₦airaland Forum

KellyGay:
Thank you, Sir.

Palehair:
Masculinity is quite subjective with so many doors. It's like a maze. Casepoint :wearing chains and earrings by men were seen as feminine during the old days but during the hip hop era, it was acceptable as it's part of black culture, cornrows or men braiding their hair which started from prison could've been seen as feminine but now its masculine. Scotland men traditional outfit is a kilt, a male skirt. Everything influences masculinity as things go in and out of vogue.
Now, every man have the right to define their masculinity the way they want which is the first rule of being a man- a real man dies whatever the hell he wants as long as no one's hurt. If a man wants to wear makeup, skinny jeans etc, he's more of a man than the men pointing or staring with gaping eyes because he chose not to adhere to society's norms unlike the others who will allow other men define their masculinity.
Bottom line is let people define their masculinity without scrutiny after all normal is boring. I've seen gay men who are even more masculine than straight ones and I've also seen feminine straight guys

KellyGay:
Lol... That is the name I choose to be addressed with.

KellyGay:
So true. He doesn't need to answer every question.

Palehair:
What do you want to know?

GodWrites:
Some cultures have no issue with incest. You'll be appalled to learn some bizarre and weird pursuits around the world. Like I said, morality is subjective.

But because you and your lots have refused to leave the shores of your village, you have vowed to remain stuck and adamant with your archaic viewpoint, with no room of accepting things that negate with your already laid belief.

Do I blame you? Not at all. I blame infant indoctrination orchestrated by religion, and the pathetic education system of Nigeria.

The only thing I feel for you at this moment is PITY. Struggling with internalized homophobia as a closeted gay is horrendous. In fact, it's the quickest route to depression. What you desperately need now is therapy.

Don't hesitate to dm me, I would be able to help. No need trying to call you names, cause I might plug you into a deeper depression than the one you're already in.

Shalom

Palehair:
Skinny pink trousers are not a gay trait neither are lipsticks or eye liners. Don't classify all gay men into one box because hypermasculine gay men hate those stuff

loosecanon50:
You want him to laugh and say "you, you, you're... You're... Hahaha...You're"

RuudVanNisteroy:
There are several legal pathways for Nigerians to obtain permanent residency in Europe,Asia,Africa,South America,Australia and North America .Here are six ways to obtain legal stay:

-Work permit-Permanent residency
-Asylum
-Graduate student-permanent residency
-Marriage
-Landed immigrant
-Citizenship by Investment

I was able to get my permanent residency through the student route in Canada. I graduated and had to obtain 1 year of work experience before I was able to file for permanent residence.

Living illegally in any country can make your life a living hell and you will always be looking over your shoulders and subject to blackmail when you find jobs that pay under the table.

It is important to choose a country which makes obtaining a permanent residency easy for foreigners. And not make the mistake of spending millions of naira on countries that like to do chop and clean mouth with your tuition and other money you invested in the country, only to make it near impossible to obtain legal papers to stay there permanently. The two countries that are most friendly to immigration currently are Canada and Australia, unfortunately they are out of reach financially for most people intending to migrate and have stricter requirements..

Estellie:
.Yeah, a lot of times....

One happened last night.. story's too long to share.. Buh I just walked out of the room, out of her and her madness...

Another that left me dumbfounded was when I was coming back from school one day. This mature woman, should be in her late 40s, parked her car, stepped down and was calling me from the other side of the road... I thought she needed direction or something.. I greeted her with respect and all that, then she said she called me to tell me how beautiful I am.. Hiaaan.. I was dumbfounded, surprised, shocked, name it.
. I calmly thanked her and was about to leave when she held my hand and said I should give her my number, that she needs to talk to me later.. I was like "Ahh, auntie". She continued with her flattering, complimenting my boobs. Who does that??.. I kuku left her there. told her I didn't have a phone at the moment.. She asked if I was hungry so she could buy me food. I calmly declined and walked away with lots of curious eyes staring at me... She had this devilish smile on her face.. I walked as fast as my legs could carry me.. I was actually scared that she could be one of these ritualists...

Another happened about two years ago, had this crazy friend. I never knew she was a lez.. She took me to her hostel room one day and damn! play play cat fight start o, the next thing babe was humping me from behind o.. What came over her?. I got up and looked at her surprisingly.. I think she was shy. I simply told her that hope she doesn't do rubbish with those hostel babes cause this period that infections are flying up and down even girl can give you infection. I advised her and left to my house o...


In as much as I try my best not to judge homosexuals, I still find the act very disgusting and boring... I calmly turn down their advances in a way that wouldn't hurt them.. cause I know most of them are really really sensitive...

topsquino:
I've been on this platform since 2007. Thank you Seun for Nairaland.

I feel this is the right time to give back to the community.

I'm doing a 1 MILLION NAIRA giveaway today by 6pm

Please check my post today 6pm so that you won't miss out.

You can also check my profile to confirm my credibility.

I clean like slate and gentle like dove.

Ernerstdavid55:
Fine boys

Benrosaria:
I don’t know if you don’t know but I would like to know the girl on glasses

RedEagle:
Hello,

Please do not try this, as the side effects may not be nice and you may want to reverse it in future and regret.

You have two options:

1. Don't express the feelings or urges: Just like Monks, Spiritual people or other secular celibates of straight or gay persuasion, you can choose to learn to master and overcome your sexual urges. Everyone needs to learn this to some degree but some people choose to totally overcome or suppress their urges. For you, the first step will be to find a purpose to focus on or commit to, be it school work, spiritual work, fitness and exercise etc. At the beginning you may fail or stumble but you will get better in time. https://www.wikihow.com/Live-a-Life-of-Celibacy is a good place to start.

2. Express them in a healthy environment: You are not the first gay or bisexual person in existence, and you won't be the last. In a society like Nigeria you just need to find the right people who can accommodate you or maybe move countries. It needn't impact your life much and if your moral and spiritual background is not against being gay, you may want to explore this. Once you start exploring you will find tons of advice and literature on the internet and may meet people who have gone through the same conflicts as you have. Please look out for those who want to set you up or take advantage of you, especially in Nigeria.

The path you will follow depends on a number of things, your spirituality: if your adherence to religion and your beliefs are against homosexuality, please don't push it for the time being and follow option 1, as you grow older, you will know what to do; if it doesn't you may consider slowly exploring option 2.

your risk tolerance: Nigeria is a very dangerous place to be gay (funny since this is a country where rape, corruption, fornication and adultery are common), so if your risk tolerance is very low, you can stick with option 1, but if your risk tolerance grows, option 2 may be explored slowly and carefully.

No matter your choice, it is important to not base your view on yourself and self worth solely on your sexuality: You aren't bad or good simply because you are gay or straight; try to have a life outside sex and lust (this may mean scaling back on porn and masturbation). You also need activities that give you , joy, purpose and fulfillment such as work and a hobby.

You also need to work with therapists and professional counselors, I'd advice you seek out therapists that are aligned with social work NGOs, mental health NGOs and LGBT friendly NGOs.

I'd also advice you pick up fitness and maybe mindfulness to help you master yourself and your urges, whether you choose to be celibate or not.

In everything please be careful, know that you have a lot to offer the world and your urges aren't a path to evil of themselves but a part of your life.

I hope this helped.

engrpheleeks:
I love your comment Sir. I'm sure I'll like your person too.

lanray475:
Pls I need somebody to bleep right now..

lanray475:
Pls I need somebody to bleep right now..

softwerk:
Is Flavour gay?!

Officialgarri:
Woman: Oga Peter look my Nyansh na. E soft well well.

Aide: madam wait fess.....

FuckHomophobes:
The day a pastor will point to me and tell me am gay, that day I will quit.... What am I even saying gan?? Shey nah today?? ♥️

Shibaraba:
I didn't, you're right. Though I'm pretty sure everyone who's reading this know you didn't and won't make it in life. The possibility is slim going by the way you lie. Am is not a typographical error. Stop embarrassing teachers " Mr teacher".

movingclouds:
Post the video here

engrpheleeks:
I love your comment Sir. I'm sure I'll like your person too.

LKO:
99% of the guys in modelling and Mr this and that are gays. Same with guys that are in the business of tying gele, make up, hair do and event hall decoration. Heaven is my witness. Do your research, ask people in their neighbourhood and you will find out the fact. Even this so called young singers and instrumentalist in many of these new generation churches are gays. I'm not saying this to discredit anybody, I have facts.

You may see them hanging around with girls, don't be deceived, their real affection are for their fellow guys. They are either inserting their rod into a fellow guy hole or they are using their hole to collect another guy rod. This is the sad reality. If you have a young male relative or friend who is a model or into make up, hair do, singing in the church choir, a good actor in the church drama group, gele tying, taking a course in baking or cooking etc watch out. Be close to him and guide him aright. When a young guy becomes so conscious of how glowing his skin is, how smooth his face is, always with the mirror etc watch out. I'm talking with hard evidence.

iTearHerToto:
Minimum wage = Afonjas only hope of survival


As a bonafide advocate of the Afonja dynasty I hereby urge the lifeless one not to joke with this else we shall unleash our unending barbarity to his entire household and beyond. He better do the needful for iTearherToto sake so peace shall reign. Cos we are not like the rest. You can't give us stories and go Scot free. Your skull must pay a price


Pukes

dasilver22:
@drrionelli
its nice to hear from u again. actually dear friend (if i can call u dat), its been a war for me. Fine, i say one tin in this thread and say sometin else in the other but its not easy for me. let me explain better. a habit doesnt just pop out of the blues and becoms a habit: it is gradually developed with or without the knowledge of the person involved. and wen it becoms a big habit and that person wants to pull out or stop it; it becoms very difficult if not impossible.

my love for the same sex has come a long way (yrs) and without actually knowing wat i will be facin now, nurtured and fed this feeling to its fatness. I want to stop it (and even find myself telling off gay friends, relationships and all) but see myself comin back to the same old tin a few days later. That explains why u see me talking about it (homosexuality) being bad today and tomorrow i say i need som. Its been hard really and have tried all tins including prayers and fasting (honestly). Dont be angry or comfused, i beliv i will overcom it wit time. and to prove I'm serious, I ll look for and delete any post of mine relating or promoting it.

so u see GAYMAN, my mail to ur box yesterday still stands. I'm quitting this stuff and hope its forever.