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UnknownQueen:
B Bs good die chai...
I did it on December and it was ulalaaaaah

Same boobs u also have. Just don't understand you gays.
Just don't go corrupting lonely women like OP

UnknownQueen:
Peace, Peace and Much more peace raise to power 1.5 million.

"Consequences" implies something bad

grandstar:
Higher suicides I feel are simply down to a weaker ability to cope with adversity.

Aje khaki and Ajebo no be the same thing.

If you're constantly in a cold, damp, depressing environment, you took just might also commit suicide!

JoeEeL:
Never had

Explains it

advanceDNA:
Lol.........I never had discussions with you or anyone about her marital status...there is something wrong with you....u are not a very patient person when it comes to reading

advanceDNA:
Sigh....another goal post.....

Talking with you is not interesting at all...

Sorry, somehow I'm confusing you and Dtruthspeaker

Dtruthspeaker:
This one is a man eater. She has just finished digesting one man so she is now hungrily searching for another one. Loneliness is just one of the traps they use and unfortunately, you men are too naeve thinking all the wrong things.

If you were sharp you would know that she is single.

You're still on this your "she's single" crap! After everything. Haba oga!

Tenrack:
swear down bro. There was a time I thought I could find a girl that would love and cherish me the way I do her. Omo the kind pipe dream wey e be ehn. Lmao. Na only fools dey expect that kind of love from a woman that's not your mother.


Only jokers would expect women to "love" dem unconditionally. Today's females have PHD in self and their family first. No woman is ready to ride or die with you without conditions attached. I don't even blame them anymore it's their second nature. 😂😂 These days na laugh I dey laugh simps when I see dem dey do lovey dovey.

Tenrack:
na their way. It's a waste of time trying to please a woman. You go quick die.

Until you jam a woman that resets your brain and you'll be thanking God for creating such a creature!😅

Uchesis:
Or maybe he should get a little puppy dog. Man's best friend

U r shinning teeth but this is actually not a bad idea

kiddaz:
Did you marry her or she married you? God forbid ooh. Its how you packaged your marriage that's how you're experiencing it. That is, the little errors you condoned and overlooked saying it doesn't matter, is what controls you now. You have accepted the sex as a leverage kinda arrangement from the start so don't come here crying. Most of you are women in men's skin. Enjoy your marriage oga

You have mouth to talk because u r lucky. You don't know some women absolutely hate sex

Sprintson:
you can email me on akeredolud@gmail.com let's talk.

OP be very careful.
I didn't say anything o

plaetton:
Funny, I could hear my wife saying the same things the op posted. Without hearing my side of the story, most you would say exactly what you are saying.

Most modern women do not know how to emotional bond with their spouse, and barely make efforts to do so. Social media and crackpot feminists have encouraged modern women into the woeful delusion that everything revolves around their fluctuating and often contradicting feelings. Women very seldom reflect on what they are giving, and whether it enough. Rather, It's always about what they are not getting.
This is the classic delusions that the so-called modern women suffer.
The op did not say that her spouse was cruel, abusive nor treated her bad in any way.
For all we know, the man, just like millions of other good men, is working very hard to provide for his home,doing everything within his physical and emotional strength, to maintain his home.
And like the typical woman, she's gotten a great portion of what she dreamed of before marriage, but now, she feels she deserves more. Even though she told just half of the story, I can almost bet that she likely offers the man very little in affection and emotional support.
Most of we men are in that situation where the woman brings nothing to the table, but thinks that we owe them the universe with happiness nicely tucked in, even though they cannot even define what happiness truly means.

If a woman is not happy with the hair, the nails, the eyelashes, the breasts and hips that God gave her, if God could not satisfy a woman, it is pure delusion to expect a mere mortal man to please a woman.
That was a joke 😃.

The saddest part here is that we have these deluded online feminists like kobojunkie telling her that she might have to leave her marriage?

Leave her marriage and eventually become a side hen to another happily or unhappily married man ?
Laughing out loud.

Can't say I disagree.😅

"Women very seldom reflect on what they are giving, and whether it is enough. Rather, It's always about what they are NOT getting."

"If a woman is not happy with the hair, the nails, the eyelashes, the breasts and hips that God gave her, if God could not satisfy a woman, it is pure delusion to expect a mere mortal man to please a woman."

justloo:
@Sammiewrite you decided to miss the point completely. Marriage is companionship FIRST. You complement each other.

Providing and procreation are secondary considerations (Reason why women fall out of love with their rich husbands despite all the trappings and provisions)

Perhaps you may want to read what she wrote again, this time with more emotional intelligence to interrogate why and how someone can be in a marriage and yet feel lonely.

A little bit of empathy helps

You ain't lying. Though some women can manage it better than others. Some women even PREFER what OP has. Some female even said it on this thread - they hate clinginess, wants someone who minds his business

Harbideyme:
Since I am also in that shoe, let's be friends.

OP, voila!

eniteden:
You took the words out of my mouth guy

That's just it, am married and this sort of loneliness comes sometimes, but what i do is play with my wife like i use to when we are single, go out with her sometimes even after works.

When am too carried away and she get close to me i bit her legs playfully and she laughs and scream while i drop anything am doing and fight with her till we fall on the bed and start laughing and if my boy is asleep we knack from there very well

So many things i do, just try ur effort too don't just sit there and let everything always come from ur partner do ur part.

Like right now, am planning to take my wife to her best restaurant on her birthday, buy each other things no matter how small, guest, gossip and fight playfully, watch tv together while hugging.

Just try marriage is sweet and lonely sometimes

But what if your wife doesn't respond??
That's exactly what she's saying - that her husband is not responding to any of these. "It's like pouring love into a space that feels cold and silent."

sammiewrite:
"I miss being wanted.
I miss being touched with intention, spoken to with softness, loved with effort.
I miss feeling like I matter."

At OP, I read somewhere on the second page that your husband provides and is not abusive? If you think this is commonplace in men in 2026, divorce that man to find out. Rather than focus on what you have and been grateful, you're looking for what is not lost. Typical modern day woman: Their idea of love is never reciprocity. It is never kindness. It is never empathy. It is never sacrifice, sharing or respect. Their idea of love is never their own... But the fantasy and delusions they see daily on Zee World and on social media.

The modern day women can't seem to understand that there can be love without romance. That there can be love without touching, touching or exchange of bodily fluid.

Well-said...
But it is human nature. If we have good, we want better. If we have better, we want perfect. If we have perfect, we want what Mrs Jones is flaunting on social media!😅

Zackattack:
No. He should be like Davido🤦‍♀️
So introverts cannot be a husband too. If it’s such a hard work, then what’s the point💁.
She can go and look for Davido or Burna boy to marry her. Take your fantasies with you, the door is always wide open.

😅
Blame Zeeworld anf Korean movies!😂

fitinwell:
This energy you spent talking to the public on Nairaland forum... Channel that energy to communicating with your own spouse.. teach him incase he doesn't understand.

Even if it is arranged marriage... Learn to teach each other... Marriage is a lifetime journey..

Not a bus Stop .

LordReed:
Have you spoken to him or are you one of those who expect their partner to read their minds?

But she said she's tried but it's like "pouring love into a space that feels cold and silent", and she's TIRED!

joseph1832:
what exactly does a man needs to do, before being called 'good husband'?

In this case, be emotionally available.
Do all the little romantic things, not just be a good provider and a good person

chris81964:
I have read it again. It does not mention the gender of the writer.

See below

advanceDNA:
Follow up comments nit the first one she used to open the thread

Right. And her very first comment on Nairaland below

Eriokanmi:
Men love affectionately when her character is right.

Stop generalizing. She sounds like a decent person. Even said her husband is a good person

tonyemmanuel:
That have been my feeling until recently

What happened recently?

ultraviolet27:
Let's chat on watsapp E-mail me first I am not married for now and I don't want to be in any serious relationship let's just be chatting each other

Are you fine? How old? Is tribe important? I'd email you

JimD:
I smell the gaslighting. Nothing your partner would ever do can be enough Sexyrosey

Maybe not. Her very first post on Nairaland is about this. She sounds like someone who has become TIRED after trying so much

Hmmmmm2024:
Even though I am a man, I can understand your pain. That's why in America, marriage like yours would have ended long ago... marriage is not a death sentence...it's not suppose to make one unhappy...the society has brainwashed people to believe many nonsense...like if a family doesn't have a male child they have not given birth, like you don't have to walk out of that marriage because your mum did not leave your father, so many nonsense that often lead to depression and suicide

And how is it working out for America? Their suicide rate is about 3 times Nigeria's. Not to talk of drug abuse

Jomonix:
It hurts to be alone

She didn't say she's alone. She's married with children. She's LONELY. Know the difference

Denko2721987:
There is no guarantee anyone's marriage will make them happy oh. Infact it may even make you more miserable so don't get it twisted.

No mind am

merits:
Go and marry and be happy.

Why not provide him the female and money to maintain a home

Denko2721987:
Typical modern day woman.. Everything is always about them, their mumu feelings and their mumu emotions. Me! Me! Me! Me! - very self centered bunch. Na them go disturb God for marriage, the moment then enter, them done begin whine with cries for one emotional validation like there aren't other things to do in the marriage. Women of those days didn't even get half the support this current women get from their husbands yet they were warriors of the home front supporting their husbands and families. These ones own na how to fulfill one mumu Korean movie fantasy and receive external dïck. Abeg commot from the marriage since the streets already done they call you, mitheww. As someone up there roghtly said, na Green Grass Syndrome they worry am

🤣😂
Can’t say u lying
Korean movies and Zeeworld!🤣

Wotowotoman:
Ogbeni, wetin be green grass syndrome? Na grass is greener syndrome you dey try talk? Na wa o. And you go think say you sounded very smart 😂😂😂

What did he say that didn't sound smart??

ariesbull:
You are suffering green grass syndrome.... You think you can get these things outside.... Dem go knack you... Your V will do Gbim

Then it will be too late .. focus on your kids

Actually good advice on the whole

bukatyne:
@bold:

You genuinely believe this is all a husband needs to do to be a 'good husband'?

It is well.

Actually, yes. You build on that. There are not too many men like that out there available to you as a single older lady with kids

dontrulee:
Different strokes for different folks.
I like being alone, and I don't like too much talks. I can be with you and hardly speak ten sentences. I like to maintain my own lane

It is people who have not been really alone for a long time that always say they love being aone for long. Ask those who've been in solitary confinement