₦airaland Forum

bukatyne:
Nigerian society measure the headship or 'goodness' of a husband based on his pocket.

They also see the headship as a license to do as they wish aka unquestionable

A typical Nigerian husband wants to be the 'head' So his pockets has to be heavier than that of his wife.

A number of women do not want to marry a husband that is not the 'head'

Some of the women who earn higher are also very heady too

elantraceey:
Preach on

passionate88:
Rapmoney, your head dey there... Especially that number 1 nd 2.

winnieberry:
[quote author=Rapmoney post=3314537My brother there is nuffin wrong fr a girl to have a car me sef i want a car but truth be told most guys feel intimidated by girls with cars .A big aunty of mine who is a make up artist was saying d'other hw she saved money to buy a small car and smone told her not to buy cos guys wont approach for relationships.Succesful single ladies in nigeria go tru slot,in nigeria a woman isnt sucessful or respected unless she is Mrs.A woman should marry first before marrying so the society says.U see people complain ladies be indépendant ,make money and when she does where is ur man or na runs babe she be.We are biased in nigeria ,not knowing what we want

Cholls:
my brother no spoil market for someone pple o.

justmag:
I completely agree with the OP. However, I think this depends on the type of girl you date. Date a girl who
1. finds you worthy while and exciting enough to want to take you out on a date
2. Date a girl who likes you enough to find you as a getaway from all her problems, a place of comfort not a place where her bills are being paid. An independent woman is less likely to ask you for some transport fare.
3. I am a product of the idea that dates are suppose to be creative and not doing what everyone is doing for dates. For examples, most people go to resturant. I value quiet walks, date at a park, a zoo, a museum, a cultural place, a place where we have never been and we both find exciting.

starlingslimnet:
Not only hypocritical it's stupidity of the highest order

daveP:
looks like a counter to mirex's thread on 10lies.

MrBasketball:
Buhari is in charge, anybody say what they like that doesn't affect his good mission for this country.

ki02020:
This man is an ode RATIO 2:4 regions is not popularity abi......that means the constitution stance is also not a popular one

daveP:
Interesting (munches away @ some chips)

ezeagu:
God, God, God, God, God. I guess if Russia waited for God they'd be speaking German now, like how you are speaking English.

ronald4lif:
Interesting. Lucky you, or lucky her. Her type is every man dream woman.

Rapmoney, perhaps we should beam our searchlight towards Uyo. What ya say.

Young03:
Snx den i decided nt to date any gal again, rather i nack and go

alentyno:
the shallow minded guys are the problem but most of these girls won't just pity and let them know the truth. They prefer playing along and eating them dry only to dump them

TheSonOfMark:

I am sapiosexual- I'm attracted only to those rare breed of ladies who do not fall within the aforelisted stereotypes and are intelligent too.
We've been dating for over a year and she never demands things except my fidelity. ofcourse. 3 months ago, she took me out to the cinema on my birthday and I had to beg her not to pay becavse the ticket sellers were all females - it would have been embarassing .
SHE'S FROM A MIDDLECLASS HOME AND A STUDENT. SHE TEACHES ENGLISH LANGUAGE TUTORIALS DURING WEEKENDS JUST BECAUSE SHE WANTS TO BE SEEN AS PRODUCTIVE.

Now Ronald, tell me why any sane man wouldn't respect and cherish her? NIGERIAN GIRLS SHOULD WAKE UP!

Nubian113:
Poverty thinking

ronald4lif:
Interesting experience. Learnt a thing from this.

Although I think she must be one of the exceptions who really see life differently from most of the category of girls the OP is talking about. These set of girls will still deploy other schemes to collecting money from you regardless if you don't take her to eateries or not. They have hairdos, airtime, welfare, and even tf the op highlighted to come up with.

Hehe! I miss ekpang. Was one of my favourite while growing up in Cameroun.

TheSonOfMark:

I've never had a first date in any of aforementioned conventional places - it's too predictable.

I once took a lady to the E-library here in Uyo. I also prepared my native meal of ekpàng with a lady, grocery shopping and even house hunting.

DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY TIMES SHE'S BEEN TAKEN TO EATERIES? DO SOMETHING NEW AND ADVENTUROUS!
The visits to conventional places like eateries , cinemas and parks should come later and unpredictably too. I TOOK MY MISSY OUT YESTERDAY AND GUESS WHAT WE WERE DOING? - WE WERE PLAYING VIDEO RACING GAMES! I let her beat me twice though.

You can choose to have a relationship which isn't limited by society's stereotype.

ronald4lif:
That's the thing. You spent years in uni. A man spent equally same years. But then you expect a man who went through same struggles you went through (or should have gone through) to have fleet of cars, estates etc before considering him. Are you handicapped? Go out and acquire those things that you expect a man who want to date you have. Success is not limited to the male gender.

starlingslimnet:
Because most of the ladies think anticlockwise in relationship..... and with the kind of retar*ded mentality they got it makes it more meaningless but it will be more fun if one have someone with good mentality like the white.

Young03:
Nop...i neva knew she sleeps arund wit my friend.,if i mess her finish, she go divert go my friend place make im do him own

ronald4lif:
Interesting! I have said for the umpteenth time that most relationship in Nigeria is lopsided. Most of our girls are very reluctant to engaging themselves with something useful, that will generate income no matter how little. A lot of times when you see a girl get into a relationship her main purpose is how loaded this guy is and what can he offer, monetarily.

Although a man is expected to take up some of the bills of his woman but I have often wonder if a relationship to these girls is a means to transferring their financial responsibility to any man they end up with. It's like okay, you claim you love me, I love you too, now my responsibilities are yours while I'll always be there when and if you want sex. She starts inundating you with how she needs a hairdo, her nails done, some change of wears and her welfare etc. You wonder if she wasn't having hairdos, or feeding before you both met her.

Ordinarily, one would think it is because of the financial breakdown a lot of them are battling, but this is false. Even the ones who gainfully employed and are earning as much as you do are still of this believe that a man should pick up most of her bills. You keep wondering what she does with her own money or if you have taken up the role of a husband without engagement or exchange of nuptial vows.

Another thing many may have noticed is that when these categories of girls talks about marriage, they are not doing so because of the respect they have for the marriage institution or the love they have for their potential husband. Most are eager to marry for reasons not limited to; having a man who'll start taking up roles their dad may not have been able to fulfill, others are just so they bear MRS and gloat to their friends that they are married and/or the societal pressure that a lot of these girls are facing. It is no secret that if a woman is not married she won't have much respect in our society. But get married for the right reasons biko.

My advise to these set of girls is to engage themselves in something meaningful and stop leeching on a man because he's in a relationship with you. A relationship is not a means to an end of poverty and financial troubles. Fact is, most men won't respect you if all you keep doing is demanding from one thing to the other. Independent woman is the new sexy, not boobs and laps lol.

Young03:
My gf provides me wit moni, sex ,transports herself, takes me out bt......


D person below me will complete the remainig

Cutehector:
I used to date one.. She told me she gona blow my head off wit a gun if I dare cheat on her.. na so I loyal oooooo..

alentyno:
'From the very 1st day i set my eyes on you i haven't been able to eat, drink or sleep. I can't stop thinking about you cause if i do i might run mad'

^^^ there the most silly lie nigerian girls love to hear

RUBBISH

Cutehector:
lol white babes are more dangerous.....

adewaletb3:
This weed thick die

Back to the topic no be lie.

whizjay:
*weeds out*

Well, that just how things are.....

*Weeds in*
*Coughs*
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. Don't worry May 29th
"change" will be effected.
"Buhari will be inaugurated.

starlingslimnet:
Because hm be cutehector

Cutehector:
ehen