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Grainzz: Of course not, but i might also explain my religion to the person so they can better understand me and doesn't think because of my religion i for example "kill dogs" something like that.

kennybelle: .Fishes fall from the sky wenever it rains
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2buff: So if your parents tell you to quit school and go make money for them by prostitution, you will obey?
chai!! What a stupid analogy..
So if.....pastor:God showed this to me,quit your education,go into prostitution cause along the line you will meet your destined husband . and please don't forget to pay your tithes..you will obey
If your parents come to your matrimonial home to overstep their boundaries or beat your wife, you will let them?
another.....pastor;go and search for another woman to make a wife,God dint destined your present union..there is no future for you both
This sounds like something a heavily indoctrinated mama's boy would say. That is why it is good for people to read the bible for themselves and not just what people tell you. Anybody can use bible to support anything, including murder. In this case, you have used it to support a lack of assertiveness and self respect. Assertiveness is something I know typical Nigerian parents fear in their children, attributing it to stubbornness or some similar negative label.
hmmm ?
Even Jesus had boundaries he enforced on his parents. When he was preaching on the hill to many people and his mother presumed to CALL HIM as in "I don't care that you are busy giving a sermon, stop what you are doing and come here this instant", go and consult your bible how he handled the situation...
the op meant ADVICE not command!!
Did Jesus go to the apostles/priests for advices?.... ?

mbulela: Why can't God talk to me directly?
The veil has been torn,in case you forgot.
So in your books, he can't talk to me directly but he can talk to pastor directly?
No be the same Jesus grant two of us access to the father?
Abi na different blood ransom the pastor?

berem: Indeed! Are you expecting God to talk to you directly? wa pe mbe!!

hmmn Why not?!.. is my pastor more human or opportuned than I am?

Ishsoph: Asians seem to be saving our world

Harbosede02: warm

SIRCRESPO: Lol. Quivah I've just realised that when you have basic requirements women tend to give it up to lure you into the ring thingy. Once you have a job,creeb n car a guy doesn't need to spend shiiii, IMO. About the sex thing, I spend a lotta time on preintimacy, which gives her all the time in the world to let loose. If you ask me if I'm broke I will say. YES! Cause I still got things I want and can afford. Basically it's "if you wanna give, give from ur heart and not from dirty pressures". That's my motto bae.

But you just can't give out gifts from your heart ? Girls just have to the giving ? Lol when a guy have a car,crib and a job..he doesn't have to give .. I pity your woman..

Mintayo:
you r right tho,its both-sided thing,but i v heard two or three ladies say,they dnt actually enjoyed,dt d guy was selfish,that they just want to get over with it!

SIRCRESPO: You girls talk like sex is a one way thing. A guys only pleasure, you girls fuuuucking enjoy that shii more than guys! WTF! Stop cloaking your want be blaming it on guys. If uon wanna give it up say NO n move ahead simple!

Mintayo: have heard such too,but i believ,either those ladies are desperate or they don't know what they want!

D reason i ask d question is dis=What if the guy/lady in question is not buoyant?

Mintayo: whow,i dnt support that,what if u buy something for the lady and it ends up being something she doesn't like?
Is there anything wrong in asking,'what are the things u like?'

Mintayo: i get you,you have made a solid point.
Summary.
Hey,guy,if you can't buy stuffs for your lady during courtship,then dnt ask for sex either,right?

Now i always believe that there are other ways you can show love,affection to your partner apart from buying stuffs(and i am nt thinking of sex either).
What is ur take on this? If yes, what other ways?

SMH!have heard about lotta girls who have sex with their bfs and still give out gifts to them ,why should it be a problem to guys?but still i stand on my ground,if gifts can wait till marriage sex must also wait till then..either ways tho,sex should wait till marriage, gifts or no gifts.
Now,have always believe there are other ways ti show love to your partner apart from sex...........

Mintayo: true,but i believ it is always good to knw what ur partner wants,not all ladies that like teddy and flower!

SIRCRESPO: I aint buying shii for any babe, I mean why should I buy shiiit that I can't buy for myself? Think about it! We have very vain babes now. We all need that filter to sieeve d stupid ones out. #fuuuvksexkillz

Mintayo: owk,i am.
good boy

True,but you have to 'define' what you want!
if I get you right..then, that ain't a gift. You give gifts when the other person least expected.you/she dont have to ask.

i get you...but let me ask...shld having sex be determined by...'because you didnt buy me stuffs'?
Ofcourse no! They are two different things.. gifts/money has nothing to do with sex except if you patronise a prostitute. but again in your case,if sex cant wait gifts shouldnt wait till marriage proper..why bother about gifts(cause it involves money while sex doesn't ?)if sex isn't the p,why should a common gift be?

.that is my destination!
Happy landing

savanto: I have nothing to say to you but I already mourn the man that would take your likes as a wife. It's not too late to ask God to change ur mindset. Tell him now to take away the heart of stone and replace it with the heart of flesh. U really would need it!

Mintayo: hummm...even that is not one-sided,it also involve give and take!

Mintayo: sorry,didnt get you.

Mintayo: Someone approached me and ask?
MUST you buy stuffs/things for your spouse during courtship?
Afterall,you will get married and the buying begins proper.
If the answer is YES,what can you buy? Phones?perfumes?
How frequent?
Opinions please.

Mintayo: Someone approached me and ask?
MUST you buy stuffs/things for your spouse during courtship?
Afterall,you will get married and the buying begins proper.
If the answer is YES,what can you buy? Phones?perfumes?
How frequent?
Opinions please.