belly is back

If you can't wait it out, then cut down on your intake of carbs and exercise

Ese pupo. I know this in my head but my heart says otherwise. Coupled with people asking me with confused faces whether I don born. I thought I was doing well but whenever I hear that question, my heart sinks.

Please mothers helep me shook mouth for this matter abeg. My stomach no wan go down, I don tie clothe tie. Drank hot water at least for the first two weeks for wia. I still look at least four months pregnant.

This is the third week now and am gradually losing hope. Please advise me. I thought this pregnancy would be different because I really tied it well. Even to sleep till morning. Help!!

zimunachimdi:


hahahahaha.
we are fine dear., my ds doesnt give me breathing space,but i dey peep.

My baby's namesake. Come and appreciate us oo. I love this name.

Burntcoal:
I'm new here. my first tym. morning everyone aw was d weekend. pls LO doesn't sleep at nyt oooo, all she does is suck I mean non stop sucking. once I managed to put her down she'll start crying. pls wat can I do to make her sleep at least at midnyt. she is 1 week n 5days old. den I av head splitting headaches

I was you about a week ago,down to the splitting headaches. I was told it will pass and there is a slight improvement at three weeks now though am dancing around with her as I type this.

Just try and snatch the few minutes here and there as you can and keep your room dark cos it helps with the headaches.
Pele. This too shall pass.

Phlakkeys I hope you are o.k. please let us know dear

SomebodysMum:
I had finished typing but had to come back up to add this. A lot of what I wrote below seems to be like rambling but my thoughts are all over the place. Make una no vex.




Cappo Cappo, I gallant well and dey loyal to your government. 2 hands in the air and one leg up

This my pikin na for totoo and bottom e dey kick me o, better kick wey I go dey reason if the place no go slack sef. That means he/she is feet down apparently. Make e sha turn before time by God's grace. We don dey eye Team September with style sef.

I've been meaning to make this post for a while, since I read Queenhecate (I shuddered), Eksbabe (positive) and lately, Divie (thanking God it wasn't worse) birth stories. Congratulations mamas on your bundles of joy, they will forever bring you joy and happiness.

My country people and fellow mamas, I think it is high time we started including hospital names and reviews in our birth stories, it will go a long way in helping women make decisions during the research stage.

Fine, this country can be a s***hole when it comes to healthcare and mama alive, baby alive is all that we want at the end of the day, however, I also need good treatment from staff. No need for oversabi attention but just do your job effectively and efficiently. No insult me cos I fit break bottle for person head after pikin don dey my side.

When I started out looking for hospitals, people were saying general hospitals are the best in Nigeria and bla bla bla. I know someone who actually birthed in South Shore, VI. Spent a couple of cool millions because she and baby had some complications, they still ended up in a government hospital because of availability of doctors palaver.

I registered at GH Gbagada and St. Luke's Yaba but neither seems to be cutting it right now. GH Gbagada because I heard the mosquito situation in the maternity ward na die, no private rooms and the bathrooms are enough to make a grown woman cry. Fine, I know one of their consultants there and it's just 24 to 48 hours stay but still, it's enough that I won't be getting an epidural because, Nigeria. (praying to baba God for supernatural childbirth ooo), I certainly don't want to add avoidable situations like facilities to the mix.
St. Luke because, fear dey catch me say they might be understaffed. Not thaat I'm absolutely sure of this.

I looked into Gold Cross Ikoyi because I have a friend who used them many years back, however the reviews on ordinary Google leaves a lot to be desired.

I learned about MCC Gbaja years ago on this thread and had it at the back of my mind. I looked it up again recently but the latest reviews are from mama Zaynie 's set of 2015 (those women rocked, BIG time!!!)

Please and please, if anybody has current reviews of Gbaja, kindly share o. As things stand, I really would like to change hospitals.

Onegai, it sounds like you are in the health field and know a lot about this. Please ma, if you have any recommendations, private or government establishments kindly share with me o. Cost not a factor, I no mind spend my annual income on getting good healthcare and service. I'm not planning on complications etc God forbid but I want a positive experience. It is all in God's hand but at least I can handle picking a good and clean environment.

What I want from a hospital at this point is a good mix of both General and Private hospital advantages. The advantage that government has over private is expertise and availability of many doctors shey?
Private is good environment and care shey?

Pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee ooo, if any mama knows of any hospital in Lagos that is a perfect blend of both, kindly share with us. I stay in Yaba and can reach most parts of the mainland and ikoyi/VI quite easily. Even if the distance is an issue, please still share, it might be useful for someone else.

Hugs and kisses.

It is well with you my sis. My story will not be your story. As I said on my bs, I have actually used this particular hospital before and had a good experience to the extent that I recommended it to plenty of my people.
The difference between that birth story and the present one was the people involved and also because it is a government things and not much pokenosing is done into their activities. This is unlike the private hospital where you can be queried for what you have done.

Long story short, pray for a godly nurse who is experienced cos I met just the opposite. God protection on all of us.amen

Prettyhurts:


Thanks, we're on admission now. Did another test today still the same thing(no malaria, no infection,) . Now she's vomiting and watery poop, if I give her ORS she'll vomit everything. They dewormed her and placed her on drip.

Please continue giving her the ors even after throwing it up. One spoon full at a time. It helps a lot. God's divine healing on her.

blackFTM:


Well I have been using the ergo 360 baby carrier since he was 6 days old. I got it for about £130. Sincerely I can tell you that since I have being using it I never had back arch or shoulder pains. Even if you want to use any carrier that is cheaper please always go for the one that your baby's leg will be in a frog leg like shape when wearing it, this must be so because of his hips. Another thing to look out for is that the shoulders should be padded to avoid pain and also go for one with waist pads and other features to straighten your back. Please note that good carriers don't make you bend your back when you carry your baby rather your back will be straight.

The bolded part is very very important. I have been searching for the words to say them. Mothers please be aware of that. The seating area must be wide enough that the hips are spread out and well supported to avoid stories that touch tomorrow.

mitche15:

Good idea, if you are in Lag, inbox me i can come help out for a few hours a day.

God bless you my sister, I have a colleague coming in now during the daytime from next week. Am proud to be on this site.

Follow me thank God oo mamas, my bp has come down to 140 without more drugs.

I just slept when she slept and sent the children away.

It is well with me.

Prettyhurts so sorry for your loss nne. Our lady comfort and help you amen.

Congratulations to all July mamas that have come out to the other side,good health is our portion in Jesus name, Amen

Prettyhurts:


Are you no longer in AMERICA

omg pretty hurts, I properly lolled at that comment. hahahaha

please mothers, don't feel bad about by bs, if you know me, you wouldn't even guess at this story without me telling you. am ok and just need sleep.

my older ones have gone on a mini holiday and am at home now with baby resting.

infact I just woke up from a nap and going back for another one. lol.

someone made a comment about my rat comment, sorry it was just a failed humour attempt on my part. she is a beautiful angel and it is no word of lie.

going back for phase two nap as she is still sleeping. shhhhhhhh please all of you

the funniest thing was that the next day being Sunday, the chief matron was walking around and waving complaint forms and asking who has any but I was too traumatized to take any action. all I had in my brain was go home go home go home.

that fall I had about two days before combined with the rough birth messed up my hips and I was unable to work after I was taken to the ward and left there, I dragged my self to the bathroom and began to wash away the blood all over me

to come to the bed now became wahala. it was a fellow mother that rushed me, held me and guided me to the bed that my baby hasw already being kept. I was a tearful mess and just kept saying thank you ma.

I was sobbing as I couldn't lift my leg onto the ward bed and that was when other mamas in the ward got angry and started demanding that they should allow someone to stay with me as I was obviously inacapable. the ward nurse was saying it is against hospital policy.

but the intervention of the other mums now made her come to me and ask what was the matter, I told her about the fall and the non functioning hips and she now gave me sleeping injection.

my story full book oo and I cry whenever I recall it but I hope the unburdening will make some of the pain go away.

double post

thank you all. am still reeling from the whole debacle.

please this vigilante is killing me, I had to go back to the hospital yesterday as I nearly had a seizure yesterday. constant headache, chest pain, swollen legs you name it and nobody to do omugwo for me join.

my bp was 180/92 and the doctor prescribed sleeping pills and scolded me that I should sleep when baby sleeps.

fastforward to yesternite and I was looking forward to sleeping as I was told baby will get it from breast milk and sleep too. na so sleep carry me oo but this little rat for wiaaaa.. She woke up her usual 53times when my breast aka her soother removes from her mouth.

am just a walking zombie this morning. my husband is so worried too. I am feeding her now to see if she can drop off so that I can sleep awhile.

I really don't want to go on hypertensive drugs as the doctor threatened.

sleeping after childbirth has always being my problem as if the adrenaline will refuse to come down.

women dey try oo.

I was telling my husband that I was done. completely done with childbirth,he dey look me side eye. am very very very serious.

but and a big BUT, I fell again, the first cash he is gonna give me na epidural money. straight!!

I can't go and come and die biko.

na so they began to gist, refused to bring another pan after after the second one has thoroughly scolded me for vomiting on the floor the first time.

I begged,pleaded, called and for wia. I finally walked out of the room and into the office where they were sat and beckoned the first one amidst tears to please come. she now stood and told me they needed to break my water to hasten things up. for my mind, I said so you fit do this kain things before.

she broke it and said I should come to delivery room. without help ooo, just shifted back and was watching me both of them. I struggled up and climbed the delivery table and was there for about thirty minutes.

finally, I felt the urge to push. all this while, they stood back gisting to themselves and didnt tell me anything. I began to push, I pushed for wia.

na when I began to make one mooing noise like a cow that they stopped their loud gist and came to see. she shoved her whole fist into me and by then the only thing on my mind was"wetin remain for me to see for here" she now said, this head is too big oo.

I ignored her and continued pushing, I could feel the head coming down and removed my hands from my ankles to my bum na so the nurse hit me, comon remove hand from there. I turned and lifted a hand to her to say no vex u here and she moved back sharply and said ,don't touch me with your dirty hands, I would have loved ti say that I gave her a befitting reply but I didn't. I turned and asked her what did you say and she repeated it and said "is that not the hand you were using to touch your bum, please don't touch me with it"

I am the non confrontational type, hate quarrels and would rather enter a hole than confronting someone but I felt those words into the depths of my soul. her harshness and lack of compassion wounded me and I felt so alone. I am crying again as I type this and even the other nurse felt bad. I was just following her around with my eyes all around the room. this first nurse now gave me a tear and the head popped out and the body followed immediately.

that was around 3.15am Saturday morning. long story short, she sewed me up and that was that.

I went to general hospital cos I had my last baby there and they were wonderful but this birth has shown me that an organization is good depends not on the building or structure in place but on the personnel running the place.

at the end, I went home with my Angel baby girl and she is the greatest gift of all. Please thank God with me mothers.

by then, I was really feeling the pains and was feeling every bump, luckily the road were fairly deserted and we reached quickly.

After examination, was only 3cm, I was disappointed but I rallied and said to myself, there is no turning back at this point only forward. my husband was worried about the kids and i let him go around 1am and when I begged the nurse to examine me again, I was only 5cm

then the pains were coming in waves and I was barely holding on. After enough screaming and calling on the nurse that I wanted to vomit, she grudgingly brought out one small kidney shaped plate and shoved it into my hand snarling at me that I should not vomit on the floor,she was still talking when I sprayed everywhere.

She went to call another nurse and then my nightmare began.

my bs is going to come in bits. sorry

After my fall last Wednesday, I went for anc the next day and the doctor refused to induce me and I went home crying and utterly fed up.

I woke up that Friday morning with niggling pains but I dismissed them and continued with my day. I went down on my knees and scrubbed the living daylight out of my bathroom and toilet.

the pains were getting worse and coming around 45minutes each time. I delayed calling my husband cos he is a champion worrier. around 6pm, I couldn't endure anymore so I texted him to come home now. the pains were every 20minutes then.

see me na, I didn't know the man didn't see the text sef. na so I bathe my kids, fed them and begin wait for hubby ooo.

my plan was to put the kids to be, lock tgem in and go with him to hospital. see the man strolling in around 8pm and then I was conserving my energy and didn't want to talk abeg.

put the kids to bed and crept out around 11pm.

Thank you all for your wishes. my eyes never clear enough to see who said what.

cappo its a girl

Thank you Jesus. we are both here safe and soUnd. at 3.15am this morning. weighing 4.05kg

if you are awake, pls say a word of prayer for me.
thank you

I went for antenatal today hoping to be induced as the doctor promised last week only to meet a different one who began to tell me that hospital rules specified the mother must be up to 40 + 10 days before they do that.

cue me bursting into tears and blubbering like a baby. was just saying please please doctor am tired amidst tears. the yeye man persist that I come back on Monday.

I sobbed all the way home. it was terrible.

Graciouscharis:
Good morning everyone.
I had my baby around 7am on the 11th.
I typed my BA several times but the mobile network in the hospital was very bad. Just got home yesterday night. Will send in my BS soonest. Thank God it ended in praise.

Cc phlakkeys

congratulations!!

so your mind gree you and you leave me run sebi?

[quote author=Goldenheart002 post=58412199]Congrats to all mamas that have birthed their little angels. God will keep them and make them sources of blessings to d families.......

Graciouscharis
Damisinto
Spiceeamiee
Tanx for d BSs, I carry yansh for una. D Lord that help u birth ur LOs will see them through in d journey of life.

Mama queenhecate, u gatto forgive me for laughing. I wonder if I would have laughed or cried if I were at d scene with u, hope u've seen ur dokita?
My very own mama curvilicious, ndo. I heard it's pack of d package oh, d first trimester is almost over, MS will vanish sooner than expected. D Lord is ur strength.


Pls, mamas that travels well, I need to get to owerri by 1pm tmrw(latest 2pm), I was told at Park that their first bus leaves Lagos 7:30am. Is it possible I get to owerri at my targeted time? Or do I need to look for another bus that can leave Lagos earlier than 7:30am? Also what's d average time travel from Lagos to owerri?
Mamas, abeg no


believe me, you wouldn't have laughed. my countenance alone would have made you pity me. it's funny now though.

sassyangel1:


devil is a liar! So sorry dear. Hw r u feeling now? Pls, if u still feel somehow somehow, don't waste time again. Rush and see ur doctor cos pregnancy is not a stage one will be forming strongness. It's well wth u sis.

Thanks so much dear, am ok now and will complain tomorrow to the doc.

phlakkeys:

Only Olowogbogboro could have done this.
With that level of fall, some would have gone, but God kept you.
We join you to say thank you God.
I hope you've gone to the hospital already. How is LO?

Thank you cappo. After painkillers and lots of sleep, I feel better and will tell the doctor in my antenatal tommorow.

Na God ooo cos I keep replaying the scene and wonder how I got the presence of mind to push my self backwards to protect my stomach.

I had a little laugh about it with my hubby just now about how it took two strong men to lift me out as one man alone couldn't do it. facepalm

[quote author=MissIndependent post=58386420] Sorry I couldn't help but laugh. [/quote

I know i will still laugh about it later with my nonsense sense of humour but the laughter never come now ooo.

[quote author=MissIndependent post=58386420] Sorry I couldn't help but laugh. [/quote

I know i will still laugh about it later with my nonsense sense of humour but the laughter never come now ooo.

eksbabe:
Cheiii the devil is a liar. Thank God for you ooo, but try go to the hospital na. Hope u feel better already

thank you my sister. am still trying to calm down first.