we call it akanwu in Igboland.
it has this dirty white color and looks like a piece of dried up old blue cheese

Ndipe:

Sistawoman, butt out of your neighbor's marital problems. Have you not heard of the saying, "three is a crowd"?

Exactly.
Sistawoman can kneel, prostrate, wear waist beads and dance owigiri to the neighbors mother in law to emphasize culture
that doesn't mean anyone should join her.

never did and never will

omoge:

yea it is kaun. i hate it in okra people do use it to make poor okra to draw but i think it makes it darkish.

OK
is it what Yorubas put in their Okra to make it draw for miles
I've always wondered if their own okra is different from ours.
I hate Okra soup anyway
God forbid.
It reminds me of mucus
can't stand that slime

onyinye2:

I just seriously hate salad. Something about raw veggies always make my stomach churn. Especially when they add that death in a bottle ranch salad dressing. YUCK!!! Biko, nyemo meat na jollof rice instead.

LOL
I love salads with chicken
grilled chicken though.

But nothing beats a plate of jollof rice cooked by a Yoruba woman.
Chei!
I give them props for correct jollof.
The type that'll give you "lipstick" and lip gloss when it's over.

If I had to request my last supper,it'll be a plate of jollof rice with tenderized goat meat
followed by a plate of stewed shaki and ponmo and a can of sunkist.
after that,I'll be ready to meet my maker

KarmaMod:

what's this obsession you people have with "potash"

potash this potash that.

if its what I think it is "kun" then its basically only used for okra

TUfiakwa!!
we don't put potash in antything but Ugba and Isiewu.
Potash in okro soup?
dat one na original diarrhoea regimen na

PH is one scary place now.
so so gun shot wounds everyday

look at all the foreign girls following agaba to this thread

you know they have Ijaw people in Ondo too
they don turn to "fishers of men" for that side too

KarmaMod:

How come Aj's husband is against Nairaland and not NVS?

NVS is a more mature site.
I log in once in a while while online and I enjoy her posts there.
She is nothing like her crazy self here.
The men in NVS are usually accomplished mature gentlemen
Looks like some of them even fought  the Biafran war from the way they talk.
They were talking about some Nigerian TV series  "Village headmaster"in great details that I knew nothing about save the name
and someone actually talked about how soldiers molested his family and him during the war
I was like wow!
On nairaland I'm considered an old woman and there  I'm talking with men and women who knew when Awolowo was premier of Western Nigeria and we traded in pounds and shillings.
They can be too serious though.

They should simply arm themselves with guns to protect themselves and their property.
That may send a message to the almajiris of Owo

KarmaMod:

Isnt there a Naija type salad though?

there's an original Igbo salad called Ugba.
It's made with cooked okporoko, the ugba,and sometimes pieces of cooked meat and in my village they add garden egg leaves sometimes.
and yes palm oil
It's very tasty but sometimes when they use potash in it,you may end up with "running stomach"

_{running to lokoja}

there's another type abacha and okporoko
Oh I miss my grandma

omoge,the one I still can't figure out is seeing people that feel obligated to take every food on the menu.
I don't understand why someone will have a plate with everything piled up and overflowing
then go back and get a wrap of pounded yam and scoop the 2 or 3 different soups side by side on the divided platters
It boggles my mind.
and they haven't had dessert yet o

OH I forgot the fried goat,stewed meat,fried catfish,jollof rice,fried rice,fried and baked chicken and co.
Getting salad in NIgerian parties is a joke.
Nobody touches the uncooked leaves
By the time they get the egusi soup,different kinds of rice,plantain and meat on the plastic plate there's no space for your leaves.
If they return,it's to collect the pepper soup and more "betta" food.

onyinye2:

You will go and server oyinbo food at Nigerian party eh? I remember on party i went to where they served some onye ocha food. It was an outrage. People left in disappointed. How do you serve Nigerian people chicken stuffed with veggies and foreign seasons? Tufiakwa.

let them leave.
haba!
The last time I did a party,I had it catered by a non Nigerian restaurant because I hate bothering people to cook me this and that
and you have no clue what nonsense people will throw together and bring.
some will pour sugar in jollof rice and bring for you
Tufia
I either pay a Nigerian caterer or get a BBQ place to bring me food and I make some jollof and soup if I feel like it.
If people won't eat , let them leave.
If you won't eat at my party because I don't have kpof kpof, buns, akara, fish roll, ugba, porridge yam, meat pies and star lager then don't come.

KarmaMod:

lmao neither is palm oil but that doesnt stop Nigerians from using it in just about EVERYTHING. (thankfully banned in my house)

85% of Naija food is fried, yet MSG is the one that scares you?  

99% could be fried,doesn't mean I have to fry mine.
I keep away from fried foods and lots of maggi.
Besides soups and ocassional porridge yam I don't know any other foods we put palm oil in?

there's nothing we won't hear in this place.
@ poster your people may even hate the guy more if you turn up pregnant.
You'll then force them to accept him not because of a change of heart but because they don't want their daughter with a child and single.

Let me give you a word of advise,marriage is a lot more than laying and carrying belle.
You must make sure your parents give their blessing.
Get your aunts and uncles to plead on your behalf.
I'm saying this because if you let this man believe your parents opinions don't matter in your life,you may live to regret it later.
When the real trials of marriage come,you'll have no one to go to and some callous men will remind you of how lowly you think of your own parents.
And then you'll really look like a fool.
It's not worth it.
Your parents are the only ones that'll be there for you when push comes to shove
You never want them someday to say
"I told you so"

DeepZone:

Trust me, some of us bring intimate issues here especially when they don't have whom to talk to besides, a whole bunch of women here have left their food to burn because they are in Nairaland gossipping with Queenisha and karmonisha.

Chineke God.
How my name come enter?
are you one of those burning their foods?
_{I'm usually on at work on my laptop}

No my honey bun will never come to nairaland.
He even hates to hear any stories from here.
He teases sometimes when I'm home and he calls(Work part time) saying that I must be on the internet chatting with my "boyfriends"
But he knows I have no relationship,not even emailing with anyone outside of here(male or female)
This is just a hobby and  I always log off when he gets home.
and any day he ever tells me not to get on Nairaland, certainly I would do it out of love and respect just like Almondjoy did.

Sisikill:

LMAO! Okay, I gotta ask. . .  the people saying this is not true, please where are you from? Surely, it is not Nigeria. . . I refuse to believe it is Nigeria. It is one thing to defend your country people but to out rightly deny something that is true, now that is just taking it too far. I mean it hilarious to see some people who have made no bones about how deeply olden days their thinking is, like the whole taking care of the children is the woman’s job, get all up in arms about this topic.

Women over-indulged men.  .  . no ifs ands or buts about it. Right from the moment they are born, men are made to believe they are first class citizens with first class rights and privileges and their female counterparts are meant to kowtow to their every whim. God forbid a male child does something as demeaning as household chores, they act like the moment he picks up a broom, his balls will fall off and becomes a woman. These over-indulged boys grow up to be over-indulged men and heaven help their wives. We needn’t look further than our movies to see perfect examples of these inane way of thinking.


When a man cheats on his wife, who do they blame? The wife, she didn’t do enough to keep him interested, not only that. . . if she mistakenly gets upset and fight, they tell her to go beg him.

When a man brings home his second wife, they tell his first wife to be glad he is still taking care of her children.

A man does something wrong, they demand the wife forgives him but when it is the woman, everyone looks the other way and tell her she brought it on herself.

If she has the guts to speak out about the shabby treatment she receives, they tell her she is embracing the western ways. . . which in Naija speak means she does not have what it takes to be a good wife.

A woman must work herself and her feelings around the man. God forbid she makes more money, there will be hell to pay. If she take one step . . . she’ll get “ is it because you make more money than me, you did your leg like that while taking that step?” She put cup on the table a certain way. . . “you did that because you make more money than I do”. To avoid this and wanting to be seen as a good wife, the woman has to find a way to minimize her worth.

A woman's ultimate goal in life, what she was expressly made for is to be the wife of a man. . . any man and the only way to achieve this goal is to be prepared to tolerate ANYTHING. . . Alcoholic, abuse, cheat, uncaring, greedy, tight-fisted, drug addictanything, she better get ready to chin up and take it like a woman, as long as she is Lagbaja's wife.

A woman who is married and allows herself to abused physically and Pyschologically, lives in misery and is ready to forego anything remotely close to peace is worth more than a single woman who is happy, at peace with herself and enjoying life and if the former gets the opportunity to die at her husband's hands. . . Oh my sainthood, nya ju ni! This is what women are being brainwashed to believe.

You know what, I think I miswrote earlier when I said we needn’t look no further than our movie. . . please ignore that, using movie is actually going too far. One click on the romance section will tell you all you need to know, I beg you to start with the topic about why it is not okay for a man to be shorter than a woman. . . Lmao! Yep, a woman’s God given height is now a problem. Thank goodness, people don’t have control over that or some women will be hacking their own legs away. On second thoughts, compared to the complexes some tall women might get from reading that crap, which make them willing to take anything, maybe hacking isn’t so bad.

I say look at the relationship a man has with female members of his family for a preview of what you life with him will be like. If they treat him like a king, like he is the best thing  since sliced bread. . . I’ll advice you to turn to your heels and run. If he is treated just like another human being who just happens to be a guy, hold on for your dear life. . . I beg you hold on. I’m grateful my mom didn’t allow her 4 boys to think the world and all its female inhabitants is their footstool. . . an act my sister in laws are enjoying right now. Coolio

You are so right.
This is why I believe the word "housewife" ought to be thrown out the window.
Any woman without an income outside of the home should be beaten upside the head.
You should never give that much power to anyone.
Because you may be stuck if your prince turns out to be a toad

The article quoted here specifically talked of Islamic Women.
Less than half of the Nigerian women population are in that category
and for those who are,I can imagine that most educated Yoruba muslim women are no longer settling for the co wife/Pe'nis sharing  nonsense.

I must add that anywoman that allows her husband to bring in other wives in this day and age is plain stupid
and anyone that's willing to be a second or third wife is even more stupid.

KarmaMod:

as long as it tastes good, isnt too salty and people can't even tell how much seasoning was used, i don't see what the big deal is.


anyway i hate crayfish. gross. anything that smells and taste like it is nasty to me hence my hatred for egusi

you don't know maggi has msg.
it's not very healthy

omoge:

i wont say it is juju but unhygienic way may have caused the mold to grow too quick. i have heard many of such stories too. some people like giving away their old and rotten food to others i have seen such with neighbors in Nigeria.

sad some Nigerians still carry unhygienic way of prep food wherever they go. like the lady cooking the jollof rice in my front, she sneezed into the pot, blow catarrh from her nose and still use the hand to put maggi in the food,

she was cutting the raw goat meat and asked me to help break the cooked corn into two. i turned to wash my hands only to turn and saw her already doing the corn. maybe it seems slow for her but i got to wash my hands. she used the raw meat hands to cut the corn. i didn't eat that corn, even the food sef i did not eat.

yet people will be rushing the food and packing it home

Chei omoge
I feel nauseous after all that.
Chineke Nna!
did she also season the food with her soiled pads?
what a dirty woman

someone talked of rotten food at parties.I have a story.

I attended a wedding earlier this year where I was an asoebi wearer and we did the serving and all.
We were setting the buffet tables and I opened up this aluminium pan of very repulsive looking jollof rice.
It looked like someone just boiled white rice and sprinkled some palm oil on it without mixing it properly.
It looked bad and on closer look,it smelt bad too.
I quietly took the pan and hid it somewhere so no one would serve it.
Before I knew it another lady had found it and placed it on the table.
I quietly carried it and placed it near the trash.
Sadly this wedding ran out of food fairly quickly and before I knew it people started eating from this rotten pan of rice and I immediately told people around that both that rice and the Ugba (Igbo salad) out on the table smelt bad.
Sadly,I know 4 people that attended the wedding that ended up with diarrhoea for 2 straight days.

omoge:

just too much is not good. depending on the food, one or two is enough. not those double type.

yes o karma.
ten cubes of maggi and counting in a pot of soup is way too much.
Soups should get their taste from the meat,okporoko and crayfish not maggi.

Nigeria1 needs a shrink bad.
abeg people should stop calling his name anywhere
at the mention of his name he shows up with maps and contours.
The thing don taya me

mohawkchic:

~ROTFLMAO @ "aluminium pan" ~ "the knorr that has like double cubes she threw in 5 of it i almost caught cold" . . You lot go kill me w/ laff

LOL
I'm serious.
Aluminium pan.

omoge:

i wonder too. if i was told, i wouldn't believe it but i saw it with my korokoro eyes o my sister.

be careful with party food. if it is too tasty, na maggi do am

I arrived early at a party to help my friend cook for an "umunna party" holding at her home.
This woman was crushing and putting endless maggi cube in the vegetable soup.
I lost count after the 10th one.
I never use maggi in my soup,that's not the way I was taught.
I only use 1 cube to season the meat and that's it
but my dear ,even my own husband and all the other men were "praising" the soup until during the drive home,I told my man that soup had over 10 maggi cubes and he shouted.

Two reputations one must not have

1.Being known as a thief
2.Being known as a glutton AKA "hungry person"

Tufia
let people say I'm poor, badly dressed, drive junky car, have bad hair,I can handle those
But to gain reputation as madam food for party,that one na blemish wey go follow you and your children's children  till death.
@ original poster, people called you names but you spoke the truth.
Some Nigerians are downright low when it comes to food.
In my town here in the USA, there's a lady that is number one in that department and I've personally seen a host on 2 ocassions, at 2 different parties ask her to wait till the party is over before wrapping up her take away container.
She doesn't use plates.
She uses an aluminium pan to pack hers.
She'll collect puff puff in polythene bags and store them under the table and put bottles of malt in her purse.

First off,we're not big party goers and my man would never go to a party of anyone he's not close friends with.
That's just his policy.
I always cook and bring to most parties that I've been to here in the US, that's the way we do it here and at the end, the host asks the ladies and everyone to take any leftovers.
I've also held birthday parties and christenings and asked people to take food or actually wrapped foods and given to people  because it can be a lot to store but folks  taking foods from parties of people they don't even know that well and worse in the middle or beginning of the party,is just low.

omoge:

exactly. what they cook here i just shake my head. one i went to just this summer made pepper soup with goat meat and then added vegetable oil to it. i
was
like what?

one other one i went over to help before i left for school. goodness gracious i was like Osanobua Chineke m.
!!! the lady kept putting maggi in everything she was cooking. the knorr that has like double cubes she threw in 5 of it i almost caught cold. i witness everything now i know better the more. so i just stayed away from all the food. party food sucks. i jokingly told the lady that too much is unhealthy. i wonder that's how she cooks for her new hubby. yet they will be dragging and rushing aha!!

vegetable oil in ngwongwo AKA peppersoup
was she targeting a particular person to be killed?

I don't know why all these people have a need to bash Nigerian men continually.
Haba!
I know some of them are nothing to write home about , but same thing applies to men from other areas and some women too.
There are still many good Nigerian men out there.

aoife:

Why do Nigerian men like the idea of having 2 or more wives? WTF is that about? When I ask any white man if he would ever consider having more than one wife its always the same replies " that would be a nightmare or my wife is beautiful she is more than enough. I think Nigerian men should get some tips off white men about how to treat women!!! You Nigerian and African women are even more pathetic than the men for accepting this bullsht behaviour.

abeg go sidon for dorty!
which white man?
The ones that divorce and remarry many times over.
Polygamy is not a cure for promiscuity because  promiscuity and  a lustful eye led to polygamy in the first place.
Polygamous men still maintain women on the outside when they choose
One wife should be enough so a man doesn't need to lust after others.
call them mistresses , call them second and 3rd wives, there's no difference.
The only difference is where they live.
And the color of skin has absolutely nothing to do with it.
The LDS sect that are polygamous here in America are all white men.
How do you explain that?

We can share every other thing but the only thing in our lives that we cannot share is our wives. When we were growing up we promised that we were going to get married to one woman. That was our heart’s desire but God didn’t make it possible. Today we are married to identical beautiful twins from the same parents. We are more like friends and we don’t see ourselves as couples. We don’t hide anything from each other. In fact, we have been able to inspire others through our marriage. 

deepzone,I took the pain to read through this whole article and the title is very deceptive.
I know Ijaws can be difficult to deal with in present day Nigeria where they feel we owe them something but this story here is a very heart warming story and I can't figure out why you thought to title it deceptively.