₦airaland Forum

I think women have it easy in our society.I agree with the OP that Its not easy to be a man. A man must always work to provide for his woman or he will be called lazy but a woman don't have to work as long as she gets a good man

Wedding is overhype in Nigeria. I don't intend to spend much money on my wedding. I am going for a court wedding. The most important thing is to have a happy marriage life.

khia:
LMAO You said stereotyping is wrong yet you continue to do so.
You lived in Compton too, well that says a whole lot about you, no wonder you keep stereotyping, you have never lived outside of the hood.
Your promblem is that you think the black community only consist of the bad neighborhoods that you have lived in, you just don't know any better. There are black suburbs *Baldwin Hills* and many others in America but alot of Africans like to come to America and complain about the black community which they know nothing about because they can't see past the hood which is probably better than the place they came from.
You need to stop lying to these members on this forum with your pretense that all Nigerians/Africans are successful because they are not, some of them are very poor and homeless, especially in LA. I have been to Oaktown and I know it is a dangerous place to be *Scared the hebe jebees out of me* and it is no comparrison to Palm Springs. You have only been here for 3 years yet you have expert knowledge of the black community all across America.
I tell you what, you let me and other black Americans worry about the problems of Black America and you concern yourself about the corruption, brutal rape of women and children, abortions, homelessness, unwed mothers, dead beat baby daddies, lawlessness, lack of education, hunger, children without homes, blood rituals, in Nigeria because your problems are much worse than Black Americans. You are a hypocritical *Jiggaboo* You are just like those white racist rednecks who make negative stereotypes about black people and then say they aren't racist because their best friends are black, do you see the connection. It's amazing what some delusional Nigerians in America will do and say to make themselves feel superior.
You are African which automatically means you are successful, lol I would like to know what the hell are you doing in Oaktown and Compton, why not San Francisco, Brentwood, Beverly Hills, Baldwin Hills, heck even the San Fernando Valley would be better.

I never said all Africans living in US are rich or better than Black Americans. I said Africans are the most educated blacks in America according to stats. Besides why do you talk bad about Nigerians when you have African blood running through your vains.
How the hell you expect me to live in SF * the most expensive city in US* when I just move to US. I need to start from the bottom first before getting to the top. I am going to leave the "hood" one day and I don't intend on raising my future family in the "hood". Besides most blacks in California don't live in SF, Beverly hills, west LA.

I am not a racist against black Americans because I said African women make better wife than Black Americans. It was just a general statement and I am taking the statement back. I know there are good AA women who are great wives to their husband just like there are African women who are horrible wives. Like I told you before, I don't hate black Americans, I only hate ghetto people. Anyway, I think folks like you believe all Africans hate AA. I am going to get married to a black Queen one day and I don't really care if she is African, Caribbean or AA as long as she ain't ghetto.

Besides what is wrong in living in Stockton, Oakland, Compton, Watts, Inglewood and south central LA. No one is going to harass you if you mind your own business. You must be a "soft" black lady because you are scared of living in the "hood" . I hope you are not like those black girls who act "white". Lol. Sista, You need to experience the hood life.

Mhizkel:
I'm gonna say no and make him see reasons why

lol. I hope he understands.

Mhizkel:
It's irritating...I can't do such...but as long as d wife isn't complainin, den no p!

what if your husband want it from you, are you still going to say no or you will please him?

khia:
Oh stop your lying bullshyt, Oaktown is one of the biggest ghettos in Calif with a very high crime rate, you couldn't pay me to live there.
You said that you don't stereotype AA women, you are a liar all across the board, reread you posts *Most AA women are loud, ghetto, ratched, can't cook, uneducated, with tatoos and peircing all over their bodies with multiple baby daddies*, now how is that not stereotyping when you don't even know most AA women?
Stop making ignorant statements like *Africans are the most educated blacks because in your college 90% of the black students in the field of engineering and science were African*. Are those the only courses that were offered at your college and is your college the only college in America?
It is not rare to see a deadbeat African babydaddies, it maybe your culture to provide for your child in Africa but some of you forget about that part of your culture when you are in America, and there are Nigerian men who abandon their kids completely, especially mixed race ones, once they get that green card they don't give a ratz azz about those innocent children. I have seen so many of them.
There are alot of positive and negative things to say about Nigerians, they are no different than anyone else, you have the good and the bad, and yes some of them are very loud.
When it comes to dating just stick with African and Caribbean women, leave ratchet AA women for ratchet AA men. There, problem solved.

PS..... Yes you are an uneducated thug because you fit the STEREOTYPE, *Young Black Male Living In The Hood*

Ok Miss Khia, you won the argument. I take whatever bad stuff I said about AA female back. Stereotyping is wrong and I never really meant all AA ladies are ghetto, loud. Some are ghetto but I have also met some educated and smart black ladies.

I know you would also agree that the problem of unwed teens having kids in the black community is a very serious problem. Yes, the problem of single motherhood happen in other community but its rampant in the black community. Also some black men don't get invovle in their children live which is very wrong. I live in Oakland and I have also lived in Compton South LA . So I see a lot of ratchet stuff everyday.
Stereotyping is wrong but if you don't admit that there is a serious problem of single motherhood and ghetto stuff in the black community then you cant solve the problem.
I am not a "Coon" or "uncle tom" that hate black Americans. My cousins are AA and 90% my friends are AA and my Exs are AA. I just feel like AA need to do more to improve themselves. AA are doing badly in all areas compare to other races.

We all have different stereotype for different ethnic groups. Some months ago, An AA female told me that white men make better husbands and fathers than black men. I didn't argue with her because thats her opinion and she talking from experience because her baby daddy is a deadbeat.

Africans are the most educated blacks in America. Africans living in US have a higher college degree rate than AA and Caribbean living in States There are stats to prove my statement .

Anyway, Oakland is not really a big ghetto like you think. Oakland is much better than the hot desert retirement town you live at. West Oakland is safe and really nice. However, East Oakland has some bad neighborhoods but the city of Oakland is improving in terms of crime rate every year. All towns and cities in California has good and bad neighborhoods. I also know your town has some bad neighborhoods too. You should move to oaktown. Lol

He should be safe if its in the UK. I would be more worried if it was in US because there are many serial killers in the streets of US

khia:
Still bringing up bogus statistics that were created 10 years ago. Someone put those statistics all over the internet so it has to be true right, well I guess those statistics about married Nigerian women being the biggest cheaters in the world with 60% of them cheating has to be correct and true after all it was on the internet and we all know that people couldn't possibly make up statistics.
Please don't get me started on
the abortions in Nigeria and America by the ladies nor the unwanted babies in the orphanages of Naija.
Wait a minute, AA women are having all these babies but at the same time we have the biggest rate of abortions in America, something isn't adding up here.
And you know that African, Carribean, hispanic, white and some asian women have children out of wedlock in America especially with you black/african men. There are alot of African baby daddys here who do not support their out of wedlock children.
You live in Oakland, a big time ghetto, get out the hood bro.

You live in Oaktown so I guess you must be a sagging, baby daddy, drug dealing/using uneducated thug. See I can generalise and stereotype also it doesn't mean it's true. So what if AA men complain about women attitudes, Nigerian men complain about Nigerian women attitudes all day everyday, men will be men and women will be women we all have our complaints. AA women complain about AA men attitudes and Nigerian women complain about Nigerian men attitudes. smh
You have only been in the states 3 years *a newbie* and all this stereotyping and generalising. You know what you are talking about because you had the experience of 2 women, 2=most, some, alot. LMAO You must be a child.
Please do AA ladies a favor and never date them again they deserve much better than you.

I am not an uneducated thug because I live in Oakland. Oakland is not a ghetto but a great place to live at with wonderful people. There is nothing wrong for me to date AA women because I am not stereotyping AA. I think you should blame the media and AA men for stereotyping AA women. Go to YouTube and other social media, you will see thousands videos of AA women been stereotype by AA men. I got my stats that 70% of black AA give birth to children out of wedlock from a black website.

Also Nigerians are not loud and are the most educated blacks in America. When I was in college, 90% of the blacks in the science and engineering program were Africans or AA with African parents. Its very rear to see an African man not supporting his kids in America. Its part of African culture for a man to always be in his kids wife and this is why the rate of deadbeat father among African is low in the US.

I am attracted to only black women and I am not going to stop dating black women and it don't matter if she is AA, African or Caribbean as long as she ain't ghetto with multiple babydaddy. You don't know much about Nigerians because you say negative things about Nigerians.

clevvermind:
then he should go to US and UK to contest na.

he don't have to go to UK/US to contest because Nigerians want him to be president

khia:
I hope she isn't AA because those women are the scum of the earth according to you.

lol. How is SoCal? I never said AA are scum of the earth. I said uneducated AA female are always ratchet, ghetto and loud. I only date educated AA with college degree or in college, trade school. I have nothing against AA women because I only date black women.

Its time we start manufacturing our own weapons so we don't have to depend on any country. The Nigeria government always claims that we are giant of Africa and biggest economy but we still import our weapons from south Africa.

You are wrong bro. In US, you don't need a college degree to became a president. Also in UK, you don't need a university degree to become a prime minister or King.

sweetcocoa:
You know, most times, the problem is actually with the women(most of 'em), you hear them say they are not interested, whereas all they want, is the dude to chase further.

I can't entirely blame them though, as they grew up hearing or even seeing, that "men" don't value women who show interest on time, therefore, these women keep "forming" not interested till they feel it's time, because of this, it's hard for the guys to tell, if she's really not interested or just playing hard to get.

This is why women should let a guy know upfront that they are not interested in dating him if they don't like the dude. Its wrong for some women to keep giving the guy hope by saying they are single but just want to be friends even tho they are not interested in ever dating the guy. Some women just like the attention from guys wooing them.

49cents:
How long is your money?

you don't need money to win a girl heart. A girl that loves you will not care how much you have in your account. Any girl that is interested in your money don't love you but love your money

Nice. Its very rear to see this kind of relationship among young black Americans now. Now all they do is having multiple babymama and babydaddy.

Enegod:
I never woo any woman for any length of time. If I find one interesting, I let her know that I find her interesting. She then gets one chance to respond suitably from there. If she does respond suitably, something may develope. If she does not respond in a suitable way, I move on to the next.

Life is too short to waste any of it trying to go where you aren't wanted. If you have to woo a woman for so long, it just means that she is not interested in you,
and you are too dense to realize it..

I agree with you that 2 months is a long time to woo a girl. This is why I decided to end our friendship and told her to stop calling and texting her. I think it takes a girl less than a day to decide if they would date a guy or not but some girls just like playing hard to get.

Moderators: farano, Rocktation, Ishilove. Please move this post to the front page so I can get more response.

kendrick9:
if u show her the money then u probably won't need to wait too long..
Money talks, bro

I know but I don't want to buy any girls love with money. It means she is in love with my money and not me. I want real love from her and not a girl that would leave me when I go broke or face financial problem

I met this beautiful girl last year on a public bus and she decided to give me her number. She is 22 years and a final year student of a major university. We have been texting and calling back and forth for the past 2 months and she told me she is single. I have been trying to woo her to be my girlfriend for over 2 months but she insist on us just been friends and she don't want a relationship.

I really like this girl and would love to date. but I feel like maybe she don't want to date me so yesterday I told her we should end our friendship because if she feels that am not good enough to date her then we shouldnt remain friends. I really don't want to waste another month trying to win her heart and later find out that she end up with another guy.

My last 2 previous relationships too me less than 2 weeks to woo my previous girlfriends so I am kinda surprise that after 2 months of trying to win her over she still insist on not dating me. At first, I thought maybe she was playing hard to get but I think 2 months is long enough.

My questions to nairalanders is how long should a guy try to woo a girl before giving up and moving on?

gabazin080:
I net a girl 6 months ago. she has 1 kid by mistake ( wat she told me). she has gud character but her way is not pure. its 1 week 1 controversy from her side. if she is not sharing number on Facebook she will be chatting with several ex. but trust me she's a gud liar and always have excuses. though she always give me sex anytime I ask, no excuses that I always if she used to menstrate @ all. last week I gave her a code 2 add family and friends number and right there beside me she said she wanna add her mum number but she added a guy own. and have been seeing them exchanging msg before. so that night I gathered her whole sin that have been overlooking and challenged her. she was crying like 1 week and asking for forgiveness. I later forgave her and moved on. but just this morning I opened her Facebook account and saw a guy she called her ex asking her if she wants to Bleep him and she didn't get angry but just told the guy she is going to work that they will talk in the evening.
I know her past and accepted her because I felt I can change her but she doesn't look like she will change. am only always around on weekends and she will be with me from Friday night till early Monday morning and it will be sex all through out.
on this latest incident I don't know if I should confront her or just continue enjoying the sekz and dump her later.
ADVICE A BRO PLS.
don't mind my English

you better leave that girl alone. She is not serious. However if you want to continue fucking her make sure you use condoms so you don't get her pregnant or std

Forwetinnah:
Some of which ingredients please and which equipments?? So we import wheat and granulated sugar??The one Dangote etc produce and already have in their ware houses and factories how many years ago?? Have you visited a local bakery? Most of their equipments are made in Nigeria oga. Some of us argue for the sake of argument

you are the one ignorant. If you read my post then you with know I said "SOME". we still import flour into Nigeria. Even the so called local Oven and furnaces uses parts that are imported into the country.

Forwetinnah:
Are you buying the bread in dollars?? An explanation has been given and yet you're still falling over yourself about inflation!! This is to encourage the local market instead of importation and import wuruwuru

yes technically we buy our bread in dollars because some of the ingredients and most of the equipment used in production are imported. The government need to encourage the local market by improving electricity production and training our graduates.

MrEverest:
This article is nothing but hogwash, an attempt by Buhari/APC/Lie Mohammed & their foot soldiers to exonerate the apparent culpability of Buhari. This, more than anything else has shown that Buhari & APC's hands are not clean! Just read the article again, this time more slowly & see the rubbish they wrote, do they think that we Nigerians are fools? Just imagine were the phoolish writer said that GEJ promised to make Dasuki, the sultan of Sokoto!!! Does GEJ, a Christian & the same person they have called clueless on countless number of times have such powers Why couldn't he influence the coronation of Sanusi his enemy from being the Emir of Kano since he has the power to determine who becomes Emir or sultan??Buhari & APC will not escape the wrath of Nemesis & karma for blood of the innocent ones they perished because of politics.

who is the liar, Is it the pdp government that lied to Nigerians that Shekua was killed 3 months ago and even showed us photoshoped picture of shekua corpse. Is it the Nigerian government that claimed they have locate the missing girls or the Nigeria government that claimed they have reached a cease fire with boko haram in December? Not tell me who the liar is

Sacluxpaint:
If you believe this story, then you can believe that I have never pooped.

but you believe the story that Shekua was killed by the army last year. You also believe that fake photoshopped picture that the army claimed was Shekua corpse. The government has been lying to Nigerians that they have killed shekua over 3 times but yet you chose to believe the government

patpeypey:
This report is just so full of crap! Seriously looks like damage control from APC. Anyway! Both parties are full of crap! Just some stink more than others !

yes both parties are full of crap but in this case I believe APC. Why on earth would you believe a government that claimed that they have killed Shekua on 3 different occasions? The Nigeria government has hand in this boko haram insurgency and have continue to decieve Nigerians. Anyway I think Nigeria deserve better than pdp and APC but I will choose APC over PDP because of Lies by the government

calebo101:
Amaechi cha , His pomposity and stupidity is legendary.

He says almost everything we eat is imported... somebody should point him to the Agricultural reforms and let him know we now produce our own foods in bulk.

He says price oef dollar to Naira is rising, only a foolish and uneducated person would not be able to attribute it to the fall of Global oil prices on which Nigeria's economy is built.

He say people dey hail am for airport say make he do come back con effect the change.... They even did that to me too

stop blaming the decrease in value of naira on the fall of oil. Saudi Arabia and most opec members currency are still stable and didn't depreciate like naira. Remember that in 1999-2003 the price of 1 barrel was about 10 dollars yet our naira was about 1 dollar to 100 naira. GEJ economy policy has failed our economy. I agree with all what Ameachi said.

GEJ till 1 dollar is 1000 naira.

froz:
hello guys, i have tried endlessly to download FM 2012 on my samsung notebook(windows 7 starter) , browsed the specs thinking it will not allow it but its okay for my notebook. the first time i saw the game ,i fell in love with it.
i know i know,yes why not 2015 why 2012?
i just like the 2012 version.
Most of the problems comes from direct x errors and once its launched it keeps loading for a while and stops,when clicked again ,it gives error of "application already running" but on checking task details its still running but no game start.
i will appreciate your recommendations on this issue.
thanks.....

from a concerned fella.

I don't think it can operate on a note book. I remember when I first brought FM 2009 and try to install it on my notebook. It refused to run because the size of the screen was too small. I don't really know of FM 2012 run on small screens tho. You should try installing it on a laptop or PC to see if it would work.

MrEverest:
The Naira viz-a-viz its stability is a function of international trade balances I.e the value/worth of exports against that of imports. Now, the price of crude crashed from 100+ dollars per barrel to about 50 dollars per barrel. As if that is not enough, the USA stopped buying our bonny light. What this means is that we have lost a huge percentage of our purchasing power while wants remain constant! During the time of IBB, there was a glut in crude oil prices which resulted in the infamous austerity measures back then but due to better management today, the effect of it has been minimized. Google about the Russian Rouble & its crash since the price fall, only then will you appreciate the situation of things here in Nigeria.

stop comparing Russia currency depreciation with Nigeria. The main reason for the depreciation of the Russia currency is because of the US, EU sanctions. Other OPEC members like Saudi Arabia currency Riyadh is still stable despite the falling price of oil because they plan ahead incase the price of oil drop. The problem is our leaders refused to plan during the oil windfall by expanding our economy to other areas.

criminalmindz:
and how is that GEJ'S FAULT. IS GEJ NOW RESPONSIBLE FOR OIL PRICES IN THE WORLD. EVERYTHING IS GEJ'S FAULT EVEN WHEN YOU CANT BUY YOUR GIRLFRIEND A VAL GIFT. IGNORANT FOOLS

you are an illiterate.

Aybee92:
u have a point der

all wat dis Americans think of is ther self
everything is all about them





selfish fellow

why should America not think about themselves first? So you want America to be worry about Nigeria problem when they have their own problem to solve?

NuellaJ:
Whatever! Call me names, defend him all u want...like i care... This is no love simple! Would he 'love' dis same woman if she was wretched? Itz obvious to any reasonable person dat this kind of union cud be for any reason but love irrespective of d gender.

how do you know its not love and why should you judge them? They might be in love besides age is just a number. Young girls marry to old men everyday so there is nothing wrong in a young guy marrying an old lady as long as they are happy. White women love young black dudes. I know of a Nigeria man that is married to a white woman 10 yrs older than him and they are happily married.